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Woman Goes Viral With Over 4M Views As People Are Appalled By Her Roommate And Her BF’s Audacity
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When you have roommates, there will inevitably be at least a bit of friction between all of you, whether due to unfinished chores or mismatches in your lifestyle and schedules. However, what’s infuriating is if they have their partner over all of the time and the person contributes (almost) nothing to the household, rent, or utilities. They basically become a new, unexpected (and subsidized) roommate.
Video creator @k3tchhh went viral after sharing her nightmare apartment situation in a video that racked up millions of views online. She explained how her roommate’s boyfriend has been living in her apartment for a whopping 8 months now, and asked the internet for advice. Scroll down for the full story. Bored Panda reached out to @k3tchhh for further comment, and she was kind enough to answer our questions. You’ll find her thoughts as you read on.
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A woman went viral after opening up online about the bizarre situation at home with her roommate’s partner
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She felt frustrated that he essentially lived there all the time, for free
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You can watch the viral video in full right over here
@k3tchhh idk what to do.. #roommates#roommateproblems#rant#roommate#fyp#fypシ#fypシ゚viral#boyfriend#apartment#landlord#advice♬ original sound – k3tch
We were curious whether @k3tchhh expected such a massive response to her video on TikTok. She told Bored Panda that it took her completely by surprise.
“No, I definitely did not expect it to blow up in the way that it did,” she told us.
“I think so many people resonated with the story because this happens to people all the time,” @k3tchhh said.
She added that, from her perspective, this lack of respect for each other’s boundaries is “mostly girls doing this to other girl roommates.”
Bored Panda also asked @k3tchhh for her thoughts on getting along with roommates, as well as the signs that someone might be great to live with.
She noted that proper communication is incredibly important from the get-go. “Communicate from the beginning! If you notice something wrong, stop it right away!” she shared.
“Don’t let it continue on because you could get in trouble for being complacent later,” @k3tchhh told us.
“A sign of a good roommate is one who has basic respect, decency, and courtesy for you. If they’re missing that, it’s a huge red flag right away,” she advised.
The video got over 4.7 million likes at the time of writing, and @k3tchhh later posted a couple more clips as follow-ups about the situation.
She also started a campaign on GoFundMe where she asked anyone who’s feeling generous to pitch in and donate money to her.
“You might also be familiar with my bad roommate situation. I have come to the point where I realized I need to get out as soon as possible! I am currently trying to find apartments I can move into right away,” she wrote.
“This is a very unexpected expense for me and my family. Many of you have been kind enough to express wanting to help me in my situation, so this fund is the best way to do that. Thank you to everyone willing to support me.”
To put it simply, if your roommates’ partners’ names aren’t on the lease, then you need to sit down and come up with some clear rules for how often they can visit. If you get on the same page ASAP, you can avoid a lot of headaches further down the line.
And, if your roommates’ partners visit incredibly often, you should set out how much they should pitch in with the household chores, the grocery budget, etc.
Meanwhile, if they want to live at the apartment permanently, they should then talk with the landlord about signing a lease and paying rent and utilities officially.
Of course, before all of that, they should talk with the other people living there first to get their permission. Sure, you might have signed up to live with a friend or two, but having their partners over as well might make the place incredibly crowded.
Just because someone is a pal of yours doesn’t automatically mean that you’ll instantly click with their boyfriend or girlfriend. You might be completely different people and butt heads all the time. Or they might have super annoying habits. Or they might be perfectly fine, decent people that you’d be fine hanging out with… but not living with.
The situation can feel uncomfortable and chaotic in some cases, especially if the unwanted roommates eat your food, leave a mess at home, use your stuff, and hog your space. It can make someone consider whether they should simply move out altogether.
To put it bluntly, you should feel comfortable in your own home. And you shouldn’t feel like you’re paying rent on behalf of someone who’s just squatting there. It’s unfair.
According to Rent.com, a frank but friendly conversation is enough to get things back under control when there’s a cohabitation problem. It’s important to keep an open mind, stay as calm as possible, and avoid getting offended.
Ideally, everyone who’s living together should be open and honest both about their relationship status as well as their expectations for behavior before anyone signs the lease. It’s good to have some ground rules ahead of time, even if everyone’s single.
You could, for example, decide on limiting the number of nights per week that everyone’s partners are allowed to come over or sleep over. Meanwhile, you should also talk about noise level expectations after certain hours.
Next, talk about amenity use (e.g., sitting on the couch, doing laundry, using the shower, etc.), utility fee reimbursement, and how much of a heads up you want before your roommates invite their partners over on a specific day.
