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30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life I came from a family worth multi-millions. My wife came from a family who could barely eat and dealt with CPS at times.

We fell in love in high school. We've been married for 12 years and love each other more each day.

About 5 years into our relationship, I realized how weak I was in comparison to her strength. And realized that much of what I had growing up, while providing a net of safety, produced feelings and issues of anxiety. On the contrary, when we faced adversity in our earlier years, my wife was a solid rock. I don't mean this to sound insensitive but at times, I am envious of what she experienced growing up as because it has made her an amazing human being full of strength and peace. Nothing phases her.

I was told by people outside of my immediate family (friends and others) how there would be challenges with our demographics being so vastly different. The only challenge I've found is on her end having to deal with someone who had so much given to them growing up out of good intentions from their parents and her being so gracious and strong in helping me overcome my weaknesses.

[deleted] , Rennett Stowe Report

Final score:

494points

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Jo Choto 2 years ago

That's a really lovely way of looking at your wife and at your differences. I think he's right. I would definitely say that I have way more strength and resilience and ability to cope with adversity than a lot of my friends who have had much less-challenging lives.

158points

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My wife grew up poor in Appalachia in a big extended. What surprised me was how freely they share money with each other. They'll just loan each other a few hundred casually, with no real expectation of repayment. Car repair, water heater fails, need a new roof, boom here's some cash. That's unheard of in my wealthy family.

modern-era , Steven Depolo Report

Final score:

455points

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Scagsy 2 years ago

So far in my experience of life, those who have the least, give the most.

432points

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My wife was born and raised in the Soviet Union. She still goes crazy for fresh fruit like its the most extravagant luxury.

TheDJFC , Dennis Sylvester Hurd Report

Final score:

387points

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May 2 years ago

I visited Ukraine less than a year after the dissolution of the Soviet Union, and the food shops in the cities had almost bare shelves. There were a few chickens and some bread, and almost nothing else. In the countryside they were still using horse and buggies to transport things (in -92)

67points

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life I'm not rich at all but my husband came from a very poor Mexican village. He told me he used to shower outside (because there was no in-house plumbing) and use leaves as toilet paper. I mean, there's poor, and there's my husband's-previous-life poor.

He's been living in the US for 12 years now but when we first met it was so interesting seeing life through his child-like eyes. Going to the cinema was a huge event for him. Heating food up in a microwave was a totally foreign concept. And staying at fancy hotels when we went on vacation was like WOAH. I still see him surprised by things now and then and it just reminds me how much I take my middle status class for granted.

uselessartsdegree , yoppy Report

Final score:

366points

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Troux 2 years ago (edited)

Food for thought, an annual salary of about $35K will put you in the top 1% of the world earners. *Edit*: This seems to be false, see AbiP's rationale below. Original source: https://www.greenbacksmagnet.com/2018/02/25/top-1-percent-income-worldwide/ ...However, a net worth of just $93K is enough for the top 10%. https://financebuzz.com/us-net-worth-statistics

53points

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life When the family had people over for dinner, if they ended the prayer before the meal with "F. H. B., Amen." it was a signal to let the children know that they don't have enough food for everyone, so take smaller servings and let the guests get a regular serving.

FHB = "Family, hold back."

They were always generous to their friends and didn't let their lack of funds embarrass themselves when doing so.

Cartoonlad , lil'bear Report

Final score:

356points

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Jo Choto 2 years ago

I don't think I would ever, ever ask my kids to eat less so that I could entertain guests.

173points

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Making financial decisions based around the three paycheck month.

If you're paid every two weeks, most months you get two paychecks, and all of your monthly bills and budgeting is based on those two paychecks. But twice a year there are three paydays in a month, and that's when you can actually solve problems. That's when you can get the car registered, or fix the dryer, or get the cat spayed.

The other 10 months you're doing maintenance and trying to scrape by. Three paycheck months you can actually try to fix problems.

appleciders , Adam Report

Final score:

349points

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Kristin Ingersoll 2 years ago

I'm still very aware of this.

99points

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life This is super embarrassing and will probably make you all hate me if it even gets any attention but:

I come from a family just a bit higher than the top 1%. I was walking out of my ex's garage and I saw a lawn mower. I asked her why they owned their own lawn mower if they weren't in the landscaping business.

That was the day I learned most people don't hire other people to mow their lawn.

