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Working in the food service industry isn’t all fun and games. It’s grueling, repetitive work that isn’t always rewarded as generously as it should be. And very often, as a server or chef, you’ll also end up emotionally exhausted after dealing with people and stressful situations all day long. Some customers are great, sure. But there will always be at least a handful of less empathetic ones who will make you question your choice of career.

To show you some of the challenges these hard-working employees face, our team at Bored Panda has collected some of their top posts and vents about what they constantly deal with. Scroll down to take a look. If you’ve ever worked at a restaurant, you might find these takes incredibly relatable!

Bored Panda reached out to Jaime-Alexis Fowler, the founder and executive director of the non-profit organization ‘Empower Work,' for some advice on handling negative emotions and stress in customer-facing roles. Read on to see what she told us.

"It can be really hard to be in customer-facing roles, especially as negative behavior has increased. We're all people doing our best to provide the best support that we can. Sometimes, that gets lost amidst the demands and pressures. We see folks reach out to the Empower Work text line regularly who are dealing with frustrating customer interactions or lack of support from management to deal with them," Fowler told Bored Panda in an email.

"We encourage folks to find ways that work for them to manage the stress. For some, that might be creating structures to their day, like breathing exercises to let go of situations as they transition from work."

Fowler said that for some employees, other ways to manage all of that work-related stress might include taking some time off... or even finding another job entirely.

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Still, others might benefit from small shifts in their daily schedule, like changing their commute to "walk off some of the stress."

"We all handle stressors differently. What's important is finding a space or support to work through the approaches that work for you," Fowler told us.

We asked her for some advice for managers on how they can support their staff who have to face dissatisfied customers.

According to Fowler, the first and foremost that they ought to do is have structures and processes in place for how to handle customers and escalation paths if needed.

She said that part of those approaches should include the assurance that in hard situations, management will support their staff. If you face challenges at work, including with customer interactions, you can visit the 'Empower Work' website or contact their text line for support via 510-674-1414.

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The food service industry is absolutely gargantuan in the United States. It encompasses everything related to food prepared outside of one’s home, from full-service and quick-service (e.g., fast food) restaurants to catering, cafes, private chefs, and more. Statista reports that the largest share of employment in the US food service industry came from waiters and waitresses in 2022. On the other side of the scale, private cooks made up the smallest share of employment that year.

In 2022, the American food service and drinking place industry as a whole reached earnings of a jaw-dropping $975.9 billion. That’s just shy of a trillion!

In 2023, that trillion-dollar mark was breached, with the sales in the industry reaching an eye-watering $1.09 trillion, supporting 13.2 million employees. Statista notes that there were over 2.1 million servers in the US in 2022, and more than 2.2 million in 2023.

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Every Time, All While Saying "Sorry, Sorry, Sorry"

Every Time, All While Saying "Sorry, Sorry, Sorry"

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But if they *don't* do the walk it feels so damn rude. Even though it makes no difference at all to the re-mopping. Like show some damned respect

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With the size of the industry in mind, it only makes sense to take the workplace issues that the employees in this market face very seriously. Good managers ought to care about their staff’s welfare. Meanwhile, good business leaders know that motivated, well-compensanted, and properly supported employees are loyal and get better results.

Online food delivery is also massive and continues to get ever more popular. The US has the second-biggest online food delivery market after China. In 2023, the size of this market in the US stood at around $270 billion. Grocery delivery brought in $182.9 billion while meal delivery was worth $86.9 billion in revenue.

WebstaurantStore reports that nearly 750k restaurants were operating in the US in 2023. An overwhelming number of them—9 out of 10—were small businesses with fewer than 50 staff members. Meanwhile, 7 out of 10 restaurants were single-unit operations. Most American adults (63%) have worked in the restaurant industry at some point in their lives.

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She Knows What's What

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those are the same people who call Kamala Harris a fascist and then say that the Democrats should not be calling anyone fascists. Hypocrites the lot of them.

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And Salt

And Salt

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When life gives you a cut anywhere remotely near your hands, hope really hard that it doesn’t also give you lemons.

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The Honest Truth

The Honest Truth

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The sad reality is that many servers have to deal with rudeness, disrespect, and entitled behavior on a constant basis. One server and popular content creator, Quinn, previously opened up to Bored Panda about how a customer came in, started filming him, and set up a game for him to play for his tips.

He said that many employees don’t stand up for themselves because they’re scared of getting fired if some of their customers were to complain about them.

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Can't Get Any More Accurate Than That

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so insane to me, that is what managers are for. I have never once had to look for someone to cover my shift here in Germany.

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There’s Multitasking And Then There’s Multitasking

There’s Multitasking And Then There’s Multitasking

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’ve had a lot of office jobs. I never had one where I had much of a clue what was going on, or got anything done on day one. Even when it was a move to the same role at a different company.

