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If you also are carrying big secrets with you, be careful. They hurt. Turns out, secrecy is associated with lower well-being, worse health, and less satisfying relationships. Researchers have been linking secrecy to increased anxiety, depression, symptoms of poor health, and even the more rapid progression of disease. The explanation for this is kinda intuitive: hiding secrets is hard work. You have to be careful with what you say and if people ask you about something related to the secret, you must not let it slip through. This requires evasion and/or deception, which can be really exhausting.

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I make more money than I let on. My parents have and will always be the "I take care of you all your life, time for you to pay it back" type of parent. Except there is no end to this "debt". So I hide money from them so they can't take advantage of me

Nagaisbae , Goumbik Report

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169points

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Cynner 4 years ago

My mom did the same when she was young. I think it is smart.

55points

New research, however, suggests that the harm of secrets comes not from keeping it, but from having to live with it.

To better understand the harms of secrecy, scientists set out to understand what secrets people keep in the first place. They found that 97 percent of people have at least one secret at any given moment, and people have, on average, 13 secrets. A survey of more than 5,000 participants revealed that common secrets include preferences, desires, issues surrounding relationships and sex, cheating, infidelity and violations of others' trust.

The paper states that when a person confides a secret to a third party, it does not reduce how often they have to conceal the secret from others who are still kept in the dark. Rather, it reduces how often their mind ponders about the secret in irrelevant moments.

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents That my sister is gay. She openly admits it to everyone, except for my family. She opened up to me, eventually but both my parents and older brother don't know about it. Since then we've become a lot closer than when we were kids.

vkuma , Kylli Kittus Report

Final score:

142points

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Tara Brooks 4 years ago

I’m so glad she has you

104points

Revealing a secret can feel cathartic and relieving. But mere catharsis may not be enough. When confiding a secret, the conversation that follows is what's really helpful. People report that when they share a secret with another person, they often receive emotional support, useful guidance, and helpful advice. These forms of support make them feel more confident and capable in coping with carrying the secret. So it's important to talk about what you're hiding. Even with the Internet. Anonymously. A single conversation can lead to a healthier mind.

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents My mom always wondered why i didn't have friends in high school and it is because we were broke and I knew she was struggling so i refused anytime people wanted to do things so I wouldn't ask for money then in my last year of high school I worked full time so I had no time to make friends

winenotbecauseofrum , Antor Paul Report

Final score:

134points

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Roman Hans 4 years ago

This could be me talking. Another anecdote: in high school, one class had a three-day field trip to Mexico. I remember the first restaurant stop we had where the teacher said of course we’d have to pay for all of our food. I had maybe $2 in my pocket.

65points

@Daisychain 4 years ago

That is weird. I feel like that should have been stated in the packet you had to sign...

18points

Farzana Essop 4 years ago

As the child of a single mother this post hits home on a whole different level. But at least I know my mummy is a superhero

6points

Purbasha Banai 4 years ago

I relate to this or maybe I am this person. If I ever even mistakenly let this out of my mouth to my parents, I know they'll be heart broken and that'll kill me from inside.

2points

I'm lay sheep in China 4 years ago

Something I can related to...

2points

Leo Domitrix 4 years ago

Yeah. No money to go to a movie, means... you eventually get left out/behind. Unless you have other poor friends, who are in the same place, and I was lucky enough to have them.

2points

Pseudo Puppy 4 years ago

totally understand this.... it's been this way since I was 14.... all through highschool & university.... and I had to continue it after university, because I was trying to repay debts / deal with injuries / get my life on tack. If you're born poor, and want to get out of it, it often takes at least double the effort to get a life that the non-poor consider "normal". After almost dying in a motorbike accident (caused my someone breaking 5 laws & causing the collision).... I am STILL doing sacrificing social connections, trying to get my life "on track" again.

1point

ArhomR 4 years ago

Pseudo Puppy, you are doing an amazing job of getting back on track. You have such determination you will achieve your goals. Best wishes.

0points

KT 4 years ago

I feel this. I didn't hide the fact from my friends that my parents were dirt poor. They helped me rise up, they gave me and bought me food at times. I'll never forget when I went on a camping trip, all i took was a sleeve of cheese crackers to tide me over for the night, and when I was far from home opened my bag, found that my mom had taken the sleeve of cheese crackers out when I wasn't looking and I f*****g starved for nearly 48 hours.

