The last two comments on the first page are ridiculous, she has to go back to work at some point anyway, she has an eight month old baby and two other children and she's not being paid anything though providing 40 hours of two extra children with no supplies. They're taking the p**s! She really needed to spend time with her own children but added two extra full time. She also only wanted a fraction of what they'd have paid at daycare. They're also lied and haven't even bothered to get their kids into another daycare. SHE HAS TO GO BACK TO WORK AT SOME POINT anyway. Can't believe anyone would think this woman was wrong. Their reaction to being asked to PROVIDE for them is disgusting and have burnt their bridges because of name calling over a reasonable amount. As for the rest of the family, they need to offer to do this or shut up! I'll lay money on it that there's no way most people would look after two kids when they have three kids and for free full time. Fools for their reaction !

Looks like we have two volunteers! Both ESHs can go ahead and take the kids.

Whenever someone says you have to do this because we’re family, that usually means they know they’re in the wrong and they know they’re taking advantage of you. Just because you’re “family” doesn’t mean you have to be their doormat.

Nope, only people SH are the brother and his wife. They refuse to get daycare, refuse to cover their own kids and then blow it up on social media. I really like what Catlore said about how to respond online.

Sorry, but 2 months is a long time to be asked to watch someone's kids. It really shouldn't take more than 2 weeks to find an alternative. It's perfectly reasonable not to ask for money in this situation for a couple of weeks. But after two months, you damn well better start paying. Being family will only extend you so far. And the moment you become an unnecessary burden, the obligation ends. And now that they behavior has become so insanely out of line and they've doubled down by airing it all in public, they can take a flying leap at this point along with anyone defending them without bothering to hear your side.

Of course - out came the "but family " guilt trip cards. Ppl love pulling those when they have no other way to defend their action. God I hate when ppl do that. It irritates the p**s out of me! It also has the opposite result than desired because I know they are 100%in the wrong. These ppl were taking advantage of you. They had no intention of paying for child care because they had a sweet deal with "family ". They were told that she wasn't going to be a permanent child care center for those kids.This was temporary. On top of that everything that she does for their kids is out of her pocket and life is pretty expensive at the present time. On top of that, she's home after having a child with serious medical complications. I bet that doesn't help. Eventually they would have had to find another solution because she will be back at work,then what? They were scum for what they did writing a twisted tale on social media. You've done more than enough for them for long enough. Now for all the little flying monkeys who are giving you such a hard time about not continuing to sit for their kids, if they have so much time to run their mouth and are so worried about the kids ,tell them to use that time to make space in their homes and babysit the kids as well. If not tell them to pound sand

If OP's brother wasn't an AH he would have offered her money for taking care of his children when he first told her that his daycare closed and they needed someone to watch the children. Then he doubled down by getting upset when she asked him for help with expenses.

Lazy for being home 8 months????? Civilised countries give a year's paid leave.

The mental gymnastics of "you're an a**e for asking for moneyn(even though the amount you asked for literally just covers the food and whatnot that you are supplying), but also your brother is in a**e for not offering you money for food and whatnot" like, wtf?? I honestly don't know if people are just f*****g idiots these days, or if everyone is just so afraid of offending people (or being down voted) that they tie themselves in knots trying to be equitable. JfC.

Social media works both ways. If your complaint is those childish losers are throwing a public tantrum... out them, in full, relentless, brutal ways on your and their socials. Then let them know this is the end of your friendship and to kindly never. ever. contact you again. Because youve got no time for childish two faced lying victim complex manipulative ungrateful garbage. Scorched earth.

Will she conveniently have a day cay when her sil goes back to work? NTA, but if you aren't going to get paid, keep track of the hours you watch her kids and tell her she'll pay you what she paid you.

Ingrowntoenailer you are the AH here. Had the