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Sister Stands Firm As Sibling Insists On Own Room And Forces Child To Share With Their Partner
Organizing a family trip ought to be fun, right? You book a nice location, you set up sleeping arrangements, and you look forward to bonding with family members. But what if someone gets the idea to just shake things up despite all the plans that have already been set in motion?
Today’s Original Poster (OP) found herself frustrated when after arranging sleeping plans, her sibling changed their mind and demanded to have their own room while on their family vacation.
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One of the worst things just might be setting plans in stone with everyone on board, but then someone changes their mind last minute
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The author’s family had been planning a trip for a while and had everything ready, including flights and sleeping arrangements
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Although there was a spare room, her sibling was going to share a room with their partner, until the sibling stated they couldn’t because they slept badly together
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The sibling then demanded the spare room, which meant that their partner would have to bunk with the author’s child
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She refused this because she wasn’t comfortable with the idea, but her sibling urged her to be more flexible
After planning that took forever, everything was pretty much set for their vacation: the OP and her husband in one room, her kids in another, and her sibling and their partner in another room. There was also another small room with a single bed, and that would serve as a spare room just in case.
The OP’s sibling out of the blue then announced that they couldn’t share the same bedroom with their partner since they “sleep badly together,” which was news even to the partner. Instead, they claimed the small spare room for themselves, leaving their partner stuck sharing a bunk with the OP’s six-year-old child.
Understandably, the OP wasn’t thrilled with this sudden shift. Her child also wasn’t comfortable sharing a room with someone unfamiliar, and the sibling’s decision felt inconsiderate. After pushing back, the sibling insisted the OP be a lot more flexible. Things escalated further when their mother chimed in, siding with the sibling and calling OP selfish and urging them to “find a compromise.”
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Family vacations can be a great way to bond, but conflicts are almost inevitable. Last-minute changes, differing expectations, and logistical issues often create friction. However, IntraSpectrum suggests that the key to resolving these tensions is compromise. They explain that everyone should be willing to meet halfway rather than insisting on winning.
In this case, where there was already an arrangement that worked fine with everyone prior, Zen Habits acknowledges that unexpected changes can be very frustrating for those who appreciate stability. They state that when plans shift without warning, it’s natural to feel upset, but resisting change can sometimes lead to even more stress.
They go further to explain that frustration usually comes from holding on to what should have been instead of accepting reality, but while structure is important, too much rigidity can cause unnecessary tension. Instead, viewing it as an opportunity to practice flexibility can make a difference.
Calmerry suggests that handling family conflicts effectively requires patience and perspective. Accepting what can and cannot be controlled allows emotions to settle before reacting. Taking time to understand different viewpoints and considering how decisions affect the whole family leads to a better resolution of the problem.
Additionally, they emphasize that choosing which battles to fight helps avoid unnecessary arguments as not everything is worth fighting over.
Netizens believe the OP was being unreasonable by insisting on keeping the spare room empty. A lot of them expressed their confusion regarding the spare room that they had initially mentioned. According to them, this was nothing to fuss over, especially since the sibling or partner could easily move to the spare room.
Some even speculated that the sibling might have a genuine reason for wanting their own room, like snoring or relationship issues, and that forcing them to share would only make things more uncomfortable.
What do you think about this situation? Do you think the sibling is being unreasonable, or should the OP be more flexible with the sleeping arrangements?
Netizens were very confused and concluded that the author was being unreasonable because there was a spare room anyway
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Trillian 10 months ago
I don't get it? Three bedroom and a spare. So if sibling takes the spare, then her husband stays alone in the original bedroom. Where is the problem? What does that have to do with the children's bedroom?
Aidan Pite 10 months ago
And people kept asking but she just kept repeating 'but then my 6yo has to share!!!' uhh where does the 6yo come in? Why does the 6yo come in? If the 'spare room' was gonna by the 6yo's room then just say THAT!
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Lyoness 10 months ago
This makes zero sense. Sister and partner were in one room and there's a spare box room. Sister and partner prefer to sleep apart. Sister uses original room, partner uses spare box room. Problem solved. Why would anyone need to share with the 6 year old? I'm smelling control issues.(They smell like rotten bananas (for scale) if anyone was wondering.)
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
The worst thing about this is labeling everyone "Dear X". I know it's shorthand and personal peeve but having to read that in these posts is so annoying.
Tessa 10 months ago
I really don’t see the issue here with 3 double rooms and 1 single room, she is either a total unreasonable control freak or this story is just very confusing.
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Romy Rösli 10 months ago
It’s wild to me OP keeps insisting on keeping one room empty. I get that it can be annoying when someone decides to change plans that were agreed upon by everybody but OP is being unreasonable.
