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“Those Are Rules”: 12-Year-Old Sparks Controversy By Refusing To Cut His Long Hair For School
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“Those Are Rules”: 12-Year-Old Sparks Controversy By Refusing To Cut His Long Hair For School

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A 12-year-old boy of mixed heritage from the UK was punished by his school as a result of refusing to cut his long hair, defying the establishment’s “uniform rules.” He is now risking expulsion.

Farouk James has faced several detentions at his school in London since April despite the fact his hair was braided neatly for school.

Highlights
  • A 12-year-old in the UK faces expulsion for long, braided hair breaking 'uniform rules'.
  • Farouk James, a model with 250k Instagram followers, challenged the hair policy.
  • Punishment for Farouk James's hair began in April, with threats of expulsion.

The schoolboy, who models and has over 250,000 followers on Instagram, has since been threatened with expulsion if he does not chop off his locks.

Farouk reportedly said this was disrespectful, as “in Black British culture, black boys have braids,” he told First News.

A 12-year-old mixed-heritage boy in the UK faces expulsion for refusing to cut his long, neatly braided hair

Image credits: faroukjames

Punishments by his school began in late April, his mother, Bonnie Miller, reportedly said.

She told LBC: “Today is the first official day that Farouk James is to be punished for having long hair. 

“His request for an exemption based upon cultural and medical grounds have been refused.

“This situation is devastating for us as we have been made aware the road will lead to permanent expulsion if his hair is now not cut.”

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Image credits: faroukjames

In a previous interview, published in February, Bonnie told Little Things: “His father’s from Ghana so culturally, his family told me not to cut it until he was three.

“Well, that was part of the cultural thing, so I agreed to not cut his hair until he’s three. 

“But obviously we didn’t expect it would grow as much as it did and it just kept on growing.

“Parents have shown me they have had to chop their child’s hair off, and the devastation it has caused.

“It’s a part of their identity. 

“You are asking someone to take away a huge part of themselves, to fit in to what is socially expected.”

Farouk James argued that his hair was part of Black British culture

Image credits: faroukjames

Bonnie has been challenging school uniform policies since at least 2020.

In January 2020, Farouk appeared on ITV’s This Morning show alongside his mother when he was just eight years old.

At the time, the little boy, who was already working as a child model, was prepared to move to secondary school while his mom expressed being terrified he would be made to chop off his locks due to school regulations. 

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Bonnie fought back and said not only were the “outdated” rules discriminatory, but she was also prepared to go as far as declaring Farouk as non-binary if it meant he got to keep his long hair.

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In 2022, the Equality Human Rights Commission published a non-statutory guidance aimed at governing bodies, academy trust boards, education authorities, and school leaders at all schools in England, Scotland, and Wales. 

Hairstyles worn because of cultural, family, and social customs can be part of a pupil’s ethnic origin and, therefore, fall under the protected characteristic of race, the commission states.

It further explains that a school policy that bans certain hairstyles adopted by specific racial or religious groups, without the possibility of any exceptions on racial or religious grounds, is likely to constitute unlawful indirect race, religion, or belief discrimination. 

This includes hairstyles such as (but not limited to): head coverings, including religious-based head coverings and African heritage head wraps, braids, locs, twists, cornrows, plaits, skin fades, and natural Afro hairstyles.

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Karen Krause
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His hair is clean and neatly braided for school. It's not like in the army or police where hair can become a safety problem. Let kids have some form of self-identity in a uniformed world. He can still learn. He's also a model, so the hair does affect his work, is the school going to make up the monetary loss if he doesn't get any more jobs?

Panda Bear
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless his hair is causing issues then it’s none of the school’s business. Uniform rules are stupid anyways.

Lou Cam
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't disagree with uniform policies per say (poor kids don't get bullied for not having designer clothes or even enough different clothes for the week) but the level of enforcement and rules over non uniform items like hair are the issue here.

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ElfVibratorGlitter
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6 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that unless his hair is hurting him or someone else, STFU. Can't we celebrate our differences and appreciate other people's cultures?

Marcellus II
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6 months ago (edited)

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Here it's a made-up culture though. There's thousands of Ghanean boys in the UK without hair that's 2/3 of their bodylength. He's just playing a card, the "you don't know [insert specific tribe from Ghana] traditions". I can absolutely guarantee you, no Ghanean school would tolerate long hair like that --- just like Nigerian and Rwandan friends have always told how anybody 'rasta-looking' gets randomly mistreated by authorities from random police beatings/extortions/harassment on. [And my money says, the strongest tradition in "his" tribe is, "make sure you marry within our tribe".]