Some incredibly common roommate issues, as per Rent.com, include:
- A significant other who stays in the apartment too often;
- A significant other and a roommate who don’t get along;
- A significant other who uses common spaces, like the living room, kitchen, and bathroom too often, or to the detriment of roommates’ schedules;
- A significant other who incurs utility expenses (i.e. takes too many hot showers or leaves lights on) that he or she never chips in to cover;
- A significant other who eats your food without asking or replacing it;
- A significant other who makes you feel uncomfortable, whether through insensitive or inappropriate comments or actions;
- A significant other who makes messes and fails to clean them up.
Have you ever had issues with your roommates bringing their significant others over? Have you ever been in a nightmare situation where they just started living in your home without paying rent or anything?
How did you resolve the situation? What are the best and worst roommates that you’ve ever had? Let us know in the comments below!
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A few internet users disagreed with the woman’s take on the roommate situation
However, many other people were completely on her side and gave her advice
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Binky Melnik 8 months ago (edited)
Her lease says she’s gotta pay half. Unless/until there’s a new lease saying she’ll pay one-third of the rent, she’s legally obligated to pay half. It’s time to go to the landlord with documentation that he lives there full-time and so either they must kick him out (preferable) or else everyone pays a third. Given I wouldn’t wanna live with a dude when I expected to live with a girl, I prefer the option in which they kick him out. And if there’s a way to get him to pay his share retroactively, so much the better! Her rent’s then paid a good bit into the future if she doesn’t take cash back.
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Power puff scientist 8 months ago
If you sign up to live with a woman in a small two person apartment and there is ALWAYS another guy in your space I can definitely see how that is an issue. Don't see how so many people can say that's not a problem. Living in a joined space with another girl or with another couple is quite the difference.
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Those twats who don't understand the situation have not been in that situation. I would take a photo of them every morning for the timestamps and send that to management. And also reduce my rent.
VNES101 8 months ago
My sister used to have her BF at our apartment all the time AND he had his own place. I think she did this to spite me. He ate all the food and never contributed anything. One time he came over when she wasn't there so I told him he'd have to come back when she was. I ended up in a fist fight with her and she moved out shortly after. Ain't no way I'm not going to be able to walk around my own place in a towel if I want to. This article just pisses me off all over again.
FreeTheUnicorn 8 months ago
If the landlord doesn't care, you have to start looking for a new place. There are a lot of tenants rights organizations and free basic legal advice (Citizens advice in the UK, in the US it's more state to state, unsure of other countries). Make sure you're covered and your credit etc won't be trashed by leaving early. Otherwise, just stick it out until the end of the year. Horrible but possible necessary. Make sure you know when you have to notify your roommate and landlord that you're leaving, don't tell them a minute earlier, and leave. The good news is most landlords care about a long term guest that isn't paying rent so it's unlikely this exact situation will happen again.
Mark Childers 8 months ago
No, that's completely disrespectful of the roommate. I would say one night a week unless the roommate doesn't mind more. The apartment is half the roommate's, and she should get an equal say as to who stays on a constant basis. It's a bad situation, and I hope she manages to get out of it. I don't know why people do this. They have to realize how uncomfortable and unfair it is for a roommate.
Binky Melnik 8 months ago (edited)
Leases in the US* typically say things like “You may have overnight guests up to # times per week,” and you hafta stick to that or face eviction. I really wish Dummy (I think her name is “Like” because she uses it so much) would actually READ her lease so she’ll know what her potential remedies are. *I’m pretty sure she’s in the US, as I’ve never met an English-speaking foreigner who inserts “like” everywhere like a Valley girl. Like, she even starts sentences with it! And she’s gonna, like, testify, though I don’t know what that is, as I’ve never heard of any court proceeding in which someone doesn’t testify, but rather like testifies; I’m not sure there’s an option to do something that’s like testifying but isn’t testifying!
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Jack Sonol 8 months ago
My cousin tried to pull this s**t, even though we talked before moving in and both agreed no overnight guests (we shared a one bedroom apartment) his new GF started living with us immediately and nothing I said made any difference. We don't speak anymore, he torched our relationship for her.
Irish Lad 8 months ago
I'm sure someone else has said this but start dressing provocatively. Short shorts, unbuttoned blouse, maybe babydoll pj's. Tell her it your home too and you'll dress as you want. As far as the landlord telling you when they are dropping by is probably required by the lease and the law.
