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30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group

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It’s a darn shame when a relationship doesn’t last a lifetime. And while much of it is dependent on how the people in a relationship play their cards, an end is sometimes an inevitability because there isn’t any chemistry, or someone gave up halfway, or maybe the two don’t agree on which side the toilet paper roll should be hung on the holder.

Whatever the case, it sometimes happens, and the AskReddit community have been listing key signs that a relationship has run its course, reaching nearly 4,000 comments and the post garnering over 20,000 upvotes.

Check out the best of the best answers shared in the viral post below. And why not upvote and comment on them, sharing some of your signs of the end of a relationship in the comment section below!

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#1

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group Several, but off the top of my head... The sight of them does nothing for you. Getting a text or phone call from them elicits an eyeroll. You try to avoid them. You cannot hold a conversation with them because everything they say is irritating. You really could not care less about their day or anything they have to say to you. You find yourself fantasizing of a life without them... and it makes you smile. You know, just to name a few.

PurpleVein99 , Garry Knight Report

Final score:

151points

Tamora Spiller 3 years ago

Been there, left that.

27points

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#2

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group If you find that you can only relax and be yourself when they aren’t around, crushing you with the weight of their silent judgement and disapproval, it’s way past the expiration date.

downhereforyoursoul , Anathea Utley Report

Final score:

139points

Alvin Chip 3 years ago

Learning to disregard every unnecessary thing that won't help for your self growth is a mature thing to do

10points

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#3

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group From personal experience, the biggest indicator is when tensions should be high, you should be upset or arguing, but you just don't care anymore.

ThunderPantsDance , Incase Report

Final score:

114points

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#4

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group You've bottled your real feelings up so much that now everything they do or say fills you with contempt lol. Oops

breakfastinthemornin , Hernán Piñera Report

Final score:

106points

Ellie Rosser 3 years ago

“Subtle” signs LOL

18points

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#5

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you turn the corner driving home, and feel disappointment when you see her car in the driveway - because you know the minute you step in the door she's going to start crapping on you again.

lucky_ducker Report

Final score:

100points

Tamora Spiller 3 years ago

Ditto if you're home and you hear his car pull up.

7points

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#6

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When the thought of being near/around them gives you anxiety. Not the normal "I hope I don't look like a fool around them" anxiety, but that deep, instinctual fight or flight sense of dread

TourmalineDreams Report

Final score:

94points

Valerie G. 3 years ago

That's the way I felt pressing the elevator button to go upstairs to my job. Quit soon after and was so much lighter. But don't you know, they replaced me with two girls and a month later they were phoning asking if I wanted to some part-time work since they couldn't keep up with all the tasks that I had managed alone for six years.

11points

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#7

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you can’t make yourself trust them again no matter how hard you try.

rebelliousarms , Seeds_of_Peace Report

Final score:

90points

Alvin Chip 3 years ago

I understand this kind of feeling

13points

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#8

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group You used to think their little quirks and habits were adorable, Now they are just annoying AF.

JustAnotherMaineGirl Report

Final score:

84points

Piper Meadow 3 years ago

This doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is over. I simply did not notice that my husband ate like a slob, for the first 2-3 years of us living together. Oh I was so in love. Now after almost 12 years I feel like I want to tape his mouth shut sometimes but I never say anything although his smacking and eating like a cow annoys me so much.:)))) I love him

40points

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#9

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group You no longer like the way your SO smells.

GenJonesMom Report

Final score:

81points

Alvin Chip 3 years ago

Time to change your "perfume" LOL

9points

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#10

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group You have something big happen and they are not the first person you call.

I had a car accident at like 5am and didn’t even bother calling my now ex, he was useless and I called the people that mattered.

Silly__Rabbit , Pete Report

Final score:

68points

Pat Bond 3 years ago

First call I make is to the RAC & insurance company, I pay enough for it, they can come and fix or tow me to the garage. I'm not going to bother/worry anyone at 5am unless it's an urgent trip to A&E.

5points

#11

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you realize you don't wish the best for her/him...you don't wish her/him any harm either...just disinterested in building something better together.

cohenian-rhapsody , Jason Ippolito Report

Final score:

64points

Valerie G. 3 years ago

Damn, you can have love or hate and there is passion in both, but indifference is a killer.

