Not having kids is not, and should never be some kind of disadvantage that others can use to guilt-trip you into doing them favors "for the kids".

My mum was a nurse, who sometimes had to work Christmas. We understood that sometimes Mum would be looking after the sick people at Christmas and we had Dad and Granny to look after us. Last Christmas was the last one I had with my dad, I would be very angry if someone had tried to force me to give it up just so they could be with their healthy and not terminally ill kids who honestly would understand if mum had to work.

In response to all the YTA. I have ( supposedky) th wisdom of my years. And this policy is BS. I have come to discover that kids are flexible "yeah, two thanksgivings" kinda deal, but parents are not. As the population ages, we will realise parents need holidays with their kids just as much as kids need holidays with their parents.

If you want to be with your kids you don't take a job like that. They may not have a lot of choice in America, but demanding that the person without kids works for you is antisocial.

There's those YTA trolls again! No, you're NTA!

Everyone should get equall footing when it comes to time off work or shifts being set. Your choice to not have children or indeed have children doesn’t impact on that footing. When you sign a contract with a business there’s no clause that says ‘you must surrender your holidays to a member of staff with children’, if it does say that, don’t sign it. What you do with your time off is your business and no-one else’s. Can’t imagine spending holidays without your children? Use PTO or change jobs, it’s not my job to look after your privileges.

Just because you don't have kids doesn't mean you don't have a family. We have parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, nieces, and nephews. We should be able to spend holidays with our family even if we don't have kids and not get guilt tripped over it.

Never mention your home life/dependants status at work. If it's too late cuz they already know, get involved with a local "big brothers/big sisters" program. Then you can talk about "being there for the kids" and it's not a lie. You shouldn't have to pretend kids are in your life when they're not but ...you also shouldn't have to say "I have a boyfriend/am married " to ward off an over enthusiastic person who is hitting on you, either.

YTA dingbuckets think kids = entitlement is allowed. Dean Ambrose-NOPE for you ding-dums. Ever heard of first come, first served? OP deserves he well-earned rest and if June and mentor decide to push the matter, I think it would be time to have a talk with their kids about entitlement, directly in front of them. People, SMH!!!

The YTA people are at it again.

Should have said I am scheduled to work Christmas, I will switch with you. You work my Christmas day for me and I will work Thanksgiving for you. If she said. No. Then refuse to work Thanksgiving for her.

My mother was a nurse for 33 years and she always had to work Christmas every year that I can remember. There were other nurses that did and didn't have kids. I don't really remember about Thanksgiving, bi guess she worked then took. People should have to take turns every year. For me in late Sept or early Oct the manager sends an email with the data ranges for thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year, you sent back your first and second choice

NTAH. They're not you kids, it's not your problem!

We used to have to work holidays too. I had kids but pretty much everyone else did too. I had one advantage. I'm not Christian and don't celebrate Christmas. My big day is the 21st of December. So, I always had that day off and worked Christmas day (for double time pay). It was a great place for holidays... we were a mixed bunch of Christian, Atheist, Jewish, Wiccan and Muslim. We celebrated all the holidays and learned from each other. It was wonderful.

People need to get over the exact day of certain holidays. Isn't it more about celebrating and being with friends and family than the specific day? If you celebrate a certain holiday on a different day, that should be ok. That IS how we got Summerween and Christmas in July, after all.

I went through this on the job until I achieved seniority and said no more. My family is just as important to me as their kids were to them. Their kids will have many holidays with them, but my elderly mom only had a limited number of holidays left in her lifetime.

I had to teach 8am classes because I don't have kids and faculty who have children need to drop them off at school in the morning. WTH?!? When they procreated, they accepted full responsibility for their children. Their children aren't my responsibility in the slightest. What would've happened if the university hired another prof with kids? Whatever that is, do it. Don't punish me b/c I don't have kids. But let's play the game. Those profs have a spouse to help and live nearby the uni. They have been teaching longer and know how to handle their household and do their job. I commuted an hour each way. I chose not to have kids b/c I'm an insomniac and know I don't want all that comes with their schooling and my job. There's 1,000 more reasons but these are way up there. I will gladly help out a prof with kids any other times. But my boss never sees me administering exams for a prof called into school over their kid, substitute teaching a prof's class if called away, etc.

The YTA people don't seem to register that they are asking this person to NEVER get to spend holiday time with their families. As an only child living in another city, I looked forward to traveling to spend time with my aging parents who had nobody else to spend the holiday with. It's so selfish and entitled to make one person miss every holiday so that another person gets to enjoy them all. Most families with kids have more than one parent, so there can be someone there for the kids. NTA

Let me reword it for you. Because I like raw dogging, I get all holidays off. Nah, keep bitching and I'll take Xmas off too.

I don't have kids. My department has two types of moms. Old enough where their kids are my age (40s). And young enough to be scared of me and not ask. Seriously, I would likely swap if asked. Only child and parents are gone...who am I gonna celebrate with? The cats? (okay, yes, of course the cats)

This is why they're called breeders, for their sense of entitlement, for their laziness, expecting to still get paid while others do their jobs for them. I hope the breeders have a crappy week and the OP has a great one with her FAMILY. One does not need to have a f_ck trophy for people to be deemed family.

In the workplace in question: down tools / go low productivity for Thanksgiving. Unless you're in a position where no-one on deck means somebody dies (see the nurse story), it's an option for management.

Please post the name of the company so we can avoiding applying for a job there. They actually expect child free people to work holidays first? That's such BS. I feel myself and my family are more important than you and yours in my heart and mind. And children don't change that equation. You're the one who chose to overpopulte the planet, don't force me to suffer for it.

Barring some military/security contracts, Any "normal" job that required 365 days of work is called slavery. Op needs to do their best to get out of the 3rd world country that allows for that. Or do a good old revolution against the slave owners.