I was 20

IGotYouThisBox , Daniel Farrell Report

Final score:

331points

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Aubry 2 years ago

As a kid we used to have a teenage neighbor who offered to mow our lawn for us, our rental house would have provided landscaping but we said yes because they wanted to use the funds to buy a good outfit and rent a nice car for their prom

106points

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life I am not rich by any measure. Ex was not really that poor. After we married I found out until she was 23 and married to me she had never bathed in more than 2 inches of water. I filled the tub and bathed her myself. She cried.

noeljb , Daniel Spils Report

Final score:

325points

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Jo Choto 2 years ago

I remember when all of us small cousins had to take a bath in an aluminium tub in front of the fire, because my grandmother's house had no indoor plumbing. It was really horrible if you went last!

93points

r-cubed , Coffee Danube Still Life Photography Report

#10

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Honestly, food insecurity. When we were first married she would get visibly uneasy if the food in the house was running low. She never overate or anything, she was just always concerned about it. A lot of times when she was younger, she went hungry.

On the humorous side though, she hates camping. Her answer is always the same: I camped because it was fun, she camped because they couldn't afford hotels.

Final score:

264points

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Steffen Rehm 2 years ago

Uh, i get really uneasy when the fridge reaches a specific point. Yes i grow up poor, but never realized the impact to this day. My wife on the other hand could easy life with a empty fridge i guess. Would drive me insane, so i do the most of shopping to prevent that. :D

71points

colombodk , Eliazar Parra Cardenas Report

#11

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My SO said "Today I made rent" meaning "today I've earned enough/accumulated enough to pay the rent" and I realized that this is a monthly accomplishment to someone with no fixed income/salary.

Final score:

240points

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TKA 2 years ago

Hopefully this account is closed now?

94points

markjohnjacobsjingle , Peter Petrus Report

#12

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My wife genuinely thought, and her family still does, that there is a direct relationship between someone's net worth and the labels they purchase. If someone doesn't have a Gucci bag or a Rolex watch, why, it's because they can't afford it! My wife was astonished when I first told her that people exist that are ultra wealthy and yet drive old cars and wear clothes without labels.

Final score:

228points

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Jo Choto 2 years ago

There's two kinds of rich. The ones that do everything to make sure you know it, and the ones you wouldn't know for a while.

200points

missyelliottontap , Quinn Dombrowski Report

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30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Answering as a poor person whose partner’s family is rich. I about fell outta my chair the first time we went out to eat, and he ordered an appetizer in addition to his entree. That’s when I knew.

Final score:

228points

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Katherine Boag 2 years ago

Still cant believe americans call their main their entree

16points

#14

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life I grew up in a rich family and married someone who grew up dirt poor. I guess what really took me a long time to get used to was genuine empathy. Actually empathizing with emotion instead of etiquette, making moral decisions in the moment based on how it might actually make the other person feel. My family is a bunch of stoics. They act based on set rules and think that emotion is stupid and should be ignored entirely.

Mogusaurus , Bonnie Brown Report

Final score:

215points

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Lady of the Mountains 2 years ago

i dont think this is based on class difference

90points

#15

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life It's a celebration when a hot dog bun is used for your hot dog instead of a slice of bread.

callmepebbles , Nathan Cooprider Report

Final score:

213points

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Lady of the Mountains 2 years ago

ok i love eating those plain honestly

25points

#16

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life We live in the southeast, my husband grew up wealthy. He grew up skiing and they always went to Colorado to ski. We go on a big family ski trip with his parents about every other year. He didn’t realize for a while why people thought he grew up rich, one day I asked him “Do you tell them you go skiing?” He knew skiing is expensive, but it never clicked for him that going skiing on a regular basis from a region where you have to fly out is a huge wealth marker.

ricebasket , lucelu Report

Final score:

193points

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Nikki Sevven 2 years ago

Up until her mom passed away, my SIL's entire family went to Disney World every single year. Her parents, my SIL and her two siblings, all their spouses and kids. Dad paid for everything. Having this kind of disposable income is totally alien to me (and if I had it, I certainly wouldn't bother with Disney when there are so many other amazing places to go).

104points

Naughtyspider , allispossible.org.uk Report

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30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Both came from poor backgrounds. Hubby now earns 6 figures. I still buy my clothes from a charity shop because I cannot ever fathom why you’d spend £400 on shoes and bags “for a season”. You can buy designer clothes in a charity shop if you know what you’re looking for.

