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“They’ve Tried Over 20 Babysitters”: Woman Refuses To Babysit Sister’s Kids While She Gives Birth
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“They’ve Tried Over 20 Babysitters”: Woman Refuses To Babysit Sister’s Kids While She Gives Birth

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When family members need help, it gives us a great opportunity to show them how much we love them. However, after Reddit user Last_Exit_2813 was asked to babysit her sister’s daughters, she refused.

In her candid post on ‘Am I the [Jerk]?‘, the woman explained that her sister wouldn’t take no for an answer and, after stating that she was virtually the only candidate for the job, demanded an in-depth discussion in an attempt to convince her to change her mind.

But again, the Redditor refused. Now, as the tensions between them are rising, she’s turning to the internet to find out if she might be in the wrong.

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    But her sister isn’t taking “no” for an answer

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    Bored Panda’s parenting expert Vicki Broadbent says that if someone finds themselves constantly looking for childcare, they need to consider making a long-term plan

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    Our parenting expert, an award-winning TV broadcaster and author, Vicki Broadbent thinks that boundaries are critical in these situations so that nobody feels taken advantage of. Plus, your chances are probably the greatest when you’re offering trades, not issuing demands.

    “If you are seeking regular childcare or support, consider formulating a plan with family and friends, asking if they require payment or an exchange/sharing of responsibilities, whether that’s a carpool or you supporting your parents and friends in other ways that might benefit them, so the setup feels fair,” Vicki Broadbent, who runs the popular family lifestyle blog Honest Mum, told Bored Panda.

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    Similarly, she believes people have the right to refuse. “It is the prerogative of family members to state if they can’t help, and they must feel comfortable and free to do so. It does, of course, take a village to raise a child, as the African proverb wisely states, but not everyone has the means or time to help.”

    “Again, honest conversations are key […] so that expectations can be managed and perspectives can be explained carefully on both sides,” Broadbent, who is the author of Mumboss (UK) and The Working Mom (US and Canada), added.

    “Mothers in particular are facing huge inequalities in the workplace where childcare costs are preventing them from working or reentering the workplace after having children. Family members helping can assist parents in that respect in a life-changing way, but finding a way of structuring that help if it’s available and being reasonable is key. Perhaps you can divide the help from family members with a nursery in a way that respects the relative and also makes financial sense.”

    Sibling rivalry isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it can get out of hand

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    As for the sibling rivalry, according to Claire McCarthy, MD, who is a primary care pediatrician at Boston Children’s Hospital and an assistant professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School, it is a very normal feature of family life and can sometimes help to push children to be better.

    However, too much of it can have lasting effects on how children view themselves and their relationships.

    In fact, a 2021 study on family dynamics links sibling bullying to a lower sense of competence, self-esteem, and general life satisfaction in young adults. Earlier research found that being bullied by a sibling also doubled the risk of depression and self-harm in early adulthood.

    While the mother of the girls might not think of their fights and insults as bullying, the reality is that it can nonetheless feel that way to the children.

    Whatever the case might be, the author of the post seems to honestly believe that the children are too much for her to handle. And the number of babysitters who have already stopped working for the family might suggest there’s some truth to the idea that these girls are more difficult than some of their peers.

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    But 44% of American parents say they have a lot of support from friends or extended family when it comes to raising their children. An additional 39% say they have “some.” Hopefully, the pregnant mother will find a way to get the help that she needs.

    As people reacted to her story, the woman provided more information on the conflict

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    Many said she didn’t do anything wrong

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    But some believe she could’ve found a way to help

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    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe the YTAs should sit those kids and find out why at least 25 people refuse to sit them AGAIN.

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also unlimited screen time most definitely not an option. Lazy parenting at best.

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    Trillian
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Instead of having more kids maybe they should work on the issue with the ones they already have. Also if there are difficulties during birth there is exactly zero the dad can do to help. So he might as well watch his unmanageable daughters.

    Rebecca A. Corvello
    Community Member
    Premium
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who wants to guess that HE can't handle them/won't handle them either?

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    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What are they doing having another kid when they clearly can't handle the ones they already have? Even if 20 baby sitters is an exaggeration, more than one or two is not normal. Also, violent aggressive behaviour from siblings is a great reason not to bring a helpless sibling in. If sister and her partner were really working on things, it would be different, but the more distance from them them and their kids, the better.

