Paying her to live with him? Sure sounds like he basically considers her a hooker. This guy just goes from one extreme of disrespect to another. Glad she decided to unload him.

I'm glad she broke it off with him. As a lot of people stated: 50/50 only works if both have the same income, other than that it isn't fair if you are a couple. You could pay a percentage of your income instead or something similar to that system. And you always go with the one earning less while looking for a place to live. Honestly it just seems like he was looking for someone to pay to be f****d because that's not a good deal. This is a pretty common problem though, I have several friends who when they get kids and are on maternity leave (get a lower income for a year-ish) and their partner still wants to do 50/50 because "you wanted to be equal right?". So sad. Simple answer: 50/50 isn't always fair.

In this situation, a 50% share of all expenses doesn't seem fair. While living separated she would not spend so much money on herself and he shouldn't expect her parents to step in. At the end of the day, he wants her to change her life according to his standards and pay by herself, which in my humble opinion is not fair at all.

I'm not as concerned with the age gap as I am with how he could expect you to pay the same amount when you had no income coming in? I think couples who live together absolutely should share expenses as equally as possible but when one person-male or female- makes a significant amount more then you either have to accept that you will be paying the bulk of the bills for the residence, or you lower your own standards to match what the other person can afford. It sounds to me like he knew your parents were going to cover the bill so he wanted to benefit from that. I read the update so I know it's a moot point now but I would have insisted on living apart and staying over when you want. Let your parents pay for YOUR residence, not toward something he would benefit from in the end. No doubt you would have been the one to leave if the relationship ended since his name would be on the lease and he ends up getting all that equity in the residence your parents helped pay for.

Curious how someone who makes 1/2 mil a year has financial struggle and pin it on someone else. More money- more insecurity I guess. If she is going to school especially let it go. I made 45,000 a year and still didn't mind my wife being in college.

Get out NOW.

My wife's first serious boyfriend did this to her, she held down 2 jobs when they bought a house together so she could pay 50% of the mortgage. Currently she pays 2/5's of our mortgage and I pay the other 3/5's plus all the bills (gas, electric, water, etc), it's split to be affordable for her but also if we ever split she'd walk away with enough to buy herself somewhere.

I had a friend who's boyfriend was renting a house in London (very expensive) together with his friend. My friend couldn't afford splitting the rent equally. She told her boyfriend that either she pays what she can (which was very little) or she will live elsewhere. They came to an agreement that my friend pays what she can and would keep the house tidy (last point was per her own request as she likes house to be very clean). It worked and everyone were happy. The man from the story probably lived in his old mindset (since he was a poor student himself not too long ago). However, he should have talked things out with her regarding finances before deciding to put things this way. I don't know if breaking up just for a mistake is good enough reason, but if he was pushy then it's a different story.

Will she be expected to do all the cleaning and household management or will that be split 50/50 too??! 🙄

While I think that the higher earner is not automatically responsible for all the expenses just because they earn more.. but this is totally unreasonable, who the f can think its okay to expect someone with no income to go halfsies on a 5k rent? And then the update portion showed that he actually wanted full time escort service.. was even willing to pay allowance just to have young woman living with him.

Ditch this guy. Am I the only one who thought it was odd that she didn't have a job and didn't plan on getting one for the next few years?? Not even on break from school? Yikes on bikes.

I think it's pretty simple (even though this is OBE). Your expectations and his of living together are not the same. It would be a big mistake to live together, with this very basic disconnect.

Yeah, leave him asap

Can you imagine expecting your girlfriend's parents to pay for the privilege of you getting to live and sleep with their daughter?

Selfish golddigger who is ten years older while she is just beginning her life and needs to go whereever her graduate degree takes her. I am glad she dumped him.

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Hmmm. I am a male student at University, and my significant other works full-time. She makes really good money for what she does, and we live in a place that isn't all that expensive. She could easily afford to support us both, yet she has never once helped me financially during my degree, and neither has my family. I saved up $25000 by working a grueling job in the oilfield for two years so I could afford half of the bills for a year and a half. This lady's story shows an inherent double standard. I would never put such a demand on my partner, but also, I am a man who is expected to make it on their own regardless of the situation. Also, I do most of the housework and cook her a full breakfast every day. I would never ask her to help me, and I would never make her feel bad about it when she doesn't. I am not entitled to her money, and she owes me nothing. Period. This woman dated an older man with money for the same reason most women date older men with money.

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I can't quite figure out if it's about her paying such a high amount in rent or if it's about paying rent period. We see too many spongey women online these days and while I sympathise with her not being able to afford that amount - it is perfectly reasonable for him to expect her to pull her own weight. I would never move in with a man and expect him to support me. - That's how abusive, controlling relationships thrive. - easy targets - yay money, but also now you're dependent, you're screwed.

Unfortunately, The word "parasite" comes to mind--"I don't plan on making any money for the next few years" says a great deal about YOU and what everyone ELSE does for you, like "my parents pay for everything"....entitled, much?? Will you really get a job --ever??

Go to grad school, make your own $500 k, drop the guy.

Regardless, of anything else , I don't understand where the problem is in sharing living expenses, if she agrees to move in with him willingly. Isn't it expected? To continue being independent on him, financially? I mean even if he could easily afford to pay for both of them, doesn't mean he has to.

What iamnoking said. She's not entitled to his money, but then she'll set the baseline for what they can afford.

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She didn't plan on making any money for a few years. Basically, I have a vagina so can I live for free?