I think M&S and Waitrose are just overpriced when you can get a trolley FULL of fresh food and eat like kings at Aldi for £100. I don’t do takeaway food.

Funny story though, when we first got together I was making a spaghetti dinner and grabbed a bottle of red wine off his shelf to add to the sauce. I didn’t know what £45 bottle of wine was, and still think it tasted pretty ordinary. And I drink a LOT of wine.

Final score:

189points

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Otter 2 years ago

I used to be poor, now I earn six figures. You bet your ass I shop at thrift stores, and go to the dollar store before I go to Target, just in case I can get something I need for a pittance! The thing about going from poor to prosperous, is that you can never forget how easy it is to become poor again.

159points

Amazingawesomator , Francisco Antunes Report

#18

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life She and her mother lived with her grandfather to not be homeless because her grandfather owned a house.

She was putting community college payments on her credit card and building debt with it.

I paid off her credit cards when we were dating and she cried from me being so nice (it was only like 1,300 bucks). I bought a condo, then we got married, then we bought a house. I never really considered myself rich until i started dating her and learned that a trip to Wendy's was a treat. I grew up middle class, and we are currently middle class, heh.

Final score:

186points

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Ozacoter 2 years ago

He bought a condo and then a house? Definitely not middle class by any means.

75points

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30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Sandwiches. When I made him a sandwich I only put one thin slice of meat in it. He couldn't believe that was how I had sandwiches growing up.

[deleted] , Remy Sharp Report

Final score:

182points

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May 2 years ago

I didn't grow up poor, and am not poor now, but that's still how I would make a sandwich. Only in America have I've seen sandwiches where the meat was thicker than the bread. It was a culture shock.

119points

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#20

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life She wouldn't waste any food, ever. We went through a few rounds of her getting sick from eating month-old muffins and similar before I convinced her it was OK to toss old food and go shopping.

Final score:

157points

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Nikki Sevven 2 years ago

While you certainly shouldn't eat food that has gone bad, you should also keep food waste to a minimum. Also, compost if you have the room.

93points

captainslowww , Presidencia de la República Mexicana Report

#21

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life The prevailing mindset in his community growing up that insurance was something only rich people had. Not health insurance, mind you (well, not just health insurance). Auto insurance. Going without it was a way of life for most everyone he knew.

Final score:

145points

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Guy MacGregor 2 years ago

It's... illegal not to have insurance. Maybe depend on your country though, but it's a global thing

28points

#22

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Eating leftovers.

Not using A/C.

Shopping around an abnormal amount to save a marginal amount of money on something.

Coupons.

Looking at gas prices.

Driving across town to save a buck.

Not knowing the value of Time over Money

appolo11 , Matt McGee Report

Final score:

135points

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Jane Jane 2 years ago

Knowing the value of Time over Money is something that only someone who HAS money knows.

131points

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#23

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Hamburger Helper. She hates it because it would be her meal 5x a week growing up.

I had never even seen HH before I went to college and love that stuff. 10 for $10 deals are awesome.

throwaway_dkhlgmo , david__jones Report

Final score:

134points

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Jo Choto 2 years ago

There's two kinds of Hamburger Helper poor. There's when you cook it with the meat, and then when you just cook the box with no meaT!

69points

#24

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Not rich but with a partner who was raised by a teen mom and grew up poor. Sometimes I just want rice and vegetables for dinner. That's a no from her. She won't go back.

MighMoS , Alpha Report

Final score:

133points

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Amy Stone-Chandler 2 years ago

Nothing wrong with this meal

48points

#25

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Not married, but dating (I’m in college for reference). I’m the daughter of a multi-millionaire, and I never knew just how many things were easily doable by hand. He did an oil change for me the other day, and I feel kinda cheated that I used to pay so much for it.

ResurgentRS , Colin Report

Final score:

130points

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Pat Bond 2 years ago

It's generally a high price because you are really paying for them to dispose of the old oil correctly, at least in my country.

69points

#26

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life im not married, but my girlfriend of 4 years doesn't have alot of the childhood experiences and skills I took for granted that most people had. Like never learning how to ride a bike, how to swim, never having gone camping or seen snow (we live only a few hours away from seasonal snow)

isolatrum , las - initially Report

Final score:

122points

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HarriMissesScotland 2 years ago

We had students who had never gone 10 miles out of town. My mom would take them out to lunch in a larger town about 25 miles away. Some cried, some were just in awe. We lived in a small town with just a caution light.

