Yeah the son sucked for sure. But now he will have psychological issues because his mother is acting like she no longer loves him. And why are the girls friends acting like this? This is way over the top. I kind of feel like the op is exaggerating. No way are all her close friends doing this. Maybe if the op didn't keep everything so secretive all the time things would not get so bad. Why did she keep what happened a secret from the grandparents?? Something smells fishy here. I feel like the op may be controlling these kids too much and the son may have dodged a bullet getting away from her. Yes what he did was AWFUL. But what the op is doing to him long term is worse. Therapy all around for this family, pronto. Edit: mom is a drama queen

That's because you never been in a situation where your identity (your face) has been disfigured anything like that. When I had to get surgery done to my face at 19 my brothers were 21 13 and 10 and trust me they would have never done anything like that. They protected me to the fullest. He was too busy showing off.

Easy answer: if you send your child or teenager in therapy but you as a parent don't go it can't work by principle. The parents still have a too big role in the life of their kids, so they need be a better role model, a therapist can help them to be that but can't do their job.

i agree with ur point about the therapy. i was in therapy from 12 to 30 years old. around the time i was 25 i started to realize the therapy never helped my actual issue. all it did was make my mom realize i had an issue and make my relationship with her a tad bit better. i stopped wen i realized that. therapy doesnt always go the way u plan. mine didnt work bc my mom insisted on sitting in with me during the sessions. she thought that was normal until my therapist started telling her to stay in the waiting room. after i met my now husband it turned into my therapist telling me about her new dog and how her daughters were doing. i did track in high school and they go to my high school and r doing track so she thought id like to kno about that. she even would ask me about certain teachers and so on. kinda like she gave up on helping me and i became someone she could talk to. on the otherhand therapy can take time if it does work. u cant solve all problems quickly. my husband is basically my therapist now and it is working but my anxeity disorder is still on full blast. i cant even work bc of it. theres also the fact that therapy isnt always the answer. the parents should communicate with their daughter and son. my relationship with my parents became perfect after they moved to a different state after i got married. y is that? they never communicated or tried to wen i lived with them. they never cared about my interests unless it could help my future. so track thats it since it could help me get into college. my mom dumped me in therapy bc she thought i had behavior issues wen in reality i had an anxeity disorder and any time i went to her for help as a child she ignored it so i stopped. she assumed it was me wen it was her fault. no communication can ruin families. it did to mine. i cant be around my parents for more then 8 hours without starting to get anxious or tense. during those 8 hours however im a little tense but we can hold normal conversations. same with on the phone im perfectly fine and even joke around with my mom. she can boss around my dad and my dad can b his grumpy self where i cant see it. them being in another state saved my relationship with them but only bc our relationship wasnt fixed until it was too late. the OP's family is heading down the same route mine did. no amount of therapy or strict punishment will help. only ppl that can fix it r the parents and they need to communicate fully with both children.

Exactly. The fact that most kids are losing teeth at 8 so the parents should've just helped their daughter accept and cope with her losing all of hers at once but chose to send her to therapy seems very odd. I'm a parent. I have LOTS of people in my family who've had dentures since they were kids due to some genetic condition that I luckily don't have and neither do my kids. My son does, however, have a tooth that never grew in. His top front tooth on the left to be exact. He's 21 now and he never had a hang up about it because I helped him accept it. That's what parents do. And they also don't throw their kids out when they pick on their siblings.

She may be seeing progress but a traumatic event can set that back again. Like being outed in front of everyone and discovering all your friends are apparently horrible. And that your brother is so willing to do it. She'd be needing therapy just to ever trust him again, and that may *never* be possible.

The parents are still raw. Hopefully they’ll be able to come back from this. No idea what the kid was thinking.

How do you know ahe's not showing progress, because she's not running around screaming hey everyone I have no real teeth? Where she was before the brothers betrayal, you don't know. Now, being violated, humiliated, probably she's back to square 1, or worse. On the top of that she experienced bullying too. Kids committing suicide for much less. Yes the whole family needs therapy. But it's not like it was a bad accident where no one is at fault. He did it on purpose. To his own sister. When she was outmost clear about it to keep it a secret.

i agree six yrs of therapy sounds like a crutch not a resolution, wow...not cool..parents need to get a grip on what really is happening with her, not the therapist and go with a little tough love. Brother needs a kick in the a*s and some discipline to fit the crime. move on and put it behind where it belongs.

You are just lying. Disown never appear anywhere, so why accuse the parents of doing that?

THANK YOU ............ NOBODY HERE seems to be giving a shìt about what it would be like from HER perspective ...... WTF

Agreed. OP already said he doesn’t care about making her an outcast. He is a borderline sociopath. Send him to a ward or something idc

I agree. Not a fan of alienating the son, but NOBODY seems to be looking through HER eyes....... Maybe some folks could comment on wtf they might do that would adequately offer HER some safety???

Finally someone who agrees with me!

Or risking that one of the kids snaps and hurts the other. Having them together now isn't good for anyone. 16 yo probably have years of resentment towards his sister, not really any other reason for him to act like that. But after pulling something like that she does probably genuinely hate him right now

Oh God I hurt reading this. I would stand by my kids no matter what terrible mistake they made. You're mistakes seems slightly, Jesus what an overreaction. I how you found happiness and freedom. I'm sure that hurt you deeply and you may never fully recover, deep in your soul. You're parents really screwed up doing what they did. When I got caught doing exactly what you did, I got a month grounding. My dad laughed and said he'd have only given me 2 was, but I screwed up, let my mom catch me. His funny #1 rule was always "don't get caught", then he'd wink and laugh and laugh. I'm sorry your parents weren't there for you. I really hope that despite this, you have an amazing life, and love every moment of it!

You're 100% right. He's more a grown man than a little boy. Can't understand why most commenters prefer the perpentator over the much younger victim. As a parent I'd do nearly the same thing. I'd kick him out of the house, too, but not out of my life or disown him.

I’m a bit confused too, it sounds like a completely outlandish scenario all over.

A MISTAKE?! HE PURPOSELY SENT IT TO PEOPLE TO GET HER BULLIED AND YOU CALL THAT A MISTAKE??!!

Buddy he wrecked her life for the foreseeable future. People don't just forget this kind of trauma. If he were my brother I wouldn't have a brother anymore. He KNEW she was embarrassed by it. He KNEW it was wrong.

Him posting that about his sister was conditional love too. Who tf does that to their sibling? He's a sick person, men lack empathy in general. I'd disown him too

I can just tell you're a male worshipper and hate other women. Kids a demon