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29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist School dress codes. This logic about girls needing to "cover up" is so problematic and flawed, because we're teaching girls that they are responsible for how men act when they show any part of their body.

lilbaby__98 , cottonbro Report

Final score:

277points

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Eslamala 3 years ago

Yeah, this is absolutely fcked up.

60points

power.to.her , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist The prefix for men is Mr. and the prefix for women is Miss, Ms. and Mrs. A prefix for women is directly dependent on if she is single or married. It stays Mr. for men all their lives.

Final score:

247points

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Amy Dodds 3 years ago

Or just keep yours Ms, which is neither single nor married

134points

The ‘Power To Her’ organization aims to empower women in their communities. “We hope to encourage social change through promoting, educating and providing the necessary tools and services for progress,” the project explains on its website.

The founder of ‘Power To Her,’ Sachreet Chahal and Shuchi Jain, seek to end gender-based inequalities on a global level. Having met at the Schulich School of Business, the two women eventually grew closer together, shared the things they faced as women, and decided to form the organization.

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Back in 2017 I bought a house as a single woman, this year I sold it. My and my partner decided to buy a new house together. With the money I made from selling my old house, I put the entire down payment on the new one. The mortgage company, the insurance, home warranty addresses him as the owner of this house and I'm the "co-borrower".

notsansa , Jordan Bauer Report

Final score:

208points

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Sofie 3 years ago

That's just wrong!

83points

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist A woman with boundaries is selfish, rude, mean, harsh. A man with boundaries is confident, powerful, successful, ambitious.

scarrednotscared , Raychan Report

Final score:

208points

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Omi bub 3 years ago

A woman is 'bossy' a man 'has good leadership skills'. In same vein though women are sensitive & men are soft.

87points

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When people come up to me and tell me my daughter's really beautiful and that I better watch our for her when she gets older. Like, they're actually expecting our daughters to be sexually assaulted.

charissacooke , cottonbro Report

Final score:

204points

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lunar eclipse 3 years ago (edited)

Okay. So where I live. We have arranged marriages. I don’t mind. What I do mind is that I’m 17 and our weird neighbour hinted my mom that she thought I was pretty and her son was at marrying age. Ewgh. Creepy old ladies. Edit: Yes my parents shoed her away.

78points

“Power To Her means giving the power back to each and every single woman and providing them with the help and resources to live their most authentic life,” they explain.

Founder Shuchi, a professional dancer and choreographer with a penchant for traveling and content creation, hopes to raise awareness about the issues that women face through the project. Meanwhile, Sachreet, an aspiring writer and a philanthropist, has always had a passion for social activism and always dreamed about starting a non-profit organization.

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Women are forced to take sole responsibility for contraception, when women are only fertile 3-5 days of the year. Men are fertile every single day of the year. The biggest gimmick of all was that it was sold to us as a way of independence.

nezzysparkles , cottonbro Report

Final score:

193points

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Celeste Grant 3 years ago

That must mean 3-5 days a month, not a year! Most women have a fertile period every cycle.

142points

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist How male actors like Ryan Gosling or Leonardo DiCaprio can play the main character their entire careers but each time their female co-star/love interest gets younger.

emilydeahl Report

Final score:

183points

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Amy Dodds 3 years ago

Don't forget the actresses for the 'mums' are often only a few years older than the actors playing their 'son'

101points

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's not only normalized but viewed as "cute" when a man can't do the basic parts of parenting. "Oh my husband can't even be with the kids for two hours without calling me haha". "That's nothing, mine won't even touch the dirty diapers." What's funny about only women being expected to know how to take care of their children?

chrystheauthor , Anete Lusina Report

Final score:

180points

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If I could I would live under water 3 years ago

I have to say where I come from, that's not true (anymore). When I go on a 3 day trip with my girlfriends, the dads stay with the kids and it's perfectly normal. No problems whatsoever.

53points

ginger.gemini420 , Priscilla Du Preez Report

‘Power To Her’ bases its activities on three main pillars in order to empower “a large network of women from different backgrounds and ethnicities.”

The first pillar that the project is founded on is all about mutual support and growth. The second is about educating society about women’s issues, gender stereotypes, toxic beauty standards, access to education, inequality in the workplace, and the lack of women in positions of power. The final pillar is providing people with the necessary tools and services to empower them to give back to marginalized communities.

#10

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Whenever a girl has an attitude or is in a bad mood, she gets asked if it's her "time of the month".