8points

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#12

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group You're both cheating on each other with the same person.

[deleted] , Ivan Wang Report

Final score:

62points

Mary Rose Kent 3 years ago

That could also just be an arrangement that works for all three parties once they’ve worked out the parameters of the deal

30points

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#13

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When texting them becomes a chore instead of something that makes you happy

borjansen , Lars Plougmann Report

Final score:

62points

Dani Alexander 3 years ago

Not necessarily. Sometimes texting anyone you love can be a chore. The problem sparks when there is a total lack of emotion when texting back, feeling nothing at all.

12points

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#14

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you go to AskReddit to see if sexting is considered cheating.

Final score:

60points

La Kalypso 3 years ago

If you're doing something that would deeply hurt your partner if they were next to you while you're doing it, then that's cheating. It's not really the act in itself, it's the broken trust.

10points

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#15

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you stop seeing a future with them.

SixFeetBlunder , Gareth Williams Report

Final score:

60points

WildBerry 3 years ago

Don't know about 'seeing a future' but at first glance, seeing that dress made me think she was wearing some kind of strange bra on the outside of her clothing.

23points

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#16

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you catch yourself lying often. When you're hiding who you are around them because you don't want to fight or disappoint them.

Oh, and when you won't f**k each other anymore.

I_hate_traveling , Slava Report

Final score:

52points

M Calad 3 years ago (edited)

This happened to my best friend. Telling the truth to her bf was terryfing, so she constantly lied. What I mean with truth were things that are normal for many people but for her boyfriend were unacceptable. And of course, she got caught (bf checked her phone regularly) and boy, fights were spectacular. Hard for me to see her passing through all of that and finally happy when she got her sh1t together and dumped him.

11points

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#17

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you notice that your partner doesn't miss you (or vice versa) after being separated for a while. If you've been apart for a couple weeks or longer and your partner still feels no particular urgency to see you or talk to you, then the relationship is dead.

RurouniKarly , Andrey Report

Final score:

50points

vogonpoet 3 years ago

I work 8 hours a day, 4 x a week. I miss him. And he misses me making his cuppa tea. And also taking the piss outta me. It's definitely love. Especially when he pops out and scares me shitless after a long day at work. Has our son doubled over with laughter. So much happiness from what was supposed to be a mutual casual shag.

14points

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#18

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When everything about your life is being controlled down to the tiny details.

CarlosTheBoss , joel Report

Final score:

50points

ZAPanda 3 years ago

this. get out fast.

22points

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#19

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you discover irreconcilable differences. Relationships take a lot of work- there will be times when you don't want to be together, or when you're not sexually in sync, or whatever. Those things need to be worked through and your relationship will be stronger for it. The red flag I would watch out for is inherent differences in morality, beliefs, that kind of thing.

[deleted] , Mussi Katz Report

Final score:

49points

Verena Abt 3 years ago

Yes, opposites do not attract in the long run. You must have the same values.

7points

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#20

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you come home after work and no one is home and 90% of everything in the house is gone. (Happened twice)

GokuRocks1 , Kevin Marsh Report

Final score:

48points

Dina Simoné 3 years ago

Twice? If it happened twice u might need to do some serious self reflection on your part

77points

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#21

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you're physically in the same room, but it feels as though the other person isn't there - that their thoughts and emotions are somewhere else.

Back2Bach , Britney M Report

Final score:

46points

Josy Bannon 3 years ago

Ugh I hated this so much with my exes

5points

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#22

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group I begged my boss to send me on business trips.

Taney34 , Jacek Becela Report

Final score:

42points

Sheila Stamey 3 years ago

When you get a phone call, saying your SO is going to be gone unexpectedly for two weeks and you respond " ok I'll miss you,luv you,bye" and then do the happy dance, and you are pretty sure they are too? Just make that two weeks permanent. Talking from experience. It got so strained onto that before we divorced, my ex was gone three of four weekends in the month. He was so unpleasant to be around when he was there, I was glad he was cheating! Not even joking. The three kids and I would drop him off at the little airport (we owned a crappy little 1960 Cessna) and as soon as he took off, McDonald's and movie time!

