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Mom Shares Her Method Of Taking Her Kid Out Of An Uncomfortable Situation As Discreetly As Possible, And Many Find It Helpful
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Mom Shares Her Method Of Taking Her Kid Out Of An Uncomfortable Situation As Discreetly As Possible, And Many Find It Helpful

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It’s a difficult business being a parent. Ask any mom or dad to one of these munchkins, and they’ll tell you about the zillion things they worry about daily. Whether it’s their health, happiness, or safety, many fears only get worse as the kids grow older. But instead of freaking out and feeling anxious about how to protect the little ones from potential dangers, some families come up with code words that give children a way out of scary situations.

But as one story on the ‘Made Me Smile’ subreddit proves, a simple emoji can suffice. Two days ago, Redditor Limitless_yt89 shared a screenshot where a mom reveals a secret code for “I want to come home, but I want it to be your fault.” Whenever she receives a random emoji from her teen son, a siren immediately goes off in her head, letting her know the little one is in trouble.

The mother knew she has to get in the car and be on her way to get him, no questions asked and no explanation needed. The story immediately resonated with other community members who wasted no time chiming in with their experiences and applause. Scroll down to find out how the whole story unfolded, and if you have any go-to emojis and phrases your kids can use to discreetly ask for help, we’d love to hear all about them below in the comments.

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    After reading the story, hundreds of Redditors came forward to applaud the idea, as well as chime in with their own similar experiences. On top of that, the original author of this story, user jtboe79, came across this screenshot as well and decided to clarify a few details in the comments. When one person asked what the man did to make her kid uncomfortable, the woman wrote, “He said the grandpa sat them all down and told them he loved them. Then he was hugging all of them and kissing the tops of their heads. He was talking about how he wouldn’t always be here and he just wanted them to know he was proud of them and how much he loves them all.”

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    The teen pointed out the grandpa wasn’t acting in a “creepy” way, and if it was his grandparents who would do this, it would have been completely fine. “But it felt wrong for someone he doesn’t know that well and he just wanted out,” she added. The next day the teen revealed he overreacted a bit, but the woman reassured her son he has every right to leave a friend’s house whenever something feels wrong.

    After reading the post, Redditors applauded the teen’s move and chimed in with their own experiences

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    This story inspired many parents to have conversations with their kids about a go-to emoji, code, word, or phrase to help them feel safer in their everyday lives. In fact, it looks like this idea to help children safely identify who actually came there to pick them up and who is only bluffing has been around for quite some time. Moreover, this notion also helps to find a way out of problems they find themselves in because of peer pressure or other conflicts.

    Bert Fulks, a writer and a father of three, came up with an “x plan” his family uses so that the children could signal they’re in need of being picked up. In a blog post, he explained that this simple yet effective tool is a lifeline his kids can use at any time. The idea came to Fulks after asking one question to a group of young people: “How many of you have found yourself in situations where things started happening that you weren’t comfortable with, but you stuck around, mainly because you felt like you didn’t have a way out?” As it turns out, every single one of them raised their hands.

    “Let’s say that my youngest, Danny, gets dropped off at a party. If anything about the situation makes him uncomfortable, all he has to do is text the letter “X” to any of us (his mother, me, his older brother or sister),” Fulks wrote. Then, that family member will call Danny’s phone and create a plot for him to remove himself from the discomfiting situation. However, the writer explained that there’s one more aspect to consider. “Once he’s been extracted from the trenches, Danny knows that he can tell us as much or as little as he wants … but it’s completely up to him.”

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    Building trust and being open and honest with each other helps the parent-kid relationship flourish and creates ease in knowing that whenever your child gets into trouble, they won’t hesitate to ask for help. Do you agree with these suggestions, dear readers? Are there any helpful family words or safety methods you’ve heard of? We’d love to hear your thoughts on this matter, so be sure to share them with us in the comments.

    And here are some reactions to the story from parents and grown-up kids

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    Ieva Gailiūtė

    Ieva Gailiūtė

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    Ieva is a writer at Bored Panda who graduated in Scandinavian studies from Vilnius University. After learning the Swedish language and getting completely lost in the world of Scandinavian mythology, she figured out that translating and writing is what she's passionate about. When not writing, Ieva enjoys making jewelry, going on hikes, reading and drinking coffee.

