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They say that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. But what if the apple doesn’t just fall nowhere near the tree, but does everything to roll in the opposite direction? Because the truth is not all kids want to be mirror images of their parents, and when they grow up, they often want to be nothing like their mom and dad.

Speaking of moms, there is a TikTok creator who runs her hugely popular channel “Not Like My Mother.” With a whopping 8.2 million total likes, the TikToker Meesh has won hearts just by sharing hilariously accurate and painfully relatable videos in a series with the same name–Not Like My Mother.

“Healing with humor & new habits,” the description of Meesh’s TikTok channel says, adding that it’s “100% satire” and “100% truth.” Scroll down to see how the creator does everything not to copy her mother in various situations and walks of life, which will surely ring a bell to many of you there!

In order to find out what are the reasons why adult children don’t want to be like their parents, Bored Panda reached out to Emily Malamet, a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist from Paris Psychology Centre, who shared some very interesting insights.

Malamet told us that it can surely happen that certain adult children don’t want to behave like their parents. “It is possible that adult children had witnessed certain parental behaviors growing up that they didn’t appreciate or were harmful to their wellbeing or that of their family, and don’t want to recreate this in their own lives/or as future parents,” the clinical psychologist said.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I still like going to the store or the market, because when ordering, it's a gamble, so I like to have the choice of which potato or whatever I take home.

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Moreover, certain individuals are afraid to be like their parents or engage in similar behaviors, Malamet said. “For some, early experiences with parental figures can leave emotional wounds, which are feelings which we were particularly sensitive to as children that may be easily triggered by others in the present.”

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Malamet explained that it is important for these individuals to work on being sensitive to experiences they may be triggered by, what others do that can trigger these reactions, and let those close to them know about it. “This is implies being assertive and letting others know what they may need. By doing what they couldn’t do as a child, they can work on repairing these old emotional wounds.”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my country, you can take expired or surplus medication to a pharmacist, and they will safely dispose of it. It's is not a good idea to put it into the bin/trash.

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When asked what are the reasons why some grown-up children decide to cut off their parents, Malamet said that there are many of them, but the most common reasons are (but are not limited to): “abuse and neglect during childhood, difference in opinions, having previously felt controlled by their parents, perceived lack of support, having been put in unsafe environments by their parents growing up, high expectations from their parents, mental health issues (being experienced by the adult child or their parent), traumatic events experienced with their parents growing up, parental divorce, or favoritism towards one child in the family,” the clinical psychologist concluded.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you! I hate that people still won't carry something to drink with them . Don't leave home without it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This ones stupid she's just throwing away perfectly good socks because they don't have a matching one. Just match them up with a similar sock, if they have different coloured soles than it doesn't matter if your wearing enclosed shoes, no one will see them.

Coralinea
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And their partner turns up three minutes after the trash was picked up.

Leoninus Fate
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wanna use the worse curse words here, I LOVE SOCKS i beg people to buy them for me, and tons of weird ones, I mix them I never wear the same matching ones, they ALWAYS have to mismatch Because someone might look down and see my feet and SMILE, and Silly mismatched socks make people SMILE AND BE HAPPY, EVERYONE WEAR MIXXED SOCKS AND MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your comment oddly warms my heart. Thank you for sharing this, it was genuinely wholesome. I'm wishing you plenty of smiles!

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Liam Lowenthal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why? Wear mismatched socks or at least upcycle them into dusters. You know how many clothes just from fast fashion are in landfills? Don't help it along jfc

Deanna Crichley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I put one on top of a broom handle with a rubber band to bring cobwebs down from the ceiling. I rolled one into a ball. It's my pincushion.

Theoretical Empiricist
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I run the remaining sock through the wash again in hopes that it will either attract its mate back from the other side of the dimensional barrier or distract the Laundry Demons away from the other pairs.

Megan Cheeky Chook
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This entire thing is just about how she likes throwing things away. Is she, like, invested in landfills and killing the planet? Has she even heard of recycling?

Helen Taylor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do that periodically, though they also make good dust rags. After I throw them away, one or two of the mates show up.

Zeta Thompson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If they have no holes and are a microfiber use them to cover a Swiffer type thing. Reusable and washable.

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Jez Sellers
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or you could donate them??? Why on earth would you throw away perfectly good socks?? There are shelters, homeless people, or people just having a hard time who would appreciate having warm socks to wear even if they don't match!

