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Guy Reveals That He Secretly Broke Up His Wife’s Sister And Her Abusive Husband
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Guy Reveals That He Secretly Broke Up His Wife’s Sister And Her Abusive Husband

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You think you know a person, especially the one you’re involved with. Recently, however, someone on reddit asked others to reveal the secrets they’re keeping from their significant others, and the number of responses is a perfect reminder that people tend to keep some things for themselves.

But one answer stood out from the rest. Amassing over 18,5K upvotes in just a few days, it tells a story about an anonymous act of kindness.

Image credits:Jeremy Keith  (Not the actual photo)

“About eight years ago I discovered my wife’s sister’s reddit account accidentally. It was a variation of a username she’d used for AIM before, but with different numbers and no underscore (the numbers were a significant date to her though). There were too many coincidences in her posts for it not to be her.”

“She was posting on the relationship advice subreddit. Her (now ex-) husband was abusive. We’d known something was off about him, but couldn’t really put our finger on it. I created another account that I only accessed from incognito mode to send her encouragement to leave, and to ask her family or friends (but kinda steered her towards us) for help.”

“She didn’t want to impose or be a burden on any of them (we’d just had a kid, and I make a bunch of money but we live well within our means so you wouldn’t think this based on appearances, so it was an understandable concern). I slowly, over several weeks and several different posts she made, convinced her that it’s possible her family realizes something isn’t quite right and would not consider it a burden to help her out.”

“After their divorce, I deleted that account. Nobody will ever know that the random internet stranger who was weirdly persistent in encouraging my SIL to reach out to her family for help and leave her abusive marriage was actually me.”

People instantly started applauding the anonymous hero

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According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), “Sexual violence, stalking, and intimate partner violence are important public health problems that have an enormous and long term physical and mental health impact on victims.” A few years ago, the organization released The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, providing insights into these problems.

Turns out, intimate partner contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking was experienced by 37.3% of U.S. women during their lifetime, with state estimates ranging from 27.8% to 45.3% and 30.9% of U.S. men, with state estimates ranging from 18.5% to 38.2%.

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While contact sexual violence by an intimate partner was experienced by 1 in 6 women (16.4%) and 1 in 14 men (7.0%) during their lifetime, physical violence by an intimate partner was experienced by almost a third of women (32.4%) and more than a quarter of men (28.3%) and psychological aggression by an intimate partner was experienced by 47.1% of women and 47.3% of men.

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Daria B
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes it takes a perfect stranger to save the day. To talk to without fear of judgement, without worrying about making others worry. Had he approached her with his wife directly, it would probably end up in an "I'm fine, everything's going great! Oh, he's just really tired..." Acting like a stranger was the best approach.

diane a
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have far preferred to talk to a sympathetic total stranger online - than admit to my family at the time.

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diane a
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Years ago I was suspicious about why my evil Ex was being so secretive online. I knew the chat site he used and the name he went under. I created a whole fake persona, profile, life - along with fake photo and went into it. Sure enough shortly he began private-messaging her (me). It was difficult to see the lies he was telling about himself, me, and our relationship. I kept it up for about a month before announcing she was soon coming to his area for a friend's wedding, where upon he became desperate to meet up with her (me). Even to the point of arranging a date/time/location. Needless to say she didn't turn up. He never, ever knew, but it was sad to have my suspicions confirmed. It was very surreal being in the same house whilst he was messaging another woman (me) who was feeding him a load of bulls**t about an imaginary life while he was doing the same about our REAL life.

diane a
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wish I still had the record of those dozens of messaging conversations. I never led him on in any way whatsoever. Ostensibly I was a fairly rich young widow who had inherited a small chain of jewellry shops, sold them and invested in property. My ficticious ex-husband (deceased) had been abusive and broken my arm once. He was appalled and said he thought that was awful and should never happen - he hated the idea of men hitting women. (at the time I I was typing this I had a massive black eye - courtesy of him). The biggest irony was - 3 years later - he actually broke my arm. I still feel some small satisfaction at getting away with my deception. Strangely - it was fun.

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Hilliary Smith
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5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This morning this post on Bored Panda has a better headline. This guy did not "break up" the relationship, he gave his SIL support anonymously, so that she could decide for herself what to do and could eventually reach out to her sister and BIL.

diane a
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wish I had had that sort of support - however I was pretty much banned from the internet. He would cancel my account every other day - damm - am just realising how really sad it was. He broke my phone, broke my laptop because I managed to create another account etc etc etc

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Daria B
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes it takes a perfect stranger to save the day. To talk to without fear of judgement, without worrying about making others worry. Had he approached her with his wife directly, it would probably end up in an "I'm fine, everything's going great! Oh, he's just really tired..." Acting like a stranger was the best approach.

diane a
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have far preferred to talk to a sympathetic total stranger online - than admit to my family at the time.

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diane a
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Years ago I was suspicious about why my evil Ex was being so secretive online. I knew the chat site he used and the name he went under. I created a whole fake persona, profile, life - along with fake photo and went into it. Sure enough shortly he began private-messaging her (me). It was difficult to see the lies he was telling about himself, me, and our relationship. I kept it up for about a month before announcing she was soon coming to his area for a friend's wedding, where upon he became desperate to meet up with her (me). Even to the point of arranging a date/time/location. Needless to say she didn't turn up. He never, ever knew, but it was sad to have my suspicions confirmed. It was very surreal being in the same house whilst he was messaging another woman (me) who was feeding him a load of bulls**t about an imaginary life while he was doing the same about our REAL life.

diane a
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wish I still had the record of those dozens of messaging conversations. I never led him on in any way whatsoever. Ostensibly I was a fairly rich young widow who had inherited a small chain of jewellry shops, sold them and invested in property. My ficticious ex-husband (deceased) had been abusive and broken my arm once. He was appalled and said he thought that was awful and should never happen - he hated the idea of men hitting women. (at the time I I was typing this I had a massive black eye - courtesy of him). The biggest irony was - 3 years later - he actually broke my arm. I still feel some small satisfaction at getting away with my deception. Strangely - it was fun.

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Hilliary Smith
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This morning this post on Bored Panda has a better headline. This guy did not "break up" the relationship, he gave his SIL support anonymously, so that she could decide for herself what to do and could eventually reach out to her sister and BIL.

diane a
Community Member
5 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wish I had had that sort of support - however I was pretty much banned from the internet. He would cancel my account every other day - damm - am just realising how really sad it was. He broke my phone, broke my laptop because I managed to create another account etc etc etc

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