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Teen Calls Mom’s Partner “Creepy Stepdad” In Front Of Friends, Gets Left Without A Ride Back Home
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Teen Calls Mom’s Partner “Creepy Stepdad” In Front Of Friends, Gets Left Without A Ride Back Home

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The parent and child relationship isn’t equal and parents can’t react to their children acting out like they would react to another adult opposing them. You can just remove yourself from a conflict with an adult, but you are still responsible for your child no matter what.

However, this stepdad thought that he would teach his stepdaughter a lesson for calling him a creep by not picking her up from an event at school on a weekend and suggesting that she find another way back home.

Teenagers acting out need discipline, but the method this man chose was criticized both by his girlfriend and redditors

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He promised to give his girlfriend’s daughter a ride, which he did, but wasn’t planning on picking her up to take her home

It was because when she said goodbye to him, the teen called the man “creepy stepdad” in front of her friends

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The man didn’t want to be in the same car alone with a teenager who considered him to be creepy

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However, his decision was met with rage from the teen’s mom

The Original Poster’s (OP) stepdaughter is 17 years old and she had a school event at school over the weekend. She asked her stepdad for a ride in advance and he really didn’t mind. The OP thought that they had quite a fun ride to school until Jess said goodbye with a “later, creepy stepdad!”

This confused the stepdad and the best explanation he could give was that it was a joke and Jess tried to show off in front of her friends. But the more he thought about it, the angrier he got about it, because he didn’t want to be the creepy stepdad who forces a teenage girl alone in a car with him.

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So he decided not to pick up Jess from her school event and texted her to find someone else to drive her home. Naturally, the daughter complained to her mom, who demanded the OP pick up Jess, but he’d already had a few glasses of alcohol so he wasn’t going to drive.

When the mom came back home and realized that her boyfriend still hadn’t picked up Jess, she went to do it herself, despite having her driver’s license suspended. After that, the couple had an argument which implied that the woman didn’t want to live with OP anymore.

After receiving a response from netizens, the OP decided that he should end the relationship and asked the mom and daughter to move out. There were a few things that convinced him.

First of all, people were weirded out that he didn’t know the woman’s age. If she hides such a small thing, what else could she be hiding or lying about? They also thought that the woman having a suspended license was a red flag, especially driving with one.

From what they could tell, the woman was irresponsible for losing her license in the first place, driving when she is not allowed to rather than calling an Uber, and for not disciplining her daughter for insulting the person who is doing her a favor.

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On the other hand, people were not easy on the OP either, because knowing when to be lenient is a parent’s job and he had already made a promise to the teenager, so he should have kept it, especially when he took her there already.

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We don’t know what kind of relationship the OP had with the teenager before the incident, but it seemed friendly, as he didn’t think that giving a ride to Jess was a hassle and he mentioned that they had a nice chat on the way. And even though the teen called the OP creepy, she called him a stepdad despite him not being married to her mom.

But becoming a stepparent to a teenager is no easy job because it is a difficult and emotional stage in life when they are forming as a person and such changes as a new parent figure can have a negative reaction.

The National Center for Fathering (NCF) confirms that “Pre-teen and teenage kids can pose a tremendous challenge for stepfathers. As they develop their identity and self-esteem, they are very sensitive to dramatic changes in their family structure and living situations.”

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But you still can get along. The organization suggests to “keep expectations low, patience high.” A stepfather might want to have a happy family, but building trust isn’t easy because after all, you are basically a stranger to the kid.

William Strachan, a Certified Family Law Specialist, reminds the stepparent to not get offended if the teenager doesn’t accept them because “they’re not only dealing with raging hormone levels, schoolwork, and relationships but also the fact that their parent has moved on and away from their other parent. Some teens need lots of space and time so they can figure things out.”

In addition to being patient, you must be flexible, NCF says. If you want to enforce rules on children, you first must earn their respect and lead by example as well as respecting the teenagers and hearing out their concerns.

A big mistake to make is to try and substitute the teenager’s father or even criticize him. What the National Center for Fathering suggests instead is to “work on creating your own distinct, healthy relationship with your stepchildren.”

Another important aspect when caring for teenagers is to have a sense of humor. A little bit of light-heartedness makes a parent feel closer and more human and understanding. Parenting Teens and Tweens actually considers it the most important tip because the whole situation is most probably harder for the teenager who is still developing and learning things about themselves, so “Resist the urge to blame all the problems on their behavior (or the co-parents), turn the other cheek as often as possible, and recognize that your actions today will bring a more peaceful tomorrow.”

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Do you think the OP overreacted by leaving the teenager without a ride? Do you think the circumstances changed when she insulted him so he had the right to not keep his promise? Do you think the teen’s behavior needed a different disciplining method or did she get what she deserved? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.

People in the comments also found it questionable but were more concerned about the relationship between the man and the woman being toxic

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nooneimportant
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

comments like hers could land OP in jail or on a offenders list. the mother and "child" need to know that actions have consequences.

Lori w
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup. It only takes one teacher making hearing that to make calls to CPS.

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In these crazy times, the word "creepy" can't be thrown around lightly. The girl is old enough to know this and knew she shouldn't have said it. The mother's refusal to say her actual age is concerning. So is the fact that she has a suspended license. I think that OP was right and the girl could have found a different way home. I do think that OP needs to find a better way to deal with his problems other than with alcohol. I am happy that he kicked them out. This relationship was toxic anyway.

Just me, myself, and I
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a teacher overheard daughter's comment and pulled her into an office to find out just how creepy stepdad is, I wouldn't trust the teen to be honest. Maybe she wants to save face, maybe she's scared to be in a situation to admit to an adult she was just being a little sh!t, maybe she doesn't like the relationship mom and OP have. I doubt mom would stick up for OP and defend him to the police. At best there'd be a scandalous reputation-destroying trial, at worst prison time for something he didn't do.

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zak
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who hides their age from their partner? What a strange thing to do.

AJ Claymore
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol. My brother's girlfriend. She's the same age as him but seriously insists she's two years younger, even though we all know the truth (and all of us are in our 40s, even including her adjusted age). It's just weird.

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SheamusFanFrom1987
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Controversial or not, the ESH commentors really need to have someone call them "creepy whoever" in public whether jokingly or not and see if they like it. Comments like these can get people in trouble, even more so from a 17-yr old girl. Who will the masses believe at face value in this case? Obvious answer, right? NTA and good for the OP to drop both mother and child. I gather his mental health and sanity needs it big time. Smh.

ARCH-201
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think all the people agreeing with you need a reality check. I have been called creepy repeatedly helping people get off drugs related issues. If he's 35 and can't sit people down and explain why he's upset then he's not fit to be seen as an *adult*. And if he knew that he made a promise to pick her up he shouldn't have drank anything before hand, the daughter is 17 and he's 35, she made a dumb comment to show off, he started drinking and rejected his responsibility through promise and then forced his gf to pick up her daughter when she wasn't legally allowed to. Some of you also seem to think that there's just taxis or busses everywhere. None of the cities I've lived in had taxis, and busses don't just stop everywhere, she would have to be close to a bus stop to actually get a bus and she would've needed money to use a taxi or a bus. Plain and simple, if he can't sit them down and explain what happened then he needs a reality check. He's the adult in that situation with the daughter

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R Dennis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find the ESH replies bizarre. Because he is an adult, he needs to accept being treated rudely? Yeah, no. Glad he is getting away from "the woman of a certain age" and her daughter. It won't get better from there...

Clare Urbanski
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1 year ago

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There are ways to not accept being treated rudely without denying someone a genuine need and then going to get drunk while that need is still going unmet

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Thor Haugen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I kind of agree with the OP. 17 isn't really a child in my mind. However, I am glad they are breaking up. If he is using alcohol to deal with his problems and she has a suspended license, it's not a match made in heaven.

Dean Bernales
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It only said that he had a couple of drinks. No agenda or motive or being petty about it, that's all. Don't read into something that's not there.

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Mrs.Pugh
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What was the point of her saying that? Was she trying to be funny, cus she wasn't...

Hoshi Reed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My money is on the "need" to joke about/downplay the fact mom bagged a younger man. In an attempt to downplay that a parent is appealing and active sexually, a child/teen and adult both, generally tries to desexualize them in some way. Some make fun of the "weekly/monthly marriage contract", or gold digging of a date, or brush it off as intellectual. When it comes to a younger man, that usually takes the form of having alterior motives or a fetish so one doesn't have to think about their own mom being sexually active. This is healthier for some teens, as confronting the sexual appetites of their mother can be damaging to those teens

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Mari Mar Pinta
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So glad he buckled down and kicked them both out... OP is NTA!

CP
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1 year ago

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Like seriously how? He refused to pick up his SO's daughter because of a dumb comment. He refused to tell her the real reason why he wouldn't pick her up and lied to the daughter. What am I missing? The daughter was wrong, but the way OP handled it was like a childish AH.

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Lori w
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Story breaks my heart. Since she said it so light heartedly, it makes me think he was trying to be a good step dad. I think he was correct in his response. If she apologized, I think they could have moved on. As a stepmom myself, I know what it's like to try and get cussed out and treated like trash

LH25
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think ESH, all three really. But I do wonder if that comment about him being creepy could cause him problems. If one of the friends says something to an adult who then decides it needs to be investigated. Small chance of that happening, but I think it's possible.