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    Ieva Gailiūtė

    Ieva Gailiūtė

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    Ieva is a writer at Bored Panda who graduated in Scandinavian studies from Vilnius University. After learning the Swedish language and getting completely lost in the world of Scandinavian mythology, she figured out that translating and writing is what she's passionate about. When not writing, Ieva enjoys making jewelry, going on hikes, reading and drinking coffee.

    Ilona Baliūnaitė

    Ilona Baliūnaitė

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    I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

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    Ilona Baliūnaitė

    Ilona Baliūnaitė

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

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    Hphizzle
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would venture a guess that the grandpa may have had dementia or something similar. If you’ve not been around people with it, it may be a bit uncomfortable for some and you may not quite know how to process what’s going on. Also a secret code with your kids is an amazing idea!!

    Helen Taylor
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could be dementia, but could be a lot of other things, or other things combined with dementia. We have a grandfatherly person up the street that I would not let my kids hang around. And, I will say they did not want to be around him.

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    Elijah Morningwood
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Backpacking on "WTF Grandpa?" he could've been telling war stories... thinking teen boys would be interested in the grizzly details. Hearing about the 30th child he [unalived] and then having to spend the night in the same house would be just a lil freaky.

    Emily
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree. However, if Grandpa was paying proper attention to his audience, he might have noticed some of the boys looking a little peaked and uncomfortable and stopped telling the gory details. If I was that kid, I would be pretty queasy long before the 30th child who was [unalived]. Boo on the Grandpa for thinking talking about [unaliving] children to children, particularly before bed, was a good idea. Boo to the friend's parents for not stopping the gory stories (accidental rhyme)

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    A random cat
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If anyone was wondering about the grandpa: original poster u/jtboe79 said “I replied higher up, but I’ll reply to you too. He said the grandpa sat them all down and told them he loved them. Then he was hugging all of them and kissing the tops of their heads. He was talking about how he wouldn’t always be here and he just wanted them to know he was proud of them and how much he loves them all. He said it wasn’t in a “creepy” way, it wouldn’t have bothered him if one of his own grandparents had done exactly the same, but it felt wrong for someone he doesn’t know that well and he just wanted out.”

    Emily
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thanks for the clarification. I can see how some kids would not feel comfortable with a friends parent or grandparent being so physically affectionate and saying how much he or she loves them (meaning non-relatives). Depending on the nature of the relationship (in a non-creepy way, of course) friends can have a surrogate grandchild bond with each others' grandparents and it's lovely. Not a universal experience and needs to be treated accordingly.

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    Hphizzle
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would venture a guess that the grandpa may have had dementia or something similar. If you’ve not been around people with it, it may be a bit uncomfortable for some and you may not quite know how to process what’s going on. Also a secret code with your kids is an amazing idea!!

    Helen Taylor
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could be dementia, but could be a lot of other things, or other things combined with dementia. We have a grandfatherly person up the street that I would not let my kids hang around. And, I will say they did not want to be around him.

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    Elijah Morningwood
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Backpacking on "WTF Grandpa?" he could've been telling war stories... thinking teen boys would be interested in the grizzly details. Hearing about the 30th child he [unalived] and then having to spend the night in the same house would be just a lil freaky.

    Emily
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree. However, if Grandpa was paying proper attention to his audience, he might have noticed some of the boys looking a little peaked and uncomfortable and stopped telling the gory details. If I was that kid, I would be pretty queasy long before the 30th child who was [unalived]. Boo on the Grandpa for thinking talking about [unaliving] children to children, particularly before bed, was a good idea. Boo to the friend's parents for not stopping the gory stories (accidental rhyme)

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    A random cat
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If anyone was wondering about the grandpa: original poster u/jtboe79 said “I replied higher up, but I’ll reply to you too. He said the grandpa sat them all down and told them he loved them. Then he was hugging all of them and kissing the tops of their heads. He was talking about how he wouldn’t always be here and he just wanted them to know he was proud of them and how much he loves them all. He said it wasn’t in a “creepy” way, it wouldn’t have bothered him if one of his own grandparents had done exactly the same, but it felt wrong for someone he doesn’t know that well and he just wanted out.”

    Emily
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thanks for the clarification. I can see how some kids would not feel comfortable with a friends parent or grandparent being so physically affectionate and saying how much he or she loves them (meaning non-relatives). Depending on the nature of the relationship (in a non-creepy way, of course) friends can have a surrogate grandchild bond with each others' grandparents and it's lovely. Not a universal experience and needs to be treated accordingly.

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