Ok, so she clearly does want children, and she is afraid to try again. I had a missed miscarriage in January 2022. My 20yo niece got pregnant by accident in May 2022. I was so upset that by accident she was pregnant and thriving, but I didn't dare tell her that! I was happy for her and supportive because when you love someone, that is what you do! I got pregnant in July 2022. Mind you, this is my third, but it hurts so matter what. But other people deserve their happiness. Sister is manipulating the family for pity because she isn't sure what she wants.

This s**t is so common now. Even amongst strangers. "How dare you announce your pregnancy publicly when I can't have kids" legit. I see this ALL THE DAMN TIME ON SM! Especially when it's groups of friends. "Jessica, you know I've wanted kids for 3 years & can't have them! Why did you post an announcement on a day when you knew I wouldn't be busy! Do you know how hard it is to see you having what I can't have!" When did we turn into ppl who expect the entire world to revolve around our personal feelings. It's one thing to be gay or trans or NB & want the same rights as everyone else or to have ppl use the right names/pronouns for you. That's understandable. But when it turns into "the whole world needs to cater to how I, a single person is feeling & it's everyone else's responsibility to think about who they could upset rather than living their lives the way they want to & enjoying their achievements.. it's not reasonable for me to manage my own issues though! It's yours!"

Sister:YoU cAn't HAvE a BaBy SinCe I NevEr gOT a BabY And iF YoU DO ThaN HidE TheM FRoM ThE wORlD So i DoN't HaVe tO seE BabYS AgAIn!

Sister suffers from an extreme case of attentionwhorism. After 4 years, she's still grieving a miscarriage from a baby she didn't know about and didn't want? tf? No, she's not. She wants to have a tantrum so people will pay attention to her. That's all she's after. "Send me a picture. WAH! YOU SENT ME A PICTURE I ASKED FOR!" I hope OP keeps her child far away from this head case.

Only after I had my first child did I discover my sister had been having difficulty getting pregnant and in fact it was a big factor in the end of her marriage. We were never close, but I don't think she has ever forgiven me

Sister needs to get over herself. Women have miscarriages all of the time for multiple reasons. The placental wall can not support the pregnancy: the body doesn't produce enough progesterone, etc... I had two miscarriages and still wanted kids which I was later blessed with.

She doesn't want kids, she acted ok during the day, she agreed to taking pictures, she wanted to SEE the picture yet she still gets upset. What?

Your sister needs a lot more therapy. Who asks gor a photo then gives you $hit for you sending it? I am guessing the photo reawaken some feelings from her miscarriage and she lashed out because she didn't know who else to blame for the feelings.

As VaultHunter93 says, I honestly don't think you should be grieving for something you didn't plan 4 YEARS LATER, she shouldn't get mad and upset cuz she got what she asked for. I don't want kids or a relationship so I don't understand why she's mad at her sis for something that happened to her in the past, let it go lady.

The mother and the sister who had the miscarriage both sound like Karen's. I'm not going to say get over it but she only has herself to blame if she requested the photo in the first place. No sympathy at all from me. Forget therapy. Grovel to the sister and her daughter Appalling.

Sister is pathological. Based on mom's reaction it's probably mom's fault. Never taught her how to deal with adversity, be happy for others, and that she's not the center of the universe.

maybe i am just a different kind of person. i had several miscarriages & was eventually told that i couldn't carry a child. then, i ended up pregnant & didn't know it until i went for an annual check up. the time right after the last miscarriage was hard but after getting it together i made sure that if a friend/family got pregnant i never got upset or jealous or resentful. i've known a couple of women who have had miscarriages or even lost a child and they had had other children before and after losing the one and they carried that loss like a banner across their chest. i know that every one grieves differently but at some point you have to get to a place of acceptance or you can't move forward. post also said sister decide to be childfree so is she going to act like this the rest of her life around and about any other woman who has a child?

Just wow! I'm sorry, but the sister (who had a miscarriage) sounds like she has some kind of a split personality. She decided to NOT have children after her miscarriage; then, she asked for a picture of her with her niece, then calls their mom to cry about it? What on earth??? She needs some serious professional help.

This is what you get when someone is emotionally immature. The sister probably truly wanted to see the picture, but upon receiving she was triggered by her own grief. Instead of being happy for her sister she lashed out in pain. The fact she got triggered, understandable, blaming her sister after that? Immature and a sign of not being able to deal with her emotions. It's sad, I hope she does find a way in the future so that she can be happy too.

Let me tell you my family has been mad at each other before and the other person usually doesn't understand, but none of us go to our mom with problems. We speak to each other and try to explain. Then we agree to disagree.

Sister is manipulative and mam is an enabler.

I think the sister needs to talk to a professional she’s clearly not dealt with the grief from the miscarriage and sounds like she may be in denial about wanting children

Sister shows classic signs of NPD and needs intensive therapy....

I can understand her sister. It must hurt a lot to have had a miscarriage and then have your sister of all people have a baby. I think looking at the baby brought all the feelings back up.

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What the hell is a Mam or a Nana?