1point

Fran Morasco 4 years ago

same here

1point

Janine B. 4 years ago

Your financial circumstances shouldn't stop you from having friends. Friends don't care about money, they care about you. I grew up with a single mom and really not much wealth. Still I always had friends. And most of them I still have.

1point

Carrie Laughs 4 years ago

We don't always have much choice about the people who surround us. If parents struggle to get their child into an expensive school chances are they'll be in the minority. Difficult.

6points

MammaG 4 years ago

I was lucky. My friends were poor, too. I'm 50 and still have them.

0points

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents That I’m not going to finish my degree and I’ve paid off my student loans. My degree was pointless and I don’t do well in school due to my ADHD. My dad constantly asks when I’m going to finish and stop bartending...I just say soon. I hate disappointing them because my Dad gets very proud of my sister and I with our accomplishments...but truth be told, I’m quite content with the 60k I make bartending. My degree would've only pulled 35k starting.

absurdapple , thom masat Report

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125points

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Leo Domitrix 4 years ago

Time to say, "Dad, I found my niche in bartending, and it means I have more money and less debt. That's a good thing." We're not all meant for college-degree-career-things.

95points

I am transgender. I haven't told literally anyone I know. I live in the bible belt in the south, and my grandfather is the pastor and owner of a fairly large church. I don't have any plans on telling anyone or transitioning until I move from the town I'm living in right now.

Sarahhtg Report

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112points

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Pepper Pots 4 years ago

Be strong until then and remember you are not alone

99points

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents My location for the past 25 years.

Metatron_Fallen , Thanos Pal Report

Final score:

108points

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Leo Domitrix 4 years ago

There are people in my family who haven't seen me in person for nearly 30 years, and I'm keeping it that way. Don't judge til you know why we hide. In my case, for my safety.

75points

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I met the guy my mom told me was my real father. We did a DNA test and there is a 0% chance. He even took me on a white water rafting trip with his wife and son. I’ve never told her.

the_nightcourt Report

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102points

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Lousha 4 years ago

Never liked the phrase "real parent" in this context. To my mind your REAL mother/father is the one who stuck with you and raised you and cleaned your bum when you were a baby. Biological parent is the one who contributed to your conception, but if that's all they did that doesn't make them an actual parent.

86points

That I was molested as a kid and suicidal for years afterwards. They knew I had a nervous breakdown Freshman year of High School and was suicidal at 15, they didn't know I'd been messed up since I was 10.

SageRiBardan Report

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102points

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ML 4 years ago

That is so sad

81points

#10

They had no idea I left my job with the cable company to sell cars / write up oil changes for almost a year. I was emotionally burnt out from the bulls**t and couldn't take it anymore so I tried switching careers. Didn't really pan out, but it did get me away from that toxic s**thole of a company and allowed me to figure out what I actually wanted to do and go from there.

Lyn1987 Report

Final score:

100points

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Cynner 4 years ago

Good for you!!

49points

#11

My parents are very staunch Muslims. They raised me strictly in Islam and they figure that I’m a good Muslim like the rest of my siblings. I love my parents and they are good people, but I don’t have the heart to tell them that I’ve never really believed in religion and it only got worse when I got older and went to college. I don’t know how to keep this façade any longer because whenever I’m home I have to act as Muslim as possible, and I know if I would want them in my life I would have to follow Islamic traditions that just aren’t for me.

yarcb Report

Final score:

98points

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Martha Meyer 4 years ago

Maybe some of the siblings feel the same and are just pretending too?

66points

#12

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents When I was 12 I saw emails on my mom's iPod touch. The emails were very suggestive and were between my mother and another man. I never told my dad that I saw those emails. I wish I did, because it turned out that she was cheating on him.

This is the first time I've mentioned it to anyone. It feels good to get it off my chest.

stitchessnitches , StockSnap Report

Final score:

92points

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Megan Grey 4 years ago

That’s really hard, but please know that it wasn’t your job or responsibility to tell her.

77points

CrimeLordOfSesameST Report

#13

I want to be a dental surgeon, but my parents want me to go to school for a crackpot antivaxx "holistic" naturopathic doctor because they don't trust modern medicine. I'm afraid that if I tell them, They well refuse to pay for my college/dental school expenses, or worse, disowned.

Final score:

88points

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Pepper Pots 4 years ago

Wow, that is sad. Follow your heart

77points

FBI_Agent_69 , Guillaume de Germain Report

#14

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents They have a grandchild.

