I'm amused by her "All my successful relationships started...". Sister, you're single, all of your previous relationships have failed.

A park is a no pressure and no expectation dates. He is not trying get you inebriated and take advantage of you.

What the heck is "too old" for a park?? I'm older than her and I go to the park at least one a week to sit and read or watch the world go by and decompress. The rain is a legitimate concern but like... that's such an easy change of plans if and when it does become a problem. okay, it's raining, let's go for a coffee instead. Then again performing for people exhausts me, so any date that's "let's dress like we usually do and go somewhere with no expectations or time limit (max or min!) is exactly the kind of date I'd love. It sounds like these two are just incompatible fairly soon out of the gate, so really it's probably a good thing, long run, that they both found that out quickly.

This is the low key let's just get to know each other that makes sense to me. A relaxed park date with no expectations from either side, that's how you know the other person is there just to be with you. All these saying he is stingy and it should be a dinner etc, need to look in a mirror. Are you after a bit of spoiling, having your meal paid for or are you interested in getting to know another person and seeing if just being near each other is comfortable and there is an actual attraction?

All of my successful relationships? They all failed. Some success rate. Maybe look at why. I can see one reason already. No sense of adventure or imagination. Unreasonable expectations is another. Looking at his wallet vs the possibility of meeting someone cool. A park is a relaxed environment. You don't have to dress up fancy or be in a loud crowded restaurant or club. You need to take a closer look at this opportunity. Did he say anything about which park? No. Did he tell you about what you are doing? No. Could be coffee or a picnic. Is this the only place you are going? Maybe not. You just met this guy for heavens sake and you expect a stranger to give you the world on a silver platter. You barely know each other. A park is not just for kids and since you don't know each other it's a place that's different from most ppls choices and also a public space. I can already tell you are going to continue to be single if you don't change your way of thinking. Enjoy lonely life

He wants to get to know her with no distractions, not pay for her time with food. Sounds like someone who is looking for a LTR, not an occasional night on the town.

My take is that he's being considerate and keeping the date in a public place for a reason.

I found it weird that the comments what laugged at his park idea immediately considered it solely a money issue. Even if it is, it says more about them than it does the guy. That the only good date is one where money is spent on them. GROW UP. FFS.

This is a filter. Every person does this when dating. You first have to talk to someone before committing to anything. Half the people giving advice and saying he is cheap are the exact type of people the man is trying to filter out.

He's probably trying to weed out gold digging whores. Looks like it's working.

One of the nicest dates I ever had was walking round the park with an ice cream. It was at the tail end of lockdowns in the UK so there weren't many other places to go. Low pressure, nice and peaceful. It didn't lead to a relationship but it was a great way to get to talk to someone without constant distractions or noise that you'd get in a restaurant or pub.

I think this sounds like a perfect second date!

I'd have said "should i bring my dog?"

I think this is a great second date. I would say, "I would love to. Should I bring anything? I can pick us up coffees on the way." I am calling my partner right now to see if he wants to meet up and sit in the park this evening.

A month after our first date, I took her to my nephew's wedding. Afterwards we went to a hilltop park and watched the sun set. She was perfectly content to just sit there for an hour and watch. We've been married 22 years in August.

Meh, he's not an ATM. This is for him to screen her out.... Plus they went somewhere fancy on the first date....

Don't see an issue ....Dating is a way to find a match. This just isn't one.

This guy is smart. What a great way to rule out the superficial and gold-digging types. My first date with my husband was at a dog park. We stayed until dark, long after our dogs were ready to go home.. At dusk, there was a double rainbow and I knew he was the one. This woman is less interested in getting to know the guy than getting treated to fancy meals in a vain attempt for validation. My husband and I are still happily, happily married after 11 years.

What if he’d planned something special there? Like a home prepped picnic, he could be a ‘foodie’.

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If the woman wanted a picnic, then take the initiative and bring some or suggest it. I would love this, sit in a public place, people watch and comment on people. That way you can get an idea if a person’s humour, morals etc. match with yours.

If you don’t like his date suggestion, what is preventing you from inviting him out to dinner? He would probably love it if you offered to treat him to dinner.

"Oh no I'm not getting another free meal"

Well he found out what he wanted to know. personally first date should be the park second one is someplace nice.

This kind of depends on the purpose here; if they’re both looking for a relationship, focused time to get to know each other is great, and it could be a sign that he feels comfortable with her. If they’re just seeing each other casually, something more specific (is there music in the park that day?” makes more sense. If I were her, I’d plan a potential something -that I would pay for - after the park. Something that isn’t set in stone, in case he’s not free longer, but shows I can take the lead also.