Damo Steele
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

17 is old enough to know what you're saying is inappropriate, 17 is also more than old enough to face consequences for your actions, on the mums behalf 40 something is far beyond old enough to face the consequences of your actions and when your daughter has made an absolutely vile comment about your partner, and your response is to double down then say you wanna leave anyway just don't have a place to go if you do? Expect to have to find a new place to live, the guy doesn't actually have any obligation to let you live with him and if he's being disrespected to that level having "nowhere to go" doesn't actually mean anything. Maybe this pair of idiots will learn a sense of responsibility and maybe some empathy while they're at it. Funny as well the playing dumb as to the potential consequences of being accused of being creepy with an underage teen, you just look stupid sayin stuff like that, or like you're the type of person to do the same, which just makes you scum really.

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Ches Yamada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my opinion he should have picked her up, but spoke to her about it on the ride home. Then dumped the problems (as he did, thank goodness)! The "creepy" comment could have been life altering for him since he's a guy, though, and I can totally see why he chose not to pick her up. Especially because she was in a safe area and had lots of options!

Rudy Joseph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah, after a comment like that, I personally wouldn't want to be alone with her either, likely no man in 2023 would, that's how third rail that comment was

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eydeekay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Entitled brat from hell is always a reflection on the parents. Here, too, it seems. You did the right thing, to protect (or retain) your peace.

Iva Kazalova
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

‘Creepy stepdad’ is so beyond out of line that cannot be taken as a joke, good on you for ditching all that baggage!

D. Pitbull
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All the redditors saying the dude was 'wrong' to leave her like that? Not entirely - one smaaaall addition could make all the difference. When teenage jacka$$ expects to be chauffered back home, the guy could simply advise that since she stated he was creepy, she can find a non-creepy way back home as he isn't about to get himself landed on an offenders list from her comments. That's it. It's not a tantrum - that's a reasonable response. With the jumpy nerves and super sensitivity to any little thing now, a 'joke' like that can **easily** be abused and twisted into something that would ruin the person's life forever. I don't see how "knowingly risk being wrongfully placed on an offenders list by catering to spoiled teenager" is the 'adult' thing to do.

Matt Rustebakke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The average reddit user is exactly the sort of individual who thinks calling a stepdad creepy is a "funny joke". Reddit is a toxic dump gathering of the lowest common denominators or society.

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AgedViolet
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A seven-year-old girl once accused a teacher of molesting her. The school took swift action and suspended the teacher, pending an investigation. In the meantime, one of the girl's friends came forward and said that the girl bribed her and five other girls with a dollar if they would say the same thing about the teacher. If a seven-year-old could be that manipulative, why not a 17-year-old? It sounds like the rotten apple doesn't fall too far from the diseased tree. By showing the Toxic Twins the door, OP has dodged not a bullet, but an ICBM. Good for him! 👏👏👏👏

Rachel Ann
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I does happen. There's plenty of innocent people rotting in prison all day, every day.

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BoredMe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh hell no. These days, that "innocent joke" could ruin the OP's life at the drop of a hat. That is not acceptable.

CP
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1 year ago

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How? You have a very weird idea about what actually happens in real life.

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He may be more creepy than he thinks and the daughter may have been sending him a message while pretending to be “joking”. His reaction certainly did not demonstrate maturity or self-awareness. But regardless, his relationship with her mother is a train wreck and he needs to deal with that.

BoredMe
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is true as well. That's the problem with these threads: We aren't getting the whole story. That said, he has the right to defend himself against possibly unfair charges, and a 17 year old can make her own way home.

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ADB
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All the morons saying, "She's just a teen," must have been asleep for the past decade and a half. What that 17 y.o. teen did could have had serious consequences for him, but also 17 isn't necessarily that young and is damn sure old enough to know what she did was wrong. All of this is assuming that any of this was even true...

BoredMe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Amen. "17 year olds don't know anything and are innocent!" Then maybe the age of majority should be higher if that's the case.

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LJ Robinson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was this guy, I would NEVER be in a room, car or other private place with this girl. I'm glad the relationship is ending. Make sure you change all the locks immediately after she and her daughter vacate. If, for some odd reason they stay, I'd put recording devices all over the house. Not only does the girlfriend feel scorned, I'm sure the daughter does as well. Document document document.

AJ Claymore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ESH. The OP could have arranged a ride for the 17 yo and not just strand her there. Uber and Lyft are practically everywhere. OPs flippant attitude about his SOs problems doesn't show him in a great light either. The 17 yo should know better than to throw that kind comment around lightly, and if a teacher (who are mandated reporters) heard it, it could completely flip OPs life upside down. Mom seems to have a whole barrel of issues she needs to address, but again, Uber and Lyft could have saved her from driving and potentially winding up in jail

MamaDee1959
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True, but just like HE could have called an Uber or Lyft, so could her mom have, but instead she jumps into his car with no license to go get her. Time to get mom and her daughter out!

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Jill Sargent
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is anyone else thinking about how she could accuse him of doing something inappropriate. I wouldn't want to be in the car with her after she said that either.

Lydia Green
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly don’t blame him. It takes one adult to hear that and they will think he is doing something to the child and next thing he is being locked up.

Rasheeda Pennybaker
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so angry with people saying he should have talked to her and should have act his age. Dude he did act his age, do you know how carefully you have to be with young girls these days. If he would have went up to her in front of her friends all she had to do was scream and someone would assume something happened. If he would have picked her up and said something she could of gotten home and lied to her mom. My best friend got marry and her youngest daughter stated that her husband touched her. My friend called the cops believing her daughter. Two days later as cops are talking with her and counselor she breaks down crying saying she lied. Her stepdad caught her coming in late high and got on her. Her mom was sleep he tells her they would be talking about this when he gets home. He leaves out for work at 4am. Before she went to school she told her mom the lie. So no he was right not to say anything to her. Mom didn't see how dangerous that was what daughter said so why trust them

Philip Levine
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a step-father to a 30 year old woman. I met her when she was three years old and her Mom and I were dating. I changed her diapers and cared for her like she was my biological daughter. And still do. She has a father and he’s a good guy. And now my girl has a little boy of her own and she calls me Grandpa. She has NEVER shown me any disrespect and I know that she loves me. Honestly, I can understand the “creepy” comment upsetting the guy. But these are really scary and strange times. My sense of wanting to protect my little girl from harm would supersede my hurt ego. I would have picked her up, probably with someone else in the car, but had a talk with her about her little joking comment and how it could be misinterpreted by others. And her mother should be aware of all of this. It also sounds like you aren’t legally married to this woman. So, you actually have no legal ties to either of them. Being a stepfather like me doesn’t legally bind you to the girl, either.

Spalding Monn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not the jerk. Glad they are moving out. Posters, stop always taking the side of a 16 or 17 year old. Unless they have a social disability at 17 knows when they are making an inappropriate comment just because she was laughing doesn't mean it should be brushed off as a joke. You dodged a bullet with this pair.

Cosmo and Wanda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I want to know if he's actually creepy or not, dude could be a predator or watching her for all we know since we're only seeing his side of the story. Is calling him creepy something to yell out in the school yard? No, that's something to say privately to someone. But if someone's being called creepy then I'm not picking a side till I hear both sides of the story, not saying he is a creep, but I'm not assuming he isn't either.

João Loureiro
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sure, no teenager in history ever acted like an idiot just for giggles. He's not liable nor legally bounded to the kid. Not his problem.

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Giobemo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She wouldn't tell him her age after being together a YEAR. She had a suspended license. Her daughter might perceive a big age difference between them. She and her (very nearly adult age daughter) had "nowhere else to go". Does not sound like mom makes good choices, and may have just been with him for convenience. Daughter may have seen how awkward this relationship was, felt super weird about it and called it creepy, all while making him the face of it (in her eyes, the weirdness started when he came into their lives, it's not something mom brought with them). Glad OP realized what he'd gotten into and cut bait. Mom needs to get her life in order, at least for the sake of her daughter.

Robyn Ward
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA 1. Anyone who gets called publicly a "creepy stepfather" would hesitate to be alone with stepdaughter, don't blame your actions at all. 2. "mid 40's"? and wont tell you exact age!!! I would guess then more like 50's, always add 10 years when they keep secrets. 3. Good choice in removing the red flags. :)

Betty Vanderhooven-SchmaaSchmaa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm troubled by the fact that the OP decided going home and starting to drink was a good way to deal with something that grated on him. I'm glad it's over. I'm betting this was just the last straw and not the whole story.

Damo Steele
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got the impression he had a couple of drinks as a reasonable cause not to drive, plenty of people do that to get out of being asked for lifts.

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J H. Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"She'd leave if she had anywhere else to go" That's a dead end. Good for him to get out.

Darcy Miller
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was a man a female child called me creepy, I would not have picked her up either. What could the 17 year old be telling her friends. Never put yourself in a situation that could end up being a legal matter with a minor. You are doing the right thing kicking them out. Men need to be very vigilant being in relationships with kids that are not theirs. As soon as something doesn't go the child's way accusations could start emerging.

BoredMe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"It's weird that she won't state her exact age" Oh yes, because women are NEVER stigmatized in this lovely, lovely society of ours for their age, are they? Don't get me wrong, she seems like a fruitcake. But I did need to point that out.

Damo Steele
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Makes sense if they didn't know each other well, but they were a cohabiting couple...that IS weird and "societal stigma" doesn't make it normal dumb dumb

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Zoe Duddle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ESH - he gets the AH rating for drinking unnecessarily so that he literally couldn’t drive her, even in an emergency, when he’d not yet heard anything back from her about how she would be getting home. He wasn’t expecting to be drinking that night as he was planning on giving her a lift so I don’t see why he immediately had to when she upset him.

