49 Deal-Breaking Traits In A Significant Other, As Shared By People In This Online Group

Knowingly or not, we all have those little lists of qualities we tend to look for in a potential romantic partner. However, there's also the other side of the coin—traits we're not so stoked about. And while some of these unappealing traits we can accept or at least halfway tolerate, some of them are absolute deal-breakers that we simply can't stand. And since nothing unites people more strongly than a common dislike, let's talk about that.

Recently, Reddit user u/Pnd1528 went on the platform and asked fellow users to share an "all too common" trait they find extremely unattractive in the opposite (or same) sex. As expected, the Reddit community didn't hesitate and delivered some pretty spot-on ones. Bored Panda has compiled a list of some of the best, relatable, and most interesting answers found in this viral thread, so here you go! As per usual, don't forget to vote for your favorite submissions and feel free to talk about the traits you find unappealing in the comment section down below.

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Littering. You'd be surprised how many people dont give a f*** and throw s*** out their car window. It's disgusting.

Ket_om Report

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342points

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Being rude to wait staff

nolindlitch Report

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314points

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Men bragging about being violent. Bar fights ain't sexy honey.

Ffphoebeigh Report

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295points

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Shouting at their partners in public.

[deleted] Report

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289points

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Lack of compassion. They only seem to care about themselves.

5yn3rgy Report

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253points

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The inability to admit they are wrong or when they apologize and then justify their actions.

BarneyFifesSchlong Report

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239points

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The “Im an a**hole and I don't care if people call me an a**hole” attitude.

emmaj95 Report

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238points

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A general lack of curiosity towards the world

free_billstickers Report

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235points

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Chewing with your mouth open. F*** dude it drives me crazy

Ligggmmmaaa22 Report

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232points

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#10

The “Alpha” mentality.

Tiny_Rage Report

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212points

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#11

Always on their phone. This s*** annoys me so much, I want to talk to someone while looking at them. When they are constantly on their phone it makes me feel like I am talking to myself and its awkward as f***.

rocknrollhatesme Report

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200points

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#12

Everyone says they want their partner to be super career ambitious. Screw that, I say put in your 40 hours then chill. I want someone who knows how to relax

24520ls Report

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194points

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#13

The telepathy tax. Partners who hold it against their SO when they fail to anticipate and fulfill their unspoken needs and desires.

WanderersEndgame Report

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185points

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#14

Anyone who takes any advice, disagreement, constructive criticism as a personal attack

pdxblazer Report

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176points

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#15

S*** talking others to make themselves look better

DisastrousCerberus Report

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174points

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#16

Toxic positivity, I need to be able to feel bad for a moment when I am dealing with something crappy. It helps me get through it. I dislike people pleasers too, be kind but don’t be a doormat.

[deleted] Report

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174points

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#17

Being oblivious to different economic circumstances.

flipflopgazer Report

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167points

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#18

Just general "toxic"/jeslous behaviour.

No, i do not want to sleep with the Barista because they asked my name for my order. Yes, i was told to treat as I wanted to be treated as a child so I Will be polite and smile to others from Time to Time, this does not mean i want to shag every human being i interact with.

tptch Report

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167points

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#19

People being obsessed with their social media presence.

theragamuffinman Report

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165points

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#20

For me, its the girls who CONSTANTLY say “I’m ugly” and then you tell them they aren’t, and then they go “no, im really ugly” and it just goes back and forth. I can’t stand it :/

birbthatcantbreathe Report

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152points

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#21

Narcissistic, that goes to both genders

Blue_Jay_Jen Report

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145points

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#22

Self absorbed behavior... the Kardashian/Housewives of ??? Syndrome. You are NOT the star of some reality show, stop acting like it.

nottheotherone4 Report

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144points

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#23

The whole “let me push all your buttons, you’re wrong, I’m right, I do it because I think it’s funny to rile you up” schtick. Then repeat it immediately.

jackssweetheart Report

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143points

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#24

Spitting. Just grosses me out.

tlcb84 Report

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142points

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#25

When they think that their taste in music makes them a superior person instead of just having different tastes. Applies to both genders. Edit: phrasing

existanthominid Report

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138points

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#26

Being needy and acting like your the only human in their life. Like please give me a f****** break I didn’t adopt a 37 year old child.

