While I am definitely in the NTA camp I should point out that actually no contraception is 100% effective and with some states making abortion illegal - it does leave women with very few options. (5 unplanned pregnancies does seem very unlikely though!)

By the way birth control fails.

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Not everyone wants to prevent pregnancy, some of us enjoy being parents and want to have children. The child free, permanently living like your 17 lifestyle (despite its current popularity) is not for everyone.

Honestly, I think OP including the information about her coworker's maternity and vacation leave was just background information. OP didn't seem to take issue with that, but only with her coworker's constant manipulation to avoid doing the parts of her job she didn't like, and using her kids as an excuse. I mean, if an employee is clearly saying, "I can't do my job because of my personal life," then there's a problem, right? The coworker isn't entitled to special treatment because of the decisions she made in her personal life. Nor is she entitled to demand that others cater to her because of those decisions.

There's a limit to other people's tolerance. FIVE kids means five times she's not there to support her co-workers.

Erm... No. The OP's coworker seems to push her responsibilities on others even when she is in the office. It would annoy me, too.

I believe the issue was that even with all the advantages her coworker had, she *still* wanted her coworkers to do her job for her. Plus the coworker wanted to know when others wanted time off in case *her* family wanted that time for themselves? That b!tch has way too many people kissing her greedy butt!

I agree the post came off like that, but in relation to the work done when the co-worker is around... If 1 person on a team is constantly only able to be in the office, the other team members pick more than their share of the site work. Some people might find site work preferrable to trawling through data but OP could be finding the site work more (or equally) taxing. Also when some of the companies being audited are out of your local area/city the site work could be impacting their private life. Parents with kids aren't the only ones who might want to be able to stay close to home. On top of that, OP states she is getting stick from co-workers for refusing to swap in office duties for being on site.

All text shared frustration about taking legal lives in very tailored and convenient time. I have coworker like that, he didn't care for his grandchild for sure because he was an alcoholic, but got a lot of perks and excuses for his lying. Parents could be manipulators and liers either. Plus, lady taking the job with possibility of travel, without intention to travel, what is scam. She got perks and paying but trying to escape responsibility. I am a mother and I just decline such job offers, and those offers usually better paid, what is realistic and fare from my point.

Skirting work is a pattern, and in this case it's pretty obvious. You can absolutely enjoy your entitlements without administrative punishment, but it doesn't absolve you of judgement. I've worked with many women expanding their families, but I've only worked with one that acted like the person in the OP and it was super clear she was doing it to skirt responsibility. After her third child and announcing her fourth pregnancy, she was transferred to another department where she only performed KTLO work. She challenged it but ultimately lost because, in those three pregnancies, she missed out on roughly a year and a half of experience. She was effectively basic part time support staff, because she "couldn't" ever engage in difficult matters.

I don't think she was criticizing the coworker for taking her entitled time off, so much as just trying to illustrate the fact that she doesn't really seem to care that much about her job.

No, she stated right out that this is the first time in *6 years!* that this woman isn't pregnant ("Oh, I can't do that, I might miscarry!") on maternity leave (not there) or on vacation (also not there). The woman's trying to weasel out of doing her job! I don't see any bias there, just total exasperation. She's NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANYONE ELSE'S LIFE CHOICES! They need someone who can carry her job weight, not a moocher who uses her kids as an excuse not to do something she doesn't like! That might be fine in private life (if you don't want any friends) but not on the job. I have more sympathy for the single mother who does her ob without complaint than I do for some fertile but brainless bimbo who can't or won't trust her husband. (Does she have 5 kids, or 6, I wonder.) This fertile cuckoo needs to pick up her slack or find a new job that caters to that sort of thing.

I agree entirely

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Agreed. As a Mom I get a little sick of the anti parent stigma that so many people have now days. I agree OP is not responsible for anyone's kids, but so many people are not taking into consideration that three weeks is a long time to not be able to see your children, and can be traumatic for younger children. I feel that the Mother could be shown a little more compassion.