7points

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#23

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you no longer care if they ate something all day or not.

InquisitiveMD , Eric.Ray Report

Final score:

42points

Dani Alexander 3 years ago

I think it’s not the specific context of “eating” but the gesture that comes with it, asking is caring and thoughtful, because they love you

9points

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#24

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group Contempt. I took a marriage and family course in college and there professor said that’s one of the biggest signs things are going to/should end. And I’ve 100% been there

tldrjane , dr_zoidberg Report

Final score:

41points

Busy Panda 3 years ago

I feel it too. But not with my partner. It's with my mother.

13points

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#25

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group There’s a voice in your head that says “You know it’s over” .... every time my relationship has been ending I have had this happen. Sometimes you fight it, sometimes you don’t . But the voice is always right in the end .

DJ_DD , Franco Dal Molin Report

Final score:

37points

No you didn't 3 years ago

This was usually my #1 indicator.

1point

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#26

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group "(S)He is just a friend, you don't have to worry about them" -> spends more time with friend than partner.
(might sound lame because of the memes, but my almost 6 years SO cheated on me and now is dating the 'friend')

VelkenT , Sirenz Lorraine Report

Final score:

35points

Dina Simoné 3 years ago

Thats tough

10points

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#27

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When all you can think about is how different you are.

When you're lying or making excuses to not be with them.

When they go on a Spring Break trip and screw a guy she went to high school with repeatedly for a week.

[deleted] , Francesco Report

Final score:

34points

Supernatural 3 years ago

Wow...that went downhill fast!

25points

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#28

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When someone says your SO's name and you give a sigh or a grimaced look on your face.

llcucf80 , Lindspetrol Report

Final score:

33points

Albino 3 years ago

At that point it's long over.

11points

#29

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When spending time is something you have to give effort to actively think about and plan out as opposed to something you look forward to and excitedly long for. I know that's what it was for me: she became a block in my schedule instead of the reason my schedule existed.

maleorderbride , Nicholas Canup Report

Final score:

31points

Tee Witt 3 years ago

That sounds so sad.

6points

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#30

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When either of you whip out your phone constantly when together. Can't hold a moment of comfortable silence to appreciate you both being in each other's presence.

PassiveBrandon , Susanne Nilsson Report

Final score:

27points

ZAPanda 3 years ago

don't agree with this one, we spend a lot of time on our phones, it doesn't necessarily mean that. I'd say this point is correct if they're both looking at tinder or facebook. But if you're reading the news or watching cat videos i think it is fine.

16points

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#31

You find your partner's Tinder profile and give them advice on to make it better.

phishtrader Report

Final score:

9points

Hugo Raible 3 years ago

Could also mean that you have a healthy open relationship. I know couples who did care so much for each other that they actually did this.

1point

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#32

Mine personally (and I caught myself doing this twice with the same person both times we went out) was doing this thing that someone (I cant remember who) explained.

It's where you say something along the lines of "yeah we have our issues but....." in a whiney voice that really isnt all that convincing at all.

FagnusTwatfield Report

Final score:

8points

#33

30 Signs Indicating That A Relationship Has Reached A Dead End, As Pointed Out By Folks In This Online Group When you realize that your partner will never be willing to put in the work to make the relationship succeed. And if when planning the future, it's not pheasable to maintain your relationship while also continuing towards your dreams and end goals.

maeb84 , Andrea Parrish - Geyer Report

Final score:

5points

Karis Ravenhill 3 years ago (edited)

Everytime: "Babe, we need to work on our connection, relationship and future together". Him: "Mmhmmm" *batters buttons on Xbox controller and goes back to ignoring me*

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#34

when you have your own secret snack drawer in addition to the snack drawer you guys 'share'

kindpotatogirl Report

Final score:

-3points

Caiman 94920 3 years ago

Going on 34 years married and I have to have a secret drawer cause he just can't eat a few M&Ms, he'll have to eat them all. I bought one of those huge Costco bags and he and my sister ate the whole bag in under 3 days. Its like he's afraid that he won't get anymore....while I like to eat a small amount as a treat and savor them for quite a few days. So the best treats get put in the secret drawer, other healthier treats are in the shared drawer, so its not like he doesn't have goodies, he just doesn't have any self-control

10points

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DrBronxx 3 years ago

I don't want to come across as smug, but reading this post reminds me how amazing my own relationship is. Things are shitty in several aspects of my life, but my bond with my wife isn't one of them. She's my rock, and I'm hers. However, I've definitely experienced some of these points in previous relationships.