58points

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30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life He doesn't remember any of his teachers names because he never stayed in one place more than a few months.

desertstrawberry , Allison Meier Report

Final score:

115points

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Who Panda 420 2 years ago

I don't remember many of my teachers names cause I'm old

75points

#28

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life When we moved in together, I found out that she was putting her share of the rent on her credit card, with no real plan for how to pay it off.

Fluxxed0 , 401(K) 2012 Report

Final score:

105points

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May 2 years ago

That's fiscally irresponsible - not necessarily poor

45points

blueeyes_austin , Rocky Mountain Feline Rescue Report

#29

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Long term dating. Pets. I was always surprised by the number of pets she and her family had living in the trailer and how much of a share of their income they spent on them.

Final score:

102points

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Who Panda 420 2 years ago

If they were spending income on them at least that meant they were caring for them

78points

mattluttrell , Rusty Clark ~ 100K Photos Report

#30

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life Lice -- I had never experienced them (our kids got them from the inlaws)

I didn't know about Section 8.

I'd never heard of the Earned Income Credit (e.g. you get more back in taxes than you paid).

You go to the E.R. because you don't have insurance.

Final score:

90points

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Amy Stone-Chandler 2 years ago

I've never heard of a school that hasn't had lice. I think money folks just keep it q secret because the stigma with it

99points

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#31

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life My wife isn’t even significantly less wealthy than me or my family, but they were less stably middle class. She saves yogurt cups and butter jars etc as Tupperware. It drives me bananas. We make a 6 figure income in a lowish COL area.

ce5b , Protopian Pickle Jar Report

Final score:

27points

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Fellowbob 2 years ago

I don't see why having money means you have to waste everything, a surprising amount of these are related to that

41points

#32

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life The stuff he buys, like, don't buy a $1.50 vegetable peeler because it'll break the third time you use it, duh. And if a pair of shoes is $19.99 then its because they're crap!

He buys so much stuff because it's cheap, he hasn't yet got the hang of 'quality over quantity'!

keepthebear , Didriks Report

Final score:

26points

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Christian Kastö 2 years ago

This only shows how little you've understood about how really expensive it is to be poor. Because you only have that $20 for shoes you end up buying new shoes every year instead of maybe every five or ten years line you could if you would afford shoes for 50 or maybe 70 dollars. It is not about not knowing about quality, it is about not affording it - and thus ending up paying even more for shoes in the end! And that habit might stay with you even after you get into money. Theoretically you know you should buy quality, but it is deeply rooted to look for cheaper stuff.

89points

#33

30 Rich Folks That Tied The Knot With Their Less Fortunate Partners Reveal What Shocked Them The Most About Their Ex-Life I was with a girl for a while who grew up in a pretty broken home. Still surprises me just how bad her spending habits are. She racks up credit card debt like its nothing.

whosArbeely , Sean MacEntee Report

Final score:

15points

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Otter 2 years ago

That's not typical of being poor, most poor people know damn well what a bad idea it is to acquire debts you can't pay. Maybe she's just financially short-sighted.

30points

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PitbullmomAF 2 years ago

I grew up low middle class (enlisted military), but my husband grew up very poor. He was on his own and homeless by 14. He worked and went to school then joined the military. He never liked red meat because he hadn't tasted it until he was about 10. He won't eat minute rice either. We budget our money, but he goes out of his way to spoil the people that he loves. I have to tell him that I don't need anything because he constantly wants to give me things. He always overtips, gives to homeless/ charities, because at one time people gave to him.

31points

JJ 2 years ago (edited)

You remind me of something I experienced often: My family never had much money and really struggled from time to time, but if there was a friend or family member struggling even more to an existential point, then they'd try to give a little bit (and if it was only a meal or clothes). Later in life I re-experienced it with friends and with my in laws. Sometimes it was only about 5 or 10 Euros to make a difference. And this is what we did and what others did for us. On the other hand side, some old friends of my husband who were not wealthy or something but never experienced struggling to pay for food or the like, never even thought about doing that. I don't know if it's because the amount or gesture is like nothing to them or because they simply didn't bother...

15points

Miss Cris 2 years ago

Thar'snice and grateful of him.