    LynnSynn
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am the oldest of six and the only one without children. I have helped my siblings in the past, but as I got older I just didn't want to watch children anymore. I started telling them $200 per night per child. They stopped asking. I will help in an emergency. But I am done babysitting.

    Misa Ashizuri
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's easy to get burned out on caregiving. You get taken for granted and treated as disposable.

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    Zenozenobee
    Community Member
    3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sister doesn't want a "sit down and in-depth discussion". She wants to convince OP.

    Frances Hill
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too bad sister doesn't put the energy she is using trying to convince her to babysit, into making her daughters act like human beings. The hell with huggings, next time the screaming and throwing starts, get a wooden spoon and apply it to their butts. This bs of "I would never strike my child" is just that, bs. Get a wooden spoon.

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    Alexandra
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why did they have a 3rd child when the children they already have are horrible to each other? People who don't want children are often called selfish, but people with children are sometimes not less so.

    MR
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, this won't end well. Why on earth would you add a third child to the mix when you can't even parent the two you have? I don't know what's more unhinged, these two "parents" having another child or those yta people who think OP should suffer because her sister is an idiot. Either way, not your circus, not your monies. You owe her nothing. No is an answer.

    Janice
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why the either/or for therapy? It sounds like the whole family needs to be in therapy. It isn't normal for kids to be that out of control and being so young, it sounds like the parents need to step up and figure something out, but they have 2 little monsters they can't control, adding a 3rd to it, and the parents deserve whatever chaos occurs.

    Momma Jess
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To the comment talking about how the Western world has gone crazy about not owing anyone anything: Some of us choose to be alone because we're tired of people taking advantage of us and breaking us down

    Christy Tanguma
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah! Just because someone is ALONE... doesn't mean they're LONEY! Some of us are Very Happy Alone! I hate people trying to shove everyone into the same ... "this is the correct way to think/feel mold"

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    Dogcat vet (retired)
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Got to remember also how many days it might take before the mother can go home and take over the kids? Or if they are constantly fighting with each other will the mother need help at home also? I would also say 'no'. If 20 babysitters can't deal with the two then maybe they need to find two daycares or a professional nanny for them

    Tabitha
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wouldn’t trust a baby around those two older sisters either, especially if they start to resent the amount of attention the baby is getting (because they need it, ffs) instead of them. Poor kid.

    Anna Drever
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The grandparents are going to be away when their next grandchild is born that’s why they can’t help??? No. You suck it up and stay there for your daughter. Grandparents have one daughter and OP has the other. Or… OP is there to help sister during the birth and dad looks after their kids.

    Natasha Clark
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA!! I find it beyond uncanning how people have more kids when they can't even control the 1st or 2nd child. Her sister can feel free to keep trying for a boy all she want but no one is required to watch your gremsprings (gremlin+offspring). This applies to all the parents in the world.

    Leah Patterson
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd also be concerned for the safety of the newborn. If the older two are this violent with each other, it's scary to think what they might do to a baby when no one is watching.

    Misa Ashizuri
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why the hell are the grandparents not around? If they're concerned about her having a complicated delivery, they should be within easy reach. And the most reasonable answer is to keep the girls separate from each other. Therapy is also a must. Dang

    Woodsie
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She could suggest she goes with the sister when she's having the baby, the husband is only a call away if urgent decisions are required, also they could discuss what might come up based on previous births so everyone knows what possible answers might be. Have a plan and those things written down.

    Leigh Kinnaird
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Entitled people don't like hearing the word 'no' and push back on it. They have to be deatl with very clearly and firmly with NO discussion. 'I told you NO and why and there is nothing further to discuss. I am NOT babysitting for you. You need to make other arrangements.' Every time she brings it up, you reply simply, 'No means no,' over and over. You can't engage with people like this. NTA.

    Joanne Mendonza-Earle
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really fear for this new sibling on the way. Will the girls decide to hate him/her too? Or fight over the baby?

    Beth D
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are not TA! 20+ babysitters agree! TYA saying you need to take time off work and be your sisters beck and call girl are ENTITLED IDIOTS. Stand your ground. He does NOT have to be there. Nice if he could but THEY CREATED THE MESS. You do not have to bail them out! What, they do not have a few friends that could take 1 girl for a day PLEASE! Your Sis and BIL are also ENTITLED

    Scott Rackley
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless the father is the ob/gyn delivering the baby, he can take care of his own kids.