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Chicken Nugget
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should definitely be able to wear his hair however he wants. However, his mom would also be far in the wrong if she 'declared him nonbinary' just so he can keep it--you only say you're nonbinary if you really are. Leave the queer community out of this and don't just use us when it's convenient for you.

Beansie-never-visited-me-once
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think you are missing the point. He shouldn't have different rules to a person who is non-binary. If he was non-binary and was allowed to have long hair because of it, it would expose gender bias within that school. A boy has the right to long hair just like a girl, non-binary or trans person would have. I don't think she was being disrespectful or tone-deaf. I think she was pointing out the hypocrisy.

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BoredPossum
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Man, schools have no say in how people look where I'm from. You could be green with a wrestlers uniform and a pink mohawk and they wouldn't be allowed to say anything about it.

Sathe Wesker
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The people saying respect the school rules severely annoy me. In most cases, yes. But the mom was right to point out this is part of his identity. He is not harming anyone. Jesus, I used to have my hair all shades of colours and my friend would Mohawk hers. Our Ontario public school never cared, as long as we didn’t cause disruption. There were tons of kids with natural Afro’s and beautiful braids. Teaching children and young adults that they CANNOT be themselves is not what school should be about. “For uniformity”, so, ok then, you’re sending these kids into the world thinking everyone should be the bloody same?? Extremely outdated and I do agree with prejudice.

Alec
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think schools shouldn't be allowed to make rules that extend beyond their grounds. You can say that long hair must be braided, or something along those lines, while the child is at school, but given how hair grows you can't say it must be cut short because that takes away the child, and the family's agency outside of school hours

cerinamroth
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He has gorgeous hair and he should be proud of his heritage. Safety comes first, of course - as long as it is worn up at school so it doesn't get stuck in anything and hurt him, I don't see what the problem is.

MrsEgonSpengler
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For practical reasons it should be tied back, especially for PE, art and science classes. But expecting him to cut it? Nope the school policy is absolutey oversetepping and being discriminatory. Hope he and his mum stick to their guns and not cut his gorgeous hair!

Tamara Kroonen
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hair is biological tissue. You can demand neat hairstyles, like braiding it back, but you cannot demand someone to cut it off. It is a violation of bodily integrity. You might as well ask him to cut off his arm.

Lou Cam
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does he go to one of those ultra strict academy schools? They're privately run but publicly funded and like to make up b******t rules like they're military school or prison. My kids' school has no such dumb rules, basic uniform only (black jumper and trousers or skirt and white shirt) but other than that anything goes. If you have green hair, no hair or the worlds biggest afro it's personal choice. Just do your school work and all is good.

Claire Ferguson
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My 15 year old son has long hair, it's never been a problem at school. He has to tie it up when cooking just like the girls with long hair.

Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Obviously the rule is stupid and discriminatory, but hes a model on Instagram? She wants to say hes non-binary so he can keep his hair? His mom sounds like a massive tool.

Suby
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Really? That's what people choose to focus on? I'm a teacher, and hairstyles are the least of my problems. Let the kids wear whatever style they want, as long as they are polite, contribute to class, do their assignments, and stay off their phones.

Jus
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really want the world to make men's long hair a norm. Taken care of, but yes, long. I love it, I want to see more of it.

Reta Murphy
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh come off it. My brother had long hair in school in the 1970's. My fiance had long hair in the 1970's. Just quit.

Daggie_style
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love that their "educational" institution is so focused on such petty c**p. They want to raise critical thinkers, unless it threatens their power balance.

Jas Warner
Community Member
6 months ago

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Tenebre
Community Member
6 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I, personally, think his hair is fine. However, these are the rules she agreed upon when she sent him to this school. You don't get to rules for thee not for me because your son makes money off his hair. She can pick and choose any school that fits them. And seriously? Saying you're going to claim your son as non binary so you can keep his hair?

Steve Hall
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6 months ago

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12 year olds do not make decisions, their parents do. He and his parents need to find a way to follow the rrules.

Claire Ferguson
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My 15 year old son hasn't cut his hair for about 3 years, it's his hair he can do what he likes with it.

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Karen Krause
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

His hair is clean and neatly braided for school. It's not like in the army or police where hair can become a safety problem. Let kids have some form of self-identity in a uniformed world. He can still learn. He's also a model, so the hair does affect his work, is the school going to make up the monetary loss if he doesn't get any more jobs?

Panda Bear
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unless his hair is causing issues then it’s none of the school’s business. Uniform rules are stupid anyways.

Lou Cam
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't disagree with uniform policies per say (poor kids don't get bullied for not having designer clothes or even enough different clothes for the week) but the level of enforcement and rules over non uniform items like hair are the issue here.

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ElfVibratorGlitter
Community Member
6 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think that unless his hair is hurting him or someone else, STFU. Can't we celebrate our differences and appreciate other people's cultures?