Final score:

174points

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Liset Vossen 3 years ago

Oh, i say that to guys too.. :)

93points

#11

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's so normalized for women to change their last name after getting married. This is the name you got your degree with, the name associated with all your accomplishments. Yet society just expects you to pack it up and change it the second you get married.
The fact that so many men expect their S/O to change their last name for them is a red flag.
I understand all the arguments for why you would want to change your last name. To be part of the family and it's easier for the kids and all that. BUT the fact is that the pressure is solely put on women.

power.to.her , Lưu Đức Anh Report

Final score:

166points

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Mooncat83 3 years ago

I never changed my name. I love my husband, but I'm his wife/partner, not his sister. And I'm quite pissed that my children MUST have my husbands name, why not both surnames?

60points

amandajustvibin , Strawser Bonnie Report

#12

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When anything happens to a woman, be a crime or an accident, they're almost always referred to as a wife/mother first on a news broadcast. The fact that she's not reffered by her name first but by her relationship to others is messed up. There's always a difference when men are mentioned. It's always "local man", and then they later mention that he's a husband or a father.

Final score:

158points

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Liset Vossen 3 years ago

In the netherlands they recently referred to the royal couple as "The queen and her husband" in a newspaper, fun fact: in this case the husband is actually the monarch of the country i.e. he is the king

49points

#13

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Literally everything about traditional weddings. Your dad gives you away so that you can be passed from one man to another man. You have to wear a white dress, because if you're not a virgin, you're [useless]. It's bad luck for the man to see the bride on the day of the wedding because back when marriages were all arranged, if the guy saw the bride before, sometimes he would want to call it off because he didn't fancy her, and that would bring shame on...the bride. That's also why the veil is a thing. Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding.

miramimihi , Thomas Christian Report

Final score:

153points

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Random Panda 3 years ago (edited)

This depends on where you live, most of these don't apply to my culture. In my country the bride and groom make their entrance together for both the civil and church marriage ceremonies. There is no giving away of the bride as part of the marriage ceremony itself.

64points

inspirit_shinee_88 , KoolShooters Report

#14

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Shaving. If a woman doesn't shave, it's considered "manly" and "nasty". Makeup is targeted specifically towards women, and when a man uses it, he's considered less of a man.

Final score:

138points

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Kelli from Fitness Blender 3 years ago

I personally like how my legs look when I shave them, which is why I shave them. If someone doesn't like that on themselves or just doesn't want to, they shouldn't be forced to. Same thing for makeup.

74points

#15

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Giving the mothers the custody on Monday-Friday, and giving the dads the weekends where they get to be the fun parent, no school, no pickups, no homework.

lindsayevz , Tiger Lily Report

Final score:

137points

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Eslamala 3 years ago

Could be avoided if parents behaved like grown ups when splitting up and work things out fairly for them and their children, though... But it seems a lot of people forget their children come first, not their mutual hatred.

89points

tubbybridges , Alexander Suhorucov Report

#16

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist The way society expects girls to be polite vs the way women expect men to be polite. Women are raised to be overly polite from childhood. This is a huge disservice to women — their conditioning to be polite can be so strong that it can lead to situations that put their safety in danger.

Final score:

137points

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If I could I would live under water 3 years ago

I once saw a experiment on TV, where the girl stopped saying "thank you" for a whole day. She wasn't being rude at all, was smiling when she felt like it and talking in a normal tone. Whenever her boyfriend gave her a compliment or something, or did something normal like passing the remote control or just normal relationship stuff, she answered him but didn't thank him. and by the end of the day he was absolutely mad at her, for no "real" reason. I think about this sometimes, because I say "thank you"all the time, even when it's not "my turn" to say it but men don't say "thank you" half as much, and it's totally okay.

66points

#17

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I carried my baby for 9 months and birthed her, and yet she has my husband's last name.

tianatianataylor , Anna Shvets Report

Final score:

131points

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Eslamala 3 years ago

She could have yours, although yours it's your fathers....

78points

victoriagarrick4 , Polina Zimmerman Report

#18

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Why do we say "grow a pair" or "get some balls" when referring to a situation where someone needs to be strong or tough?