Ches Yamada
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We tie a knot in the socks that get holes in them and give them to the dog. He likes them better than his actual toys lol

Jane Ryan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My adult daughter doesn't know what a pair of socks is. She just picks 2 out of the washing basket and wears them.

Canis Rasor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Okay this one is actually stupid. Your sock doesn't match to another and suddenly it's unusable??? Just wear a similar sock wtf

Ba-Na-Na
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I always buy the same socks. Black ankle sport socks. When one has a hole…wait a bit because another sock in a different pair will get a hole. Bam! Another pair of socks

PigSquatch
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her fucken sock budget must be huge. I seem to lose one everytime I do laundry. I would be buying socks by the semi load

Karen Grace
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mismatched socks make great rice socks to use frozen or warmed with aches, pains, and injuries. Just fill the sock about ⅔ full and tie off the end. If it gets messed up, poor out the rice, wash the sock and refill the sock.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think I've ever seen my child wear matching socks.

Jasper
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My kid likes wearing socks that don't match, so I just let her wear mine when the match gets lost 😂

Jj321
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But the mate usually shows up around a week after you throw it away.

Firstname Lastname
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As long as my socks are the same height, I don't give a hoot. And if you're that picky, make a puppet! I used all my old unwanted (relatively good condition, just too short for my feet) socks to create a stuffie that my mate keeps on his work desk to keep him company.

Renate Stargardt
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But before we throw away the "single socks", we use them to dust, clean the bike/motorcycle or whatever, or we try to DIY something out of them. 😂

Caroline Starr
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've never understood this lost sock thing I've probably 'lost' two socks in 49 years of marriage, and three kids.

Gary Geracci
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's true and besides it saves on have to buy socks for a while.

Key Lime
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Put them on your hand and use them to dust a few things, then throw them out.

Sara Esse
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the website knickey has a recycling program for socks, underwear, tights, etc. i recommend it!

Unaffected
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And we don't mend the holes on our socks.God I hated that when I was a kid and always refused to wear them

Celtic Pirate Queen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't get this at all. All my life we were taught to roll our dirty socks together before they went in the hamper. We (Mom & 4 kids) RARELY were missing a sock. My husband & I have been doing this for 15 years and I have yet to get "the lone sock" in a load of clean clothes.

Dawnieangel76
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We've carried the same bag of unmated socks to all 3 times we moved. It's on the table right now. 😂

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do this if they are different thicknesses. I recently got rid of all my tube socks. Now just fitted socks with tight weaves.

Deborah THE Band
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So. You've no scissors. [Or, they don't do the cleaning themselves. --- Pardon? --- They have a maid who brings her own rags. --- Ah!]

Emily Benda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I understand the purpose of a lot of these posts- as a hoarder who is trapped in a home and a life they don't want and drowning in stress from how to properly use or dispose of things, it is incredibly liberating to remember that you can just throw things away...quality of life matters too. That being said, mismatched/old socks make great hair ties, just cut strips down the ankle, and the foot makes a great cleaning mitt

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe donate them to a shelter instead of throwing them out. Socks are the #1 least donated item and people need them! Source: I've worked at multiple shelters over the past 15 years

Elaine Harley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Buy at least two pairs of the same socks. And multiples of basic socks.

Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Used the word "ALL" like it's a major issue! Unless you have kids or pets, missing socks always turn up. You are throwing away perfectly good polishing cloths even if they don't.

Josh Lindberg
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Waste all my socks match. So if i have one with out a partner i put it aside and wait till i have another widowed sock and boom shotgun wedding and we we have a new pair

Jude Kay
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wear either mittens or socks on my hands when it's cold. OTHERWISE when my hands come out from under the blankets, I wake up!! You can also put the socks over your hands when you put on lotion. You can wear them on your feet for cleaning dirty spots on the floor. Just spray some water and dance (carefully, more like a glide) over it. LOTS of actual GOOD uses for mismatched socks

Naomie Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not a problem in my house. I use a few lingerie bags to keep socks together.

Gramma Carol
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those sox are great for dusting, cleaning things, cutting up to use as ties for cords and ect. Cut the tops off the nice clean cotton ones they make nice cozies for drinks. If you lose one no big deal as you were going to toss it anyway.