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“We can’t change how people think, however, if servers realized their job is just a job and stood up for themselves more often and had managers who backed their servers up more often instead of allowing such behavior from these guests, I think we’d see a massive improvement in the workplace of restaurants,” the server told us in an earlier interview.

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If You Have Ever Picked Up One Of These With Your Bare Hands, You Don't Need To Worry About What's In The Vaccine

If You Have Ever Picked Up One Of These With Your Bare Hands, You Don't Need To Worry About What's In The Vaccine

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh I hate Ergo-Mats. Just buy good non skid shoes. Had a server once who broke her ankle in teh dish pit because she refused to wear anything besides her oh so fashionable Nikes.

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It Makes You More Patient With Stupid People And Also Makes You Way Less Irritable When Places Are Running Behind/Messing Things Up

It Makes You More Patient With Stupid People And Also Makes You Way Less Irritable When Places Are Running Behind/Messing Things Up

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“Servers are people and just because they’re in the industry doesn’t mean they’re beneath you. In fact, some A-list celebrities used to be servers: Chris Pratt, Chris Rock, Lady Gaga, Jon Hamm, Jennifer Aniston. A lot of important people used to be in the service industry, not just celebrities, people in science, people in our justice system, and doctors. Just treat them for who they are—PEOPLE.”

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They Are So Bad At Reading The Room

They Are So Bad At Reading The Room

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1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

BECAUSE YOU GO THERE ON HOLIDAYS! I personally don't mind working holidays, I usually make good tips, I get leftovers 🤤, and I'm not too crazy about holidays. But when I'm taking a guests order on Thanksgiving and they say something like 'aw, it's a shame you have to work today', it drives me nuts. Just come in, be courteous, and tip them well! 😁

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I Showed This To The 56-Year-Old Who Sitting Next To Me And His Response Was “I Don’t Understand What That Means”

I Showed This To The 56-Year-Old Who Sitting Next To Me And His Response Was “I Don’t Understand What That Means”

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ms. Lisa celebrated when I got my license and then about 10 minutes later told me that she wanted to marry Steve Perry.

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Not all rude customers are alike. Some folks are decent but they’ve had an awful day, and they snap (even though they shouldn't). Others are used to always getting their way, so they resort to bullying and manipulation.

Servers with lots of experience can often instinctively tell who’s who, and how to deal with each category of people.

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Mine Was Mr. Pickles Because I Asked For Extra Pickles On My Sub

Mine Was Mr. Pickles Because I Asked For Extra Pickles On My Sub

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband goes everyday to Wawa to get a soda. They call him pop guy because that’s what he calls soda. Anyways, my son got a job there and they didn’t know “pop guy” was his dad. While my son was working my husband went to get his soda but also bought a candy bar and threw at our son on his way out. Sons coworkers look at him like WTF and son told them that his dad. They were shocked. “Pop guy is your dad?!?” A legend was made that day

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Newbies vs. Old Vets

Newbies vs. Old Vets

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How does 86 cherries mean no cherries? Sincerely, a confused high schooler who works in an ice cream place and would definitely give this guy 86 cherries

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Often, unhappy customers just want to be heard and their criticism shouldn’t be taken personally. A dash of empathy and some active listening from the server’s side can work wonders in these situations.

It can be a ton of help if your manager roleplays with you and walks you through some potential scenarios with rude customers. Meanwhile, managers should always be available to support their newer staff members and step in if they have trouble handling negative and entitled people.

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Nothing Like When The Doors Are Already Locked And They Start Aggressively Tugging On The Doors From The Outside Though

Nothing Like When The Doors Are Already Locked And They Start Aggressively Tugging On The Doors From The Outside Though

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"I’m Scheduled Until 8, So I’ll Probably Be Off Around 10"

"I’m Scheduled Until 8, So I’ll Probably Be Off Around 10"

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1 day ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex-husband manages one of the most popular local restaurants in our area. His days off are Tuesday and Wednesday. He has a friend who regularly comes into town on the weekends and for several years would text me (when my ex and I were still married) to see if my husband had the weekend off. He texted me because (surprise!) my husband WAS ALWAYS WORKING WHEN HE WOULD COME UP. Dude never got it through his head that he was either going to have to come up mid-week or stay overnight on Friday or Saturday in order to see my husband.

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As A Server, I Promise You We Noticed Everyone That Makes Our Restaurant Their First Date Spot

As A Server, I Promise You We Noticed Everyone That Makes Our Restaurant Their First Date Spot

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not a surprise, actually. In my experience, servers have to be observant so they can take proper care of their customers.

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Have you ever worked in the food service industry, dear Pandas? Do you have a lot of experience as a server, chef, or bartender? What are the weirdest situations you’ve ever been in with customers?