Final score:

125points

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If I could I would live under water 3 years ago

Works both ways, "crying like a girl" and "being a pussy"

69points

#19

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist If you're a woman and you're walking anywhere, and there's a man coming at you, they'll expect you to move to accommodate them, they won't do it for you. I started playing a little game where I don't move for the man, and the amount of times they've run into me, because they expected me to move, is actually insane.

effieelizabeth , Kaique Rocha Report

Final score:

117points

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troufaki13 3 years ago

I call bs. I'm a woman and I've noticed that it's usually the women who won't move

76points

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#20

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist It's normalized to ask a woman "when are you expecting to have kids?". Would you ask that if I was a man? When corportations hire women, they usually anticipate that they're going to take a maternity leave and this is considered a due cost for them, and this is something that people use to justify the pay gap.

power.to.her , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

Final score:

102points

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J. F. 3 years ago (edited)

Illegal to ask in Germany - but from a natural perspective logical. Men can work while their partners are pregnant, a woman needs time before birth for savety reasons and recovery time after giving birth.

5points

#21

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Drinking. Everytime I order a whiskey on the rocks, men look at me like "really, you like whiskey?" Where does it say that girls are only allowed to drink wine or sangrias, and if she likes stronger drinks, she's trying to be something that she's not. And even with roles reversed, why are guys not allowed to order fruity drinks, how does that make him less of a man?

power.to.her , Terricks Noah Report

Final score:

91points

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Eslamala 3 years ago

Who the fck gives this much thought to other people's opinions, anyway? I drink whisky and the one time someone pointed it out, I replied "are we making a list of all the drinks we orderdered?' and that was it.

34points

#22

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist I'd have to say gift giving. Presents from "mom and dad", but the dad has no idea what's in them because mom bought them.

merry1688 , Nicole Michalou Report

Final score:

88points

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Monika Rhodes 3 years ago

That's not sexist- your partner is lazy ass if they can't be bothered to shop for their own kids.

119points

El muerto 3 years ago

one think is being sexist and the other is being lazy, although men gat away with lazy when it comes to kids...so a bit of both

7points

Brooke 3 years ago (edited)

Wellllll....women are often the ones who are forced to carry the "mental load", which includes this scenario right here. Being the one to have to remember to buy the gift and pick it out. They have to do most of or all the thinking. So it is a gender thing.

1point

Adriaan Verhelle 3 years ago

Love this reply. My father actually knows me much better than my mother and always came up with much better gifts.

1point

Rissie 3 years ago

Who says dad is lazy? First of all giving material gifts in 2021 in such an abundant world and time is nothing to be proud of. But the need for most social behavior, of which gift giving is a prime example, is actually biologically engrained in our species as a typically feminine part. Good thing that's not as black and white anymore. But dividing jobs in a really stressful time to live according to stereotypical gene expression is also just practical. So get the f off your forking high horse. She gets the gifts, he hangs up the decorations. Also have a busy family before you judge. See what I did there?

0points

Allan Breum 3 years ago

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Stille20 3 years ago

People often have roles in a relationship. My dad always did the dishes and mowed the lawn. My mom kept the finances and picked out gifts... so what. that's not sexist

7points

M O'Connell 3 years ago

In a relationship it's about leveraging what you're good at. I am absolutely terrible at picking out gifts. I would happily give that responsibility to my partner if they happen to be good at it. I have strong mechanical aptitude, so I'll take care of that stuff.

6points

J. F. 3 years ago

Who says the dad isn't involved? We don't exactly know if he just trust his wife's judgement more than his own. When it comes to presents for anybody I let my GF hande it because I'm pretty dumb when it comes to such things

7points

Calypso poet 3 years ago

This! When I first started dating my husband I had never dated anyone with kids. At Xmas I picked out the gifts. He told me the boys were into but I made the suggestion. His tween daughter I picked out. I won't let him buy me gifts. He's awful! Lol! My ex boyfriend was good at gifts. Some people just don't have it.

2points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

I enjoy gift shopping and love to take my time, whilst my hubby hates shopping and would rather get something quick and get out. I would rather do the shopping by myself. I even do my brothers Christmas shopping, not because I can't say no, but because I love doing it. Don't care whose money I spend lol. I also don't care that my hubby doesn't know what I bought everyone, he still contributed, he works for the money.

6points

LOttawa 3 years ago

☝️this.

3points

Wouldn't You Like to Know 3 years ago (edited)

That's called good delegation because he doesn't want to put up with her bitching that he got the 'wrong' thing...

3points

ThePracticalSarcastic 3 years ago

not sexist...lazy, lack of planning, lack of communication/discussion. "What should we get X for Christmas?" problem solved.