Final score:

88points

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Leo Domitrix 4 years ago

If my dad were alive? I'd never even tell him if I had a pet snake.

6points

#15

They don't know how depressed I actually am.

MrBlueBerryIII Report

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85points

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kjorn 4 years ago

i guess it's a lot of people

54points

#16

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents My parents divorced when I was eight. My dad left, and I never saw much of him. Among other issues, he came out to my brother and I before they divorced. I never told my mother that he was gay. My father passed in 2011, my mother in 2017. I think she had an idea, but we never discussed it. He was born in 1945, before such a thing was accepted, and attempted at 'passing.'

Merkle85 , Ben White Report

Final score:

84points

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Iulia stratulat 4 years ago

Why wouldn’t you tell? I can imagine that this would be a release of pressure on the parent that got dumped if they knew that it wasn’t their fault and it was just biology.

30points

Somenerdyfag , Priscilla Du Preez Report

#17

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents That I'm a lesbian. And that that "friend" who I don't invite home anymore is actually my ex...

Final score:

84points

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Holly D 4 years ago

Its sad that people have to hide things like this from family or anybody

63points

#18

Just how abusive my ex was.

ritorri Report

Final score:

74points

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Holly D 4 years ago

Same here!

37points

#19

i just pay escorts to show as my 'girlfriend' so they would stop telling their friends to hook me up with their daughters.
every gathering they would show up meet everyone and always have to leave early.
i pay by hour.

joblagz2 Report

Final score:

73points

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nanashi 4 years ago

as an ace, I feel this. they don't WANT to understand why I would never date, so I had to go all the way to pretend and lie just to make them feel better.

45points

#20

This isn't too bad, but I never really want to have kids. Maybe one day that might change, but I haven't told my parents as they both seem so happy to think that one day they'll be grandparents and that I'll be a mother and we'll all be happy and - Mum? I already have enough stress.

gabbythegreat2812 Report

Final score:

73points

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Lousha 4 years ago

As someone who did tell them about a million times for years: all you get for sharing is constant talks about how you'll change your mind eventually or you'll regret it bitterly when it's gonna be too late to have a kid.

60points

#21

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents That I thought I have mental problems but I keep pushing it down and trying to fix it myself, because I think that people will think its for the attention and it makes me question myself but I try to be normal.

Roket200678 , Soon Report

Final score:

69points

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Martha Meyer 4 years ago

Just go see a therapist. That's a neutral person, who won't think it's attention seeking.

63points

MuchoMarsupial , Priscilla Du Preez Report

#22

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents My mom has made derogatory comments about lesbian/bi women. I think that if I came out as bi she'd make it seem like she'd accept it, but deep down she wouldn't really. I don't think I'll ever be coming out fully.

Final score:

68points

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Leo Domitrix 4 years ago

I feel bad for this person.

31points

#23

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I recorded Gundam Wing: Endless Waltz over my sister's high school graduation video.

It's been about 18 years, but I still feel bad.

sheldonowns , InspiredImages Report

Final score:

67points

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Matthew White 4 years ago

sorta funny if you think about it

32points

something-sensible , You X Ventures Report

#24

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I’ve read or written fan fiction since I was 16 years old. I have no idea what they thought I was laughing at on my laptop for the last ten years but I’m glad they didn’t know the truth. Some of it is preeeeetty explicit.

Final score:

62points

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JuJu 4 years ago

Only my partner knows and a close friend. And I know people who have read my stuff.

20points

#25

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I was a high functioning depressed alcoholic for my whole college life.

TimDuncanCanDunk , Matthias Ripp Report

Final score:

60points

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Hannah Alexandra 4 years ago

Me too. It's amazing what you can pull off...

1point

#26

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents When I was at Walmart with my mom, and I stole 2 of those big cartons full of Pokemon Cards. Took the cards and stuffed them in my backpocket. I planned the whole robbery a week before. I was the best robber at 9.

j-benz , Kichigai Mentat Report

Final score:

58points

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I'm lay sheep in China 4 years ago

Once me,my mum and Grandma was in a shop and they're selecting Jewelry for themselves while I was holding a Headpiece. It was quite expensive and that exactly moment Electricity goes off. We're wait for few minutes before Electricity came after shopping on the way to our house my mommy Was mad at me for returning that Headpiece to Shop staff anyway Guys don't let your kids teach to steal anything ;)

8points

#27

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I actually DID know why my laptop wasn't working. I spilt a fair bit of Jack Daniel's on it.

dramaticeffect_ , Justin Baeder Report

Final score:

58points

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Nagawa (Cofa) Kishiki 4 years ago

So, your laptop was drunk. Just give it a night to sober up.

