@LesAnimaux, being not-assertive could also trigger aggression. Especially if the perp decides to call your bluff. Many of these are very contextual, too. It'd be pretty awkward trying to check into a hotel, after telling the helpful staff person that you're meeting somebody. Though, I gotta say, if you get asked if you're working alone, you should probably also kick them out.

Gosh, wouldn't THAT be NICE! Unfortch, we live in a world where women are stalked, harassed, beaten, raped and killed for saying no to men, and you never know which ones are going to be the freaks who go off on you. So, please pull your head out of your ass before telling women how to handle nosy men in order to stay safe. Because, ugh. Strangers invading your space aren't owed truth. Thanks!

Not all men but enough men.

Yeah, or tell that to the stalker who used to masturbate on my window at night in college, or to the guy who tried to drag me into his van one summer while on family vacation. It was just lucky my dad came out of the gas station when he did. These things change you. You thought you knew the world, but you didn't. Now, you always have to worry. It never goes away.

Not the delivery service in my city, if it's not my name they just don't hand it over to me. I wanted to take one while my sister who ordered it was occupied on the phone, but the delivery guy refused and waited for her to finish and come get it in person (we're in a small french city for context)

unless you have an extremely unique first name, a first name is not going to get you into trouble. Besides, you think a pizza guy is going to remember your name, from one order, after receiving literally hundreds of orders?

I agree! I was thinking along the lines of low-danger creeps, like some guy 50 feet away in a public mall whistling at you. Or the weird guy who walked past me the other day and was like "hey cutie" but said nothing else. Those I just ignored, but if the person is trying to hold a literal conversation with you and is in very close proximity, then making up a lie or something is definitely better!

Speaking truth here.

And not giving them any information that would let them easily find you again later.

When you're getting harassed on the street, if you need to follow gender expectations to get out of a bad situation, do it. It is an emergency. And if it works, it works, even if it does follow society's crappy and sexist ideals. In this case, being confrontational or aggressive, or even ignoring the guy is probably just going to piss him the hell off and motivate him to harm you quicker. Rapists don't care if you're assertive or passive, as long as you're a woman, you're a possible target. And if someone is sick and evil enough to rape someone, I think they would be willing to go through the extra effort to assault a woman even if she does seem like she would put up more of a fight. The bottom line is, they aren't going to stop targeting you just because you seem assertive, they are twisted people, and you're a target just because you are a female in their eyes, no matter how strong or weak you seem.

I'd say rapists don't give a f**k how "empowered" you feel, they don't look at a woman and say, "huh, she looks so empowered and fearless, I guess she isn't a possible victim!!" They think, "oh look, it's a woman. So a possible victim!" Any woman to them is a possible victim, degenerates like them are willing to overcome any barriers, including how "brave" you are or how much of a fight you may put up. They'll ask you questions and do thing intended to help them take advantage of you just as long as your a woman, and lying or doing some sort of the deceitful actions described above can often be a good solution. Who give a s**t if you're "lying" or not "virtuous?!" The last thing a f*****g pervert deserves is the truth from you.

Sometimes a good lie IS the smart reply. Rissie is basically a troll who gives s**t advice that’s gonna get anyone who follows it hurt.

SERIOUSLY F**K OFF!!! This is to help girls and women protect themselves and stay safe!!! Go be a troll on another page if you have nothing to do! Similar to how women get to taught how to avoid rape but men don’t get told NOT TO RAPE!

Lucky you found the problem Tara . Nobody just told the rapist he couldn't rape. I Mean NOT TO RAPE.

Wtf are you talking about? Did I say that was the problem? Might want try actually reading my comment.

"Women get to taught how to avoid rape but men don’t get told NOT TO RAPE!" That is indeed what you said was the problem. I think i put more effort in reading it correct than you writing it correct

And what was the first part I wrote? OMG! How horrible! I didn’t write something properly and people aren’t intelligent enough to figure that out.....

My comment was on your second part. Your first part was mostly insulting. So yes your 2nd part said that was the problem to answer your question before

Ummm unless you are one of the creeps who women need to lie to, then I don’t know why you’re soo offended. It was a response to someone else princess... I can see you post dumb comments on other posts as well. Try getting a life or a job instead of spending all day being offended for nothing. It’s pretty weird that you’re taking such an issue with this.

No offense taken. That alledged offense is in your imagination. The job i got but no worries, it's just a normal full time. That's 38 hours a week and the rest i can spend doing whatever. I was just congratulating you with your deep insight. You obviously think it's dumb to agree with it. But if you read my first response, i only did repeat your own words and that did put you quite on the defense for some reason. The only critique ( pardon my french) i want to give, what's the logic in assuming that somebody who gives the same amount of replies as you, doesn t have a job? Unless you don't have one offcourse. In that case good luck on the job hunt priya

Your comment starting out with “lucky you” comes across as a condescending, backhanded compliment. Along the lines of “wow you figured it out here’s a cookie.”

To say it in the words of tara herself. Only if you are an easily offended princess. But if the post you are replying starts with "seriously f**k off" it's anyway still a step forward

Lol my name isn’t Priya. How dumb are you?

It's your account name. I prefer that over tara because that means basically an empty vessel without content. Do you expect people to know your real name? As far as BP goes, that's your self-chosen and non modifiable name

do i sense some canadian- new zealandian friction :)

You're still pushing this bullshit advice?