3points

CowboyHank 3 years ago

Why would you assume the husband didn't buy it? Sounds kinda sexist.

2points

FABULOUS1 3 years ago

Sorry this is not just a man and woman thing, this is a relationship thing. I buy all my wifes families gifts and the gifts for everyone else. She has no clue what they are but it has my name on it and she makes it clear they were from me.

1point

im.bored.person 3 years ago

I dont agree with this sh*t. I cant remember the last time my mom let my dad buy a gift for me or anyone else

0points

Lulu Lemons 3 years ago

It's same in my house but that's more because my mum forgets to tell dad than he's lazy. Dad buys stuff as well tho just less

0points

CPooh 3 years ago

Always the opposite in my family. But my dad is unusual for his generation. And awesome.

0points

Essex Eagle 3 years ago

And ...... if it offends you so much how about doing something about it ?

0points

Robert Thompson 3 years ago

This is just time management. If he is working supporting the household (Cough,... sexist) and she is not, then it makes sense for her to carry her weight in the relationship. Same if he was a SAHD and she was the bread winner.

0points

Michael Fish 3 years ago

That is not sexist.. That goes both ways. I (the dad) buy all our kids gifts and put "From Mom and Dad" on them. My wife wants me to do the shopping for the gifts because I know our kids wants better.

0points

Jan Bregulla 3 years ago

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0points

PineappleQueen 3 years ago

Actually my mom and dad buy separate presents for us. There just a little smaller.

0points

Snow 3 years ago

this happened with my parents

0points

Melvin Dragvelk 3 years ago

Maybe tell Dad what you bought? Simple solution. But I bought almost all presents, so this isn't the norm.

0points

Ivy la Sangrienta 3 years ago

I had a different experience. All my presents were "from Santa", and I could tell who bought it by how it was wrapped, lol. Dad was (and is) quite creative.

0points

Nikki 3 years ago

My parents put both their names on our gifts, but when something is just from my mom is puts only her name.

0points

Leslie Burleson 3 years ago

That's just based on choice

0points

Just Drowning 3 years ago

You're sexist for assuming that the dad wouldn't know or care.

0points

Rus Kus 3 years ago

My mom had to remind my dad about birthdays, mine in particular. I dunno if it's sexism but definitely is considered more of a female chore in my country so...

0points

Chloe *Leah* Pheonix 3 years ago

Yeah, that's why when my parents give a gift to to family that I had no part in, I always try to get them to cross out my name in the tag.

0points

Penny Kemper 3 years ago

That's just depends on your family. If want a guy to be part of it then tell him too.

0points

Vicky Zar 3 years ago

My husband and I, we decide together what to get our children for every occasion

0points

frangee 3 years ago

I agree with this, but it only applies to some families, in my family, you can tell that my Mum picked out some gifts and my Dad picked out others but they all say "Mum and Dad".

0points

Dillon Hughes 3 years ago

Mom picked it out, dad dosent care because he trusted that the wife got something the kid would like. So? It's then also a surprise for the kid and him. I like it. Not sexist

0points

Helenium 3 years ago

thats not sexist i have no idea what my husband gets his fam and i have my name on it

0points

Heather Pobicki 3 years ago

We both earn, I buy, my husband and I wrap. Works well. Team effort.

0points

Bobert Robertson 3 years ago

I agree this is just laziness.... My wife and I make a point to either pick out the gifts together, or split the buying duties so we each get something for our kids.

0points

Iggy 3 years ago

Just refuse to do it. He'll soon snap out of it if he knows no one is going to do it for him. He's a grown man not a child.

0points

Lola 3 years ago

This is not sexist, this is just laziness.

0points

Ahimsa Soul 3 years ago

And being a bad partner.

1point

Eslamala 3 years ago

Again, women enforcing and putting up with that kind of behavior....

0points

Omi bub 3 years ago

Agreed. I had to really resist buying presents for my husband's family & put energy into nagging him. Now it's automatic in him but all my friends are run ragged at xmas buying a million gifts

2points

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#23

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Our fathers walking us down the aisle whenever we get married, because that comes from a time when women were considered property. The father is giving his property away to a new man, because now the woman is supposed to be the husband's property. I feel like that should've been done with when women got rights, it's not cute. I'm not doing that.

amberereignn , Jakob Owens Report

Final score:

77points

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Kay blue 3 years ago

I have no issue with the idea of my dad walking down the aisle with me. However, I would not include the line "who gives this woman to this man".