E V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

17 and 18 are extremely close. That comment could have gotten him in a lot of trouble and she still would have been out a ride if he had gotten pulled to the police station with that comment. Nobody owes you anything if you show that sort of disrespect. Daughter is not 5 years old. She practically an adult. Need to learn the hard way sometimes. You don't get a ride if you're going to be ruse to the driver. Mom failed raising her daughter to be more respectful.

TK 421
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know that every time I count on someone, it is my responsibility to be as rude as I can. You know, because they HAVE to do for me no matter my attitude.

Charles Williams
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. If this 17 year old child wants people to do things for her and respect her then she needs to respect those people. Not just when she needs something but all of the time. Maybe she was joking but this is a good time for her to learn when, where, and what to joke about. Most important though, he needs to get out of this relationship. The mom has a slee of red flags including her sketchy actions. The daughter is throwing around "me too" trigger words that could get him in trouble for no reason.

Georgina Brown
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA for sure! In this day & age of #me too, a young woman that age, floating the label "creepy stepdad" in front of her friends for effect needs to be stopped cold in her tracks. Casting shade on someone she should basically respect for asking a favor of them, is not a petulant game that should go without her being called on it. Teenagers have been unkind for many generations. Not too early to discover there are consequences for her actions. If I were the stepdad, I'd refuse to be alone with the 17 yr old lil darling ever again. That's really a seriously unfunny, bratty idea! Parting ways is best idea to save himself from receiving a poor reputation or worse yet, a false charge of "interfering with a minor"!

ANGELA HOWELL-MORRIS
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s a very scary thing for a teen to call you creepy. This could cause you a world of legal headache for many years. You are absolutely right to not pick her up. And yes, you are 100% correct to kick them out. NTA

Keisha
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't have gone and picked her up either. She's not his responsibility and after calling him "creepy step-dad" all bets are off. I would have immediately told mom and if she tried to take my car I would have called the police. Suspended license anything she does in that vehicle will be on him. She's irresponsible for expecting someone to drive after drinking to pick up her child and for taking his car without permission with a suspended license. Her and her daughter would have been out of my house as soon as they showed back up. I'm really glad for him that he is making them leave. Having a kid say what she said could have far reaching reprocussions. I wouldn't have given them to the following weekend. Who knows what c**p they would pull before leaving his home. Hopefully he gets involved with a better caliber female next time.

ashley12_ar59
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Comments like "creepy stepdad (or even stepmom) can land someone in jail and even on those offender list.

Bone Dome Martin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA.....Don't know "moms" age and obnoxious "daughter" YEAH! RUN AWAY NOW

Bite Me
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I work with some one who acts like that to impress her friends I say he did the right thing sod her that and you did the right thing not driving under the influence

Lu Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perhaps a better reaction would have been to wait for Amy and pick up Jess together, letting both of them know why. If Jess still didn't get it, no more rides, ever. But it sounds like this was the final straw, anyway

Doug W
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds lile a couple of free loading bitches played their game and got schooled. Run buddy run. NTA and best of luck to all of you. Dude had a couple drinks big deal. Sounds like he earned the reprieve. Call me a creepy anything for absolutely no reason other than appearing "cool" at any age and I'll happily cut you out of my life too. Stupid bitches. End of topic. Could seriously f up a mans life with that statement going awry.

Lindsay Stueve
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP could have just shown up in some ridiculous costume (like Beetlejuice or whatever) when he picked her up and really embarrassed the hell out of her.

Shelia Jackson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi Sir. I understand how you feel. My granddaughter does the same thing to me. She thinks its wierd that I take her every place, stay at all her events and she talks to me about everything...everything! She calls me her best friend. Everyone feels its wierd because of how I am always there. Yes she calls me names because she said no one else is doing for her what I am doing. None of her friends receive that special attention from their parents, step parents nor grand parents. Your step daughter did not mean it literally. She just sees you doing something for her that no one close to her is doing. Its a term of endearment and you two will laugh about it when she is much older. No child will.call their step parents creepy to their face and it be serious. The nice conversation you two had on the way to her event was weird to her because she didnt expect it. She wants to let her friends know that you are a great step father but its awkward to say with some giggly teenagers.

Cordelia Seymour
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teenagers just do stuff and they shouldn't face consequences for it what so ever is apparently a common thought? No wonder teaching sucks so much these years.

Jose Garcia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You made the right call by not picking her up at all. That’s disrespectful of the teen calling you a creep. Your residence, your car, your life, your call. Yourself first 👍

Anthony Adams
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No way in H.E. you know the rest someone is going to disrespect and embarrass me and think I am going to treat them like royalty. They can kiss my bum. And walk home.

Rudy Joseph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nobody wants to deal with another person's disrespectful kid. Stand on your square chief, the respect economy is very simple, you give it to get it.

Candice Faye blanton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mother and daughter are the problem. And no one seems to get it, so I'll say it, he didn't give his gfs daughter a ride after the comment because he couldn't trust her. Was the next step this girl telling someone he abuses her. He removed himself from a bad possible situation. It is not his daughter, and her mother should have called an Uber or taxi.

Darth Digital
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA at all. That young woman is ill-bred, undereducated, and rude. So many of today’s kids are snotty, entitled monsters. At some point, someone needs to teach them that there are consequences. You did the right thing. You did an even better thing by getting the hell out of that situation.

Rachel Gerstner
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is wreckless endangerment of a teen. I don't care how hurt your feelings are or how safe you think the area is. Leaving a teen girl to walk home by herself at night is asking her to get possibly raped or abducted. He's a man, so he doesn't have to worry about things like that, but he should have thought of that. Instead of whining like a little baby and throwing a tantrum, he could have just had a talk with her about why she called him that. He's the a**hole

Ashley Kay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is complete bs. The girl is 17, she called him "creepy stepdad" infront of her friends. Where are the friends? You know the friends Op suggested that she get a ride from. Or her lazy mother could have easily called her a cab or Uber. The girl is 17, if she is within walking a certain walking distance from the house its not going to kill her. You act like she couldn't pick up the phone and called someone while she was walking home. Also saying that he's a guy so he doesn't have to worry about being raped or abducted is completely ignorant. Op wasn't whining like a baby nor throwing a tantrum. You want to call someone creepy, expect that person to not want to be alone with you. That girl was 17, she knew EXACTLY what she was doing and it wasn't even funny. She was nasty, don't expect someone to cater to you when you want to make nasty comments that could have ended up ruining another person's life.

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Patricia Howard
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do think he over reacted by not picking her up but she's 17 and needs to know you can't go around saying things like that because it could have very serious ramifications for the step-dad. I think his best bet would have been to maybe called an uber for her and then had a serious chat with her when she got home that one doesn't joke about such things and IF she was joking or did she really have issues with him? Couldn't been handled a lot better.

Hannah
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA the fact he gave her a solid heads up (not his problem she ignores his texts, because I don't believe for a moment that the 17y/o wasn't on her phone even once in the hours she was out) was more than enough. Then add in the fact he'd been drinking, it was a SMART move not to go get her. Especially after she's just announced (in front of a school no less) that he's her "creepy step dad." If she's willing to say that as a joke, imagine the kind of story she might spin if he pissed her off. How many people might she have used as witness that she got in the car ALONE with her DRUNK and CREEPY step dad. No way. Absolutely not. Im glad the man seen sense and kicked them to the curb.

Kat Min
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmm...I think, I'm in ESH camp, but I can understand the OP. Teenager can be mentally unsound for a time, because their brain does restructure itself. That is the only explanation I can think of why a girl would make a comment like that that can destroy someones life. That the mother isn't down on her like a ton of bricks but blames the boyfriend instead is incomprehensible to me. Everybody could and should have handled this situation much better.

Tracy Rieon Hall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mother and the daughter are just taking your kindness for granted. The daughter was just plain disrespectful to call you a creepy stepdad in front of all of her friends and then expect you to come back and pick her up? Now her mother should've checked her daughter and told her to apologize for being disrespectful to you; the man who is allowing the both of you to live in his home. Wow can we say just ungrateful and totally disrespectful plus the mom wouldn't have grabbed my car keys and drove my car with a suspended license no one drives my car but me.

Bobbi McGough Robert
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid needs to learn that if you play stupid games, you win stupid prizes. Stepdad was not TA in any way, shape, or form!

Debrina Blackmoon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not even really her stepdad, tho' that's not the point. She and the mother are vile cuntwad fucktards.

SoñaSatiVa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She doesn't want a driver's license cuz it is proof of her age!

AJ Claymore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her license was suspended. OP doesnt come right out and say it, but it's pretty clearly implied that its suspended for drunk driving.

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Scott Rackley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He did the exact right thing. He shouldn't ever be alone with that girl again because maybe the next "joke" will involve the police. Get out now.

Lord Mysticlaw
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People are actually saying he's not the a*****e? After he just decided to leave a kid he was responsible for without a lift home? You don't take care of kids under you care because they are nice people, you do it because they are kids and you are the adult and they are your responsibility. I'm not going to not feed my kid or leave her stranded somewhere or whatever because I'm mad at her. Wtf???

SkyBlueandBlack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, not because he's mad at her. Because if she's spreading rumors like that about him, he could end up in prison and the only way to prevent that is for him to never be alone with her.