Marcellus II
Community Member
6 months ago (edited)

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

Here it's a made-up culture though. There's thousands of Ghanean boys in the UK without hair that's 2/3 of their bodylength. He's just playing a card, the "you don't know [insert specific tribe from Ghana] traditions". I can absolutely guarantee you, no Ghanean school would tolerate long hair like that --- just like Nigerian and Rwandan friends have always told how anybody 'rasta-looking' gets randomly mistreated by authorities from random police beatings/extortions/harassment on. [And my money says, the strongest tradition in "his" tribe is, "make sure you marry within our tribe".]

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Chicken Nugget
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He should definitely be able to wear his hair however he wants. However, his mom would also be far in the wrong if she 'declared him nonbinary' just so he can keep it--you only say you're nonbinary if you really are. Leave the queer community out of this and don't just use us when it's convenient for you.

Beansie-never-visited-me-once
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think you are missing the point. He shouldn't have different rules to a person who is non-binary. If he was non-binary and was allowed to have long hair because of it, it would expose gender bias within that school. A boy has the right to long hair just like a girl, non-binary or trans person would have. I don't think she was being disrespectful or tone-deaf. I think she was pointing out the hypocrisy.

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BoredPossum
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Man, schools have no say in how people look where I'm from. You could be green with a wrestlers uniform and a pink mohawk and they wouldn't be allowed to say anything about it.

Sathe Wesker
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The people saying respect the school rules severely annoy me. In most cases, yes. But the mom was right to point out this is part of his identity. He is not harming anyone. Jesus, I used to have my hair all shades of colours and my friend would Mohawk hers. Our Ontario public school never cared, as long as we didn’t cause disruption. There were tons of kids with natural Afro’s and beautiful braids. Teaching children and young adults that they CANNOT be themselves is not what school should be about. “For uniformity”, so, ok then, you’re sending these kids into the world thinking everyone should be the bloody same?? Extremely outdated and I do agree with prejudice.

Alec
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think schools shouldn't be allowed to make rules that extend beyond their grounds. You can say that long hair must be braided, or something along those lines, while the child is at school, but given how hair grows you can't say it must be cut short because that takes away the child, and the family's agency outside of school hours

cerinamroth
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He has gorgeous hair and he should be proud of his heritage. Safety comes first, of course - as long as it is worn up at school so it doesn't get stuck in anything and hurt him, I don't see what the problem is.

MrsEgonSpengler
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For practical reasons it should be tied back, especially for PE, art and science classes. But expecting him to cut it? Nope the school policy is absolutey oversetepping and being discriminatory. Hope he and his mum stick to their guns and not cut his gorgeous hair!

Tamara Kroonen
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hair is biological tissue. You can demand neat hairstyles, like braiding it back, but you cannot demand someone to cut it off. It is a violation of bodily integrity. You might as well ask him to cut off his arm.

Lou Cam
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does he go to one of those ultra strict academy schools? They're privately run but publicly funded and like to make up b******t rules like they're military school or prison. My kids' school has no such dumb rules, basic uniform only (black jumper and trousers or skirt and white shirt) but other than that anything goes. If you have green hair, no hair or the worlds biggest afro it's personal choice. Just do your school work and all is good.

Claire Ferguson
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My 15 year old son has long hair, it's never been a problem at school. He has to tie it up when cooking just like the girls with long hair.

Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Obviously the rule is stupid and discriminatory, but hes a model on Instagram? She wants to say hes non-binary so he can keep his hair? His mom sounds like a massive tool.

Suby
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Really? That's what people choose to focus on? I'm a teacher, and hairstyles are the least of my problems. Let the kids wear whatever style they want, as long as they are polite, contribute to class, do their assignments, and stay off their phones.

Jus
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really want the world to make men's long hair a norm. Taken care of, but yes, long. I love it, I want to see more of it.

Reta Murphy
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh come off it. My brother had long hair in school in the 1970's. My fiance had long hair in the 1970's. Just quit.

Daggie_style
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love that their "educational" institution is so focused on such petty c**p. They want to raise critical thinkers, unless it threatens their power balance.

Jas Warner
Community Member
6 months ago

This comment has been deleted.

Tenebre
Community Member
6 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I, personally, think his hair is fine. However, these are the rules she agreed upon when she sent him to this school. You don't get to rules for thee not for me because your son makes money off his hair. She can pick and choose any school that fits them. And seriously? Saying you're going to claim your son as non binary so you can keep his hair?

Steve Hall
Community Member
6 months ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

12 year olds do not make decisions, their parents do. He and his parents need to find a way to follow the rrules.

Claire Ferguson
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My 15 year old son hasn't cut his hair for about 3 years, it's his hair he can do what he likes with it.

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