49points

#24

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Organizing parties. Not only do women take care of the food, they also clean everything up afterwards. Men are just standing there unbothered.

jessisquatcher , Nicole Michalou Report

Final score:

69points

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witchling 3 years ago

Gotta say I never cooked a damn thing for thanksgiving dinner. Group of 30. Husband did all of it. I did clean up. We had a house rule. One cooks the other cleans.

8points

#25

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Men playing video games all day. If I were to play video games all day then I'd be neglecting my kid, but when a man does it, it's a good thing that he's home and not out there cheating.

basicmichi , Alexander Kovalev Report

Final score:

60points

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Jonathan 3 years ago

Because female gamers are non-existant? How sheltered are these people?

75points

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#26

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Girls are raised to be wives and told what they can or can't do in their present for what their future husband might like. You have to keep your "purity" because your future husband might like that, you can't wear that, you can't look this way, you can't post those videos, you have to know how to cook and clean as if those aren't human traits that we all need to know how to do as adults to stay alive. But "boys will be boys" and are allowed to do whatever they want.

laysieeeb , One Shot Report

Final score:

44points

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Eslamala 3 years ago

In what century were you raised?? This hasn't been the norm for a lot of women in a lot of different countries for at least a few decades...

62points

#27

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Engagement rings. We have a "symbol" on our hand saying we belong to someone else, while men get to go around and do whatever they want, no one knows if they're taken.

lindsaynoell , Jake Pierrelee Report

Final score:

37points

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Jonathan 3 years ago

But guys wear engagement rings too though.

80points

#28

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist When a woman decides to propose to a man, she is looked down by society. It's so normalized for only men to propose.

power.to.her , Jasmine Carter Report

Final score:

32points

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Random Panda 3 years ago (edited)

It's unusual for sure, but are women who do this actually looked down on? I've never met anyone who'd think that.

66points

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#29

29 People Call Out What Things We Should Stop Accepting As Normal And Call Them What They Are - Sexist Why are ships and cars referred to with the pronouns she/her? The English language doesn't really refer to things as "masculine" or "feminine". The fact that we personify these inanimate objects as women and give them female names, doesn't sit right with me. Research says that this has a variety of reasons, ranging from viewing a vessel as a motherly, womb-like, life sustaining figure, to jokingly likening a ship to a woman who is "expensive" to keep and needs a man to guide her, and a lick of paint to look good.

power.to.her , Matt Hardy Report

Final score:

-10points

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lunar eclipse 3 years ago

Wat. The moon is referred as she. I like that. Grace and elegance

34points

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Eslamala 3 years ago

Unpopular as usual, but most of these are enforced, allowed, encouraged and even justified by other women. If you married a useless slob and keep doing everything for him, it's not society forcing you to do it, it's just you being dumb. If it bothers you, stop putting up with it. It's really simple. Also, anyone can say crap to you, but it's you who give importance to their opinions.. this kind of posts piss me off, because it's just women complaining about crap they willingly put up with. Grow a pair of tits and ovaries, ffs!

26points

Nadine Bamberger 3 years ago

I understand that some of these posts piss you off fir those reasons, but please consider that you are talking like someone who is in a position of power, not all women are being born into societies where that's the norm. Maybe try to see things from different angles before you're blaming the victim. Try to empower, not put down, feels better.

29points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

It is not easy to simply defy one's entire childhood of training, cultural expectations, etc. To do so can require a lot of hard work, and some societies will ostracize you for not behaving to "norms". Speaking as one who cut ties with the entire paternal side of my family to be free of the poisonous crap? .... That was 25 years ago and I still hear about how awful I was to *them*! Didn't stop me, but it might stop others. So, moral of story: TLDR: Defiance of "norms" for the right reason is not easy, but it is worth it in the long run.

20points

Penny Fan 3 years ago

I suggest you read "Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men" by Caroline Criado Perez. Then tell me again how women are complicit in their own issues.

12points

Something 3 years ago

Women who simply stop putting up with it face backlash.