What advice would you give anyone who’s completely new to working at a restaurant? We’d love to hear all about your job stories, so if you’re taking a coffee break, share your experiences in the comments at the bottom of this list.

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Using Your Coworkers As Free Therapists

Using Your Coworkers As Free Therapists

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know better than to vent to anyone at my work. Never know who's a spy, who's a narc, who's a gossip, and who's the real manager's pet.

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The List Of Allergies A Table Handed Us On NYE (The Set Menu Was Surf & Turf)

The List Of Allergies A Table Handed Us On NYE (The Set Menu Was Surf & Turf)

Public service announcement: "If you have life-threatening dietary restrictions please check the menu beforehand and contact the restaurant to ensure accommodations can be made. Thank you".

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

With that list of allergies, take the hint. Mother nature has decided your branch of the gene pool is defunct and is trying to take you out like Agent 47.

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My brother once asked me why Americans and Europeans have so many allergies and we don't. I said, "because our kids with allergies just die". We are a country of peasants, so we eat what's available and when it's available. There is no discussion of preferences or allergies. Before you tell me I'm a horrible person, I'm not advocating for this, it's just our reality.

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why...are you going to surf and turf menu'ed place if you are allergic to SEAFOOD. Isn't that the whole point of surf and turf?

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because people are ignorant and entitled and expect the whole world to revolve around them...

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23 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have handed it back and said, sorry we can't accommodate you and walked away

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a neighbor who is so allergic to food and any pesticides that he only prepares his own using vegetables he grew himself with zero chemicals.

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23 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My 26yo son has severe allergies. As he was growing up we didn't eat out.ever. I'm not trusting underpaid staff to be hypervigilant. Most restaurants don't care if you bring a snack and order a beverage when it comes to this.

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8 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm all for trying to accommodate everyone but if I had that list of allergies I would never eat anything I did not prepare myself. That's just far too many things to trust someone other than me or someone who *really* loves me is going to be able to not make mistakes.

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15 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a daring stunt for someone with that many allergies to be willing to go and eat in a restaurant. You can't blame anyone if something goes haywire.

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18 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This reminds me of a customer that told the chef she was allergic to peanuts unless unless they were chopped into her food. He said that’s not an allergy with the most you’re so dumb look on his face lol. He was the owner trying to offer allergen sensitivity in his restaurant and took real allergies seriously.

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23 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Well, I think we have a couple of packets of Gogurt in the back." /J

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Changing One Of Those Bad Boys In A Lunch Rush Is An Extreme Sport

Changing One Of Those Bad Boys In A Lunch Rush Is An Extreme Sport

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did not have a good day. I had to change out four of these bitches at work today 🥵

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It Really Is

It Really Is

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The Least Welcome Version Of Small Talk

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Not To Mention We Had A Solid 50 Other People Ordering Food

Not To Mention We Had A Solid 50 Other People Ordering Food

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If your a party of 12 or more make a reservation! Call the restaurant and see if they can accommodate you. There's alot to set up for a large parties

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The Staff Have Got Enough To Do And We Clear Our Own Mess

The Staff Have Got Enough To Do And We Clear Our Own Mess

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So irritating, especially when the bin is probably ten steps away from their table.

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That’s Today’s Society For You

That’s Today’s Society For You

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Charge them twice... When they object, tell your manager this exact thing.... It went out of the kitchen OK, got to the table OK, was OK itself, the customer ordered it and then sent it back with nothing wrong with it. They should pay for it AND the repeat order.

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Hahahah, Why Do I Relate To This Back On My Old Sales Days

Hahahah, Why Do I Relate To This Back On My Old Sales Days

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Never say ‘sorry for the wait’. Instead, try ‘thank you for your patience’.

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Better Not To Know What Is Happening Behind The Scenes

Better Not To Know What Is Happening Behind The Scenes

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The Intense Heat

The Intense Heat

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once went out with a group of a dozen. We had a copy of the menu distibuted to everyone beforehand, collected the orders and posted them in advance for the restaurants convenience and to speed things up. I, having waitressed before, took a picture of the order for future reference. Said refence happened when the plates arrived at the table, because at least four people couldn't remember what they had ordered. Duh.

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I Always Say Sorry I Left My 3rd Arm At Home Today

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My favorite restaurant always brings out the entire order on a cart. They choose to have fewer tables to make this work, but the wait staff seems happier for it. Prices are near the high end, but I don't care.

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I Work In An Upscale Seafood Restaurant And Get Order Like This All Day

I Work In An Upscale Seafood Restaurant And Get Order Like This All Day

We only had 58 covers today and I've already seen 3 different tickets like this. Almost every station contains fish. I don't understand the logic of choosing to go to a seafood restaurant with a severe allergy like this.

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1 day ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not saying all the time, but a good portion could just be that they don't like fish... I've known more than a few people that said they did that a time or two

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