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Biologically it's possible to indicate the approximate age when a person reaches full physical maturity. However, emotional maturity is more challenging to define or distinguish. While physical and emotional maturity are subjective, typically, a person reaches physical maturity before becoming emotionally mature. For example, it's likely that a teenager would be physically mature but not emotionally mature enough to become a parent.

In fact, one study showed that the average man doesn't reach full emotional maturity until age 43, while women mature by age 32. That's an 11-year difference! Yet, again, the topic is very subjective. And while there are no tools (yet) available to determine the exact age one becomes 'ripe,' there are so-called signs of maturity. Similarly to how psychological conditions are diagnosed via symptoms, so can full psychological maturation be determined by signs of emotional maturity.

While signs of maturity in a man and woman may differ, gendering signs of maturity is irrelevant. So what exactly are those cues that a person has reached full emotional growth? When a Reddit user came in with the same question, numerous people chimed in in a Reddit thread sharing their personal experiences and the various signs of a mature man or woman.

Below, we've gathered some of their most upvoted answers sharing signs of a mature person. Do you agree with any of these statements? Which behavior or state of mind would you consider a sign of maturity? At what stage of emotional maturity would you consider yourself to be right now? Let us know!

#1

"When you realize 5k is a lot of money to spend, but not a lot of money to have."

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"When you have an opinion on something and once presented with new facts you are open to changing your opinion."

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"Knowing when your night is over and you should probably go home."

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"Realizing you're not as smart as you think."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who think they know everything really annoy those of us who do. (Joke)

#7

"Patience. Understanding that not everything can be fixed immediately, and making peace with the fact that some things just take time."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Patience is the most difficult virtue to learn, because you need it in order to learn it.

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#8

"I was always told 'character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you', which to me sounds like a good standard for maturity."

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"Being able to admit when your worst enemy has a good idea."

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"Knowing which priorities to put first."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

+ Knowing that sometimes the priorities of others are more important than your own.

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#11

"When you know you're right but don't feel the need to correct someone on it."

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#12

"When you consistently do the right thing for the right reasons - even if it involves sacrifice on your part."

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#13

"When you act and think the same whether you are alone or with others."

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#14

"I've heard this one and it has stuck with me: 'When your mom comes to you for advice.'"

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#15

"When someone hurts you and you try to understand them."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, understand them. But just because I understand why you are angry doesn't mean I accept you yelling at or abusing me. Remember, understanding is not excusing anymore than forgiving is forgetting. Understanding can reduce resentment as well as make things better in the future for everyone.

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#17

"Not caring about how you look to others so long as you like yourself and are having a good time."

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#18

"You become an adolescent when you realize your parents are human beings just like everyone else. You become an adult when you forgive them for it."

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#19

"Having alcoholic drinks in the house that are not drunk on the day of purchase."

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#20

"Not buying every new iPhone model."

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#21

"Eating a sandwich using the heel of the loaf of bread."

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#22

"Sometimes it's better for an argument to never happen than for you to win it."

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#23

"Understanding the difference between needs and wants."

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#24

"Knowing when to put others before yourself and when you need to prioritize yourself."

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#25

"Honesty (to yourself) about what you want."

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#26

"Fully understanding that there are many different ways of looking at a problem and that not everyone will understand that."

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#27

"Being happy and proud for the successful people in your life without comparing yourself to them and at the same time being proud of your your own life."

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#28

"Being able to make a sincere apology. 'I'm sorry you took it that way' is not a sincere apology."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not sure if I believe this one. Sometimes people misunderstand what you say. Instead of just being a jerk .... being able to let a person know you never meant it that way ...

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#29

"Not venting on social media about personal affairs."

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#30

"Be in charge of your own nutrition and health!"

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#31

"Checking your eggs at the grocery store."

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#32

"Stop complaining and just do it."

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#33

"Not having the urge to laugh when the ketchup bottle farts."

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#34

"Showing up on time."

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#35

"I don't need to tell people they're doing something wrong unless they ask me for my advice. I still often find myself biting my lip trying not to correct someone but I'm learning!"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's nothing wrong with correcting someone, it's all about how you present it and how you deal with their reaction.

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#36

"Not getting embarrassed about necessary purchases. As a teenager and young woman, I got antsy purchasing tampons, picking up my birth control and even buying toilet paper."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ahh ... the days when made sure you had a female cashier to ring you up. Later in life, you get in line with the male cashier and have tampons, wine, and a pound of chocolate. Looking at him ... daring him to make a comment.

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#37

"Ohh, the weather is finally warm and sunny, what a good day to do laundry."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love line-dried clothes. Clothes fluttering on my clothesline makes me happy for some reason.

#38

"When you realize that just because something is for children, it doesn't mean it's childish."

