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“Never Expected This From Benny”: Selena Gomez’s Fiancé Stuns With His Take On Treating Women
Selena Gomez’s fiancé Benny Blanco has raised the bar!
The music producer, 37, dropped a masterclass on how to treat a woman right during an appearance with Selena on the March 24 episode of the Jay Shetty Podcast.
Fans were both stunned and smitten by Benny’s pearls of wisdom and his revelations about how he treats his fiancée.
Highlights
- Selena Gomez’s fiancé Benny Blanco left fans smitten with his advice on how to treat a woman.
- The music producer spoke about the importance of people listening to their partners.
- Benny also revealed that the first thing they think about when they wake up is how to make each other’s day better.
- Fans agreed that Benny was “perfect” for the former Disney star.
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Selena Gomez and her fiancé Benny Blanco spoke about their relationship on the Jay Shetty Podcast
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The newly engaged couple’s podcast appearance came as they promoted their new collaborative album I Said I Love You First.
The album was released on March 21 and gives “fans a unique window into their relationship,” according to a press release.
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As Benny and Selena sat opposite life coach Jay for the podcast, the music producer spoke about the importance of communicating with and listening to a partner.
“People’s biggest problem, especially men, [is] that you don’t listen,” he said.
The music producer spoke about the importance of people listening to their partners
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“A woman is going to tell you exactly what she needs,” and all that a partner needs to do is listen to them, he continued.
“If a girl is getting frustrated with you on something, she’s definitely told you multiple times” what the problem is, he added. “You’re just not paying attention.”
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In the same interview with Jay, the Only Murders in the Building actress spoke about the little ways in which Benny makes her feel loved.
“Just hearing from him one time check in with me and say, ‘I love you and I hope the day is going well,’” she said, “I just feel safe and I’ve never felt that before.”
She spoke about the importance of feeling like a “unit” in a relationship.
Benny made her feel like they were a “unit”—a feeling she felt in a relationship for the first time
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“If you feel like you’re in a situation that doesn’t feel like you’re a unit that makes it scarier,” the Who Says singer said.
Fans swooned over Benny’s relationship advice about the importance of listening to a partner, with one saying, “OMG I LOVE HIM!!!”
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“Every interview I watch of benny, makes me realize why Selena fell in love with him,” one said, while another wrote, “I see why she likes him.”
“Bro! This man going up in the hot scale just with this mentality,” another wrote.
“Never ever ever expected this from Benny,” a social media user said
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“The more he talks, the more i respect him,” said another. “Very well-spoken.”
“Ok i want someone like benny in my life or its a big NO,” one said.
The couple were friends for years until they started dating in 2023
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“He’s clearly got a beautiful soul. i might fall for him too,” one said.
“He’s soo perfect for her. He’s healing her and putting back together every little piece of her that’s been broken,” said another. “I love them.”
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Other comments took a different tone and even dragged Selena’s ex-boyfriend Justin Bieber into the discussion.
“He called justin a ‘manchild’ in 100 different languages,” one said.
He kinda spilled … pic.twitter.com/9zpFhCZkx5
— Selena (@Selenertime) March 24, 2025
“Salena [sic] is the decision maker & wears the pants in the relationship,” another said. “Just say it.”
Another wrote, “Bro trying to talk to all men on how to treat a woman cuz he got selena gomez for a year… lets see if it lasts 5 to 10 years first hombre.”
Fans agreed that Benny was “perfect” for the Only Murders in the Building actress
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“Dudes a sad excuse of a man,” one critic said.
“If I know I’m gonna be on camera I can tell you exactly what you wanna hear. Actions speak louder than words,” they continued.
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The couple first crossed paths in 2015, when Benny co-produced Same Old Love with his friend-turned-fiancée.
They remained friends until 2023 and went public in 2024.
Selena and Benny had plenty of sweet things to say about their relationship.
The star couple revealed the very first thought they have when they wake up every morning
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Benny revealed that the first thought they both have every morning is how to make each other’s day special.
“When I wake up I think to myself, I’m like, ‘how can I make Selena’s day better,’” he said during their chat with Jay.
“Like how, what can I do in my day to make her day better because that makes my day,” he continued.
“I know when Selena wakes up, the first thing she is thinking is ‘how can I make his day better,’” he continued. “And we have such a give and take.”
He went on to say that they never “yell” at each other but simply have discussions and are not hesitant to give each other space.
Fans were smitten after hearing about Benny’s sweet relationship habits
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People Also Ask
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When did Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco start dating?
The couple first crossed paths in 2015, when Benny co-produced Same Old Love with his friend-turned-fiancé. Benny recently revealed that he first thought Selena “hated” him and tried to set her up with one of his “many good single guy friends.”
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What has Selena Gomez said about falling for Benny Blanco?
After the pair started exchanging messages and “ugly” selfies, she said he eventually did “start to fall for [Blanco].” She said this was the first time she felt like a “unit” with a partner in a relationship. Blanco believes the way their relationship progressed “disarmed her enough” for her to feel comfortable.
Poll Question
Why do fans think Benny is the perfect match for Selena?
He's helping her heal
They both focus on each other's happiness
He's respectful and wise
He's a successful music producer
What do you think ?
Janelle Collard 3 days ago
So glad she has Benny! He treats her like a *grown up* treats their SO/GF/BF/fiancé/spouse.
Janelle Collard 3 days ago
So glad she has Benny! He treats her like a *grown up* treats their SO/GF/BF/fiancé/spouse.
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