Kathrin Pukowsky 10 months ago
I love this. I checked over on MumsNet and people are just as confused as they are here. Best bet in my book is that it's about the cost of the AirBnB, with OP paying for two rooms and the sibling paying for one but trying to claim the spare room without extra charge, or OP having planned all along to move her 6-year-old to the spare room without paying extra.
ADDchallengedINFP-T 10 months ago
How many people, there is a mention of Mom, 6 year old child, is there another child? The spare room was empty, sibling wants to stay there. So, why is this 6 year kid going to be with the partner? Didn't he already have his own room? This post is confusing and wording for "they" for one or two or more people. These DS, DC,DH,DP, DDDD could you not at least give a fake name instead of thes deees. or a Letter as in Sibling: S, or sis/bro? I have to go and get a tylenol, got a headache after trying to figure out Where I am going to sleep.
bElLa sTairZz 10 months ago
letting a six year old share a room alone with an adult they dont know well should never happen imo, too much could go wrong.
weatherwitch 10 months ago
Incredibly confusing. I suspect the OP is like myself (Neurodivergent) and is utterly thrown when set in stone arrangements are changed. That said I settle down with the new arrangements. I wonder if they have anxiety as that's some planning ahead with the spare bedroom incase of illness as normally in the case of illness you continue to share as not many people Have a spare room. I do Not understand why the child can't keep their room ALONE so they're not disturbed by adults going to bed late or drunk. The one who changed the arrangements should Have the box room and their partner the original room... Assuming that is by the time they're on the holiday they're actually still together.
Jaxier Lucies 7 months ago
What is DH, DC, DP and all this insane shorts with no clear meaning. This stories doesn't make any sense when you don't know who they are talking about
Trillian 10 months ago
I don't get it? Three bedroom and a spare. So if sibling takes the spare, then her husband stays alone in the original bedroom. Where is the problem? What does that have to do with the children's bedroom?
Aidan Pite 10 months ago
And people kept asking but she just kept repeating 'but then my 6yo has to share!!!' uhh where does the 6yo come in? Why does the 6yo come in? If the 'spare room' was gonna by the 6yo's room then just say THAT!
Load More Replies... Lyoness 10 months ago
This makes zero sense. Sister and partner were in one room and there's a spare box room. Sister and partner prefer to sleep apart. Sister uses original room, partner uses spare box room. Problem solved. Why would anyone need to share with the 6 year old? I'm smelling control issues.(They smell like rotten bananas (for scale) if anyone was wondering.)
JayWantsACat 10 months ago
The worst thing about this is labeling everyone "Dear X". I know it's shorthand and personal peeve but having to read that in these posts is so annoying.
Tessa 10 months ago
I really don’t see the issue here with 3 double rooms and 1 single room, she is either a total unreasonable control freak or this story is just very confusing.
Load More Replies... Romy Rösli 10 months ago
It’s wild to me OP keeps insisting on keeping one room empty. I get that it can be annoying when someone decides to change plans that were agreed upon by everybody but OP is being unreasonable.
Kathrin Pukowsky 10 months ago
I love this. I checked over on MumsNet and people are just as confused as they are here. Best bet in my book is that it's about the cost of the AirBnB, with OP paying for two rooms and the sibling paying for one but trying to claim the spare room without extra charge, or OP having planned all along to move her 6-year-old to the spare room without paying extra.
ADDchallengedINFP-T 10 months ago
How many people, there is a mention of Mom, 6 year old child, is there another child? The spare room was empty, sibling wants to stay there. So, why is this 6 year kid going to be with the partner? Didn't he already have his own room? This post is confusing and wording for "they" for one or two or more people. These DS, DC,DH,DP, DDDD could you not at least give a fake name instead of thes deees. or a Letter as in Sibling: S, or sis/bro? I have to go and get a tylenol, got a headache after trying to figure out Where I am going to sleep.
bElLa sTairZz 10 months ago
letting a six year old share a room alone with an adult they dont know well should never happen imo, too much could go wrong.
weatherwitch 10 months ago
Incredibly confusing. I suspect the OP is like myself (Neurodivergent) and is utterly thrown when set in stone arrangements are changed. That said I settle down with the new arrangements. I wonder if they have anxiety as that's some planning ahead with the spare bedroom incase of illness as normally in the case of illness you continue to share as not many people Have a spare room. I do Not understand why the child can't keep their room ALONE so they're not disturbed by adults going to bed late or drunk. The one who changed the arrangements should Have the box room and their partner the original room... Assuming that is by the time they're on the holiday they're actually still together.
Jaxier Lucies 7 months ago
What is DH, DC, DP and all this insane shorts with no clear meaning. This stories doesn't make any sense when you don't know who they are talking about
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