    Tracy Sellars
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesn't matter the reason No means No, no justification is necessary.

    Tabitha Dente
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The sister and her husband, and the two demon spawn, are the AHs, along with all the YTAs. We're all responsible for our own children and NO ONE, even family, is obligated to care for them. How dare they have another child when the two they already have exhibit pathological jealousy and are un-sit table? The sister is an entitled, self centered brat and she's gotten exactly what she deserves.

    Laura A Ivett
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gottra love the clowns virtue signaling calling the OP an a*****e, those clowns should step up and offer to babysit. There is a reason all the family members are refusing to babysit, and those clowns saying that the OP should take one child and the parents can take the other, clearly did not read the article, parents are going to gone. And my favorite are the UnPoPuLAr OpInIoN clowns, just begging for attention. The parents are complete a******s for having another kid when they cant even parent the two they have, they are s**t parents. It is embarrassing when the whole family refuses to babysit your brats, and the parents decide to leave town...lmao, a little self awareness goes a long way.

    Margaret Shannon
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe saying no will force the parents to realize how bad they’ve let their children get.

    DC
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could it be they're not experiencing cooperation as rewarding? I think that may play a crucial role, and I suspect there isn't any systematic leading to cooperation being a rewarding experience, not even in playing, not even in setting them up to, collectively, beat the parent (s)? If that helps at all, it won't be any easier the longer this goes on. Maybe seperate them a bit, if you can arrange so. How are they with other kids? Do they interact with other kids, even?

    Thatkamloopsguy
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's start with your sister is a s**t parent. If the kids want to act like animals, put them in cages.

    Susan Schlee
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why little kids need spanking as a punishment. Not the "go to" punishment, but as a last resort. If those brats had been paddled when they started acting violently, they'd be too scared to be such little brats and act right. "Hug it out" is crappy parenting.

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    Joann Hart
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They need a get along shirt. One big shirt they both have to be in until they can get along. Just kidding. It's Arnold way to deal with feuding kids. Why can't this family stand up to each other? You look at your sister and either say absolutely not or stand up to your parents and say cancel your plans because you are taking one andbi will take the other.

    buzz bee
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with Joann Hart, parents should take 1 and sister 1. The get along shirt isn't a bad idea either.

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    Susy Hammond
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The whole family needs to be in therapy. The animosity between the girls is not "sibling rivalry". My brother always hated me and made my life miserable, with physical and emotional. We finally solved it by never speaking or seeing each other again. (I am now 72) My mother was depressed and couldn't have "fixed" it if she tried. Clearly these kids' relationship is driving babysitters away. The family MUST get something resolved here because the third child is headed for a collision course with the siblings. And don't expect the girls to suddently like each other. They probably won't throughout their lifetimes, but they should be able to be civil enough to co-exist within a family. They need help for THEMSELVES.

    gilliansl aka Gillian Silverlight
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd also suggest a therapist for all of them. They can teach the parents how actually PARENT! Hug it out my a$$! Also suggest birth control to them as well... They DO know what is causing those kids before her body actually heals from the previous one, right? I believe in standing in corners, and in worse case scenarios, a swat on the rear before standing in the corner. Grounding (don't allow something they usually do, remove a toy, etc), and being sent to a room. All day if it needs be. My daughter NEVER got away with behavior like that, nor my grandchildren. Let the in laws or husband handle their spoiled brats.

    Karen Bird
    Community Member
    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've got much younger twin brothers. When my mum was in hospital they were at the 'fist fighting' stage. Truly! When I was looking after them I'd ask what they wanted on tv and they would disagree. So being the adult I'd make them sit as far apart as I could get them and they had to sit quietly and watch what I wanted. Within 2 days they learned to compromise. The issue seems to be that none of the adults are prepared to be the adult. If they fight over toys then no toys. If they fight over tv then no tv. I don't blame op, her sister needs to step up and learn to patent these brats if they expect people to watch them!

    amy hipps
    Community Member
    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The father is worried about how it will turn out with a third. Well either he should have made sure they had protection to avoid a third child or many just maybe he should put his foot down and get his daughters into a therapist.

    Yu Pan
    Community Member
    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "We don't need a sit down conversation. No is a complete sentence. If you must know, your parenting sucks. So unless it's improved, we won't have this conversation anymore." Since sister hates when people giving her parenting advice, this will surely get her mad and potentially leave Op alone.