9points

Nora AlMeida 3 years ago

Crap they’re willingly put up with? That’s some nonsense. Domestic abuse is rampant. All over the world. Women and girls fear for their lives on the daily. When a woman or a girl breaks up, the few months after the break up tend to be the most hazardous period in which her ex might try to kill her. So yeah, if a woman or a girl dated a male, and she thought he’s fair and decent, but some years later he displays some of the issues mentioned here and she gets grossed out by his actually unfair mindset, she might still hesitate to break things off for a while out of fear of his reaction. And some of the things mentioned aren’t complete dealbreakers (like the woman taking charge of the gift giving on behalf of them both, and few other things in the post), but it is still unfair so women are rightfully pointing out the unfairness because a number of women would like to believe that there are decent men out there who would conscientiously change their unfair behavior.

2points

Vicky Z 3 years ago

That was a great victim blaming and congratulations! "Noone is forcing you and you are being dumb?" For real????

1point

Ben Smith 3 years ago

Extremely well said.

0points

Monilip 3 years ago

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𝓴𝓪𝔀𝓪𝓲𝓲_𝓐𝓾𝓭𝓻𝓮𝔂 3 years ago

I personally hate the phrase "Boys will be boys" because it just gives them an excuse to treat people however they want.

21points

Jill 3 years ago

I especially hate it when male teachers say this about predominantly male classes. I try to explain to them that they are giving the boys excuses that will backfire later and arent teaching them anything other than it is ok to be pains in the a**.

7points

pebs 3 years ago

Many women continue to use their original surname and are named with it, at least in Northern Italy.

15points

M Calad 3 years ago

I would add that there are many indirect sexist conditionings given by society. For instance, how were single independent women usually portraited? The evil ones, the witches, etc. That getting marriage is the ultimate milestone and the biggest success in a woman's life. And many others like that, some also being addressed to men. It is changing thought, but most of us grew up with those wrong messages.

6points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

I will be downvoted for agreeing. Motherhood and marriage are still shown on TV, in movies, as the end-all be-all. Crying men are bad, crying women are okay but only if they stop crying after they're told to.... It's changed over my lifetime, but too slowly, IMO.

6points

Lav Oravaf 3 years ago

It is merely the results of thousand of years of mind conditioning. but let's not forget also men too don't have it easy. To give a couple of examples: they cannot cry otherwise they are pussies, they cannot have certain jobs (like being a nanny i.e.) cause it would be considered either "gay" or "inappropriate" and we could go on forever with examples for both women and men. let's stop sexism from both sides machismo and feminism altogether ! and bring some nice balance to our lives for once !

5points

Penny Kemper 3 years ago

Most of these are only traditional and honestly don't know mean people that still think that way. I feel like some people are way more old fashioned than I know of and I live in the Bible Belt in a small town (pop. 900) and next biggest town is (pop. 80,000). So.... who's still that old fashioned?

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Patti Vance 3 years ago

#6: married 'old world italian' who thought it was odd i wanted to keep my name. finally asked him if tradition was reversed, would he ever look in the mirror and say 'i'm mike [insert my last name}? he said, 'no, i'm mike [his last name]. exactly! then, made a deal. if we made it to 20 yrs i would change it. well, we did; and i did. then 10 yrs later divorced. took back my name but his still haunts me on insurance & other official docs. #8: gave my son my name. caused all sorts of issues when he went into military service. ended up having to hyphenate my & his dad's name to satisfy the air force.

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Parmeisan 3 years ago

Just a friendly FYI - the numbers change as the posts get up/downvoted. What was #6 when you commented is #7 now, it could be changed again in a few more hours. You are probably better off putting these comments under the posts themselves as they will stay connected to it that way. :)

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Ambar 3 years ago

one thing I'm am always asking myself is this: "why the heck are people doing this to WOMEN and not to MEN, like what makes some MEN think that WE S FEMALES are toys just cuz we give birth!?!?"

3points

Leslie Burleson 3 years ago

This is an odd article . Empowering females is great . Equality is great. The things posted here are based on opinion and honestly it seems like another type of complaining post rather than an empowering and educating post

2points

Leodavinci 3 years ago

Ever heard the expression "making a mountain out of a molehill"? Almost all of these pithy observations have not been "social norms" for over half a century at least. Whatever personal experiences to the contrary there may be.

2points

Cosmetica Solist 3 years ago

I agree and can recognise some of these, but mostly this list just makes me realise how progressive my country/community is.

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The Dave 3 years ago (edited)

Dude, some of y'all really need to get over yourselves. Yes, women deserved to be treated equally - thats obvious. I think 100% of people under 50 agree, and that gender inequality will mostly end with the Baby Boomers. Stop looking for every opportunity to be "offended". At some point we all just have to be adults and let things roll off our back. It makes us stronger as individuals.