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Baby Lady
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jokes like this can escalate way too quickly and too far. Wrong ear might overhear and assume OP is indeed a creep. I can bet the teenager would then be too embarrassed to admit it was her being immature and would make a lie or two to get away with it.

Baby Lady
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jokes like this can escalate way too quickly and too far. Wrong ear might overhear and assume OP is indeed a creep. I can bet the teenager would then be too embarrassed to admit it was her being immature and would make a lie or two to get away with it.

jerrad sheldon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No wonder this next generation is so underdeveloped. She is 17 years, and will be an adult old in no more than 1 year. She is going to be living in a grown up world with grown up problems and no idea how to deal with them. Parents are coddling their little children instead of preparing them for life. This world is so screwed

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jerrad sheldon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No wonder this next generation is so underdeveloped. She is 17 years old, she is going to be an adult in less than a year. Parents coddle their little children instead of letting them grow up. That's why kids get into the real world and can't make it

Nate H
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This witch is a sick disgusting animal as is the poor role model who raised her. Good riddance someone was using their head in this case, and probably saved themselves a lot of heartache.

Rudy Joseph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, just type "creepy stepdad" into Google and observe what pops up, no defence for getting called that even in jest. You even have people who think he might have been creepy on the suggestion alone - that's how third rail the issue is. If that was said as a joke it's a joke in very poor taste. He instead chose to be called every name in the book except a pedo, can't fault him for that and you know it

Honey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're a single mother should you be moving into your boyfriends house only after a year?

João Loureiro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're an adult, and a minor who's not your child calls you "creepy XYZ" in front of other people, you should definitely NOT be seen alone with them, under any circumstances. Just step back, talk with their parent and step back a couple hundred feet more. Not your kid, not your problem. If in a relationship your partner isn't taking this into consideration, that's a big no-no and an absolute red flag. GTFO.

Jeff Motley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why does everyone think she is hiding her age from him? Is english not your all's first language? He said that she didn't want him mentioning her age in a reddit post, which is kond of screwy if he's not even using her real name in the post. Clinical studies have confirmed that crazy bitches are better in the bedroom than any other type of woman. By a huge margin. Even so, you can only put up with so much before it's just not worth ot anymore.

Italia58
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA The only criticism I have for you on your part was not including the mothers response when you explained to us what her daughter did. You are a man who is NOT her father. Perhaps there is some underlying resentment going on with her mother about YOU. I see this as a major red flag the daughter has already learned the art of manipulation. Yes they both have to go and be very careful with this as the next step from them is revenge ias in accusing you of unwanted advances. That fits in very well with the moniker of “creepy stepdad.” See where they’re going with this. Who needs that type of crazy. Should you give in and allow them to stay install cameras all over your house because accusations like this can destroy your life. The teen has already established a public record of lobbying this moniker of you in front of her friends. Picture this being asked of her in a legal setting after a revenge accusation of molestation has been filed…”Did you at any time tell anyone?…”

Kevin Felton
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok first off never dive on another man's grenade. Taking care of somebody else's kid is just a good way to get your heart permanently broken in the best circumstances. Plus this woman and her kid both sound like a complete train wreck. You shouldn't have let them in your house and now getting them out of there is probably going to require a lawyer, and there's more than likely gonna be a bunch of false accusations of domestic and or sexual assault. HOWEVER you're still the a*****e for this part of the situation. You should never have left a teenage girl stranded and then drank as an excuse. If you're worried about being in the car with her alone then have her sit in the back and set your phone to record video, but NEVER leave a teenage girl stranded after you told her you'd pick her up.

Dean Bernales
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He explicitly did not tell her he would pick her up, but quite the opposite. You should reread the post.

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Catherine Heiby
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe the child is telling the truth, the man is creepy and she knows just how creepy he is...I had uncles that were creepy!

HC
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude placed a minor in danger. Period. Plenty of time to discipline later. All three are a bunch of losers.

JD Dillon
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1 year ago

What if something bad had happened to the girl? All of the Id**ts on here would say that she had it coming. It was a dumb joke. Get over it. It sounded like OP had a decent relationship with the girl up to that point. Just explain to her - like an adult - why she can't say things like that in public as it could be misconstrued by other people. But his actions speak louder than her words. If OP was indeed a good person, he would not have left her, a minor, to fend for herself alone at night. What a creepy thing to do.

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Michael Hunt Seereigh
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean, maybe she really did feel that he was a bit creepy. Like maybe he stared at her for just a second too long too often, or she caught him sniffing bike seats outside the school, etc. Or maybe, she really wanted to bang him and that was her way of flirting. Just based on all of the moms red flags, I guarantee you the mom was dynamite in the bedroom--those types always are--and I'm sure that the s**t Apple doesn't fall far from the s**t tree. Normal, responsible, and undamaged women are always boring in the bedroom. Always. He should have at least stuck it out until the daughter was 18--probably in just a few months--then tried to bang her himself. I almost guarantee it wouldn't be the first older dude she's banged. It sounds like the girl has severe daddy issues, so if he doesn't capitalize, someone else will.

Jason J
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're creepy because why do you have her phone number to text in the first place. Mom is a degenerate and way too trusting of a man with her daughter. Daughter is just a kid so she's doing what kids do. Find someone more your speed I bet you're just a sucker in this situation and she's using you up.

Sunae Kutzi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

a creepy Stepdad is somewhat of a Clichee, it might have just been a Joke for her. People in a Family sould be able to just laught it of. However if it hurt him, he sould have just told her instead of acting all immature. Communicating your limits is much better then just acting out and asserting Dominance.

Cindy Caruso
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok first you don't leave a young girl to walk home when you promised a ride. Second you could have told the gf as soon as you got home and insisted that she come with you to pick the kid up. Teens have this thing where the step dad is supposed to be the enemy. This one actually liked you but felt the need to show her friends she didn't approve. It's kid games yes even at 17. You over reacted and left a young lady to fend for herself in an unsafe world. Your are an ah. You also expect them to just find a new place to go in days. Obviously this relationship wasn't a good one and should have never even started. Never ever leave a woman of any age to fend for their own way home when you promised a ride. This is how they disappear from the face of the earth

Ashley Kay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Op did warn them that he wasn't going to be picking her up. He even gave them suggestions. But the mother refused to listen to him and tried pushing him to pick up HER daughter. Also, no 17 year old is going to call someone a "creepy stepdad". This isn't a game, it doesn't happen. 17 year Olds don't just go walking around with smiles on their and call some creepy. That's nasty. Op didn't "overreact" the guy is smart. All if would have taken was a single adult to hear her comment and Op could have been in alot of trouble over something that you consider a "game".

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Shane Henry
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yta big ah and the way he talked through thtmat whole post is a red plag, the loser said that sounds like a you problem to his gf while he was acting like a child. Something small grated on him endlessly until he was acting like this...he has deep deep problems and is a huge ah. Kids say stiff like that for fun it's not serious and most dad will joke back with a quip, he is just a loser and obviously holding that they javelin no where to go over them and now kicked them out because he was a child. The people say he is nta at even bigger ah and I hate this world because of him and people like him.

Damo Steele
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Something small grated on him? Creepy stepdad has precisely 1 implication, if someone made that suggestion of me you know they're out the door, especially since the mum's reaction was immediate hostility, he wasn't a child he was protecting himself, he was under absolutely no obligation to house them, they were not entitled to a place in his home, they disrespected him and got told to leave that's that, maybe the pair of em will learn some grace, what consequences are (contrary to moronic belief, 17 year old is old enough to watch your mouth and face consequences for c**p you spout) and to not act like entitled morons in future, but I ain't holding my breath.

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Unknown
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shes a kid. She probably didnt mean it to be offensive or anything she was probably just joking, a grown man should not act so immature , the teen was bArely being disrespectful, she was just joking around. The guy tho was disrespectful. You dont just act so immature bc a 17 yr old may have accidently hurt ur feelings. Shes lucky she has a mom who would stand up for her... Id not let someone treat my child like that either

Damo Steele
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids very unlucky to have a mum that teaches her that regardless how disrespectful she is she doesn't have to apologise to the person she wronged, she's unlucky that her mum seems to think being in a relationship with someone means you're entitled to double down on your kids s****y behaviour and still expect the partner to allow you to live in his home, she's unlucky that her mum instead of acting like a parent in the situation, sitting her daughter down, talking to her, explaining what she did wrong and making her apologise, acted like an idiot, drove on a suspended licence and outright insulted the man who was putting a roof over their heads thereby making them homeless. He owed them nothing, especially after being disrespected that way to his face and in his own home and no amount of "teenagers say stupid things joking around" changes that, it just makes you sound equally as stupid as the mum and her daughter who was unlucky enough to be taught this was ok.

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Mora Chilis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YTA-I think giving them more time to find a place is warranted. That's a bit immature retaliation wise. Other than that NTA

Deidre Westover
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband would laugh if my son called him creepy step-dad. A grown man shouldn't be this upset unless he is a creep.

Mrs.Pugh
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A grown man who is not a creep should and would be this upset over something like this. Look at the world we live in, people take these "jokes" seriously. That little girl could've got him in trouble.

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_ Tripp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reason 1,446 why men should not involve themselves with women who have kids. It adds complexity to a relationship you don't need. Men, do yourself a favor and take a hard pass.