    Hakitosama
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a big problem that op doesn't mention/doesn't know about. This is NOT siblings rivalry. This is NOT normal. I have two sisters and we went through the difficult divorce of our parents (think nuclear war level difficult my mother went very VERY far to keep our father from even seeing us out of pure spite) and it never reached that level! Not even between my youngest and eldest sisters (middle child syndrome yay). Something is wrong, very very VERY wrong !

    Fran
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let the husband stay home with the girls, and you go to the delivery with your sister....not great either, I know, but it might be a sort of s compromise xx

    Bryn
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    they really need some sort of therapy for them & the kids.

    Ani Blair
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why not let the one child stay with the grandparents and the other with the sister?

    Amy Elliott
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The grandparents aren't going to be in town and half the family isn't talking to the parents in need of childcare. That's pretty telling about the state of things imo.

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    Ez Ezem
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live in Ontario Canada, send them to me. I will take care of them. Worse case is the girls will climb my walls and then when their dad is back home after the delivery he can fix and repaint them.

    sweetrottenpeaches
    Community Member
    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate women like the older sister. Keeps giving birth like a cow but can't even manage the kids she already have. Congratulations cow.

    Carol Mello
    Community Member
    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The sibling rivalry between those sisters is abnormal. One of them could end up killing the other. (This is not a joke. Young kids can kill.) This is the parents' problem. As for when she gives birth: the dad can take sleeping bags and the daughters with him to the waiting room. He will be available to sign any emergency medical release forms. If the girls are bad at the hospital, maybe being kicked out of the hospital will make the family realize those girls need therapy badly and NOW!

    Still Going
    Community Member
    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wouldn't turn down a sibling who asks for short-term help, but that's just me. For OP, it's obviously too much to handle - and I don't think being forced or guilt-tripped into helping is a healthy option. NTA, but there should be a frank conversation at a later point. Also: Sis and BIL need parenting classes, and possibly counseling.

    mm65851
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with the YTAs. Just take them and keep them separated. Don't knock yourself out trying to make them get along, these behaviors are ingrained by now.

    Milagros Merced
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hopefully they have a boy this time. I would just keep then in separate rooms. How old are they anyway?

    Mo Demers
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Offer to be with your sister at the delivery in the hospital and leave dad at home with the brats.

    Mo Demers
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Offer to be the one with her at the delivery of the new baby and let husband stay home with brats.

    Suzie
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA These kids need therapy. With her sister's delivery coming up soon, they're not going to have time to find someone willing to babysit these two kids together so they should split them up. OP can take one kid and someone else can take the other. After the baby is born, those kids need to go to therapy. I shudder to think what these two kids will do to a new baby.

    Frances Hill
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not your problem. Tell your sister one last "NO" and then block her calls. But I would strongly suggest your sister get those kids in therapy and keep the new baby in a room with good locks because once they see the mother paying attention to the baby and not them, getting rid of that baby will be their new game.

    Shadow
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with not babysitting the child-monsters, but YTA for not being able to be honest with your sister!!! Someone HAS TO! Obviously she and her husband are obtuse! They refuse to see what is right in front of their eyes. OP if the girls were constantly playing on a freeway in traffic would you not tell the parents how dangerous it was? Why do you think this is any different? Children that have zero control, high impulse, no discipline, won't listen do NOT GET BETTER. They become society's problem.

    Holly Richard
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Since she is looking for help while she delivers a baby, how about making a deal with her. You will watch her kids during her delivery if she takes them and the entire family to counseling. It may be beneficial for you to go as well. Make that a condition for your helping and see what happens. If they won't agree to it then it is up to them to find someone else

    Norma Burkholder
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would be willing to help out during that time if I were close enough.

    August
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bet they wanted a boy but had two girls. Or at least, the sister wanted a boy. That’s why they’re having a third baby. I might be looking too much into this, but the way she’s dismissive to her existing kids just kinda feels like she’s not invested in them.

    Karla Dolman
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. She can give birth without her husband, that's not in anyway dangerous and a complicated delivery is made safer by medical professionals not unqualified husbands. If they want help with a 3rd babies arrival, they should have worked harder to deal with their first two childrens issues.