38points

#28

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents My mum doesn't know I've been arrested twice, one time with my dad.

BarryShitpeas22 , Elvert Barnes Report

Final score:

55points

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Brigs 4 years ago

Some serious issues in that family!

23points

#29

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I have an eating disorder. I’ve had one since I was 11, and I even went to the hospital for it. They still don’t know.

Vale_M10 , melohel Report

Final score:

51points

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Jo Morris 4 years ago

When you were 11 (a child) your parents/family don't know why you went to hospital?

23points

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#30

I know that my mom’s cheating on my dad. He doesn’t know it’s happening (to my knowledge) and she doesn’t know that I know.

Final score:

46points

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Bardhi's Dad 4 years ago

Tel her you know. That may change that unpleasant situation

55points

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#31

That I don't love them. I care about them in the way I care for a hurt stranger but I won't be crying when they die except for over the stress of handling the funeral and finding a place for their kid and animals to live.

Phenoix512 Report

Final score:

27points

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Nichola Drigout 4 years ago

That is the saddest thing I've read so far!

21points

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#32

That I’m bi and I was dating women. One came on vacation with us and stayed in my room.

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27points

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#33

I lived with my girlfriend / fiancé for ~1.5 years in a house ~45 minutes from where my parents lived prior to us being married. They are very conservative and would have likely not attended the wedding had they known.

atlienk Report

Final score:

27points

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*sigh*, The Yellow Teletubby 4 years ago

Me and my friends* are planning to get married straight out of Highschool, and then get a divorce, so we won't be required to live on campus grounds. We are planning to live together in a house lol. (* several of us are going to pair up and get divorced. Pairs are being decided by what college we want to go to. Ex. If we have 4 friends in a group, and Herbert and Alicia are planning on going to XX and Jally and Soe are planning on going to YY, then Herbert and Alicia are going to get married, and Sally and Joe are going to get married, then they divorce. Poof, they're no longer required to stay on campus together, so all 4 of us rent/buy our own house to live in together. )

0points

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#34

That I genuinely have no desire to have a relationship with them. If it wasn’t for the wife planning dinners with my mother I would have no relationship at all. Father left in my teenage years and is a pathological liar, so I’m better off without him too.

Final score:

26points

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Everybody Say Love! 4 years ago (edited)

@Brigs - relativity, my friend. My mother didn't 'bring me up', she dragged me through the mud and brought me down. Not everyone's story is the same, and shame on you for acting all high and mighty, like your ideals are some how better. You haven't the slightest idea of anyone's home life and should stop judging based on your own personal experiences.

22points

#35

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents My depression and the fact I nearly failed out of first year because I couldn't handle university.

Sarcastic__ , David A Ellis Report

Final score:

25points

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Leo Domitrix 4 years ago

A common problem, unfortunately.

10points

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#36

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I was a phone sex operator in University. I told everyone I took phone orders for The Bay (department store in Canada). One day my dad asked me if they were hiring. Nope. We were not.

Bornthisweigh , Dane Deaner Report

Final score:

25points

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CamlikesCookies 4 years ago

Im so sorry but what does that mean?

0points

#37

I was accused of rape when I was 17 (legally an adult in Texas so they didn’t have to tell them) and a detective took my phone for the school day to verify the texts proving the encounter was consensual were real. Really weird time in my life, having to deal with the fallout at school and not telling them the truth.

Anonymous Report

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24points

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CatWoman312 4 years ago

Sorry this happened to you. It’s upsetting women lie about rape, it makes real victims unbelievable

15points

#38

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents That I’m diagnosed bipolar.

bllaaushpibu , Jessi RM Report

Final score:

24points

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Brigs 4 years ago

That is a serious thing to hide, especially if you at some point require urgent medical attention

14points

#39

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents How much I cry. They have too much to deal with and I've learned to handle it on my own and get back to my normal smiley self.

iimuffinsaur , rubberduck1951 Report

Final score:

24points

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Pepper Pots 4 years ago

Me too

14points

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#40

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents The fact that I work out, hard and heavy.