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#39

"Knowing that you aren't entitled to anything in life, even your life."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Id say you're entitled to your life. Nobody should have the right to take that away from you. This is a very dark view of the world. It's the libertarian, pull yourself up by your own bootstraps, why should I pay for your kids education or healthcare, view of the world.

#40

"When social problems become your problems."

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#41

"When you announce you're going to have a baby and people are happy for you instead of saying, 'Oh, is everything okay?'"

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#42

"Drinking a few beers makes you wanna go to bed instead of partying."

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#43

"Knowing when you're hanging out with the wrong people and actively making a change."

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#44

"You don't get upset when you are not liked."

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#45

"Being able to walk away when you should. Whether it be a confrontation, relationship or bad situation."

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#47

"When you stop testing boundaries and start navigating them."

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#48

"When you stop rooting for Jerry and start rooting for Tom."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hate tom and jerry anyway.... Anti cat propaganda made by pro rodent fascists....

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#49

"Eating things you don't like just because they're healthy."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't have to eat things you don't like just because they're healthy. It's more about NOT eating things that are unhealthy.

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#50

"Being a coachable person."

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#51

"Not needing to have other people to feel complete."

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#52

"I just asked for nice wools socks for my birthday, so there's that."

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#54

"Being able to answer a question with 'I don't know', instead of making something up or just talking around the question to cover up a lack of knowledge."

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#55

"Letting conversations go before they turn into arguments."

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#56

"Empathy. When you finally learn to put yourself in someone else's shoes, you become a bit more humble."

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#57

"Paying all of your bills before anything else."

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#59

"A high level of critical thinking that comes from experience or perspective."

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#60

"When others seek out your advice."

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#61

"Sometimes I wake up at 6 am. Just naturally. And instead of going back to sleep I get up and do dishes or something."

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#62

"Keeping promises even when it's hard."

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#63

"When you answer e-mails just as quickly as you do texts."

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#64

"Telling your children they are being irresponsible when they are doing what you did."

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#65

"This is also a sign of maturity: recognizing your own flaws, owning up to them, and actively trying to work on them!"

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#66

"Not making excuses for a failure and owning it. It's amazing how many adults still haven't gotten this down."

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#67

"Being able to delay gratification and do something you really don't want to do. I think that's one of the biggest differences between maturity and immaturity."

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#68

"Being able to swallow your ego and apologize even if you don't necessarily think you've done anything wrong. 'I completely understand your point and sincerely apologize for the lapse in communication,' instead of 'Can't you read, I clearly said that.'"

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#70

"Someone is mature when they can brush off insults with a laugh and not hold any kind of grudge. Someone is mature when they are focused on BEING a good person, not LOOKING like a good person."

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"I feel like it's when you realize you're not the center of the world and start doing things for others. Immature people have no concept of anything post their own noses. Mature people realize that there's a world full of millions, even billions, of people who could use help. Just the realization, to me, makes that person mature."

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#72

"When someone is yelling, and the other one is calmly talking."

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#73

"Accepting that you were wrong, in public."

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#74

"Not contacting your ex after a breakup."

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#75

"Doing puzzle night on a Saturday night. Actually, having a puzzle night in general."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yay I'm mature 🙋🏼‍♀️ at least in the puzzle department. Not the email department

#76

"Having friends of different political stripes than yourself."

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#77

"How about being able to focus on solving the problem, not on blaming the person who made it."

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#78

"Doing what's right for the long-term, despite the guarantee of short-term pain."

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#79

"Being able to recognize your own flaws, and then work on improving them. Accept people as they are and focus on yourself, overall just do everything in your power to be a better person."

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#80

"Not referring to people who don't like you as 'haters.'"

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#81

"Being able to be relied on instead of relying on others."

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#82

"Also knowing when to rely on others. Swallowing your pride and allowing those that truly care for you to help."

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#83

"You don't have to admit you wrong, just admit that people understand things differently and in different ways."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless, of course, you ARE wrong. Maturity is the discernment to know when you're wrong, and when there are differences in understanding.

#84

"There's a fine line between quitting and knowing nothing more can be gained. I think the maturity part comes in knifing and accepting the difference."

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"Moderation in all things, don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm."

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#86

"Knowing you can't do what you want whenever you want for your entire life."

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#88

"When the vegetable drawer in your fridge is full of vegetables instead of just beer."

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#89

"In truth, when you start wanting to take care of people and not being revolved around yourself."

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#90

"Realizing that you don't have to dress a certain way, have a certain hairstyle or a tattoo to express your individuality."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless you genuinely want to and don't care what others think.

#91

"Not eating to be sure that your child does."

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#92

"Keys. The more keys you have the more responsible you are."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

May I offer a converse example? I re-keyed all the doors in my house (a good number of them) so I only needed one house key for all doors.