Bad Ass69
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have acted differently. I'd have said. Ok! You little psycho tramp! Don't forget to take your anti I'm being a snotty little pea brain b!t©h pills! Ok! Later. Then chew out her mother's butt for being a terrible mother for sending her daughter off with creeps! Then refer to the friends that were present! A rude and obnoxious looking dangerous disrespectful crowd who she met up with. Then cleverly guilt the Hell out of this Amy dingbat! How dare you allow your daughter to associate with those types of children! Lay it on thick. Tell her as you were leaving they were making fun of some fat kids and a mentally handicapped student! How could she let her daughter associate with and act like that! But keep a straight face. Then make the daughter explain herself and what happened! If the mother does not correct her daughter then they both need to go and you get a jolly laugh and some peace!

Robert T
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I spy with my little eye, a trio of a**holes. He's an ahole for leaving a young girl in the lurch - you pick her up and talk about the comment later when she is safely home. The mother is a massive ahole for driving on a suspended licence. The daughter is an ahole for her creepy stepdad comment. Next!

CP
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1 year ago (edited)

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That guy is the AH. It seems everyone commenting is saying the girl was immature and apparently think passive aggressiveness is mature. I don't get it. The simplest thing to do, that would also have shown the daughter an example of maturity, would be to pick her up and talk to her about it. This AH chose to act like a child over an offhand comment that wasn't meant to be mean at all. Thus the immature cycle continues. Edited to add that I find it hilarious that everyone talks about the maturity of the comment by the 17 year old and not the maturity of someone in their 30s using passive aggressive punishment, secret punishment and then lies about the real reason he won't pick her up. Real bang up job showing the daughter how to be an adult.

Tyranamar Seuss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not to mention drinking, throwing away an entire relationship over it, not acknowledging any other view points, etc. Dude sounds like an immature jerk.

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Silre
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What a tool. Yeah, you're the a*****e, dude. Grow up.

Peppy Piplup
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1 year ago

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So in response to being called a name, OP threw a tantrum and left his daughter (a minor) stranded in the middle of a city after dark. Just because he thinks the city is "safe" doesn't mean it actually is. Grown men don't get creeped on. And he also risked his wife getting in trouble with the law when she went to rescue her from that situation.

TurquoiseTzarina
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NOT his daughter or his wife. The "creepy" commenter is the OP's girlfriend's daughter. Well, ex-girlfriend according to the OP's edit to his original post.

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T.O.S.o.R.
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1 year ago

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Teenagers will say mean things or things they don't mean when in the presence of their peers. Shrug it off and you'll be blessed with a wonderful step daughter in a few years!

nooneimportant
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

comments like hers could land OP in jail or on a offenders list. the mother and "child" need to know that actions have consequences.

Lori w
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup. It only takes one teacher making hearing that to make calls to CPS.

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In these crazy times, the word "creepy" can't be thrown around lightly. The girl is old enough to know this and knew she shouldn't have said it. The mother's refusal to say her actual age is concerning. So is the fact that she has a suspended license. I think that OP was right and the girl could have found a different way home. I do think that OP needs to find a better way to deal with his problems other than with alcohol. I am happy that he kicked them out. This relationship was toxic anyway.

Just me, myself, and I
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If a teacher overheard daughter's comment and pulled her into an office to find out just how creepy stepdad is, I wouldn't trust the teen to be honest. Maybe she wants to save face, maybe she's scared to be in a situation to admit to an adult she was just being a little sh!t, maybe she doesn't like the relationship mom and OP have. I doubt mom would stick up for OP and defend him to the police. At best there'd be a scandalous reputation-destroying trial, at worst prison time for something he didn't do.

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zak
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who hides their age from their partner? What a strange thing to do.

AJ Claymore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol. My brother's girlfriend. She's the same age as him but seriously insists she's two years younger, even though we all know the truth (and all of us are in our 40s, even including her adjusted age). It's just weird.

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SheamusFanFrom1987
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Controversial or not, the ESH commentors really need to have someone call them "creepy whoever" in public whether jokingly or not and see if they like it. Comments like these can get people in trouble, even more so from a 17-yr old girl. Who will the masses believe at face value in this case? Obvious answer, right? NTA and good for the OP to drop both mother and child. I gather his mental health and sanity needs it big time. Smh.

ARCH-201
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think all the people agreeing with you need a reality check. I have been called creepy repeatedly helping people get off drugs related issues. If he's 35 and can't sit people down and explain why he's upset then he's not fit to be seen as an *adult*. And if he knew that he made a promise to pick her up he shouldn't have drank anything before hand, the daughter is 17 and he's 35, she made a dumb comment to show off, he started drinking and rejected his responsibility through promise and then forced his gf to pick up her daughter when she wasn't legally allowed to. Some of you also seem to think that there's just taxis or busses everywhere. None of the cities I've lived in had taxis, and busses don't just stop everywhere, she would have to be close to a bus stop to actually get a bus and she would've needed money to use a taxi or a bus. Plain and simple, if he can't sit them down and explain what happened then he needs a reality check. He's the adult in that situation with the daughter

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R Dennis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find the ESH replies bizarre. Because he is an adult, he needs to accept being treated rudely? Yeah, no. Glad he is getting away from "the woman of a certain age" and her daughter. It won't get better from there...

Clare Urbanski
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1 year ago

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There are ways to not accept being treated rudely without denying someone a genuine need and then going to get drunk while that need is still going unmet

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Thor Haugen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I kind of agree with the OP. 17 isn't really a child in my mind. However, I am glad they are breaking up. If he is using alcohol to deal with his problems and she has a suspended license, it's not a match made in heaven.

Dean Bernales
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It only said that he had a couple of drinks. No agenda or motive or being petty about it, that's all. Don't read into something that's not there.

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Mrs.Pugh
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What was the point of her saying that? Was she trying to be funny, cus she wasn't...

Hoshi Reed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My money is on the "need" to joke about/downplay the fact mom bagged a younger man. In an attempt to downplay that a parent is appealing and active sexually, a child/teen and adult both, generally tries to desexualize them in some way. Some make fun of the "weekly/monthly marriage contract", or gold digging of a date, or brush it off as intellectual. When it comes to a younger man, that usually takes the form of having alterior motives or a fetish so one doesn't have to think about their own mom being sexually active. This is healthier for some teens, as confronting the sexual appetites of their mother can be damaging to those teens

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Mari Mar Pinta
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So glad he buckled down and kicked them both out... OP is NTA!

CP
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1 year ago

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Like seriously how? He refused to pick up his SO's daughter because of a dumb comment. He refused to tell her the real reason why he wouldn't pick her up and lied to the daughter. What am I missing? The daughter was wrong, but the way OP handled it was like a childish AH.

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Lori w
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Story breaks my heart. Since she said it so light heartedly, it makes me think he was trying to be a good step dad. I think he was correct in his response. If she apologized, I think they could have moved on. As a stepmom myself, I know what it's like to try and get cussed out and treated like trash

LH25
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think ESH, all three really. But I do wonder if that comment about him being creepy could cause him problems. If one of the friends says something to an adult who then decides it needs to be investigated. Small chance of that happening, but I think it's possible.

Damo Steele
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

17 is old enough to know what you're saying is inappropriate, 17 is also more than old enough to face consequences for your actions, on the mums behalf 40 something is far beyond old enough to face the consequences of your actions and when your daughter has made an absolutely vile comment about your partner, and your response is to double down then say you wanna leave anyway just don't have a place to go if you do? Expect to have to find a new place to live, the guy doesn't actually have any obligation to let you live with him and if he's being disrespected to that level having "nowhere to go" doesn't actually mean anything. Maybe this pair of idiots will learn a sense of responsibility and maybe some empathy while they're at it. Funny as well the playing dumb as to the potential consequences of being accused of being creepy with an underage teen, you just look stupid sayin stuff like that, or like you're the type of person to do the same, which just makes you scum really.

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Ches Yamada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my opinion he should have picked her up, but spoke to her about it on the ride home. Then dumped the problems (as he did, thank goodness)! The "creepy" comment could have been life altering for him since he's a guy, though, and I can totally see why he chose not to pick her up. Especially because she was in a safe area and had lots of options!

Rudy Joseph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah, after a comment like that, I personally wouldn't want to be alone with her either, likely no man in 2023 would, that's how third rail that comment was

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eydeekay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Entitled brat from hell is always a reflection on the parents. Here, too, it seems. You did the right thing, to protect (or retain) your peace.

Iva Kazalova
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

‘Creepy stepdad’ is so beyond out of line that cannot be taken as a joke, good on you for ditching all that baggage!

D. Pitbull
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All the redditors saying the dude was 'wrong' to leave her like that? Not entirely - one smaaaall addition could make all the difference. When teenage jacka$$ expects to be chauffered back home, the guy could simply advise that since she stated he was creepy, she can find a non-creepy way back home as he isn't about to get himself landed on an offenders list from her comments. That's it. It's not a tantrum - that's a reasonable response. With the jumpy nerves and super sensitivity to any little thing now, a 'joke' like that can **easily** be abused and twisted into something that would ruin the person's life forever. I don't see how "knowingly risk being wrongfully placed on an offenders list by catering to spoiled teenager" is the 'adult' thing to do.

Matt Rustebakke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The average reddit user is exactly the sort of individual who thinks calling a stepdad creepy is a "funny joke". Reddit is a toxic dump gathering of the lowest common denominators or society.