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Ash 2 years ago

Some things yes but others no. Men and boys still think its appropriate to cat call woman. I cant walk my dog in own neighborhood without being harrassed and even have had men on two separate occasions harass me at a carwash. People to raise their boys to be more respectful or this will never change

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Why do we do this to each other and to ourselves and our children/youngsters? they're all PEOPLE. Start with that.

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Ash 2 years ago

It always blows my mind when I tell people that my husband and I spilt the household chores and will get told they live a traditional way where they do all the household chores yet they also work 40 hours how is that traditional way of life.

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Monica Pryts 3 years ago

Most women have fertile days every month, not three times a year.

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Janie 3 years ago

#4 it's literally the way YOU and your so filled out the application. The initial app has a borrower and co-borrower section. You're both referred to by those terms for the length of the agreement. If you wanted to have yourself listed as borrower and your so as the co-borrower, you should have filled out the appropriate sections... also, if you're so concerned with who paid the down payment, you probably should have had the deed titled 20% (if that's what you put down) in your name with 80% held JWROS or TBE (depending on your state or even JTIC if you're so concerned about who's property is who's).

0points

Sweddybob 3 years ago

I actually don't know where to begin with this drivel

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ZooMom 3 years ago

I am most appalled at the post that implied female birth control was some suppression conspiracy as opposed to a step towards female independence. I cannot believe a movement that put women in a position of personal responsibility was a NEGATIVE.

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Huddo's sister 2 years ago

It is only a negative if the basis for a doctor agreeing to certain types of birth control, based on age and relationship status. Birth control in general is a very positive thing.

0points

Shelby Jackson 3 years ago

The thing I don't like about posts like this is that no one, literally no one, is forcing a woman to do any of this. If you don't want dad giving you away, don't. If you want to keep your last name/give your last name to your kid, do it. Some like these traditions. Others don't. Just do what makes you happy and leave others to do the same.

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Ben Smith 3 years ago

Most of the comments in here are made by women who've had bad experiences with a bad man. And if you've had multiple bad experiences with multiple men, then well, eventually you need to start looking in a mirror and asking some tough questions of yourself.

0points

Ross Keim 3 years ago (edited)

Just ugh, women don’t want equality they want superiority, they are already equal, only a weak person can be forced to do anything they don’t want to, it’s not all men’s fault or society’s fault, stop expecting men to give all of these things to you and just demand them if you want them but don’t force other women to do things they want or accept to do because you think it makes them weak they have just as much of a right to choose as you do, that’s why your already equal, your complaining about things that you already have the power of choice for, in most civilized countries, your not forced to register for a draft at 18 in a free country and know at anytime your country can call you to war to die with no choice what so ever, you want true equality start there, your life can be as equally worthless as a mans then

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Miguel justino C 3 years ago

This is one giant paint stroke that generalizes men. All these opposing articles are creating more divide. Do I hold the door for you, or is that imposing masculinity. All I wanna do is be a nice guy and can’t win. And with all the evil men stories of course I want to protect my daughter until another wonderful person has her back. And if a person CHOOSES their spouses last name it’s a choice! Damn

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

Clearly you didn't read the article, it isn't about men. It is about society and western culture. "Ms Mrs and Miss" is not about men. School dress codes isn't about men. It is about our culture, which is created by men and women. You seem to have an issue where you insist everything is somehow directly about you.

2points

Chloe *Leah* Pheonix 3 years ago

>:<

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Monilip 3 years ago

This is absurd. Most of them (if not all) are just some things people do and nothing stops anyone from not doing it. When we signed premarriage protocol, we were asked whar last name children would have, which name we would take (if we wanted to change it). No law against my husband taking my name and our future children taking my name. I actually stayed with my maiden name and just add my husband name to it (same as my mother and my mother-in-law). If you dont like some things people do, just don't do it.

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qwerty 3 years ago

Right. No legal consequences, just being ostracized by most of society. Simple and easy!

0points

Rachel Connot 3 years ago

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J. F. 3 years ago (edited)

Can I add something: "Lists that call out sexism but ignore misandry" - I mostly think about Hollywood and western media when mentioning such things, but wouldn't it be a sign of equality to show the other side, too?

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qwerty 3 years ago

So in other words: hApPeNs tO mEn tOo

1point

Penny Fan 3 years ago

Yes because men all over the world are dying and living in fear because of rampant misandry...