    Terry Step
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like there is a potential babysitting pool In the year camp ask for references

    Ash Conner
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She definitely is the AH. She could take one. Having a baby could be dangerous. She needs to get out the wooden spoon and bang it on the table and say, try me, and get real scary. I'm not saying beat the kids or anything. Then go bowling or something to keep them busy. Or see if someone else can watch the other kid. Or have the 5 year old in the room while she is giving birth. It may put the 5 year old's mind set differently to see how much work a mom puts in to having a baby. Then have her be the first one to kiss the baby's cheek, sing to her or whatever bonding experience.

    Hakitosama
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not her circus not her monkeys and this is not on a level that "scary" can handle anymore. There's a big problem behind that behaviour and it makes me wonder what's the real reason the mother won't put them through therapy......

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    Rocky
    Community Member
    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh, I agree with hating the internet today YTA comment in the sense of "you don't owe anyone anything". Sure, you don't. Sure, it's hard. And sure, down vote for this comment but it's family. Other then every adult here being completely self-involved, doesn't seem they have a personal problem with each other. It's freaky to me that none of them seem concerned for the well-being of the woman giving birth, who wouldn't want to be alone. The idea of one kid here and the other there is a good one and still! His whole family pulled back, parents out of town, other siblings have their own kids. But with just one of the girls? Really can't? Gross family. It'd be different if they were horrible parents and everybody just was horrible and stupid. This isn't it.

    JessSayin'
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    YTA. I get the kids are so terrible no one wants to watch them. Still, You're such a terrible sister, I wouldn't want you as a sibling. Better hope you never need help with something thats inconvenient for others when you have something as important as giving birth to do. Every member of your family seems to think they're the most important person in the world. Those kids that are so awful learned their behavior from somewhere, and I think OP needs to look in the mirror. Things don't have to be easy and fun for them to be worth doing. If you can't help your sister bc you're too petty or too simple minded to best a 4 and 5 yr old, then you're not only TA, but you're also close to useless.

    KatSaidWhat
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe the YTAs should sit those kids and find out why at least 25 people refuse to sit them AGAIN.

    KatSaidWhat
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also unlimited screen time most definitely not an option. Lazy parenting at best.

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    Trillian
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Instead of having more kids maybe they should work on the issue with the ones they already have. Also if there are difficulties during birth there is exactly zero the dad can do to help. So he might as well watch his unmanageable daughters.

    Rebecca A. Corvello
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who wants to guess that HE can't handle them/won't handle them either?

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    FreeTheUnicorn
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What are they doing having another kid when they clearly can't handle the ones they already have? Even if 20 baby sitters is an exaggeration, more than one or two is not normal. Also, violent aggressive behaviour from siblings is a great reason not to bring a helpless sibling in. If sister and her partner were really working on things, it would be different, but the more distance from them them and their kids, the better.

    LynnSynn
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am the oldest of six and the only one without children. I have helped my siblings in the past, but as I got older I just didn't want to watch children anymore. I started telling them $200 per night per child. They stopped asking. I will help in an emergency. But I am done babysitting.

    Misa Ashizuri
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's easy to get burned out on caregiving. You get taken for granted and treated as disposable.

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    Zenozenobee
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    3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sister doesn't want a "sit down and in-depth discussion". She wants to convince OP.

    Frances Hill
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Too bad sister doesn't put the energy she is using trying to convince her to babysit, into making her daughters act like human beings. The hell with huggings, next time the screaming and throwing starts, get a wooden spoon and apply it to their butts. This bs of "I would never strike my child" is just that, bs. Get a wooden spoon.

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    Alexandra
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why did they have a 3rd child when the children they already have are horrible to each other? People who don't want children are often called selfish, but people with children are sometimes not less so.

    MR
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, this won't end well. Why on earth would you add a third child to the mix when you can't even parent the two you have? I don't know what's more unhinged, these two "parents" having another child or those yta people who think OP should suffer because her sister is an idiot. Either way, not your circus, not your monies. You owe her nothing. No is an answer.

    Janice
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why the either/or for therapy? It sounds like the whole family needs to be in therapy. It isn't normal for kids to be that out of control and being so young, it sounds like the parents need to step up and figure something out, but they have 2 little monsters they can't control, adding a 3rd to it, and the parents deserve whatever chaos occurs.

