“Grandma Asked If I Was Pregnant”: 30 People Open Up About What Ruined Their Christmas

So sorry for your loss

So terribly sorry for your horrific loss! I wish you and your daughter healing and peace. I became a widow suddenly at 35. We had a four year old that idolized her daddy. We had just celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary. Unlike yourself, our daughter wasn't special needs. However, I feel a close kinship with you since our experiences were so very similar. You will have extremely difficult days ahead. I hope you, unlike me and my daughter, have a strong support system. Please know that eventually, it will get easier to bear and know that much love and prayers are being sent for you both! :(

Hope she has the support she needs

I'm sorry for your loss.

Oh my.. this has me in tears. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hang in there love, you're so strong <3 Great grief comes from a greater love, and there is gratitude to find in that. Take care of yourself, and know that you are never truly alone. Sending you so much love!

Why tell you you're not welcome then HOPE you'll turn up??? How can parents be such bastards

A*****e family members are the worst. It's sad when you know better how to treat people than the people who raised you. I'm sorry you had to be alone on Christmas. I don't care if you got drunk because after going through that you probably realized how s****y your family is to you. Ditch them, find a real loving life partner and just leave your so called family behind.

This is what dysfunctional families do. Blame you for their own stuff. If you can, NC is a good idea. I feel your pain, but alcohol will not solve this.

Cut all contact NOW! They are not worth your time or energy.

OP wrote: I am gonna go back to casual drinking in company come tomorrow. My parents just have this habit of abusing other family members and each other and then pretending like nothing ever happened. I just decided I had enough and wanted to feel this pain as much as possible so that I won’t forget it and won’t be tempted to go back to them. It’s my birthday in one week and they expect me to celebrate it with them but there is no way I am even going to talk to them. I have lots of friends I love dearly and I am going to skip town with them next weekend and surround myself with people who actually care about me. I hurt now, but I will be alright. I have absolutely no doubt about that. :)" (1/2)

I get how you feel. I lost my first pet on Christmas. Her name was Annabeth and she was a very sweet girl who gave the best cuddles. I still miss her and it's been 2 years.

Sending love & big hugs - it's never easy, but worse when it's meant to be a happy day Xx

Heart hugs to you.💔

They are part of your family, even more, our terrier is 16 years old, and our stray cat just celebrated her 2nd Xmas with us, I could not imagine the day

((Hugs)) She's not gone forever. She'll always be a part of you.

I seriously hate idiots that breed like roaches.

Makes you wonder why she announced it like it was a good thing. Especially if she's on drugs.

:( sounds like my biological mother. My adoptive parents paid for her tubal ligation after they adopted me at birth. My older biological sister has 7 kids, has been in and out of jail on drug use and possession charges, etc. Good times. The cycle continues.

Oh my. Poor kids 😢

She is the reason society sucks. I was adopted along with me sibs and me. My birth mom was into drugs and gave us up right away. My sibling and I are fairly normal. No birth defects for me from what I can tell.

Fingers crossed they find and prosecute the driver. I've seen some truly awful driving the last two days, it seemed like every bad driver was on the roads at the same time.

I hate people , my parents are that age (RIP dad) I can only imagine the rage I would’ve felt seeing this happen

Let's hope he runs and the K-9 unit needs to chase him down. Bite him right in the family jewels. That's a good puppy!

I hope they catch the f*cker

So glad to hear your parents are ok.

Next year plan for a fun memory activity... like a scavenger hunt

"Firsts" are a bit¢h. First everything, holidays are the worst. From experience I found that if you make ironclad plans for the days you might find yourself in the doldrums you can make it so you can at least endure the day. Don't do alcohol, it'll just screw up (further) an already bad day along with the day after (hangovers). Keep yourself busy so that you are tired enough to fall asleep quickly and without thinking. Sadly I went the opposite way and nearly killed myself with substance abuse. Inpatient treatment and learning new coping skills later and I'm on a good footing again 11 years clean, but you can and should skip that step completely. I'm pulling for you!

I was very pleased to spend Christmas lunch with my dad this year, as since my parents separated we have spent lunch with my mum and then gone to my dad's. As my mum is always way behind with cooking etc we are always pretty late to dad's. It was so good to feel more relaxed over lunch with him and we didn't have to race off, as mum would be running late with her plans anyway (which evidently she was- still eating lunch when we arrived at 5pm).

Wish we could all give you a huge hug - and all the other posters on this thread who are hurting.

You got me crying

If she knows about all this, she's a f***ng c*nt and should be left alone on christmas (and probably the rest of the year, too...)

I would like to throw the idea of adoption out there. Lots of kids that need homes and stable parenting.

I think you need a break from all of it. You are stressing yourself and your body. Your wellness, mentally and physically, are vital. You have value no matter what happens.

If your mil knows this and still made this comment she is quite simply a c-u-next Tuesday. What kind of person makes fun/any comments at all toward someone who's going through this? Any time she made an insensitive comment I'd respond with, "having grandkids is not a chance to fix the mistakes you made with your own kids. If you need someone to spoil, feel free to splurge on us as we've had a pretty rough couple of years."

3 miscarriage club here too

I'm guessing that's not the first (or third) stunt of that kind she pulled - if so: cut her out. Nobody needs that kind of influence. For the emotions: choose anger for the time being, as it will help you most at present, energizing you into keeping your distance from toxic people. If the emotional insecuritis remaui talk it over, maybe with a therapist.

Loving moms DON'T do that. Moms out there, your childhood is over. Move on, let your child grow without these burdens from mother.

That's called emotional abuse and your mother is toxic. I would not be surprised if she is the one that drove you to plan a suicide. In either case...ditch the B**** and take care of yourself. No one needs that BS in their life. I severed my relationship with my mom soon after my son was diagnosed with autism. She tried to argue with me that she recognized he had autism first. I was calling her from across the country to tell her the diagnosis, not to argue as to who gets credit for it. I told her I will not argue with her anymore and hung up on her. I felt so free for the first time in my life. You should try it...it's very cleansing.