My Mom thinks that muscles on girls are gross, and for the years that she knew I worked out she treated me like I'm gross too. It was heartbreaking for me. So now I pretend that I lost interest in lifting weights and I'm much happier this way. (the true fact is that I gave it up for 2 months and couldn't stand life without it) It's sad that I can't keep my Mom in the loop of my most loved passion, but I've accepted it :)

Retinator99 , Victor Freitas Report

Final score:

24points

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Anna McHugh 4 years ago

I lift weights and love it. I'm so sorry to hear that your mom is so down on what's a really great release and an achievement for a lot of women. Sounds like she has major body issues. Mothers like that should be pitied.

19points

#41

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents Got an abortion last year.

IL-10 , Ernesto Andrade Report

Final score:

24points

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Oskar vanZandt 4 years ago

Don't think parents need to know this... it's the daughter's body, her decision.

17points

#42

When I was in the 7th grade I started to get into [adult content] and my favorite, for some reason, was guy on guy stuff even though I’m a girl. Anyways, I didn’t know how anything but YouTube worked so I ended up downloading like 3 gay [adult] videos on my phone and I had an Android so when I deleted the videos the download history was still in my phone.

For some reason my mom took my phone and went through it and sat me down and asked me about the [videos] she found on it. But for some more context I had to keep my phone in the living room at night and could only have it during the day.

Now I’m not proud of this but I’m a good liar. But in this situation I didn’t have to do much lying because as soon as I started crying and saying I didn’t do it she immediately believed me and blamed it on my step-dad, saying that she had a suspicion that he was gay through their whole relationship and all that.

After that she never confronted him and just continued to stay with him even though she thought he was gay and that’s when I realized my mom was a gold-digger.

gluntie Report

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24points

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Isaiah Edwards 4 years ago

It's normal to like opposite gender gay stuff. I think almost everybody does.

23points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#43

I was heavily addicted to morphine for my entire time at university.

Alvadar65 Report

Final score:

23points

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John Carr 4 years ago

@MarcAngelina Alcober CatWoman312 probably meant the book Junkie by William S. Burroughs https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Junkie_(novel) You should read more before becoming a judgmental ignorant asshole :-P

2points

#44

My mom does not really know she's the reason my dental health is [screwed] from stress induced teeth grinding... which she knew about and did nothing about it. Nor does she know she's a major reason as to why I have notable social anxiety and other psychological problems.

She's gonna find out sooner or later I am sure. I do not live with her anymore for a reason.

Darthd101 Report

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22points

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WilvanderHeijden 4 years ago

It's sad when parents fail to see that they are really messing up their kid. Worst part is that even if 100 people told them that they were very bad in parenting, they would deny it. "You shall not destroy my delusions of perfect parenting, not even when all my kids suffer from PTSD due to it."

7points

#45

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents Parents are (and raised me to be) staunch Mormon. (For those unfamiliar, Mormons believe their church is the only true church on Earth.)

I don't believe it's true. They think I still go, but it's infrequent at best.

TheCardgageCurse , Tony Webster Report

Final score:

21points

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ADHORTATOR 4 years ago

I guess that every religion thinks to be the only true one.....

21points

#46

That I used to sneak out of the house from our second story bathroom window to go nightclubbing with my friends after my parents went to bed.

Vyzantinist Report

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21points

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JacPot 4 years ago

I'm pretty sure the "cool parent" knows. Someone always knows.

14points

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#47

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I sometimes grab lunch or dinner on the way home from class, and I don't tell them. If I did, I'd probably get yelled at for "wasting money when we have perfectly good food at home." My mom's cooking is great but...... sometimes I just want to grab some pizza.

Recently she's been on a some obscure health diet plan that she's forcing everyone through, but it's a bit ridiculous.

Kent_Knifen , Jeremy Bishop Report

Final score:

21points

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StealTheFruit 4 years ago

Here's a friendly comment so the first comment isn't the downvoted one!

7points

#48

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents When I was around 14 I overheard my parents arguing. My mom was yelling at my dad about some [adult] searches on the computer. It was really me that was going on the computer in their room and watching [it]. He kept denying it and she kept calling him a liar. He slept in the guest bedroom for a month after that fight.

postedUpOnTheBlock , Varun Gaba Report

Final score:

20points

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Brigs 4 years ago

You should have owned up, your Mom no longer trusts your Father because of it

44points

#49

I got someone pregnant and I'm pretty sure she kept the baby and didn't tell me.

