Why not include the update? I took this advice and told him that I love him and his family but I have to opt out. It’s something that’s been brought up a few times over the years, so saying “no” wasn’t a last minute decision, I’ve had thought about it for awhile, and I told him this. Also explained that I do plan on having a family of my own one day, and my own Mother is currently battling cancer, so I am just not in the mind set to donate and feel comfortable doing so. I didn’t want to lie, and tell the screener to lie for me, because I’d have to live with knowing I pretended to help him. He took it well, he joked with me, said it’s okay and he understands, but I still feel awful. Especially since one of our friends in the group chat (that we only recently got close with) offered to donate to his sister, but not me, his best friend of 15 years. I just cant and won’t do it, and now he knows that about me. I really should’ve lied, for his and for our friendship’s sake, but living a lie

The hospital won't even lie when they call 'no match,' even if the genetics or blood-type or whatever it is that has to match adds up. A real match means the donor knows that there is a realistic, in some situations even larger risk to their health than to the receiver's health, that the heavy surgery and recovery may be in vain, because the kidney will be rejected after all (for whatever reason). The hospital also knows that a donor who is not fully in to this will suffer even more severely psychologically, causing more stress on the body and therefore more risk while recovering, especially when that kidney does get rejected. There are even more factors which may call for 'not a match' than that. Basically, a donor has to be willing to risk dying or becoming chronically ill for life, for the chance that the receiver will have a better life.

On top of all the other comments, who is going to pay for this surgery IF he matched and chose to go through it? His insurance won't cover it, is the sister going to pay?

If they ask once and the OP said no, that is it, end of discussion. The OP has a RIGHT to bodily autonomy, and NOBODY gets to violate it. If they ask a second time (or more) it is harassment and they are ash soles.

This is just wildly inappropriate. You don't just ask randoms to give up organs and significantly change their own lives for a stranger. Just say no.

Bored Panda should be remaned as S****y Panda. Down voting this content as it's another of the many negative content on Bored Panda, which is far from what their mission states, "The mission is to spread good news and highlight top artists from around the world." Case in point is this post and many more which are about deception, personal problems, grudges arguments, cheating, divorce, getting back at others. In general it's becoming increasingly negative. SAD

Ask yourself this, would she offer to be tested or donate her kidney if the situation were reversed? Most likely not, hells bells she can't or won't acknowledge you even after all those years and you being her brother's best friend! Sorry, NOPE!

I would ask the sister what she had against me. Then go from there depending on what she had to say.

NTA: NO ONE had the right to demand an organ from you or shame pressure you if you say no. YOUR BODY! Go take the test, tell the doctors the truth (you're being pressured to donate when you really don't want to) & they will simply say you're not a match. By the by, the picture with this story is DECEITFUL! This is not for an 8YO girl - SHE'S A 21YO ENTITLED BRAT!

I don't think honesty is best here. I know people want to believe the best in others, but people facing a crisis will do and say things that they shouldn't, and it has long lasting consequences. They may pressure out of desperation, and regret it. They may feel deeply hurt, by your refusal, even if rationally they know it's unfair of them to feel that way. I think the suggestions to tell nurses/doctors you're being pressured, and have them declare not a match is the best way *IF* YOU KNOW you won't carry guilt for lying. I don't think it's always good to lie, but I do think people need to stop pressuring that lying is always bad, because people are way more complex than that kind of black and white thinking.