Sherman 8 months ago
The fact that someone actually said “you’re jealous” is insane to me. Tell me you’ve never lived w/ roommates w/out telling me. She doesn’t want to be paying for a strange man to live w/ his gf while he doesn’t contribute any money.. that’s the problem. She’s laying 1/2 the rent n bills while only using 1/3 of the utilities… n she didn’t agree to live w/ 2 other ppl. Especially not a man. I’d be pissed too. If she wanted to live w/ a couple, she could go do that. But she chose to live w/ one other woman, pay 1/2 the rent n utilities n not have a 3rd person mooching off her money. Doesn’t matter if they share a bedroom. There’s 3 ppl there. It should be split 3 ways. Also, why is he even paying for his own place? Why don’t they just live together? Like wtf?
Binky Melnik 8 months ago (edited)
Her lease says she’s gotta pay half. Unless/until there’s a new lease saying she’ll pay one-third of the rent, she’s legally obligated to pay half. It’s time to go to the landlord with documentation that he lives there full-time and so either they must kick him out (preferable) or else everyone pays a third. Given I wouldn’t wanna live with a dude when I expected to live with a girl, I prefer the option in which they kick him out. And if there’s a way to get him to pay his share retroactively, so much the better! Her rent’s then paid a good bit into the future if she doesn’t take cash back.
Load More Replies... Power puff scientist 8 months ago
If you sign up to live with a woman in a small two person apartment and there is ALWAYS another guy in your space I can definitely see how that is an issue. Don't see how so many people can say that's not a problem. Living in a joined space with another girl or with another couple is quite the difference.
KatSaidWhat 8 months ago
Those twats who don't understand the situation have not been in that situation. I would take a photo of them every morning for the timestamps and send that to management. And also reduce my rent.
VNES101 8 months ago
My sister used to have her BF at our apartment all the time AND he had his own place. I think she did this to spite me. He ate all the food and never contributed anything. One time he came over when she wasn't there so I told him he'd have to come back when she was. I ended up in a fist fight with her and she moved out shortly after. Ain't no way I'm not going to be able to walk around my own place in a towel if I want to. This article just pisses me off all over again.
FreeTheUnicorn 8 months ago
If the landlord doesn't care, you have to start looking for a new place. There are a lot of tenants rights organizations and free basic legal advice (Citizens advice in the UK, in the US it's more state to state, unsure of other countries). Make sure you're covered and your credit etc won't be trashed by leaving early. Otherwise, just stick it out until the end of the year. Horrible but possible necessary. Make sure you know when you have to notify your roommate and landlord that you're leaving, don't tell them a minute earlier, and leave. The good news is most landlords care about a long term guest that isn't paying rent so it's unlikely this exact situation will happen again.
Mark Childers 8 months ago
No, that's completely disrespectful of the roommate. I would say one night a week unless the roommate doesn't mind more. The apartment is half the roommate's, and she should get an equal say as to who stays on a constant basis. It's a bad situation, and I hope she manages to get out of it. I don't know why people do this. They have to realize how uncomfortable and unfair it is for a roommate.
Binky Melnik 8 months ago (edited)
Leases in the US* typically say things like “You may have overnight guests up to # times per week,” and you hafta stick to that or face eviction. I really wish Dummy (I think her name is “Like” because she uses it so much) would actually READ her lease so she’ll know what her potential remedies are. *I’m pretty sure she’s in the US, as I’ve never met an English-speaking foreigner who inserts “like” everywhere like a Valley girl. Like, she even starts sentences with it! And she’s gonna, like, testify, though I don’t know what that is, as I’ve never heard of any court proceeding in which someone doesn’t testify, but rather like testifies; I’m not sure there’s an option to do something that’s like testifying but isn’t testifying!
Load More Replies... Jack Sonol 8 months ago
My cousin tried to pull this s**t, even though we talked before moving in and both agreed no overnight guests (we shared a one bedroom apartment) his new GF started living with us immediately and nothing I said made any difference. We don't speak anymore, he torched our relationship for her.
Irish Lad 8 months ago
I'm sure someone else has said this but start dressing provocatively. Short shorts, unbuttoned blouse, maybe babydoll pj's. Tell her it your home too and you'll dress as you want. As far as the landlord telling you when they are dropping by is probably required by the lease and the law.
Sherman 8 months ago
The fact that someone actually said “you’re jealous” is insane to me. Tell me you’ve never lived w/ roommates w/out telling me. She doesn’t want to be paying for a strange man to live w/ his gf while he doesn’t contribute any money.. that’s the problem. She’s laying 1/2 the rent n bills while only using 1/3 of the utilities… n she didn’t agree to live w/ 2 other ppl. Especially not a man. I’d be pissed too. If she wanted to live w/ a couple, she could go do that. But she chose to live w/ one other woman, pay 1/2 the rent n utilities n not have a 3rd person mooching off her money. Doesn’t matter if they share a bedroom. There’s 3 ppl there. It should be split 3 ways. Also, why is he even paying for his own place? Why don’t they just live together? Like wtf?
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