    Momma Jess
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To the comment talking about how the Western world has gone crazy about not owing anyone anything: Some of us choose to be alone because we're tired of people taking advantage of us and breaking us down

    Christy Tanguma
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah! Just because someone is ALONE... doesn't mean they're LONEY! Some of us are Very Happy Alone! I hate people trying to shove everyone into the same ... "this is the correct way to think/feel mold"

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    Dogcat vet (retired)
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Got to remember also how many days it might take before the mother can go home and take over the kids? Or if they are constantly fighting with each other will the mother need help at home also? I would also say 'no'. If 20 babysitters can't deal with the two then maybe they need to find two daycares or a professional nanny for them

    Tabitha
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wouldn’t trust a baby around those two older sisters either, especially if they start to resent the amount of attention the baby is getting (because they need it, ffs) instead of them. Poor kid.

    Anna Drever
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The grandparents are going to be away when their next grandchild is born that’s why they can’t help??? No. You suck it up and stay there for your daughter. Grandparents have one daughter and OP has the other. Or… OP is there to help sister during the birth and dad looks after their kids.

    Natasha Clark
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA!! I find it beyond uncanning how people have more kids when they can't even control the 1st or 2nd child. Her sister can feel free to keep trying for a boy all she want but no one is required to watch your gremsprings (gremlin+offspring). This applies to all the parents in the world.

    Leah Patterson
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd also be concerned for the safety of the newborn. If the older two are this violent with each other, it's scary to think what they might do to a baby when no one is watching.

    Misa Ashizuri
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why the hell are the grandparents not around? If they're concerned about her having a complicated delivery, they should be within easy reach. And the most reasonable answer is to keep the girls separate from each other. Therapy is also a must. Dang

    Woodsie
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She could suggest she goes with the sister when she's having the baby, the husband is only a call away if urgent decisions are required, also they could discuss what might come up based on previous births so everyone knows what possible answers might be. Have a plan and those things written down.

    Leigh Kinnaird
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Entitled people don't like hearing the word 'no' and push back on it. They have to be deatl with very clearly and firmly with NO discussion. 'I told you NO and why and there is nothing further to discuss. I am NOT babysitting for you. You need to make other arrangements.' Every time she brings it up, you reply simply, 'No means no,' over and over. You can't engage with people like this. NTA.

    Joanne Mendonza-Earle
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really fear for this new sibling on the way. Will the girls decide to hate him/her too? Or fight over the baby?

    Beth D
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are not TA! 20+ babysitters agree! TYA saying you need to take time off work and be your sisters beck and call girl are ENTITLED IDIOTS. Stand your ground. He does NOT have to be there. Nice if he could but THEY CREATED THE MESS. You do not have to bail them out! What, they do not have a few friends that could take 1 girl for a day PLEASE! Your Sis and BIL are also ENTITLED

    Scott Rackley
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless the father is the ob/gyn delivering the baby, he can take care of his own kids.

    Tracy Sellars
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesn't matter the reason No means No, no justification is necessary.

    Tabitha Dente
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The sister and her husband, and the two demon spawn, are the AHs, along with all the YTAs. We're all responsible for our own children and NO ONE, even family, is obligated to care for them. How dare they have another child when the two they already have exhibit pathological jealousy and are un-sit table? The sister is an entitled, self centered brat and she's gotten exactly what she deserves.

    Laura A Ivett
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gottra love the clowns virtue signaling calling the OP an a*****e, those clowns should step up and offer to babysit. There is a reason all the family members are refusing to babysit, and those clowns saying that the OP should take one child and the parents can take the other, clearly did not read the article, parents are going to gone. And my favorite are the UnPoPuLAr OpInIoN clowns, just begging for attention. The parents are complete a******s for having another kid when they cant even parent the two they have, they are s**t parents. It is embarrassing when the whole family refuses to babysit your brats, and the parents decide to leave town...lmao, a little self awareness goes a long way.

    Margaret Shannon
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe saying no will force the parents to realize how bad they’ve let their children get.

    DC
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could it be they're not experiencing cooperation as rewarding? I think that may play a crucial role, and I suspect there isn't any systematic leading to cooperation being a rewarding experience, not even in playing, not even in setting them up to, collectively, beat the parent (s)? If that helps at all, it won't be any easier the longer this goes on. Maybe seperate them a bit, if you can arrange so. How are they with other kids? Do they interact with other kids, even?

    Thatkamloopsguy
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let's start with your sister is a s**t parent. If the kids want to act like animals, put them in cages.