2points

J. Normal 2 years ago

Keep reminding him, best things in life, are not things. A hug a smile mean more than a diamond.

1point

Susie Elle 2 years ago

Growing up me and my sister were well taken care of, but we were also pretty poor so my mom had to bend over backwards to make ends meet every moth. Often she would go and take bikerides by herself in the evenings for about an hour just to clear her head of all the worrying about money (I later learned this - my dad generated the income but my mom took care of finances). She taught me to save, always save money. I now have a pretty good financial buffer and a decent paying job, but every time I spend a sum of money on something for myself I feel awkward and decadent about it for weeks.

17points

Jo Choto 2 years ago

I've experienced some reasonable extremes of poverty and wealth. I'm nowhere near the richest I've been, but I'm comfortable enough now. But I have lived among people who truly had nothing and people who had everything, and I would choose the poorest of the poor every time as human beings (even though I wish they weren't so poor for their sake).

12points

Memere 2 years ago

Same here. Altho I have known 1 or 2 wealthy people who were very decent humans - they didn't live high on the hog, and they contributed a lot to those who had less, both in money & in actual work on the streets.

2points

Jenn Ryan 2 years ago

My boyfriend loves to watch old cartoons and tv shows that remind him of his childhood. I have to leave the room or ask him to turn them off because I can't stomach them. For him, he enjoys the nostalgia. For me, it reminds me of a time I never want to go back to.

6points

Stephanie Keith 2 years ago

Does anyone else experience others putting them down for not being a materialistic person, or just being ok with existing and having what you need? I'm asking because lately I've noticed some of my close family telling me because I'm not into money and only desire to have no more than I need. They are saying I'm lazy and have no goals or ambition. Does anyone else experience this when it comes to financial situations?

5points

Roman Hans 2 years ago (edited)

Not sure if this is the same. I grew up poor so my only dream was getting out. I did, when I was fifteen ... and then I was lost. That was my only goal. I didn't realize I needed ambition too. Years later a "friend" asked if I'd been hunting, fishing, skiing, camping, surfing, etc. I said no. He said I was lucky to have no interests because then it was easy for me to save. All I heard was the insult, "You grew up so poor you never learned how to have fun."

3points

Elica 2 years ago

Ya run into that time to time. If money=fun/life purpose/etc for them, well good for them. If that equation doesn't hold for you it just says you are a different person. Maybe they just need to broaden their horizon and understand not everyone's like them in this world.

1point

Katherine Dobias 2 years ago

4 summers ago, my friends and I went to california and grand canyon for a road trip. Before we went to the grand canyon, we stopped in san diego for 5 days to stay with a friend. We made friends with someone and brought him with us to another friend's house who had a pool, open buffet, really nice place. We ate so much, swam, etc. Spent the whole day there. I thought wow it would be so nice to have a place like this and then our new friend said it would be nice to have any kind of place and that he's homeless. We were shocked. He didn't look homeless (no offense). I asked where he's living. He said in his car. He parked it two streets down so we wouldn't see it. He was trying to find work at the time. He used to work in a restaurant. I've had him on fb since. His recent post showed a picture of him and a gf with their new baby born.

4points

Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

My husband is, after 30 years, still surprised by the "culture clash" we have b/c he was raised very well-off and I was definitely not.

4points

LynzCatastrophe 2 years ago

I grew up as upper middle class, though in my small hometown we were definitely considered well off. It wasn't till I moved away and into an apartment that I realized how out of touch I was. I didn't know how to do anything, I had no idea how to be an adult. He was easing by without struggle. I had my own big bedroom growing up, had food at my beck and call, my own bathroom and always took for granted that my electricity and water were running, I didn't know NOT having those was an option. He grew up the oldest of four siblings, a three bedroom house with only one bathroom, his dad made many questionable choices with the family money that often lead to electricity cut off, food rationing, ect. My husband now has a great paying job and we still have more money than his parents, while his youngest brother took over mortgage payments to make sure his mother has a roof over her head. Again, these are things I took for granted, I didn't know it could be taken away.

2points

Beatrice Multhaupt 2 years ago

my ex was born in Germany in 1943. His hometown then became part of East Germany and for the next 7 years, most people there struggled with food shortages. Fast forward 40 years: the man is now a university professor but every time he goes to a restaurant, he piles tons of food on his plate, no matter how often he is told he can go back for seconds. Just can't beat the habit.