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AgedViolet
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A seven-year-old girl once accused a teacher of molesting her. The school took swift action and suspended the teacher, pending an investigation. In the meantime, one of the girl's friends came forward and said that the girl bribed her and five other girls with a dollar if they would say the same thing about the teacher. If a seven-year-old could be that manipulative, why not a 17-year-old? It sounds like the rotten apple doesn't fall too far from the diseased tree. By showing the Toxic Twins the door, OP has dodged not a bullet, but an ICBM. Good for him! 👏👏👏👏

Rachel Ann
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I does happen. There's plenty of innocent people rotting in prison all day, every day.

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BoredMe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh hell no. These days, that "innocent joke" could ruin the OP's life at the drop of a hat. That is not acceptable.

CP
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1 year ago

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How? You have a very weird idea about what actually happens in real life.

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He may be more creepy than he thinks and the daughter may have been sending him a message while pretending to be “joking”. His reaction certainly did not demonstrate maturity or self-awareness. But regardless, his relationship with her mother is a train wreck and he needs to deal with that.

BoredMe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is true as well. That's the problem with these threads: We aren't getting the whole story. That said, he has the right to defend himself against possibly unfair charges, and a 17 year old can make her own way home.

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ADB
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All the morons saying, "She's just a teen," must have been asleep for the past decade and a half. What that 17 y.o. teen did could have had serious consequences for him, but also 17 isn't necessarily that young and is damn sure old enough to know what she did was wrong. All of this is assuming that any of this was even true...

BoredMe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Amen. "17 year olds don't know anything and are innocent!" Then maybe the age of majority should be higher if that's the case.

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LJ Robinson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was this guy, I would NEVER be in a room, car or other private place with this girl. I'm glad the relationship is ending. Make sure you change all the locks immediately after she and her daughter vacate. If, for some odd reason they stay, I'd put recording devices all over the house. Not only does the girlfriend feel scorned, I'm sure the daughter does as well. Document document document.

AJ Claymore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ESH. The OP could have arranged a ride for the 17 yo and not just strand her there. Uber and Lyft are practically everywhere. OPs flippant attitude about his SOs problems doesn't show him in a great light either. The 17 yo should know better than to throw that kind comment around lightly, and if a teacher (who are mandated reporters) heard it, it could completely flip OPs life upside down. Mom seems to have a whole barrel of issues she needs to address, but again, Uber and Lyft could have saved her from driving and potentially winding up in jail

MamaDee1959
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

True, but just like HE could have called an Uber or Lyft, so could her mom have, but instead she jumps into his car with no license to go get her. Time to get mom and her daughter out!

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Jill Sargent
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is anyone else thinking about how she could accuse him of doing something inappropriate. I wouldn't want to be in the car with her after she said that either.

Lydia Green
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly don’t blame him. It takes one adult to hear that and they will think he is doing something to the child and next thing he is being locked up.

Rasheeda Pennybaker
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so angry with people saying he should have talked to her and should have act his age. Dude he did act his age, do you know how carefully you have to be with young girls these days. If he would have went up to her in front of her friends all she had to do was scream and someone would assume something happened. If he would have picked her up and said something she could of gotten home and lied to her mom. My best friend got marry and her youngest daughter stated that her husband touched her. My friend called the cops believing her daughter. Two days later as cops are talking with her and counselor she breaks down crying saying she lied. Her stepdad caught her coming in late high and got on her. Her mom was sleep he tells her they would be talking about this when he gets home. He leaves out for work at 4am. Before she went to school she told her mom the lie. So no he was right not to say anything to her. Mom didn't see how dangerous that was what daughter said so why trust them

Philip Levine
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a step-father to a 30 year old woman. I met her when she was three years old and her Mom and I were dating. I changed her diapers and cared for her like she was my biological daughter. And still do. She has a father and he’s a good guy. And now my girl has a little boy of her own and she calls me Grandpa. She has NEVER shown me any disrespect and I know that she loves me. Honestly, I can understand the “creepy” comment upsetting the guy. But these are really scary and strange times. My sense of wanting to protect my little girl from harm would supersede my hurt ego. I would have picked her up, probably with someone else in the car, but had a talk with her about her little joking comment and how it could be misinterpreted by others. And her mother should be aware of all of this. It also sounds like you aren’t legally married to this woman. So, you actually have no legal ties to either of them. Being a stepfather like me doesn’t legally bind you to the girl, either.

Spalding Monn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not the jerk. Glad they are moving out. Posters, stop always taking the side of a 16 or 17 year old. Unless they have a social disability at 17 knows when they are making an inappropriate comment just because she was laughing doesn't mean it should be brushed off as a joke. You dodged a bullet with this pair.

Cosmo and Wanda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I want to know if he's actually creepy or not, dude could be a predator or watching her for all we know since we're only seeing his side of the story. Is calling him creepy something to yell out in the school yard? No, that's something to say privately to someone. But if someone's being called creepy then I'm not picking a side till I hear both sides of the story, not saying he is a creep, but I'm not assuming he isn't either.

João Loureiro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sure, no teenager in history ever acted like an idiot just for giggles. He's not liable nor legally bounded to the kid. Not his problem.

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Giobemo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She wouldn't tell him her age after being together a YEAR. She had a suspended license. Her daughter might perceive a big age difference between them. She and her (very nearly adult age daughter) had "nowhere else to go". Does not sound like mom makes good choices, and may have just been with him for convenience. Daughter may have seen how awkward this relationship was, felt super weird about it and called it creepy, all while making him the face of it (in her eyes, the weirdness started when he came into their lives, it's not something mom brought with them). Glad OP realized what he'd gotten into and cut bait. Mom needs to get her life in order, at least for the sake of her daughter.

Robyn Ward
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA 1. Anyone who gets called publicly a "creepy stepfather" would hesitate to be alone with stepdaughter, don't blame your actions at all. 2. "mid 40's"? and wont tell you exact age!!! I would guess then more like 50's, always add 10 years when they keep secrets. 3. Good choice in removing the red flags. :)

Betty Vanderhooven-SchmaaSchmaa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm troubled by the fact that the OP decided going home and starting to drink was a good way to deal with something that grated on him. I'm glad it's over. I'm betting this was just the last straw and not the whole story.

Damo Steele
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I got the impression he had a couple of drinks as a reasonable cause not to drive, plenty of people do that to get out of being asked for lifts.

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J H. Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"She'd leave if she had anywhere else to go" That's a dead end. Good for him to get out.

Darcy Miller
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I was a man a female child called me creepy, I would not have picked her up either. What could the 17 year old be telling her friends. Never put yourself in a situation that could end up being a legal matter with a minor. You are doing the right thing kicking them out. Men need to be very vigilant being in relationships with kids that are not theirs. As soon as something doesn't go the child's way accusations could start emerging.

BoredMe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"It's weird that she won't state her exact age" Oh yes, because women are NEVER stigmatized in this lovely, lovely society of ours for their age, are they? Don't get me wrong, she seems like a fruitcake. But I did need to point that out.

Damo Steele
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Makes sense if they didn't know each other well, but they were a cohabiting couple...that IS weird and "societal stigma" doesn't make it normal dumb dumb

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Zoe Duddle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ESH - he gets the AH rating for drinking unnecessarily so that he literally couldn’t drive her, even in an emergency, when he’d not yet heard anything back from her about how she would be getting home. He wasn’t expecting to be drinking that night as he was planning on giving her a lift so I don’t see why he immediately had to when she upset him.

E V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

17 and 18 are extremely close. That comment could have gotten him in a lot of trouble and she still would have been out a ride if he had gotten pulled to the police station with that comment. Nobody owes you anything if you show that sort of disrespect. Daughter is not 5 years old. She practically an adult. Need to learn the hard way sometimes. You don't get a ride if you're going to be ruse to the driver. Mom failed raising her daughter to be more respectful.

TK 421
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know that every time I count on someone, it is my responsibility to be as rude as I can. You know, because they HAVE to do for me no matter my attitude.

Charles Williams
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. If this 17 year old child wants people to do things for her and respect her then she needs to respect those people. Not just when she needs something but all of the time. Maybe she was joking but this is a good time for her to learn when, where, and what to joke about. Most important though, he needs to get out of this relationship. The mom has a slee of red flags including her sketchy actions. The daughter is throwing around "me too" trigger words that could get him in trouble for no reason.

Georgina Brown
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA for sure! In this day & age of #me too, a young woman that age, floating the label "creepy stepdad" in front of her friends for effect needs to be stopped cold in her tracks. Casting shade on someone she should basically respect for asking a favor of them, is not a petulant game that should go without her being called on it. Teenagers have been unkind for many generations. Not too early to discover there are consequences for her actions. If I were the stepdad, I'd refuse to be alone with the 17 yr old lil darling ever again. That's really a seriously unfunny, bratty idea! Parting ways is best idea to save himself from receiving a poor reputation or worse yet, a false charge of "interfering with a minor"!

ANGELA HOWELL-MORRIS
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s a very scary thing for a teen to call you creepy. This could cause you a world of legal headache for many years. You are absolutely right to not pick her up. And yes, you are 100% correct to kick them out. NTA

Keisha
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't have gone and picked her up either. She's not his responsibility and after calling him "creepy step-dad" all bets are off. I would have immediately told mom and if she tried to take my car I would have called the police. Suspended license anything she does in that vehicle will be on him. She's irresponsible for expecting someone to drive after drinking to pick up her child and for taking his car without permission with a suspended license. Her and her daughter would have been out of my house as soon as they showed back up. I'm really glad for him that he is making them leave. Having a kid say what she said could have far reaching reprocussions. I wouldn't have given them to the following weekend. Who knows what c**p they would pull before leaving his home. Hopefully he gets involved with a better caliber female next time.

ashley12_ar59
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Comments like "creepy stepdad (or even stepmom) can land someone in jail and even on those offender list.

