ADVERTISEMENT

They say that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. But what if the apple doesn’t just fall nowhere near the tree, but does everything to roll in the opposite direction? Because the truth is not all kids want to be mirror images of their parents, and when they grow up, they often want to be nothing like their mom and dad.

Speaking of moms, there is a TikTok creator who runs her hugely popular channel “Not Like My Mother.” With a whopping 8.2 million total likes, the TikToker Meesh has won hearts just by sharing hilariously accurate and painfully relatable videos in a series with the same name–Not Like My Mother.

“Healing with humor & new habits,” the description of Meesh’s TikTok channel says, adding that it’s “100% satire” and “100% truth.” Scroll down to see how the creator does everything not to copy her mother in various situations and walks of life, which will surely ring a bell to many of you there!

In order to find out what are the reasons why adult children don’t want to be like their parents, Bored Panda reached out to Emily Malamet, a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist from Paris Psychology Centre, who shared some very interesting insights.

Malamet told us that it can surely happen that certain adult children don’t want to behave like their parents. “It is possible that adult children had witnessed certain parental behaviors growing up that they didn’t appreciate or were harmful to their wellbeing or that of their family, and don’t want to recreate this in their own lives/or as future parents,” the clinical psychologist said.

RELATED:
    #2

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Lakota Wolf
    Community Member
    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wear a wallet chain! I never lose my wallet because it's clipped to my pants! Though I do have to remember to switch it to whichever pair of pants/shorts I'm wearing that day from the previous day's pants XD

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    #3

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    LK
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An alternative, if you are not using the washing machine every day, is to have bucket of water, with some disinfectant in the water. When you use a cloth drop it into the water. When the bucket is full, or you're doing a load of laundry, add the rags. If you are using a front loading washing machine, put the rags into a laundry bag.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu

    Moreover, certain individuals are afraid to be like their parents or engage in similar behaviors, Malamet said. “For some, early experiences with parental figures can leave emotional wounds, which are feelings which we were particularly sensitive to as children that may be easily triggered by others in the present.”

    ADVERTISEMENT

    Malamet explained that it is important for these individuals to work on being sensitive to experiences they may be triggered by, what others do that can trigger these reactions, and let those close to them know about it. “This is implies being assertive and letting others know what they may need. By doing what they couldn’t do as a child, they can work on repairing these old emotional wounds.”

    #5

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Elita One
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One little tear in the rubber and she's throwing it away, does the rest of it not work?

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    #6

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    ima cat v2
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    WHO SAID IT IS A GENDERED JOB??? Where did this woman come from where changing a f*****g lightbulb is a "gendered job"???

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu

    When asked what are the reasons why some grown-up children decide to cut off their parents, Malamet said that there are many of them, but the most common reasons are (but are not limited to): “abuse and neglect during childhood, difference in opinions, having previously felt controlled by their parents, perceived lack of support, having been put in unsafe environments by their parents growing up, high expectations from their parents, mental health issues (being experienced by the adult child or their parent), traumatic events experienced with their parents growing up, parental divorce, or favoritism towards one child in the family,” the clinical psychologist concluded.

    ADVERTISEMENT
    #8

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Do Not
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with have emergency food. In fact, it's recommended.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    ADVERTISEMENT
    #9

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Debbie
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just don't start to breasfeed them, change their nappies.... That would be weird.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu

    As the generations progress, it’s natural for adults to want to separate themselves from their parents. With the ever-changing world, it’s difficult for adults to stay connected with their parents' values and experiences.

    Adults today are faced with a unique set of challenges that are vastly different from their parents’ experiences. This can make it difficult to relate to their parents, and it can also create a sense of disconnect when it comes to values and beliefs.

    Just think of how much technology and the internet changed the way we communicate, learn, and work. Meanwhile, the job market has shifted, with many jobs that didn’t exist when their parents were young. This means that the methods of achieving success and finding fulfillment can be vastly different from what their parents experienced.

    ADVERTISEMENT
    #10

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Debbie
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aaah the optimism in this... sure, when someone tells the same story you've heard a few times before, go on and listen it out. And don't interrupt someone who is having a monologue and making wrong assumtions along the way. And when they say they believe their hause is haunted and it should be burned down, believe it and encourage them... Point being: It's a nice concept but not good to use always.(Or maybe she means when people talk about certain subjects?)

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    #11

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Jill Rhodry
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be fair, there was a marketing push through the 70s and 80s as to how bad butter was for you and how much healthier it was to use 'plant oil' margarine.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu

    The desire for adults to separate themselves from their parents may be also driven by the idea of personal growth. Many adults want to create their own paths and avoid following in their parents’ footsteps. They don’t want to be limited by their parents’ expectations and beliefs, and they want to explore their own interests and passions.

    Moreover, adults today may feel a sense of responsibility to make a difference in the world. They may feel a pressure to use their skills and resources to address the issues facing the world today, and this may lead them to create their own version of success.

    A growing number of studies also show that adults today more often cut ties with their parents than ever before. A study in 1997 explored family relationships in later life and found that 7 percent of adult children had cut ties with their mother and 27 percent with their father. Meanwhile, in 2020, a study by sociologist Karl Pillemar showed that 1 in 4 Americans are estranged from their families—roughly 67 million people.