LonelyPauper Report

Final score:

20points

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Martha Meyer 4 years ago

Umm, you could just ask her?

18points

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#50

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents My dad doesn't know that I was suspended due to grades for a semester in college.

_ohhello , Steven Worster Report

Final score:

19points

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Mademoiselle Mirage 4 years ago

Wait! So.. College actually suspend people that have bad grades? But then they can't work to ameliorate them..?!

2points

#51

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents That I'm trans and bi.

My mother passed away before I could come out to her and I really don't know if my father will care about me more then his political beliefs.

Alexcalibur42 , Delia Giandeini Report

Final score:

19points

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KombatBunni 4 years ago

Oh honey that’s so sad :( I sincerely hope you find someone who loves you for who you are *hug*

11points

#52

I snorted my Ritalin prescription for 7 years before I finally started taking it normally again. I was in so deep and they never even knew.

DopeAzFuk Report

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17points

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lara 4 years ago

You need to mention this to your physician. This could have very bad consequences and I don't care what someone "on the street" told you.

12points

#53

Small secret: Back in high school days, I stole $20 out of my mom's wallet, and then concocted a complicated but realistic lie to keep it.

Big secret: I'm an atheist. I'm glad they have a big community of people who love them at their church, and it's nice that some of those people knew me when I was small, but I have no love for their shared belief system. I'm angry that they wanted me to believe in it, too, and when I said I didn't, they lashed out at me in very cruel ways.

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CatWoman312 4 years ago

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#54

My parents don't know that I'm highly involved in the BDSM community in my city. I even attend a bar at our local fetish club a couple times a month. My fiancé and I are super vanilla passing. Which is lucky. They're happier not knowing.

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kjorn 4 years ago

why would you told your parent you are into BDSM? i wouldn't either if i was into that

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#55

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I used to watch southpark when they thought I was sleeping.

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Gonzalo Terán 4 years ago

You bastard!

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#56

Stole money for weed and regret it to this day. My lazy [arse] should've just gotten a job instead.

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max murray 3 years ago

a job to get weed?

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#57

30 Huge Secrets Grown-Up Kids Are Keeping From Their Parents I smashed a supermarket window.

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zims 4 years ago

On purpose?

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lenka 4 years ago

So many people who are afraid to be themselves. So much pain and grief. I hope you all find your peace and place in life xoxox

45points

S. 4 years ago

Thank you for your kind words. I wish the same for you too!

11points

KombatBunni 4 years ago (edited)

That I’ve been homeless more times than I care to count and got sick to death of my mother and step dad saying oh you’ll find somewhere soon..for the last 15 years. Yet not lifting a finger to help and only giving me useless advice.

22points

CatWoman312 4 years ago

I’m so sorry you have parents like that. You’re a supposed to be a parent for life. Being an adult doesn’t stop the necessity of being one.

14points

Jane Doe 4 years ago

I haven’t spoken to my parents or siblings for 7 years & I regret nothing. Cut out toxicity & racists from your life

20points

Aunt Messy 4 years ago

I not only didn't see my father, I didn't talk to him even on the phone from 1981 until he died in 1997. I took endless harassment from my mother about it, but I have no regrets. I decided afterwards that she really WAS as toxic as he was (she stood by and let him beat me like a rented mule) and cut her off too. ///..../// Freedom.

17points

CatWoman312 4 years ago

I’ve hidden so many things from my parents, even now and I’m in my 30s. They’re really judgmental and too expressive of their disappointment. I wish they would just let me be myself

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Jane Doe 4 years ago

I hear ya x

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Sardonic Scribe 4 years ago

I hid the fact that I was sexually abused by my cousin from the ages of 5 - 14 for over 30 years. When I finally had the courage to tell my Mom & brother, my brother was incredibly angry... my Mom... I don't know if she doesn't believe me, or doesn't care, but she never mentions anything & continues to give me updates on his life, wife & kids. That hurts a lot.

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Ann Rii 4 years ago

I'm so sorry. Your mom should not be reminding you of your molester.

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jevais 4 years ago

Cut the whole crew out of your life. Toxic families are not worth the time of the day. Make your own cercle of friends. One don't choose one's family, one chooses one's friends. You're better off with friends than a rotten family. You didn't choose the family that you were born in, but you can surely choose the people that will love and care for you. Bless you and get as far away from them.

