That's how it starts, small, negligible, little by little. People who murder don't have many outer signs and you recognise them by their looks only in movies.

i kno how she feels honestly. my ex told me i should put my dog down bc he was 15 and had cancer. not only was my dog my best friend but the cancer didnt cause him pain. it was in his nose and all it did was cause him bloody sneezes and nose drips as well as loss of smell. i was eating meals that he can have as well so he would eat and making life comfortable for him. i think my ex was actually jealous of that. anyways i said no and while he was over and i was making dinner i saw he went to kick my dog. i pushed him away from my dog and i got punched in the shoulder. wouldve been my face if i hadnt moved out of the way but still. i picked up my dog ran to my room locked myself in and called the cops. he was arrested and a month later i met my now husband who helped me care for my little best friend for the next 2 years. he died in his sleep at 17 in his giant oversized bed using his favorite bear stuffed animal as a pillow. crazy part about everything is my dogs name was brandy and my husband adopted his dog a month before we met and her name is also brandy. i see alot of my dog in her sometimes even tho shes a she and 60lbs not 15lbs lol. as for my ex he moved to a different state got a girl knocked up and is married to her. ive blocked him in every way so my friend told me. she said he looks miserable but the girl is happy. im just happy my little best friend got to meet my now husband and got to go peacefully surrounded by ppl who care and his favorite stuffed animal (which i still have and keep by my pillow).

I hope he lives a very, VERY long and rotten life behind bars. Hopefully he dies in prison, alone, at 105 years old. I hope no one will miss him. I hope his cremains are flushed down the nastiest toilet in that whole place and everyone celebrates the fact that he's dead. I know this sounds harsh, but some people don't deserve forgiveness and some actions (such as taking a human life) cannot be redeemed no matter what.

I'm not abusive but it just seems like trying to get rid of someone's pet, especially one that's been around for over a decade, a stupid manipulation tactic. How is that EVER going to look good for you?

Wow, that poor girl really dodged a bullet hail here. I hope Lady is still going strong and healthy for many more years by her side.

I felt like I was reading my past. I'm still shaking. So so so so happy OP got out. So so so sad for the new girlfriend's death. I hope her family finds some peace in Adam's conviction. And yeah, rot in hell, Adam. F*ck you.

Yeah f**k you Adam!!!!

Burn in hell, Adam!!! Burn in the deepest, darkest, most unforgiving parts of purgatory!!!

Murder is a natural progression of violence.

This story is old and OP has moved on but I hope it serves as a cautionary tale for anyone finding themselves in controlling relationships. If you have friends and family who care about you, pay attention when they see red flags you do not. The details of my story are different but TLDR is I wish I had taken that advice when I was younger. Also, as an ex-horse owner - RHHEEEEEEEEEE!!!! at "kill your horse".

Wow.

Who would think he'd do such a thing? But if you think about it it makes sense. Controlling, wants her to put a defenseless animal to sleep simply because she *spends too much time with it*. She indeed dodged a bullet here.

Sometimes it takes strangers to point things out to you. You think the people closest to you are biased, and it's sometimes easy to ignore them. The objectivity that strangers provide can make things clear to you. I'm so glad she got out of that relationship, but I feel absolutely terrible for the next woman. F**k you, Adam.

Yea Adam. Die

You still feel some guilt, but please, don't! You are not , nor have you been, responsible for his behavior. EVER!!! He i the only one responsible for his behavior, no matter how awful it is, and you should never feel guilty for saving yourself. One thing that worries me, is why you never thought to leave when he began to show these scary behaviors and why you felt you couldn't leave. Even if he convinced you to stay at times. You learned somewhere, from someone, you didn't deserve a healthy relationship with a man. Please address this issue/ problem in therapy. You need to break this pattern and build up your self esteem and confidence. Some episode triggered your behavior as a " victim". But you don't need to be a victim. You are a survivor. Work on this in therapy, please! You deserve the best!

Please don't beat yourself over not getting in touch with that poor girl. Chances are she hadn't been with him long enough to see that side of him, and wouldn't have listened to you. F Adam

WTAF? I am always a believer in things happening for a reason. While giving credit to the Reddit community also give credit to Lady. If she had not been in your life, you very well could have been at risk for being killed. Hang on to that horse and give her lots of treats and hugs for saving your life.

I'd PUT HIM Down!🔥

That escalated with a twist. She's lucky she got out of there when she did. I feel bad for the girlfriend got murdered though. ☹️ And, yes, F you Adam!

Wow!

Wow. So glad she got out. I was in one of those relationships for about 3 years... I'm an outgoing optimistic person so I dismissed most of the isolation comments but it still happened over time. He didn't like that my best friend was a guy but would just say that there was something he didn't like about the guy. Over time it becomes easier to not talk to the person unfortunately. It got a lot worse after birth of our son, i wasn't working anymore and after a while cut me off of gas money and i had to provide receipts for food etc. He was more responsible with money than i was, it was one of the things i liked about him when we met. Owned his own house etc while i was still renting. Then he started commenting on my post baby weight. Last straw him slapping me, i left the next day. I kept tabs on his families social media and warned the girl he started dating but she wouldn't listen until he started hitting her. Then she left. Please heed the isolation warnings, it leads to worse!

There is an animal in this story that should be put down. The horse ain't it.

That is a terrifying situation. Even worse when you can't get out of it.

Dump and ruuuuuuuuun

This guy was a walking red flag even before the later added knowledge. :( I am so glad my husband is the biggest green flag. I haven't ridden in 15 years but told him about how much I miss horses, sadly no fitting stables nearby. We married and 2 months later we got a horse together from Spain, he started taking riding lessons to see what I was talking about and maybe one day "get a 2nd horse so we can ride together". He learnt how to take care of a horse, cleans the stables one day a week with me (everyone in the stable does one day) and loves our horse and positive reinforcement dearly - always making sure she gets the best, feels her best and never knows a single bad thing in her young life (we had her the day before she turned 4 till now, 6 1/2). He wants to start lessons against next spring (weather is bad here) and I hope OP finds a man like this one day - supporting each other and just loving life no matter what it throws at them. :)

Lady is very lucky to have this girl. Wonderful read, and just to make it an even three: F*CK YOU, ADAM.

And then the next sentence better be and then she was single and spent every waking moment with her horse

Ah... This story... hearing that particular common male name: "Adam"... Brings me back to memories of my own abuse with a boy named Adam. God that name is so heavily tainted... Bless this girl, for still being alive and I hope she finds more peace with her life, but for also having a loving animal family member that makes her happy! With friends and family right behind her back that share her interests and hobbies in horsemanship.

Sometimes it's hard to see the forest for the trees. Thank God you got out and are safe. It's going to be hard to process what happened to the next girl, that's tragic. Good luck with Lady! Oh, and f¥¢€ you Adam.

Thank you reddit. And thanks OP for having a open mind and reacting immediately.

Jesus Christ that was a roller coaster. I hope OP and Lady get to have many more years together, and I agree: fück you Adam.

If there is in fact a hell,I'm sure that ambulatory heap of s**t will rot in it.Until then,prison will have to do.I'm glad the OP got rid of the guy before it was too late,and she was wise to alert the owner of the stable,as I have no doubt that if the sicko could murder a girlfriend,he'd have no qualms at all about killing a horse that he viewed as competition.