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Bride-To-Be Wants Stepsister’s Heirloom Diamond For Engagement Ring, But Grandpa Says “No Way”
Is blood really thicker than water? Sure, until someone gets tempted by something shiny—like an heirloom diamond that could spark a family drama faster than you can say “bling.” It’s funny how a little sparkle can mess up even the closest familial relationships. When everyone’s got their eye on the same jewel, all bets are off.
One Redditor knows this very well, as she tried to protect her grandpa from handing over his sentimental and valuable diamond to the wrong person.
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Grandpa won’t give his daughter’s stepsister his heirloom diamond for her engagement as she’s not “blood” related, but offers it to his granddaughter
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The granddaughter doesn’t want to alter the diamond as she knows how precious it is to her grandpa, asks him to make a necklace out of it instead
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Grandpa offers the diamond to his granddaughter for her engagement ring, but she doesn’t want it as it doesn’t match her style, but says she’ll wear a necklace instead
Image credits: The Glorious Studio (not the actual photo)
The woman’s stepsister gets engaged too and wants the diamond for herself, but grandpa won’t give it to her as she is not blood related to him
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The woman gets pressured by stepmom and stepsis to ask grandpa for his precious diamond for an engagement ring, refuses to do so, as she knows how much it means to him
The poster of this story, a 25-year-old woman, who we’ll just call Diana, had a pretty normal life. Her parents were divorced, and her dad remarried. His wife brought along two daughters of her own with her, Katie and Sam, who dad embraced as his own.
But not all family members were so open to the stepmom and siblings. You see, Diana’s grandfather was a bit of a stickler when it came to family. For him, family meant “blood”, not stepsiblings. He had this diamond, a precious family heirloom that survived World War II, tucked away for safekeeping. But this wasn’t just any diamond – it was a piece of his mother and sister, who he tragically lost. So, understandably, the diamond was more than just a shiny rock for grandpa.
As Diana was the only biological granddaughter, everyone always assumed the diamond would eventually find its way to her. When she got engaged, grandpa offered her the diamond, but she didn’t want it for her ring. Shocking, right?
But before you gasp in horror, she had her reasons. The diamond wasn’t her style, and she didn’t want to alter it as she knew how much it meant to her grandfather. So, being a considerate granddaughter, she asked him to save it for a necklace instead, something she could wear on her wedding day. Grandpa was on board, and all was well in heirloom land. That is until Katie entered the scene.
Katie, one of Diana’s stepsisters, was on the brink of engagement. So, her mom figured she’d ask grandpa to hand over that diamond for her ring. Makes sense, right? Wrong. Grandpa’s response was a solid, “Not even over my dead body.” He was keeping that diamond strictly in the bloodline, no exceptions.
Katie, her mom and even Diana’s dad were fuming, saying that Katie was as much a part of the family as anyone. And, since Diana didn’t use the diamond for her ring, what would be the harm in passing it to Katie? They were convinced that if Diana asked her grandfather to give up his rock, he might relent. And they were probably right.
But, some things in life are just priceless, like family heirlooms. They aren’t just valuable because of their price tag, but also due to their sentimental worth, that can’t be measured in any currency. Family heirlooms are reminders of the past, of loved ones who are no longer with us, and of the memories we have with our families.
However, grandpa’s diamond had both a very high price tag and an emotional significance. So, he just wanted to make sure that his family’s legacy would live on through generations, by keeping it in the bloodline and not giving it to Katie.
An article on the significance of family heirlooms explains the importance of passing down the heirloom to the right person. “The act of passing down an heirloom is a gesture of trust and respect. Additionally, it signifies the acknowledgment of the recipient’s importance in carrying forward the family’s legacy. As the new custodians, their task is to preserve the memory of those who came before.” So, it’s understandable why grandpa was so keen on keeping his treasured diamond in the family.
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Diana ended up being bombarded with texts and calls from Katie, her stepmom and her dad, all expressing how hurt they were that she was “excluding” Katie from the family. They argued that Diana already had her ring, so what would be the big deal about sharing the diamond love? That sounds a bit like guilt-tripping, doesn’t it?
Guilt-tripping is a sneaky and manipulative tactic that can make even the strongest person give in. It works by making you feel responsible for someone else’s feelings or actions, twisting your thoughts and feelings until you’re second-guessing your decisions.
Experts explain that “A guilt trip means causing another person to feel guilt or a sense of responsibility to change their behavior or take a specific action. Because guilt can be such a powerful motivator of human behavior, people can wield it as a tool to change how others think, feel, and behave.”
For Diana, the guilt wasn’t just about the diamond – it was about the family ties that were being pulled tighter and tighter by Katie and her mom. She knew that giving in would mean compromising her values and betraying her grandpa’s trust, and that was a line she wasn’t willing to cross.