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Pseudo Puppy 4 years ago (edited)

Sardonic Scribe, I've had similar experiences. It was behaviour like your mother's that lead me to the choice to cut my mother out of my life. Best decision I ever made. Because choices like that, told me that she prioritised the abuser, over me, and frankly, MY SAFETY is more important than keeping a known-abuser "happy". (the dialogue in my head is waaaaaay harsher than this...... because I find such enabling behaviour like your mother's choice, inexcusable)

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CamlikesCookies 4 years ago

That I am confused about my sexual orientation. Also that I went from poking myself with a tack to small cuts. I can relate to a lot of these posts.

8points

Canadian in Cornwall 4 years ago

Can you talk to someone, maybe a professional? You are suffering and that is so sad. Hope you will be okay.

6points

Shelby P 4 years ago

These are all very sad. I hate our world when I read stuff like this. Most of these are nothing to be ashamed of.

5points

Robbie 4 years ago

What makes me uncomfortable is that I can relate to a lot of this, I'm transgender, and I have depression but haven't told anyone other than my close non-binary friend

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jevais 4 years ago

Robbie I keep on repeating myself, it's your life and nobody else. You are very brave for having become the person you wanted to be deep down. It took much courage and pain to have gone through this with out the support of your your family. I wish all the best for you.

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Pseudo Puppy 4 years ago

Well Robbie, you've told us... and we're so very glad you did. <3 Lovely to "meet" you. :D

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morad-startimiz 4 years ago

Robbie easy

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Joanne Haywood 4 years ago

I didn’t want all my tea so threw a whole chicken breast on the floor for the cats to deal with it. I was afraid of mum's reaction if I said I didn’t want it. Then I heard my dad coming back downstairs, grabbed the chicken off the cats (angry) gave it a quick wipe just in time for him to open the door. I asked him if he wanted the chicken - he readily accepted it not knowing what had just happened to it. What’s really sad about this is that I was in my early thirties and still lived at home, and scared of incurring mums wrath!

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Monika Soffronow 4 years ago

"tea" as in afternoon meal

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TheDemonUnderYourBed 4 years ago

Ok, I feel the need to add on to this thread. I nearly commit suicide last week because I've been stressed out about my grades, my not having enough money, my fake friends, COVID, basketball, work, and the fact that my boyfriend cheated on me. He made me feel so special and then when I dumped him he said "That's fine, I don't really care. I was just dating you for clout and because I felt bad that no one else would date you anyway." The only reason I didn't is because my mom pulled into the driveway as I was about to slit my throat.

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ArhomR 4 years ago

TheDemonUnderYourBed I’m so glad your mom came home in time. The guy is a complete louse! Keep the friends you trust. See an advisor about your grades. See if your employer has some wiggle room for your hours: more of them or less. Some people are just shite and should be punted to the curb. Breathe deeply often, proven stress reliever. Life can feel overwhelming for sooo many. You are not alone. Focus on one thing at a time and it might not all be easy, but you will grow and become more adept at caring for yourself. Best wishes. You can do this!

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Kim Lorton 4 years ago

Some of these are very sand, and unsafe situations for the people. Ish I could help

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jevais 4 years ago

Kim you are very kind person. Bless you.

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Go Hawks 4 years ago

Much love and hugs to all of you! Depression is hard, and it doesn't go away if you "take a walk" or "do fun stuff", or whatever. It's a physical issue! Also, friends are the family you choose💗✌

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Monika Soffronow 4 years ago (edited)

@GoHawks, no, depression does not 'go away' if you take a walk, but it gets much more manageable if you go for walks or go running often. Preferably daily, preferably nature walks, and during daylight hours. Light is very important for our mental well being. It is, as you say, a physical issue and we humans need both exercise and daylight to keep our biochemistry functioning as it is supposed to.

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Patti Vance 4 years ago

never really kept secrets from my parents. sometimes i would omit things for a while but would eventually tell them. my mom would say she often dreaded asking me a question because she knew i wouldn't lie to her. she passed 4 yrs ago. recently, i commented to my dad how i must have been a disappointment to her bc i wasn't the feminine lady she wanted; he agreed. but, then he said i was who she wanted me to be: a strong independent woman. it's just that mom wasn't ready for the reality of that. after some thought, i think he is spot on with that analysis.

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plvander 4 years ago

Patti Vance +

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Luther von Wolfen 4 years ago

I have a mental illness. I'm a trans lesbian. I vote Democrat. I'm quite happy single and might never be in a relationship again. I don't know if I love them. Basically, they don't know me. I don't really have to "keep it from them" - they're not interested.