1point

Marnie 3 years ago

I agree, J.F. This article title was not about just women, it just said, "sexist". We've had other articles about sexism against men, and there was no reason not to include some of those here, especially since many the posts in this article did not even demonstrate sexism, but were just generalizing a few men to all (which is dispicable). But Penny Fan has a point. On average, things are getting worse and worse for women around the world. There are entire countries where women are kept like slaves in their houses, with less freedom than the Black slaves had in the US, being raped regularly by their husbands. And it's not traditional. Didn't used to be that way. It's new fundamentalism. We're getting worse in the US for women (but also for men). But for women, it's much more dangerous at the moment. But BOTH deserve to be highlighted and fought against.

0points

she/they and definitely gay 3 years ago

hahahahaha no husband for me

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ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

1. Titanic was over 100 years ago and 2. women have awnted to fight on frontlines but weren't allowed, so WTF? Also, women are in the military, not sitting home knitting, where have you been? 3. my mom is a veteran. Please, tell her she was "home cooking" as an Army nurse in the Vietnam era. Please. I'll make popcorn to watch the result!

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ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago

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Penny Fan 3 years ago

Nope, just anti-you.

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mac 3 years ago

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

I'm a man and I can comment, and often do. Maybe the problem is you, not what genitalia you have.

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Eslamala 3 years ago

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Nadine Bamberger 3 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

20points

Penny Fan 3 years ago

I suggest you read "Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men" by Caroline Criado Perez. Then tell me again how women are complicit in their own issues.

12points

Something 3 years ago

Women who simply stop putting up with it face backlash.

9points

Nora AlMeida 3 years ago

2points

Vicky Z 3 years ago

That was a great victim blaming and congratulations! "Noone is forcing you and you are being dumb?" For real????

1point

Ben Smith 3 years ago

Extremely well said.

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Monilip 3 years ago

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𝓴𝓪𝔀𝓪𝓲𝓲_𝓐𝓾𝓭𝓻𝓮𝔂 3 years ago

I personally hate the phrase "Boys will be boys" because it just gives them an excuse to treat people however they want.

21points

Jill 3 years ago

7points

pebs 3 years ago

Many women continue to use their original surname and are named with it, at least in Northern Italy.

15points

M Calad 3 years ago

6points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

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Lav Oravaf 3 years ago

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Penny Kemper 3 years ago

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Patti Vance 3 years ago

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Parmeisan 3 years ago

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Ambar 3 years ago

one thing I'm am always asking myself is this: "why the heck are people doing this to WOMEN and not to MEN, like what makes some MEN think that WE S FEMALES are toys just cuz we give birth!?!?"

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Leslie Burleson 3 years ago

2points

Leodavinci 3 years ago

2points

Cosmetica Solist 3 years ago

I agree and can recognise some of these, but mostly this list just makes me realise how progressive my country/community is.

1point

The Dave 3 years ago (edited)

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Ash 2 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

Why do we do this to each other and to ourselves and our children/youngsters? they're all PEOPLE. Start with that.

1point

Ash 2 years ago

0points

Monica Pryts 3 years ago

Most women have fertile days every month, not three times a year.

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Janie 3 years ago

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Sweddybob 3 years ago

I actually don't know where to begin with this drivel

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ZooMom 3 years ago

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Huddo's sister 2 years ago

It is only a negative if the basis for a doctor agreeing to certain types of birth control, based on age and relationship status. Birth control in general is a very positive thing.

0points

Shelby Jackson 3 years ago

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Ben Smith 3 years ago

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Ross Keim 3 years ago (edited)

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Miguel justino C 3 years ago

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

2points

Chloe *Leah* Pheonix 3 years ago

>:<

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Monilip 3 years ago

-2points

qwerty 3 years ago

Right. No legal consequences, just being ostracized by most of society. Simple and easy!

0points

Rachel Connot 3 years ago

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J. F. 3 years ago (edited)

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qwerty 3 years ago

So in other words: hApPeNs tO mEn tOo

1point

Penny Fan 3 years ago

Yes because men all over the world are dying and living in fear because of rampant misandry...

1point

Marnie 3 years ago

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she/they and definitely gay 3 years ago

hahahahaha no husband for me

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ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

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ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago

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Penny Fan 3 years ago

Nope, just anti-you.

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mac 3 years ago

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

I'm a man and I can comment, and often do. Maybe the problem is you, not what genitalia you have.

7points