    Susan Schlee
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why little kids need spanking as a punishment. Not the "go to" punishment, but as a last resort. If those brats had been paddled when they started acting violently, they'd be too scared to be such little brats and act right. "Hug it out" is crappy parenting.

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    Joann Hart
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They need a get along shirt. One big shirt they both have to be in until they can get along. Just kidding. It's Arnold way to deal with feuding kids. Why can't this family stand up to each other? You look at your sister and either say absolutely not or stand up to your parents and say cancel your plans because you are taking one andbi will take the other.

    buzz bee
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with Joann Hart, parents should take 1 and sister 1. The get along shirt isn't a bad idea either.

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    Susy Hammond
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The whole family needs to be in therapy. The animosity between the girls is not "sibling rivalry". My brother always hated me and made my life miserable, with physical and emotional. We finally solved it by never speaking or seeing each other again. (I am now 72) My mother was depressed and couldn't have "fixed" it if she tried. Clearly these kids' relationship is driving babysitters away. The family MUST get something resolved here because the third child is headed for a collision course with the siblings. And don't expect the girls to suddently like each other. They probably won't throughout their lifetimes, but they should be able to be civil enough to co-exist within a family. They need help for THEMSELVES.

    gilliansl aka Gillian Silverlight
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd also suggest a therapist for all of them. They can teach the parents how actually PARENT! Hug it out my a$$! Also suggest birth control to them as well... They DO know what is causing those kids before her body actually heals from the previous one, right? I believe in standing in corners, and in worse case scenarios, a swat on the rear before standing in the corner. Grounding (don't allow something they usually do, remove a toy, etc), and being sent to a room. All day if it needs be. My daughter NEVER got away with behavior like that, nor my grandchildren. Let the in laws or husband handle their spoiled brats.

    Karen Bird
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've got much younger twin brothers. When my mum was in hospital they were at the 'fist fighting' stage. Truly! When I was looking after them I'd ask what they wanted on tv and they would disagree. So being the adult I'd make them sit as far apart as I could get them and they had to sit quietly and watch what I wanted. Within 2 days they learned to compromise. The issue seems to be that none of the adults are prepared to be the adult. If they fight over toys then no toys. If they fight over tv then no tv. I don't blame op, her sister needs to step up and learn to patent these brats if they expect people to watch them!

    amy hipps
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The father is worried about how it will turn out with a third. Well either he should have made sure they had protection to avoid a third child or many just maybe he should put his foot down and get his daughters into a therapist.

    Yu Pan
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "We don't need a sit down conversation. No is a complete sentence. If you must know, your parenting sucks. So unless it's improved, we won't have this conversation anymore." Since sister hates when people giving her parenting advice, this will surely get her mad and potentially leave Op alone.

    Hakitosama
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a big problem that op doesn't mention/doesn't know about. This is NOT siblings rivalry. This is NOT normal. I have two sisters and we went through the difficult divorce of our parents (think nuclear war level difficult my mother went very VERY far to keep our father from even seeing us out of pure spite) and it never reached that level! Not even between my youngest and eldest sisters (middle child syndrome yay). Something is wrong, very very VERY wrong !

    Fran
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let the husband stay home with the girls, and you go to the delivery with your sister....not great either, I know, but it might be a sort of s compromise xx

    Bryn
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    they really need some sort of therapy for them & the kids.

    Ani Blair
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why not let the one child stay with the grandparents and the other with the sister?

    Amy Elliott
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The grandparents aren't going to be in town and half the family isn't talking to the parents in need of childcare. That's pretty telling about the state of things imo.

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    Ez Ezem
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live in Ontario Canada, send them to me. I will take care of them. Worse case is the girls will climb my walls and then when their dad is back home after the delivery he can fix and repaint them.

    sweetrottenpeaches
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate women like the older sister. Keeps giving birth like a cow but can't even manage the kids she already have. Congratulations cow.

    Carol Mello
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The sibling rivalry between those sisters is abnormal. One of them could end up killing the other. (This is not a joke. Young kids can kill.) This is the parents' problem. As for when she gives birth: the dad can take sleeping bags and the daughters with him to the waiting room. He will be available to sign any emergency medical release forms. If the girls are bad at the hospital, maybe being kicked out of the hospital will make the family realize those girls need therapy badly and NOW!

