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“AITA For Refusing To Do My Husband’s Laundry Anymore After He Had A Go At Me After Surgery?”
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“AITA For Refusing To Do My Husband’s Laundry Anymore After He Had A Go At Me After Surgery?”

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Whether you live alone or with someone else, there’s always one thing waiting for you at home – laundry. It’s there on good days and bad, through thick and thin, calling your name from the laundry basket brimming with dirty clothing.

Unfortunately, laundry doesn’t care if you have health issues, which was the case with this redditor. But since she had a surgery to go through, her husband took over laundry duty. Though, the second she was back, he had comments about it. Scroll down to find the full story below.

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    This man made a comment about laundry after his wife had just come home from surgery, which didn’t make her feel any better

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    Many couples argue over who should do the chores

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    Whether we like it or not, there are always chores waiting for us. More times than not, there are dishes to be washed, laundry to be done, things to be put away, and if not that then floors to be mopped, you get the idea.

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    Having to constantly take care of things like that can be seriously annoying and even strain people’s relationships who live under the same roof who are also responsible for the chores piling up. However, the same people can make it easier to tackle it all, too, if the tasks are somehow shared among the residents.

    A survey of adult Americans, carried out by Yelp and OnePoll, found that chores not only can but do strain the relationship of many couples living together – as much as 80% of respondents admit they have disagreements with their significant other over housework; one-fifth of the 80% say they have them often.

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    According to the survey, the most common causes of chore-related disagreements relate to the questions of when to do chores, how to do them, and who should do them. Seeking to avoid such disagreements—or to avoid having to do certain chores—some people go to great lengths and even lie to their partner or purposefully do a bad job at tidying up or cleaning.

    Women are more likely than men to take on the responsibility of doing laundry

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    Yelp’s survey found that men are more likely than women to make an effort to get out of doing chores. So, it’s no surprise that women continue to bear more responsibility regarding the main household tasks, Gallup reports. According to said source, married or partnered heterosexual couples (in the US, at least) tend to divide chores along largely traditional lines, with the females being primarily responsible for doing the laundry (58%), cleaning the house (51%), and preparing meals (51%), while men take on the responsibilities of keeping the car in good condition (69%) and doing yardwork (59%).

    Gallup revealed that while 58% of respondents say that laundry is usually taken care of by the woman in their household, 13% say it’s the man who braves the laundry basket more often, and 28% tackle it as a team. Be that as it may, for many people—male and female—doing the laundry is not that big of a burden; some might even enjoy it. According to the American Cleaning Institute’s (ACI) 2019 National Cleaning Survey, laundry is the cleaning task Americans enjoy doing the most (followed by cleaning countertops, vacuuming, and doing dishes, respectively).

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    It’s unclear whether or not the OP or her husband enjoys doing the laundry, but it has to be taken care of, nevertheless. And while it is usually the OP that does it in their family (as she shared in the comments under the post), her husband took over when she had the surgery, which was followed by him making a comment that split netizens into camps about the situation.

    The woman provided more details in the comments

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    Many netizens didn’t think the woman was a jerk in the situation

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    Some people believed that everyone involved was a jerk

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    Some redditors took the husband’s side

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    What is your view on the wife's decision to stop doing her husband's laundry?

    She's setting healthy boundaries

    It might be a bit too extreme

    She's justified given the circumstances

    They should discuss it first

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    Miglė Miliūtė

    Miglė Miliūtė

    Writer, BoredPanda staff

    A writer here at Bored Panda, I am a lover of good music, good food, and good company, which makes food-related topics and feel-good stories my favorite ones to cover. Passionate about traveling and concerts, I constantly seek occasions to visit places yet personally unexplored. I also enjoy spending free time outdoors, trying out different sports—even if I don’t look too graceful at it—or socializing over a cup of coffee.

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    Mindaugas Balčiauskas

    Mindaugas Balčiauskas

    Author, BoredPanda staff

    I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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    StrangeOne
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone's hung up on the shirt issue, whereas I'm seeing a bigger problem. She's not only in pain, she's recovering from the anesthesia. So, already not in the best frame of mind, nor memory. At this time he chose to tell her to stop doing something she's not exactly remembering she has done, but then accepts she has and then recalls last year she was told by him is okay to do. He's well aware how mentally and physically vulnerable she is. He couldn't bring it up before her surgery, or remind her? "I don't mean to have a go at you" is equivalent to "I don't mean to sound rude but..." You know this is their way to have a pass to start something. I've been in this type of manipulative relationship, so I know what it sounds like. She's being gaslit. (I know it's an overused word, but it is appropriate in this situation.)

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He should have said something a long time ago but didn't, leading me to believe that he may have been the one to actually do it. He's just blaming her because he has to cover for her while she heals. Most men with a stay at home maid don't like that.

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    dandylilah
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Why the f**k would you bring that up right now?" is what OP should have said, instead of sorry.

    justagirl
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...op is recovering from surgery. the timing is just...wow.

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    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone's hung up on the shirt issue, whereas I'm seeing a bigger problem. She's not only in pain, she's recovering from the anesthesia. So, already not in the best frame of mind, nor memory. At this time he chose to tell her to stop doing something she's not exactly remembering she has done, but then accepts she has and then recalls last year she was told by him is okay to do. He's well aware how mentally and physically vulnerable she is. He couldn't bring it up before her surgery, or remind her? "I don't mean to have a go at you" is equivalent to "I don't mean to sound rude but..." You know this is their way to have a pass to start something. I've been in this type of manipulative relationship, so I know what it sounds like. She's being gaslit. (I know it's an overused word, but it is appropriate in this situation.)

    tori Ohno
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He should have said something a long time ago but didn't, leading me to believe that he may have been the one to actually do it. He's just blaming her because he has to cover for her while she heals. Most men with a stay at home maid don't like that.

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    dandylilah
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    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Why the f**k would you bring that up right now?" is what OP should have said, instead of sorry.

    justagirl
    Community Member
    1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...op is recovering from surgery. the timing is just...wow.

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