Bone Dome Martin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA.....Don't know "moms" age and obnoxious "daughter" YEAH! RUN AWAY NOW

Bite Me
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I work with some one who acts like that to impress her friends I say he did the right thing sod her that and you did the right thing not driving under the influence

Lu Harris
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perhaps a better reaction would have been to wait for Amy and pick up Jess together, letting both of them know why. If Jess still didn't get it, no more rides, ever. But it sounds like this was the final straw, anyway

Doug W
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds lile a couple of free loading bitches played their game and got schooled. Run buddy run. NTA and best of luck to all of you. Dude had a couple drinks big deal. Sounds like he earned the reprieve. Call me a creepy anything for absolutely no reason other than appearing "cool" at any age and I'll happily cut you out of my life too. Stupid bitches. End of topic. Could seriously f up a mans life with that statement going awry.

Lindsay Stueve
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP could have just shown up in some ridiculous costume (like Beetlejuice or whatever) when he picked her up and really embarrassed the hell out of her.

Shelia Jackson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi Sir. I understand how you feel. My granddaughter does the same thing to me. She thinks its wierd that I take her every place, stay at all her events and she talks to me about everything...everything! She calls me her best friend. Everyone feels its wierd because of how I am always there. Yes she calls me names because she said no one else is doing for her what I am doing. None of her friends receive that special attention from their parents, step parents nor grand parents. Your step daughter did not mean it literally. She just sees you doing something for her that no one close to her is doing. Its a term of endearment and you two will laugh about it when she is much older. No child will.call their step parents creepy to their face and it be serious. The nice conversation you two had on the way to her event was weird to her because she didnt expect it. She wants to let her friends know that you are a great step father but its awkward to say with some giggly teenagers.

Cordelia Seymour
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teenagers just do stuff and they shouldn't face consequences for it what so ever is apparently a common thought? No wonder teaching sucks so much these years.

Jose Garcia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You made the right call by not picking her up at all. That’s disrespectful of the teen calling you a creep. Your residence, your car, your life, your call. Yourself first 👍

Anthony Adams
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No way in H.E. you know the rest someone is going to disrespect and embarrass me and think I am going to treat them like royalty. They can kiss my bum. And walk home.

Rudy Joseph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nobody wants to deal with another person's disrespectful kid. Stand on your square chief, the respect economy is very simple, you give it to get it.

Candice Faye blanton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mother and daughter are the problem. And no one seems to get it, so I'll say it, he didn't give his gfs daughter a ride after the comment because he couldn't trust her. Was the next step this girl telling someone he abuses her. He removed himself from a bad possible situation. It is not his daughter, and her mother should have called an Uber or taxi.

Darth Digital
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA at all. That young woman is ill-bred, undereducated, and rude. So many of today’s kids are snotty, entitled monsters. At some point, someone needs to teach them that there are consequences. You did the right thing. You did an even better thing by getting the hell out of that situation.

Rachel Gerstner
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is wreckless endangerment of a teen. I don't care how hurt your feelings are or how safe you think the area is. Leaving a teen girl to walk home by herself at night is asking her to get possibly raped or abducted. He's a man, so he doesn't have to worry about things like that, but he should have thought of that. Instead of whining like a little baby and throwing a tantrum, he could have just had a talk with her about why she called him that. He's the a**hole

Ashley Kay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is complete bs. The girl is 17, she called him "creepy stepdad" infront of her friends. Where are the friends? You know the friends Op suggested that she get a ride from. Or her lazy mother could have easily called her a cab or Uber. The girl is 17, if she is within walking a certain walking distance from the house its not going to kill her. You act like she couldn't pick up the phone and called someone while she was walking home. Also saying that he's a guy so he doesn't have to worry about being raped or abducted is completely ignorant. Op wasn't whining like a baby nor throwing a tantrum. You want to call someone creepy, expect that person to not want to be alone with you. That girl was 17, she knew EXACTLY what she was doing and it wasn't even funny. She was nasty, don't expect someone to cater to you when you want to make nasty comments that could have ended up ruining another person's life.

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Patricia Howard
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do think he over reacted by not picking her up but she's 17 and needs to know you can't go around saying things like that because it could have very serious ramifications for the step-dad. I think his best bet would have been to maybe called an uber for her and then had a serious chat with her when she got home that one doesn't joke about such things and IF she was joking or did she really have issues with him? Couldn't been handled a lot better.

Hannah
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA the fact he gave her a solid heads up (not his problem she ignores his texts, because I don't believe for a moment that the 17y/o wasn't on her phone even once in the hours she was out) was more than enough. Then add in the fact he'd been drinking, it was a SMART move not to go get her. Especially after she's just announced (in front of a school no less) that he's her "creepy step dad." If she's willing to say that as a joke, imagine the kind of story she might spin if he pissed her off. How many people might she have used as witness that she got in the car ALONE with her DRUNK and CREEPY step dad. No way. Absolutely not. Im glad the man seen sense and kicked them to the curb.

Kat Min
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hmm...I think, I'm in ESH camp, but I can understand the OP. Teenager can be mentally unsound for a time, because their brain does restructure itself. That is the only explanation I can think of why a girl would make a comment like that that can destroy someones life. That the mother isn't down on her like a ton of bricks but blames the boyfriend instead is incomprehensible to me. Everybody could and should have handled this situation much better.

Tracy Rieon Hall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mother and the daughter are just taking your kindness for granted. The daughter was just plain disrespectful to call you a creepy stepdad in front of all of her friends and then expect you to come back and pick her up? Now her mother should've checked her daughter and told her to apologize for being disrespectful to you; the man who is allowing the both of you to live in his home. Wow can we say just ungrateful and totally disrespectful plus the mom wouldn't have grabbed my car keys and drove my car with a suspended license no one drives my car but me.

Bobbi McGough Robert
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kid needs to learn that if you play stupid games, you win stupid prizes. Stepdad was not TA in any way, shape, or form!

Debrina Blackmoon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not even really her stepdad, tho' that's not the point. She and the mother are vile cuntwad fucktards.

SoñaSatiVa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She doesn't want a driver's license cuz it is proof of her age!

AJ Claymore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her license was suspended. OP doesnt come right out and say it, but it's pretty clearly implied that its suspended for drunk driving.

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Scott Rackley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He did the exact right thing. He shouldn't ever be alone with that girl again because maybe the next "joke" will involve the police. Get out now.

Lord Mysticlaw
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People are actually saying he's not the a*****e? After he just decided to leave a kid he was responsible for without a lift home? You don't take care of kids under you care because they are nice people, you do it because they are kids and you are the adult and they are your responsibility. I'm not going to not feed my kid or leave her stranded somewhere or whatever because I'm mad at her. Wtf???

SkyBlueandBlack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, not because he's mad at her. Because if she's spreading rumors like that about him, he could end up in prison and the only way to prevent that is for him to never be alone with her.

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Baby Lady
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jokes like this can escalate way too quickly and too far. Wrong ear might overhear and assume OP is indeed a creep. I can bet the teenager would then be too embarrassed to admit it was her being immature and would make a lie or two to get away with it.

Baby Lady
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jokes like this can escalate way too quickly and too far. Wrong ear might overhear and assume OP is indeed a creep. I can bet the teenager would then be too embarrassed to admit it was her being immature and would make a lie or two to get away with it.

jerrad sheldon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No wonder this next generation is so underdeveloped. She is 17 years, and will be an adult old in no more than 1 year. She is going to be living in a grown up world with grown up problems and no idea how to deal with them. Parents are coddling their little children instead of preparing them for life. This world is so screwed

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1 year ago

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jerrad sheldon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No wonder this next generation is so underdeveloped. She is 17 years old, she is going to be an adult in less than a year. Parents coddle their little children instead of letting them grow up. That's why kids get into the real world and can't make it

Nate H
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This witch is a sick disgusting animal as is the poor role model who raised her. Good riddance someone was using their head in this case, and probably saved themselves a lot of heartache.

Rudy Joseph
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, just type "creepy stepdad" into Google and observe what pops up, no defence for getting called that even in jest. You even have people who think he might have been creepy on the suggestion alone - that's how third rail the issue is. If that was said as a joke it's a joke in very poor taste. He instead chose to be called every name in the book except a pedo, can't fault him for that and you know it

Honey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're a single mother should you be moving into your boyfriends house only after a year?

João Loureiro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're an adult, and a minor who's not your child calls you "creepy XYZ" in front of other people, you should definitely NOT be seen alone with them, under any circumstances. Just step back, talk with their parent and step back a couple hundred feet more. Not your kid, not your problem. If in a relationship your partner isn't taking this into consideration, that's a big no-no and an absolute red flag. GTFO.

Jeff Motley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why does everyone think she is hiding her age from him? Is english not your all's first language? He said that she didn't want him mentioning her age in a reddit post, which is kond of screwy if he's not even using her real name in the post. Clinical studies have confirmed that crazy bitches are better in the bedroom than any other type of woman. By a huge margin. Even so, you can only put up with so much before it's just not worth ot anymore.