16points

Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago

Aww. You're very lucky!

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Susie Elle 3 years ago

These aren't red flags - these are the giant red banners you're wrapped in after having ignored the red flags for years.

16points

Amy Dodds 3 years ago (edited)

When they knowingly restrain your limbs when you have a phobia and don't let go as you scream 'get off!!' over and over again. Then they try to change the narrative, saying they were just trying to cuddle you, and suddenly you started punching them?? Then they come home, pour juice over your head and smear food in your hair and face while screaming at you for not apologising to them when you have already apologised over and over. Last night was interesting.

7points

ZAPanda 3 years ago

hmm that's assault. lay a charge, get a restraining order, and move out.

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LB 3 years ago

I am so sorry this happened. Some aspects of this remind me of my abusive marriage. He would do physically intimidating things that made me feel uncomfortable and scared, and if I pushed him away, he would say that I attacked him for no reason. They are f*****g with your head. They are abusing you and trying to make you feel at fault. It is not your fault. It took me a long time to leave. I wish I had left sooner, but I’m so glad I eventually got out. You don’t deserve this. Don’t believe the lies. Please leave as quickly and safely as you can. Please access the domestic violence hotline or any other domestic violence services that are available where you live. Even just talking with someone can be helpful. Before, during, and after getting out - there are people who can help you and help you recover. Wishing for your health and safety, and sending hugs.

10points

Dina Simoné 3 years ago

Oh my goodness. Are u ok?

8points

Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago

Good god, call the police!

7points

Heidi 3 years ago

What Amy?! This is way too nonchalant, be good to yourself and don't accept that behavior.

5points

Falanu Hlaalu 3 years ago

RUN

4points

Zedrapazia 3 years ago

S**t, what happened to you?

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DrBronxx 3 years ago

I don't want to come across as smug, but reading this post reminds me how amazing my own relationship is. Things are shitty in several aspects of my life, but my bond with my wife isn't one of them. She's my rock, and I'm hers. However, I've definitely experienced some of these points in previous relationships.

16points

Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago

Aww. You're very lucky!

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Susie Elle 3 years ago

These aren't red flags - these are the giant red banners you're wrapped in after having ignored the red flags for years.

16points

Amy Dodds 3 years ago (edited)

When they knowingly restrain your limbs when you have a phobia and don't let go as you scream 'get off!!' over and over again. Then they try to change the narrative, saying they were just trying to cuddle you, and suddenly you started punching them?? Then they come home, pour juice over your head and smear food in your hair and face while screaming at you for not apologising to them when you have already apologised over and over. Last night was interesting.

7points

ZAPanda 3 years ago

hmm that's assault. lay a charge, get a restraining order, and move out.

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LB 3 years ago

I am so sorry this happened. Some aspects of this remind me of my abusive marriage. He would do physically intimidating things that made me feel uncomfortable and scared, and if I pushed him away, he would say that I attacked him for no reason. They are f*****g with your head. They are abusing you and trying to make you feel at fault. It is not your fault. It took me a long time to leave. I wish I had left sooner, but I’m so glad I eventually got out. You don’t deserve this. Don’t believe the lies. Please leave as quickly and safely as you can. Please access the domestic violence hotline or any other domestic violence services that are available where you live. Even just talking with someone can be helpful. Before, during, and after getting out - there are people who can help you and help you recover. Wishing for your health and safety, and sending hugs.

10points

Dina Simoné 3 years ago

Oh my goodness. Are u ok?

8points

Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago

Good god, call the police!

7points

Heidi 3 years ago

What Amy?! This is way too nonchalant, be good to yourself and don't accept that behavior.

5points

Falanu Hlaalu 3 years ago

RUN

4points

Zedrapazia 3 years ago

S**t, what happened to you?

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