Stressberries Report

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133points

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#27

Refusing to do anything they think is considered more "feminine" cause they think it's gay. Not washing your face doesn't make you straight, it just makes you crusty. I may have some bias since i do lean towards more feminine guys, but there's certain limits, man.

soappistols Report

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132points

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#28

Fake tans, like the ones where they look orange. I've seen both men and women walking around like they are hot s*** looking like an Oompa Loompa

-eDgAR- Report

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128points

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#29

Smell and poor hygene. No one smells just because they are a dude, they smell because they don't clean themselves. Excessive body spray is not an alternative

issa_h26 Report

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127points

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#30

Making fun of my appearance, even as a joke. It’s a giant red flag and I won’t date anyone who “teases” me about it.

[deleted] Report

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126points

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#31

Not being "teachable", as in can't be introspective or when faced with new information cannot budge on their initial opinions/conclusions, is unattractive. It comes off as stupid and arrogant and makes me feel like I'm dealing with someone who is unreasonable.

bnrkll Report

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124points

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#32

Pushing you to do something you don't want to because " everyone does it and it's fun"

Wildchickenfart Report

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121points

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#33

When they can’t take no for an answer. This is a pretty broad statement, but a lot of guys have trouble taking no. It can go from slightly annoying to really scary in a heartbeat

murdockboy55 Report

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117points

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#34

Playing hard to get. if you like me just f**** tell me, stop beating around the bush.

edit: i am a girl.

aboba_3 Report

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110points

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#35

Inflated egos. Entitlement. Incapability of being humble and make fun of yourself.

Cybergor Report

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105points

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#36

Lip fillers. Its super popular right now but it just grosses me the f*** out.

TannedCroissant Report

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101points

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#37

Squeaky little girl voices, especially if it’s on purpose.

_keep_it_up_friend_ Report

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98points

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#38

People who only like one side of you. No, I'm not going to be upbeat and cracking jokes all the time, sometimes I wanna be serious and if you can't even pretend to care then the whole relationship feels kinda fake

ostrichual Report

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98points

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#39

Messiness and having poor hygiene.

Cybergor Report

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92points

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#40

Feeling the need to post on social media constantly and pretending that they don’t care about it but obviously care A LOT

krhinesmith18 Report

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91points

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#41

Acting thirsty or making sexual innuendos early on. Nothing dries me up more

CrustyLettuceLeaf Report

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91points

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#42

The need to take pictures so often and record everything. This should never have been normalized.

[deleted] Report

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85points

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#43

Not taking the f***** compliment. Like, if I say your hair looks good today, and you say, "haha, no! It looks like s***!" And i try to tell you again that it looks good, if you disagree the second time, I will tell you that fine, I agree it looks like s***.

[deleted] Report

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82points

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#44

Acting like being a b**** or being edgy is cool

[deleted] Report

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80points

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#45

People who do things for ‘clout’ and don’t actually care for being genuine until they need something from you.

dennaleia Report

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72points

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#46

"Im just too crazy😝", "Not like other girls"

Noiseyboisey Report

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70points

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#47

Acting stupid for attention.

[deleted] Report

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68points

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#48

Using your partner as your therapist.

Man, I don't know why I attract the 'broken' guys, but every date I've been on where it went past the first date, they'd start telling me all about their disturbing thoughts and I'd be supportive, but I'd internally be screaming because this was supposed to be a fun time and I didn't emotionally prepare for this.

hoeisajoe Report

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64points

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#49

Desperately trying to be unique

blu-mister Report

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58points

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What do you think ?

Niffler_13 3 years ago (edited)

Not respecting when something upsets or bothers you. Whether its a joke or comment they made or an incident that happened. Being told to "calm down" or "its just a joke" or "you're over reacting"

37points

Mama Panda 3 years ago

That is called gaslighting and it's a common form of abuse.

3points

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Jackson Gohn 3 years ago

Women thinking that it's OK to hit men.

13points

Lunaofthenest 3 years ago

FTR, as a woman I absolutely do not believe it's okay to hit a man. Sadly, our culture often downplays a heavy handed slap across the face as some kind of bad b*tch mark of power but it's abuse, plain & simple. People should not be hitting each other, regardless of gender, period. This behavior sets a potentially dangerous precedent and is never okay.

2points

Buggycas 3 years ago

Am I the only one whose biggest turn off is bias? If you're racist, homophobic, transphobic, hate one breed of dog because it looks scary, anything like that, I'm gone.

No, this is one for me as well. What started off as a "dark sense of humor" quickly became flat out every "ism" in the book. Funny thing is, for all their supposed superiority, most insecure & immature person I ever dated. They literally feared anyone different than them because they might be "better" somehow. Really pathetic individual.

4points