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Jo Choto 4 years ago

I feel sorry for all the kids who carry the burden of keeping one parent's misdeeds from the other parent. I feel even sorrier for the kids who have to question if they will still be loved and accepted for who they are. To you kids, let me say that wherever you are, I love and accept you EXACTLY as you are and hope you will find that love and acceptance in your life soon.

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pbppbp 4 years ago

Jo Choto Good response!

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Demi Zwaan 4 years ago

My husband and I are planning to move to another province, 2 hours away from my parents, and we haven’t told them yet. We will, but I know it’ll break their hearts and my dad will need to go on antidepressants again, so we’re waiting until we bought a house and finalized things.

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Playpretty 4 years ago

I have never told my parent's that my husband of 36 years is also a BDSM master and my dom. Man does my uptight mother ever need a good spanking from my poor pussywhipped father.

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Geth 4 years ago

How do you know that your mother isn't the dom?

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Saara . 4 years ago

I hide my conservative views.

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Aunt Messy 4 years ago

Well, that's probably good. You don't want to parade the stupid in front of the world.

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lenka 4 years ago

So many people who are afraid to be themselves. So much pain and grief. I hope you all find your peace and place in life xoxox

45points

S. 4 years ago

Thank you for your kind words. I wish the same for you too!

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KombatBunni 4 years ago (edited)

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CatWoman312 4 years ago

I’m so sorry you have parents like that. You’re a supposed to be a parent for life. Being an adult doesn’t stop the necessity of being one.

14points

Jane Doe 4 years ago

I haven’t spoken to my parents or siblings for 7 years & I regret nothing. Cut out toxicity & racists from your life

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Aunt Messy 4 years ago

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CatWoman312 4 years ago

I’ve hidden so many things from my parents, even now and I’m in my 30s. They’re really judgmental and too expressive of their disappointment. I wish they would just let me be myself

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Jane Doe 4 years ago

I hear ya x

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Sardonic Scribe 4 years ago

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Ann Rii 4 years ago

I'm so sorry. Your mom should not be reminding you of your molester.

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jevais 4 years ago

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Pseudo Puppy 4 years ago (edited)

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CamlikesCookies 4 years ago

That I am confused about my sexual orientation. Also that I went from poking myself with a tack to small cuts. I can relate to a lot of these posts.

8points

Canadian in Cornwall 4 years ago

Can you talk to someone, maybe a professional? You are suffering and that is so sad. Hope you will be okay.

6points

Shelby P 4 years ago

These are all very sad. I hate our world when I read stuff like this. Most of these are nothing to be ashamed of.

5points

Robbie 4 years ago

What makes me uncomfortable is that I can relate to a lot of this, I'm transgender, and I have depression but haven't told anyone other than my close non-binary friend

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jevais 4 years ago

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Pseudo Puppy 4 years ago

Well Robbie, you've told us... and we're so very glad you did. <3 Lovely to "meet" you. :D

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morad-startimiz 4 years ago

Robbie easy

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Joanne Haywood 4 years ago

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Monika Soffronow 4 years ago

"tea" as in afternoon meal

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TheDemonUnderYourBed 4 years ago

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ArhomR 4 years ago

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Kim Lorton 4 years ago

Some of these are very sand, and unsafe situations for the people. Ish I could help

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jevais 4 years ago

Kim you are very kind person. Bless you.

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Go Hawks 4 years ago

Much love and hugs to all of you! Depression is hard, and it doesn't go away if you "take a walk" or "do fun stuff", or whatever. It's a physical issue! Also, friends are the family you choose💗✌

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Monika Soffronow 4 years ago (edited)

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Patti Vance 4 years ago

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plvander 4 years ago

Patti Vance +

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Luther von Wolfen 4 years ago

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Jo Choto 4 years ago

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pbppbp 4 years ago

Jo Choto Good response!

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Demi Zwaan 4 years ago

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Playpretty 4 years ago

I have never told my parent's that my husband of 36 years is also a BDSM master and my dom. Man does my uptight mother ever need a good spanking from my poor pussywhipped father.

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Geth 4 years ago

How do you know that your mother isn't the dom?

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Saara . 4 years ago

I hide my conservative views.

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Aunt Messy 4 years ago

Well, that's probably good. You don't want to parade the stupid in front of the world.

5points