Callie Ge
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My kids Liked wearing mismatched socks at home. School socks were all exactly the same so they didn’t matter

Ron
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wasteful, there are a ton of things you can do with socks with no mates

Jelena Putinja
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why ? I love mismatched socks and if they have hole in them I use them for dusting and then trow them away instead of washing rags

AR
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why this obsession with matching socks if they’re not going to be seen?

Jane Deshotel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you pay attention before doing laundry there are no orphan socks

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As the generations progress, it’s natural for adults to want to separate themselves from their parents. With the ever-changing world, it’s difficult for adults to stay connected with their parents' values and experiences.

Adults today are faced with a unique set of challenges that are vastly different from their parents’ experiences. This can make it difficult to relate to their parents, and it can also create a sense of disconnect when it comes to values and beliefs.

Just think of how much technology and the internet changed the way we communicate, learn, and work. Meanwhile, the job market has shifted, with many jobs that didn’t exist when their parents were young. This means that the methods of achieving success and finding fulfillment can be vastly different from what their parents experienced.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WHO SAID IT IS A GENDERED JOB??? Where did this woman come from where changing a f*****g lightbulb is a "gendered job"???

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I cleaned my student tables with donated baby wipes. Same thing. Those wet soapy sponges look like they are cleaning but until you wipe the table after with a baby wipe you have no idea how dirty they still are. Art class. At the end of every class. An article I read of where kids get germs in school prompted this. It was a precovid article.

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The desire for adults to separate themselves from their parents may be also driven by the idea of personal growth. Many adults want to create their own paths and avoid following in their parents’ footsteps. They don’t want to be limited by their parents’ expectations and beliefs, and they want to explore their own interests and passions.

Moreover, adults today may feel a sense of responsibility to make a difference in the world. They may feel a pressure to use their skills and resources to address the issues facing the world today, and this may lead them to create their own version of success.

A growing number of studies also show that adults today more often cut ties with their parents than ever before. A study in 1997 explored family relationships in later life and found that 7 percent of adult children had cut ties with their mother and 27 percent with their father. Meanwhile, in 2020, a study by sociologist Karl Pillemar showed that 1 in 4 Americans are estranged from their families—roughly 67 million people.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wash and reuse ziplocks, occasionally I need them. Don’t need to hoard but easy to wash and reuse, I don’t use half wrap

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aaah the optimism in this... sure, when someone tells the same story you've heard a few times before, go on and listen it out. And don't interrupt someone who is having a monologue and making wrong assumtions along the way. And when they say they believe their hause is haunted and it should be burned down, believe it and encourage them... Point being: It's a nice concept but not good to use always.(Or maybe she means when people talk about certain subjects?)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So if the driver was driving like a f*****t you wouldn't tell them to stop? Okay.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, there was a marketing push through the 70s and 80s as to how bad butter was for you and how much healthier it was to use 'plant oil' margarine.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One little tear in the rubber and she's throwing it away, does the rest of it not work?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is absolutely nothing wrong with have emergency food. In fact, it's recommended.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The Millennial urge to keep the boxes that our cell phones came in. I was born in '84 and I still have no idea why I do this. But, thanks to the Internet, I know I'm not alone.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wear a wallet chain! I never lose my wallet because it's clipped to my pants! Though I do have to remember to switch it to whichever pair of pants/shorts I'm wearing that day from the previous day's pants XD

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

An alternative, if you are not using the washing machine every day, is to have bucket of water, with some disinfectant in the water. When you use a cloth drop it into the water. When the bucket is full, or you're doing a load of laundry, add the rags. If you are using a front loading washing machine, put the rags into a laundry bag.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's nice, but what if you need to make a note when you're upstairs, or in the garage, or on the other side of the house from where your notebook is? XD There's nothing wrong with using random scraps of paper to write down memos and notes, as long as you dispose of them accordingly once you don't need them any more.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bleach has been proven to only lighten disperse mould spores not kill it, and is horrendous for the environment. Where I live, council cleaners are not allowed to use bleach, even if the customer provides it, for health and safety reasons. If you are worried about mould or germs, double-strength (cleaning) vinegar should be used, according to British scientific studies. Mould specific cleaners can be used if it is an established problem.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just don't start to breasfeed them, change their nappies.... That would be weird.

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