Consider this... and do not cave in... your sister, even without dog, would be covered in dander. One hug to the bride... goodbye wedding pictures! Another voice of support. You are a good and strong man with healthy boundaries. Enjoy your wedding.

You can ask her not to bring the dog. The laws regarding service animals are for public spaces, not private events.

As I read further, I realized that the sister could attend by using other means to monitor herself. She chose not to. In any case, the bride comes first. If and when the sister gets married, she's free to bring her dog and let the SIL sit this one out.

If her face is swelling, it is a "deadly" allergy. Any time the face swells (for any reason you have facial swelling) you run the risk cutting off your oxygen supply within minutes if not seconds and you should go immediately to the ER. You should have epipens on hand at all times to administer at onset of allergy attack and then go promptly to emergency room. Perhaps wife has gotten used to her symptoms, but they need to be taken far more seriously. Also, keep wearing the masks (wear n95 or better), I do they help a lot, if you're concerned others will fear you're sick take a sharpie and write ALLERGIES with a smiley face across the front.

It looks to me like the quarrel is really about power and the need to feel important. While there may be options for dealing with the immediate problem, if the underlying issue remains unresolved I fear there will be many, many more occasions like this.

One medical condition does not override another. If the bride has that severe a reaction, that is an anaphylactic reaction, and may not be "deadly" now, but could result in a critical problem. Anaphylaxis is just as critical, but you cannot do an instant test for that, while you can for blood sugar levels. The wedding is what maybe 40 minutes to an hour - it's not unreasonable to ask her to test before the start of the wedding, to have a remedy at hand to be prepared and to get her service animal immediately after the ceremony.

Uhhh. If I had a service dog that wasn't allowed, I wouldn't go. Yeah, I don't know enough about diabetes to have an opinion surrounding that, but a service dog is like a wheelchair. So in my mind it's like we can weekend at Bernie's you instead of using your chair? But meh. So much wedding drama constantly on here.

After mom's comments, I'd double down and say that may be for the best that she and sis not come.

This man sounds like he'll make a wonderful husband. Glad to see him stand by his future wife's side. Happy for them both.

There was one reddit poster who said 'service dog haver' and I read service dog hater at first and was very confused.

Normally I view service dogs as vital, but not in this case. Kate can put her big girl pants on, leave her doggo at home, and do the grown up thing of checking her own sugar levels. Allergies can be just as serious or even dangerous and should not be ignored. Some Allergies can prove lethal to an individual. While this Allergy is not lethal to the bride she should not have to suffer on what is supposed to be a momentous occasion. I would be asking Kate: "I'm sorry are you the one getting married? Is this your special day? No? Then doggo can't come. If you bring him you will be told to leave immediately and good luck having any relationship with me after that."

I'm also a T1 diabetic and in full agreement with comments below that the dog is not a necessity with the myriad of available (and frankly more accurate) tech systems and workarounds out there. I also understand the value of a such a service dog and I am looking into getting one because of my own personal hurdles with the disease. Depending on how volatile her condition is, I think the suggestion of bringing someone with her for the wedding instead of the dog is a good compromise. They can keep an eye on her symptoms and if she goes low they can handle any mobility shortcomings that the dog might otherwise dealt with (like retrieving medication).

I have a SD as well, and the thing is if your SD is sick or injured, you still have to be able to take care of your self, your symptoms, or the needs of your disability. Utilizing a family member or friend, checking blood levels or watching for symptoms, are all things you can do if your SD is unavailable. Therefore the sister can certainly leave their SD at home long enough so that her future sister-in-law and brother can enjoy their special day together.

as a type 1 diabetic i say even if the sister doesn't normally use a continuous glucose monitor (which overlaps what the diabetic alert dog can do somewhat), they are available for short term, like a week. and i think it would be fair/generous if the brother offered to help the sister obtain one if her insurance doesn't cover it (but it probably does, they are very common now and her doctor would likely be thrilled to prescribe one just to get a week's worth of data to assist with diabetes management in the future). but it would help the sister stay safe during any wedding related events where lenny isn't welcome. i have used a CGMS for years and am now on a closed loop system (monitor and insulin pump can make treatment decisions without me!) but i recently had a system failure that took two weeks to replace and had to go back to blood testing on my fingers many times a day. even the low tech solutions are dog free solutions in a pinch. the sister is being a b***h

Still how close are you that the allergy kicks in? I mean I'm sure people who have pets are around with hair and dander. This sounds like just the fear issue

This sounds like an excuse to bring a pet, not a service dog. She obviously has other options, like wearing a glucose monitor. I would be fine with my mother and sister not attending if they insist upon throwing a tantrum.

I’m guessing the sister wants to take the dog to the wedding so everyone will fuss around her. Absolutely not essential for a diabetic.

Dogs do literally nothing to help diabetes. They don't detect anything at all. They are there to be a comfort, nothing more. Hope he kicks his awful sister out of the wedding.

I think the post is fake, but this headline is terrible. The author is making it sound like the woman wanted to bring her pet (with the "reality check" comment). For anyone curious, the *venue* cannot deny the woman having her dog, if they provide access to the public. The *venue* would be culpable if *they* denied her access to public areas. For anyone saying all health issues are equal, legally they are not. In most instances, an allergy, even a severe one, would not be considered a protected disability, but diabetes is. However, this is in regards to discrimination, etc., and again is going to relate to the venue (and in both cases, I'm referencing US law). If the guest has done a lot of research on the topic, they would know this. Service animal info: https://www.ada.gov/resources/service-animals-2010-requirements/ I think this post is fake, but if the guest cannot go without her dog for the few hours of the wedding, and the bride's allergy is so severe, the guest shouldn't attend

Antihistamines exist

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YTA, you act like your sister has a cold, not a severe illness. Has your future wife even bothered to consult an allergy specialist? It's fine if you don't want your sister in your life but just say so.