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#93

"Most modern music starts to suck."

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#94

"When you fall asleep in the car and your parents don't carry you to bed. That's another hard blow from reality."

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#96

"When you no longer worry about acting mature."

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"When your friends spend an evening discussing taxes."

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"When you're parents come to your place to visit/stay."

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#99

"Realizing that going out to eat is a decent chunk of change for most people (especially older people), so you should always dress nice and be cordial at a lesser restaurant or a nice restaurant."

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#100

"Knowing when to stick to your principles and when to let it be."

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#101

"You pay a lot more for a little more comfort."

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#102

"Looking forward to a soft beverage rather than a hard one."

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#103

"Opening your mouth to say something, pausing, then thinking better of it."

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"This happened a few years ago. I saw a spider on the ground outside and I was about to kill it but then I realized there was no need to and this spider was a living thing so I let it be. To me, that was a big sign that I had matured."

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#105

"Not expecting people to read your mind."

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#106

"Looking forward to doing yardwork."

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#107

"Doing something without being told, because you know it's the right thing to do."

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#108

"Wanting to care for the well-being of your parents."

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#109

"Acknowledging that some of the problems you are dealing with aren't unique to you."

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#110

"Not caring about appearing childish."

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#111

"Smiling at babies."

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#112

"Having the humility to avoid needlessly talking about your accomplishments simply because an opportunity to do so comes up in conversation. If I only find out how good you are at something through another person telling me, and you've never bragged about it to me, I'll be impressed."

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#113

"Booking your own dentist appointment."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband makes me book his ... I guess I'm the mature one in our relationship.

#114

"Making room when someone is trying to move into your lane in traffic."

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#115

"More thinking, less talking."

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#117

"Knowing that you're able to have ice cream for dinner but choosing a healthy, balanced meal instead."

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#118

"I realised I was an adult when I started paying for my own Netflix."

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#119

"When you no longer allow anyone to intimidate you."

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#120

"Wearing a watch not for fashion's sake."

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#121

"When you are presented with the option of the better choice or the better story, you decide to go with the better choice."

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#122

"When someone tells you things you already know, you don't have to say 'I know that already.'"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"That's my job, thinking up goofy s**t. Coming around every now and then, letting you know what it is, or reminding you of things you already knew, but forgot to laugh at the first time." - George Carlin

#123

"Having accent furniture."

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#124

"When you start to like the outside of an Oreo better than the inside."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sacrilege! Blasphemy! Heresy! Apostasy! Begone, Evil One!

#125

"Not talking about people behind their backs."

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#126

"Buying life insurance."

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#127

"Learning to appreciate and care for what you already have, not constantly strive for the next thing you want."

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#128

"Listening to discussions on the radio and deliberately tune in."

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"My friend and I had a very adult moment when we had a 20 minute conversation about dish soap."

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"Providing a cheese plate when hosting a party."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

With slices of meat. Brb, guys, I'm getting Lunchables!

#131

"Knowing when to be mature."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shouldn't you always be mature. Wouldn't the true meaning be ... know when to be immature?

#132

"Liking salad."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I ate a salad for dinner, last night... with croutons. Well, just one crouton. One big crouton. One big, round, flat crouton... with tomatoes... well, tomato sauce... and cheese. OK, it was a pizza! I ate a pizza!

#133

"Agreeing with the Dad instead of Ariel in 'The Little Mermaid.'"

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#134

"Knowing the difference between being serious and being mature."

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"Being excited about new socks at Christmas."

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#136

"Paying your bills before going out for drinks."

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#137

"Acting with confidence doing something, especially in a leadership position, when you have no idea what to do."

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"When you do laundry and you separate your dark and light colors."

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"Not being disappointed from people's changes."

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#140

"You become a more courteous driver."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I learned how to drive in Chicago. There are no courteous drivers there. 🤣🤣🤣

#141

"Not eating a whole bottle of gummy vitamins in one sitting."

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#142

"Letting someone else get the last piece of cake."

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#143

"When you feel guilty for your parents giving you money."

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#144

"Effectively working in a group even though you hate most of your groupmates."

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#145

"Not getting upset when someone has the same outfit as you at a party."

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#147

"When 'You need to be more mature' isn't your first defense if things aren't going your way."

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#148

"Ordering fish at a restaurant."

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#149

"White crystals on cheddar cheese or brown spots on banana. They're just ripe enough to consume."

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#150

"The ability to be absolutely immature and not care."

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#151

"Being able to discuss menstruation (as a male). It was when I was able to ask my girlfriend confidently about it, after being an ignorant teen throughout secondary school, I realized it's really not that bad."

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#152

"Getting excited about buying a new washer and dryer."

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Front loader or top loader .... I have to research ... Woo Hoo .. . New washer and dryer.