Italia58
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA The only criticism I have for you on your part was not including the mothers response when you explained to us what her daughter did. You are a man who is NOT her father. Perhaps there is some underlying resentment going on with her mother about YOU. I see this as a major red flag the daughter has already learned the art of manipulation. Yes they both have to go and be very careful with this as the next step from them is revenge ias in accusing you of unwanted advances. That fits in very well with the moniker of “creepy stepdad.” See where they’re going with this. Who needs that type of crazy. Should you give in and allow them to stay install cameras all over your house because accusations like this can destroy your life. The teen has already established a public record of lobbying this moniker of you in front of her friends. Picture this being asked of her in a legal setting after a revenge accusation of molestation has been filed…”Did you at any time tell anyone?…”

Kevin Felton
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok first off never dive on another man's grenade. Taking care of somebody else's kid is just a good way to get your heart permanently broken in the best circumstances. Plus this woman and her kid both sound like a complete train wreck. You shouldn't have let them in your house and now getting them out of there is probably going to require a lawyer, and there's more than likely gonna be a bunch of false accusations of domestic and or sexual assault. HOWEVER you're still the a*****e for this part of the situation. You should never have left a teenage girl stranded and then drank as an excuse. If you're worried about being in the car with her alone then have her sit in the back and set your phone to record video, but NEVER leave a teenage girl stranded after you told her you'd pick her up.

Dean Bernales
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He explicitly did not tell her he would pick her up, but quite the opposite. You should reread the post.

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Catherine Heiby
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe the child is telling the truth, the man is creepy and she knows just how creepy he is...I had uncles that were creepy!

HC
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude placed a minor in danger. Period. Plenty of time to discipline later. All three are a bunch of losers.

JD Dillon
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1 year ago

What if something bad had happened to the girl? All of the Id**ts on here would say that she had it coming. It was a dumb joke. Get over it. It sounded like OP had a decent relationship with the girl up to that point. Just explain to her - like an adult - why she can't say things like that in public as it could be misconstrued by other people. But his actions speak louder than her words. If OP was indeed a good person, he would not have left her, a minor, to fend for herself alone at night. What a creepy thing to do.

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Michael Hunt Seereigh
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean, maybe she really did feel that he was a bit creepy. Like maybe he stared at her for just a second too long too often, or she caught him sniffing bike seats outside the school, etc. Or maybe, she really wanted to bang him and that was her way of flirting. Just based on all of the moms red flags, I guarantee you the mom was dynamite in the bedroom--those types always are--and I'm sure that the s**t Apple doesn't fall far from the s**t tree. Normal, responsible, and undamaged women are always boring in the bedroom. Always. He should have at least stuck it out until the daughter was 18--probably in just a few months--then tried to bang her himself. I almost guarantee it wouldn't be the first older dude she's banged. It sounds like the girl has severe daddy issues, so if he doesn't capitalize, someone else will.

Jason J
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're creepy because why do you have her phone number to text in the first place. Mom is a degenerate and way too trusting of a man with her daughter. Daughter is just a kid so she's doing what kids do. Find someone more your speed I bet you're just a sucker in this situation and she's using you up.

Sunae Kutzi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

a creepy Stepdad is somewhat of a Clichee, it might have just been a Joke for her. People in a Family sould be able to just laught it of. However if it hurt him, he sould have just told her instead of acting all immature. Communicating your limits is much better then just acting out and asserting Dominance.

Cindy Caruso
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok first you don't leave a young girl to walk home when you promised a ride. Second you could have told the gf as soon as you got home and insisted that she come with you to pick the kid up. Teens have this thing where the step dad is supposed to be the enemy. This one actually liked you but felt the need to show her friends she didn't approve. It's kid games yes even at 17. You over reacted and left a young lady to fend for herself in an unsafe world. Your are an ah. You also expect them to just find a new place to go in days. Obviously this relationship wasn't a good one and should have never even started. Never ever leave a woman of any age to fend for their own way home when you promised a ride. This is how they disappear from the face of the earth

Ashley Kay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Op did warn them that he wasn't going to be picking her up. He even gave them suggestions. But the mother refused to listen to him and tried pushing him to pick up HER daughter. Also, no 17 year old is going to call someone a "creepy stepdad". This isn't a game, it doesn't happen. 17 year Olds don't just go walking around with smiles on their and call some creepy. That's nasty. Op didn't "overreact" the guy is smart. All if would have taken was a single adult to hear her comment and Op could have been in alot of trouble over something that you consider a "game".

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Shane Henry
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yta big ah and the way he talked through thtmat whole post is a red plag, the loser said that sounds like a you problem to his gf while he was acting like a child. Something small grated on him endlessly until he was acting like this...he has deep deep problems and is a huge ah. Kids say stiff like that for fun it's not serious and most dad will joke back with a quip, he is just a loser and obviously holding that they javelin no where to go over them and now kicked them out because he was a child. The people say he is nta at even bigger ah and I hate this world because of him and people like him.

Damo Steele
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Something small grated on him? Creepy stepdad has precisely 1 implication, if someone made that suggestion of me you know they're out the door, especially since the mum's reaction was immediate hostility, he wasn't a child he was protecting himself, he was under absolutely no obligation to house them, they were not entitled to a place in his home, they disrespected him and got told to leave that's that, maybe the pair of em will learn some grace, what consequences are (contrary to moronic belief, 17 year old is old enough to watch your mouth and face consequences for c**p you spout) and to not act like entitled morons in future, but I ain't holding my breath.

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Unknown
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shes a kid. She probably didnt mean it to be offensive or anything she was probably just joking, a grown man should not act so immature , the teen was bArely being disrespectful, she was just joking around. The guy tho was disrespectful. You dont just act so immature bc a 17 yr old may have accidently hurt ur feelings. Shes lucky she has a mom who would stand up for her... Id not let someone treat my child like that either

Damo Steele
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids very unlucky to have a mum that teaches her that regardless how disrespectful she is she doesn't have to apologise to the person she wronged, she's unlucky that her mum seems to think being in a relationship with someone means you're entitled to double down on your kids s****y behaviour and still expect the partner to allow you to live in his home, she's unlucky that her mum instead of acting like a parent in the situation, sitting her daughter down, talking to her, explaining what she did wrong and making her apologise, acted like an idiot, drove on a suspended licence and outright insulted the man who was putting a roof over their heads thereby making them homeless. He owed them nothing, especially after being disrespected that way to his face and in his own home and no amount of "teenagers say stupid things joking around" changes that, it just makes you sound equally as stupid as the mum and her daughter who was unlucky enough to be taught this was ok.

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Mora Chilis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YTA-I think giving them more time to find a place is warranted. That's a bit immature retaliation wise. Other than that NTA

Deidre Westover
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My husband would laugh if my son called him creepy step-dad. A grown man shouldn't be this upset unless he is a creep.

Mrs.Pugh
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A grown man who is not a creep should and would be this upset over something like this. Look at the world we live in, people take these "jokes" seriously. That little girl could've got him in trouble.

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_ Tripp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reason 1,446 why men should not involve themselves with women who have kids. It adds complexity to a relationship you don't need. Men, do yourself a favor and take a hard pass.

Bad Ass69
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have acted differently. I'd have said. Ok! You little psycho tramp! Don't forget to take your anti I'm being a snotty little pea brain b!t©h pills! Ok! Later. Then chew out her mother's butt for being a terrible mother for sending her daughter off with creeps! Then refer to the friends that were present! A rude and obnoxious looking dangerous disrespectful crowd who she met up with. Then cleverly guilt the Hell out of this Amy dingbat! How dare you allow your daughter to associate with those types of children! Lay it on thick. Tell her as you were leaving they were making fun of some fat kids and a mentally handicapped student! How could she let her daughter associate with and act like that! But keep a straight face. Then make the daughter explain herself and what happened! If the mother does not correct her daughter then they both need to go and you get a jolly laugh and some peace!

Robert T
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I spy with my little eye, a trio of a**holes. He's an ahole for leaving a young girl in the lurch - you pick her up and talk about the comment later when she is safely home. The mother is a massive ahole for driving on a suspended licence. The daughter is an ahole for her creepy stepdad comment. Next!

CP
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1 year ago (edited)

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That guy is the AH. It seems everyone commenting is saying the girl was immature and apparently think passive aggressiveness is mature. I don't get it. The simplest thing to do, that would also have shown the daughter an example of maturity, would be to pick her up and talk to her about it. This AH chose to act like a child over an offhand comment that wasn't meant to be mean at all. Thus the immature cycle continues. Edited to add that I find it hilarious that everyone talks about the maturity of the comment by the 17 year old and not the maturity of someone in their 30s using passive aggressive punishment, secret punishment and then lies about the real reason he won't pick her up. Real bang up job showing the daughter how to be an adult.

Tyranamar Seuss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not to mention drinking, throwing away an entire relationship over it, not acknowledging any other view points, etc. Dude sounds like an immature jerk.

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Silre
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What a tool. Yeah, you're the a*****e, dude. Grow up.

Peppy Piplup
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1 year ago

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So in response to being called a name, OP threw a tantrum and left his daughter (a minor) stranded in the middle of a city after dark. Just because he thinks the city is "safe" doesn't mean it actually is. Grown men don't get creeped on. And he also risked his wife getting in trouble with the law when she went to rescue her from that situation.

TurquoiseTzarina
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NOT his daughter or his wife. The "creepy" commenter is the OP's girlfriend's daughter. Well, ex-girlfriend according to the OP's edit to his original post.

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T.O.S.o.R.
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Teenagers will say mean things or things they don't mean when in the presence of their peers. Shrug it off and you'll be blessed with a wonderful step daughter in a few years!

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