2points

Jenn Duns 2 years ago

When my ex told me he grew up in a house with only one bathroom. My house had more bathrooms than people.

2points

Ellen Ranks 2 years ago

Huh. Most people I know have a home with 1 bathroom, that's standard even for middle calss homes. 2 bathrooms is exceptional. Must be a regional thing....

4points

Bob Belcher 2 years ago

And they say cast systems don't exist in advanced countries.

1point

Rebecca Olds 2 years ago

There have been a few differences between my fiance and me. 1. His family didn't meal plan for the week and usually didn't figure it out till close to dinner time. As such it's hard to get him involved in the meal planning now that he lives with me and my family. 2. When we go down to see his parents if it's not the heat of summer the a/c unit in his room wont be turned on at all. I had to beg last time because it was a much warmer late fall than usual and i was having trouble sleeping because i would get too hot. 3. If his account hits $50, he wont doing anything else even if im way lower in money. We're learning each day how to understand each other. I'm also attempting to teach him some basic cooking so that i dont have to all the time. It's a slow process but it has helped.

1point

Tamera Gardner 2 years ago

Driving through the barrio my husband asks “what’s with all these people walking?” I asked if he’d ever lived in a poor neighborhood and he said he hadn’t. I had to explain to him that not everyone has a car.

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Lola G 2 years ago

I think the ski thing is the most revealing marker, even if a rich family don't show off their money in everyone's face. When my best friend told me that she'd been skiing only once, thanks to her school, while I'd been skiing a few times with my family already, that's when I realized that despite my family's habits and whatever my mom will tell you, we were actually rich.

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Pungent Sauce 2 years ago

I was floored the 1st time I went into rich (ex) GF’s house and saw the house I grew up in would easily fit into the ‘great room’. I was just as floored when she was rude to waitstaff and checkout people. I don’t miss her.

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ZAPanda 2 years ago

Really interesting to read this because it shows just how radically poor most people in africa are. The "poor" that is described in this article is what we'd consider "lower class", meaning not destitute and living in a shack, but poor enough to not be welcome at the elites' dinner tables. The people here that we consider poor are as you see on TV - shacks, no jobs, no bank accounts, no convenient car to sleep in, no possessions apart from some tatty clothes and maybe a TV or portable gas stove (cooker). It's really shocking. Basically what you'd call "homeless". poor-white...757186.jpg

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Bobby 2 years ago

I owned an apartment. AC, vacations, nice meals, nice furniture etc. Now I live in a single room, with the wife and 3 children. Low income, not-enough-furniture or other luxuries. Why ? Just because of a toxic wife. She just interfere in each and everything in my life, knowing that she has no experience and education at all. I still live with her.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 2 years ago

You’re poor because you blame others for your stupid decision making processes.

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PitbullmomAF 2 years ago

31points

JJ 2 years ago (edited)

15points

Miss Cris 2 years ago

Thar'snice and grateful of him.

2points

J. Normal 2 years ago

Keep reminding him, best things in life, are not things. A hug a smile mean more than a diamond.

1point

Susie Elle 2 years ago

17points

Jo Choto 2 years ago

12points

Memere 2 years ago

2points

Jenn Ryan 2 years ago

6points

Stephanie Keith 2 years ago

5points

Roman Hans 2 years ago (edited)

3points

Elica 2 years ago

1point

Katherine Dobias 2 years ago

4points

Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

My husband is, after 30 years, still surprised by the "culture clash" we have b/c he was raised very well-off and I was definitely not.

4points

LynzCatastrophe 2 years ago

2points

Beatrice Multhaupt 2 years ago

2points

Jenn Duns 2 years ago

When my ex told me he grew up in a house with only one bathroom. My house had more bathrooms than people.

2points

Ellen Ranks 2 years ago

Huh. Most people I know have a home with 1 bathroom, that's standard even for middle calss homes. 2 bathrooms is exceptional. Must be a regional thing....

4points

Bob Belcher 2 years ago

And they say cast systems don't exist in advanced countries.

1point

Rebecca Olds 2 years ago

1point

Tamera Gardner 2 years ago

0points

Lola G 2 years ago

0points

Pungent Sauce 2 years ago

0points

ZAPanda 2 years ago

0points

Bobby 2 years ago

-1point

Mewton’s Third Paw 2 years ago

You’re poor because you blame others for your stupid decision making processes.

0points