    ADVERTISEMENT
    #13

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Lakota Wolf
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's nice, but what if you need to make a note when you're upstairs, or in the garage, or on the other side of the house from where your notebook is? XD There's nothing wrong with using random scraps of paper to write down memos and notes, as long as you dispose of them accordingly once you don't need them any more.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    #15

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    DforDory
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still like going to the store or the market, because when ordering, it's a gamble, so I like to have the choice of which potato or whatever I take home.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    #16

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Jeremy James
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The Millennial urge to keep the boxes that our cell phones came in. I was born in '84 and I still have no idea why I do this. But, thanks to the Internet, I know I'm not alone.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    See Also on Bored Panda
    #19

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Barbara Kayton
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bleach has been proven to only lighten disperse mould spores not kill it, and is horrendous for the environment. Where I live, council cleaners are not allowed to use bleach, even if the customer provides it, for health and safety reasons. If you are worried about mould or germs, double-strength (cleaning) vinegar should be used, according to British scientific studies. Mould specific cleaners can be used if it is an established problem.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    #20

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Diego,Laura
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you! I hate that people still won't carry something to drink with them . Don't leave home without it.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    ADVERTISEMENT
    See Also on Bored Panda
    #23

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Elita One
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This ones stupid she's just throwing away perfectly good socks because they don't have a matching one. Just match them up with a similar sock, if they have different coloured soles than it doesn't matter if your wearing enclosed shoes, no one will see them.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    #25

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Bluetoyou
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I cleaned my student tables with donated baby wipes. Same thing. Those wet soapy sponges look like they are cleaning but until you wipe the table after with a baby wipe you have no idea how dirty they still are. Art class. At the end of every class. An article I read of where kids get germs in school prompted this. It was a precovid article.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    #26

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Lisa
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wash and reuse ziplocks, occasionally I need them. Don’t need to hoard but easy to wash and reuse, I don’t use half wrap

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    #27

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    Elita One
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So if the driver was driving like a f*****t you wouldn't tell them to stop? Okay.

    LK
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My job in the car is navigator. My husband is the driver. Together we make a good team.

    Stay Off My Lawn
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh yeah. My parents’ generation can’t seem to understand that backseat driving and playing with the radio causes the driver to make mistakes. If the driver swerves off a bridge over your foolishness, you die too.

    Bluetoyou
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a rule in my car that I teach my grandkids. I have had to use it on my husband, MIL, and mom. The number one rule about traveling in a car is do not distract the driver. The grandkids can recite it back to me as needed.

    Irreverent 1
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Speak your mind. I am not a child. if you are a horrible driver I'll tell you to stop the vehicle so I can get out of the car. I've done it to my own mother.

    Tim Sireno
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've also had the opposite with some passengers, who because they can't stand not being "in constant control" they criticize *EVERYONE* else's driving while riding. One particular young lady in college who I rode with some 40 odd other drivers was this way, we soon started telling her to just ride a bus then. And hilariously she often complained that they drive even worse!

    Load More Replies...
    LuLuBelle
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Try that with my husband driving, I dare you. I refuse to let him run over people, sorry.

    Hawkmoon
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wanted to warn you that someone was coming at full speed from the left, but since you told me to be quiet... Er... Can you hear me?

    FlatEarf
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well she didn't point to the back seat so backseat drivers are ok, and since we can't give input, can we give hypothetical situations?

    Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl)
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had to remind my husband that he's not driving or giving a lesson, so if he doesn't like my driving, he can either get out or drive.

    Channo Sagara
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, second generation drivers are better because they got yelled a lot by their parents. It suck, but you learn. I have a lot of first generation driver friends (their parents couldn't afford cars), they all drive like moron daredevils.

    K-Dawn Bennett
    Community Member
    10 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When taking a road trip, my job is "DJ" lol. Had to find a station that would come in clear in the middle of nowhere lol.

    Susan Widomski
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you sure we don't have the same mother? I remember the mother that would try to revenge someone cutting in front of her by zooming around the driver and then braking in front of them. Would scare the you-know-what out of me.

    Caleb Burrows
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know this rule might be good for some people my mom has almost made me got in an accident twice with her backseat driving

    Megan Boomershine
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sure and when they fall asleep and hit something or someone youd better not grab the wheel and stop it or anything like that the person in that seat gets no say if they die its up to the driver.

    Jane Ryan
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry but I like my imaginary breaks when someone else is driving.

    Naomie Moore
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wouldn't know on this one. I always seem to be the driver. It's an event if someone else drives.

    georgia layne
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You might want to get your car checked with all those lights on...

    Bob Bobbins
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope, not if you're driving like a crazy person, tailgating, weaving in and out of traffic, etc. There's a difference between telling someone the "best way to drive" or whatever, and telling someone to stop endangering your life.

    PigSquatch
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    F**k off fucktwit. If you drive like an a*****e I am going to tell you and may stay in the car until you learn to drive like a god damned human instead of the entitled piece of s**t you think you are

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu
    ADVERTISEMENT
    See Also on Bored Panda
    #29

    Refuse-To-Be-Like-My-Mother-Tiktok

    notlikemymother Report

    Add photo comments
    POST
    LK
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my country, you can take expired or surplus medication to a pharmacist, and they will safely dispose of it. It's is not a good idea to put it into the bin/trash.

    View More Replies...
    View more commentsArrow down menu