What are your thoughts on this story? Do you think Diana was a jerk for refusing to pressure her grandfather to give her stepsister the family diamond? Let us know in the comments.
People in the comments say that the woman is not a jerk for not asking her grandpa to give her stepsister the diamond, and they should respect the fact that he wants to keep it in the family
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TribbleThinking 4 months ago
As per Yoda - Presumptuous gold digger the stepsister is. Heirloom gifts should be freely given. The Keeper of the heirloom decides. Leave the elderly gentleman alone. Shame on you. It says a lot about a person who would happily prance around with the ring after pressuring an elderly person to part with it. Each flash of it on her finger would just shout "I'm filthy and unprincipled".
Sunny Day 4 months ago
Grandpa doesn't see it as "his" diamond. He is merely holding it in trust for the first female descendant of the owner, his mother. Katie, Sam, & Laura need to shake their own family tree for baubles to wear.
Lyoness 2 months ago
I'm now imagining 3 women dressed in spangly gold cocktail dresses with bad, poufy bleach blonde hair shaking the hell out of a skinny little tree. Thanks for the visual!
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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 4 months ago
When my mom went back to school, she took some genealogy courses. She ended up tracing the family tree (Dad's side, too), back for a few hundred years. Over the years, Mom took the basic genealogy and personalized it for everyone in the family. One year for Christmas, she gave everyone their personal genealogy, made in a folder with stories and pictures. My dad's family had a family Bible, which came with the branch of his family that emigrated to the U.S. Grandpa had it, and when he died, I found it and kept it in my parents' house. The same year she gave the genealogies, Mom gave that Bible to my oldest male cousin with children, to pass on our heritage for the next generation. Why my cousin? Because his wife took his name, the family name. Could Mom have given it to his older sister, who also had kids? Yes, but his sister took her husband's name. It was about the name. I get this grandpa. It's about the genes. It's the genes tying Grandpa's lost family and his granddaughter. It's not meant as a brush-off to the step, or that he doesn't love her. She just doesn't have the genes.
V 4 months ago (edited)
See, I would have given it to the older daughter because she took her husband's name. It's easier for the men's male descendants to trace their lineage because they don't often change their family name, it's harder for women so having a book would make it easier. But that's just me and my overthinking, lol. ETA I was also raised by grandparents that weren't my biological grandparents, but left their step grandchildren the same equal share as their biological ones when they passed, so they have absolutely altered the way I personally think of family.
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TribbleThinking 4 months ago
As per Yoda - Presumptuous gold digger the stepsister is. Heirloom gifts should be freely given. The Keeper of the heirloom decides. Leave the elderly gentleman alone. Shame on you. It says a lot about a person who would happily prance around with the ring after pressuring an elderly person to part with it. Each flash of it on her finger would just shout "I'm filthy and unprincipled".
Sunny Day 4 months ago
Grandpa doesn't see it as "his" diamond. He is merely holding it in trust for the first female descendant of the owner, his mother. Katie, Sam, & Laura need to shake their own family tree for baubles to wear.
Lyoness 2 months ago
I'm now imagining 3 women dressed in spangly gold cocktail dresses with bad, poufy bleach blonde hair shaking the hell out of a skinny little tree. Thanks for the visual!
Load More Replies... Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 4 months ago
When my mom went back to school, she took some genealogy courses. She ended up tracing the family tree (Dad's side, too), back for a few hundred years. Over the years, Mom took the basic genealogy and personalized it for everyone in the family. One year for Christmas, she gave everyone their personal genealogy, made in a folder with stories and pictures. My dad's family had a family Bible, which came with the branch of his family that emigrated to the U.S. Grandpa had it, and when he died, I found it and kept it in my parents' house. The same year she gave the genealogies, Mom gave that Bible to my oldest male cousin with children, to pass on our heritage for the next generation. Why my cousin? Because his wife took his name, the family name. Could Mom have given it to his older sister, who also had kids? Yes, but his sister took her husband's name. It was about the name. I get this grandpa. It's about the genes. It's the genes tying Grandpa's lost family and his granddaughter. It's not meant as a brush-off to the step, or that he doesn't love her. She just doesn't have the genes.
V 4 months ago (edited)
See, I would have given it to the older daughter because she took her husband's name. It's easier for the men's male descendants to trace their lineage because they don't often change their family name, it's harder for women so having a book would make it easier. But that's just me and my overthinking, lol. ETA I was also raised by grandparents that weren't my biological grandparents, but left their step grandchildren the same equal share as their biological ones when they passed, so they have absolutely altered the way I personally think of family.
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