    Still Going
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wouldn't turn down a sibling who asks for short-term help, but that's just me. For OP, it's obviously too much to handle - and I don't think being forced or guilt-tripped into helping is a healthy option. NTA, but there should be a frank conversation at a later point. Also: Sis and BIL need parenting classes, and possibly counseling.

    mm65851
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with the YTAs. Just take them and keep them separated. Don't knock yourself out trying to make them get along, these behaviors are ingrained by now.

    Milagros Merced
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hopefully they have a boy this time. I would just keep then in separate rooms. How old are they anyway?

    Mo Demers
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Offer to be with your sister at the delivery in the hospital and leave dad at home with the brats.

    Mo Demers
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Offer to be the one with her at the delivery of the new baby and let husband stay home with brats.

    Suzie
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA These kids need therapy. With her sister's delivery coming up soon, they're not going to have time to find someone willing to babysit these two kids together so they should split them up. OP can take one kid and someone else can take the other. After the baby is born, those kids need to go to therapy. I shudder to think what these two kids will do to a new baby.

    Frances Hill
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not your problem. Tell your sister one last "NO" and then block her calls. But I would strongly suggest your sister get those kids in therapy and keep the new baby in a room with good locks because once they see the mother paying attention to the baby and not them, getting rid of that baby will be their new game.

    Shadow
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with not babysitting the child-monsters, but YTA for not being able to be honest with your sister!!! Someone HAS TO! Obviously she and her husband are obtuse! They refuse to see what is right in front of their eyes. OP if the girls were constantly playing on a freeway in traffic would you not tell the parents how dangerous it was? Why do you think this is any different? Children that have zero control, high impulse, no discipline, won't listen do NOT GET BETTER. They become society's problem.

    Holly Richard
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Since she is looking for help while she delivers a baby, how about making a deal with her. You will watch her kids during her delivery if she takes them and the entire family to counseling. It may be beneficial for you to go as well. Make that a condition for your helping and see what happens. If they won't agree to it then it is up to them to find someone else

    Norma Burkholder
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would be willing to help out during that time if I were close enough.

    August
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I bet they wanted a boy but had two girls. Or at least, the sister wanted a boy. That’s why they’re having a third baby. I might be looking too much into this, but the way she’s dismissive to her existing kids just kinda feels like she’s not invested in them.

    Karla Dolman
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA. She can give birth without her husband, that's not in anyway dangerous and a complicated delivery is made safer by medical professionals not unqualified husbands. If they want help with a 3rd babies arrival, they should have worked harder to deal with their first two childrens issues.

    Terry Step
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like there is a potential babysitting pool In the year camp ask for references

    Ash Conner
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She definitely is the AH. She could take one. Having a baby could be dangerous. She needs to get out the wooden spoon and bang it on the table and say, try me, and get real scary. I'm not saying beat the kids or anything. Then go bowling or something to keep them busy. Or see if someone else can watch the other kid. Or have the 5 year old in the room while she is giving birth. It may put the 5 year old's mind set differently to see how much work a mom puts in to having a baby. Then have her be the first one to kiss the baby's cheek, sing to her or whatever bonding experience.

    Hakitosama
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not her circus not her monkeys and this is not on a level that "scary" can handle anymore. There's a big problem behind that behaviour and it makes me wonder what's the real reason the mother won't put them through therapy......

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    Rocky
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    3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh, I agree with hating the internet today YTA comment in the sense of "you don't owe anyone anything". Sure, you don't. Sure, it's hard. And sure, down vote for this comment but it's family. Other then every adult here being completely self-involved, doesn't seem they have a personal problem with each other. It's freaky to me that none of them seem concerned for the well-being of the woman giving birth, who wouldn't want to be alone. The idea of one kid here and the other there is a good one and still! His whole family pulled back, parents out of town, other siblings have their own kids. But with just one of the girls? Really can't? Gross family. It'd be different if they were horrible parents and everybody just was horrible and stupid. This isn't it.

    JessSayin'
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    3 months ago

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    YTA. I get the kids are so terrible no one wants to watch them. Still, You're such a terrible sister, I wouldn't want you as a sibling. Better hope you never need help with something thats inconvenient for others when you have something as important as giving birth to do. Every member of your family seems to think they're the most important person in the world. Those kids that are so awful learned their behavior from somewhere, and I think OP needs to look in the mirror. Things don't have to be easy and fun for them to be worth doing. If you can't help your sister bc you're too petty or too simple minded to best a 4 and 5 yr old, then you're not only TA, but you're also close to useless.

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