Dating these days is like ordering a salad and getting a three-course meal with a side of drama. One minute, you’re just looking for some casual fun, and the next, you’re knee-deep in a melodrama that would put daytime TV to shame. Imagine thinking you’re in for a simple fling and suddenly you’re tangled in a mess of lavish gifts, mixed signals, and a Reddit “Am I the A-hole?” dilemma.

If you believe your love life is complicated, wait until you read this story. Buckle up, as this one takes the cake in romantic chaos.

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Woman casually dates guy who showers her with expensive gifts, but breaks things off with him when things get serious, causing him to ask for his gifts back

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The woman tells the guy in the beginning that she is only looking for a casual hookup not a serious relationship and he agrees to the arrangement, but ends up wanting more

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The man starts giving expensive jewelry and other gifts to the woman, which she accepts since the first round of gifts came on her birthday

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The woman breaks things off with the man, as he quickly becomes infatuated with her, demanding constant affection from her

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The man accuses the woman of using him for his affection and gifts, demanding she give back the expensive jewelry he gifted her

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The woman refuses to give back the expensive earrings the man gifted her, saying he shouldn’t ask for a gift back just because things didn’t turn out as he expected

Jill, (not her real name, but let’s roll with it) swiped right on “Bob”. From day one, she made it crystal clear: she was only in it for a good time, not a serious thing. Bob was also down for the fun ride. And for a while, it was all sunshine and fun times, with a friends-with-benefits vibe. That was until Bob started playing Santa’s helper.

Here’s where things get juicy. Bob, despite the casual dating agreement, started showering Jill with gifts. And not just any gifts – think bling, fancy dinners, and show tickets. Jill, initially excited about the gifts, accepted them, especially since the first wave hit on her birthday. After that, she tried to pump the brakes on Bob’s generosity, but he was persistent, and it was becoming glaringly obvious that he was catching feelings for her, big time.

Bob’s affection level very quickly skyrocketed, and he started demanding daily texts and constant attention from Jill. But she was sensing the storm brewing, so she decided it was time to cut ties. She laid it out for Bob, saying he wanted more than she could offer, and she was not about to change her mind.

After the breakup, the two met again, by chance. As Bob spotted Jill, he decided it was the perfect time to ask for the expensive earrings he had given her back. His logic? Since he spent a lot of money on them, he should get them back to give to someone who’d actually reciprocate his affection. Jill refused, stating that a gift is a gift, and it wasn’t fair for him to expect them back just because he didn’t get the outcome he wanted. We’re wondering how many previous owners those earrings had.

Bob flipped out, accusing Jill of playing him and using him for his affections and his gifts, so Jill turned to the internet, asking if she’s the A-hole for keeping the earrings. Most folks side with Jill, pointing out that she was upfront from the start. Bob knew the deal but decided to up the ante with gifts anyway. One user nails it, saying, “Just because you’re showering someone with gifts doesn’t entitle you to their affection.” Another chimes in, “If a gift has strings attached, then it’s not a gift. He should learn that.”

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Now, while Bob’s feelings might have been genuine, they don’t give him the right to demand the gifts back. Besides, gifts should be given out of genuine affection and not as means to manipulate someone into a deeper relationship.

Usually, gift-giving is a gesture of generosity and a way to show someone you love or appreciate them. However, sometimes these gifts come with hidden expectations, turning what should be a simple act of kindness into a tool for manipulation. Experts advise that when accepting a gift, consider whether there are any strings attached behind it. Does the giver have a history of making unreasonable demands or expecting something in return? In some cases, it may be better to refuse a gift than to have to deal with hidden expectations later.

“It can be unpleasant to refuse a gift, but if you stay polite, even formal, you can do it. It helps to stay focused on the long term. Taking something now means giving something later. If you’re not prepared to be indebted to this person, the best thing to do is to deal with the discomfort of refusing a gift,” experts explain.

It would have probably been a good idea for Jill to not accept any of Bob’s gifts, as it was clear that she was not reciprocating his strong feelings for her.

According to experts, “Unrequited love is a common occurrence, but that doesn’t make the pain less real. Studies have shown that your brain reacts to rejection the same way it does to physical pain. This form of love isn’t emotionally fulfilling or healthy, so it’s important to protect your mental health while going through it.”

Sometimes, unrequited love can mess up our perceptions of the person who is the subject of our affection so much that we might overlook their lack of interest. “Unrequited love can distort your ideas about the person you’re in love with. You may be so caught up in your romantic thoughts for this person that it’s hard to notice they don’t feel the same,” experts explain.

So, what’s your take on this drama-packed story? Was Jill wrong for keeping the earrings? Drop your thoughts in the comments! Let’s hear your nuggets of wisdom.

Netizens side with the woman saying she’s not a jerk for keeping the earrings, as she was clear from the start about her intentions

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