As usual, the YTA comments are so bizarre. Kids being kids, if one person gets something different from the rest they’ll all be like ‘hey, what about me? I prefer popcorn, where’s my popcorn?’. What’s OP supposed to do, do extensive research into every kid that could come round and have their favourite prepared? The insinuation that they were ’clearly only doing it to feel good about themselves’ and thinking ‘f**k that disabled kid’ is just an astronomical leap. Madness.

NTA re: the OP. It's free stuff that you don't have to take. YTA re: the YTAers... a pic especially for them ⏩⏩⏩ 143a4550e5...nsored.jpg

How dare he nto having a fully stocked grocery store at home for all the kids' preferences???

Giving out candy is an act of charity, not a obligation.

Sorry but as a disabled person it really annoys me when people milk disabilities for special treatment or extras. The parent in this situation is an AH for milking it! This parent has the majority of the neighborhood snowballed. She throws on the " my poor baby" act every chance she gets so her child gets all the extras and special treatment. On Halloween the neighbors jump right on the bandwagon. It's a great disservice to the child too. The child doesn't need extra candy and treats. The child needs to be treated equally to everyone else. So the child should have chips just like everyone else. Mom's got a good little racket going on here. I am sorry but I would never milk any of my disabilities for extras or special treatment and never have. I believe that eventually the child,depending on the disability won't be with mom forever and is going to realize mom's wrong and that the world is not going to be like this. Now as far as the neighbor with the chips, I don't blame them for shutting their lights off next year and not giving anything after putting up with an entitled parent like this. They weren't wrong for not giving the disabled child extras. Not everyone is going to do this. The entitled parent has now ruined Halloween for ALL the children because of her demands for extras. She should realize that her child was being treated equally to all the other kids. That's how it should be. SHAME ON THAT PARENT FOR MILKING THE DISABILITY FOR EXTRAS. I THINK YOU ARE DESPICABLE !

The proper way for the parent to handle it is to go through her kids treats after trick or treating and remove those items the kid can't have and replace with things the kid can have, not make a bunch of neighbors change up what they supply to accommodate one kid.

As usual, the YTA group is pretty unhinged, and more entitled this time than usual.

A sacred part of the Halloween experience is dumping out your bag on the floor, putting the candy into groups, and then trying to offload the Tootsie Rolls to your brother. The poor kid w/ the overbearing mom is in for many years of coddling abuse.

The best memories I had as a kid was the time after trick or treating when my sister, cousins and I would lay out our haul and trade each other for our favorites. So kid gets a bag of chips that he won't eat, let him trade it with another kid for a snickers.

It's not "missing a chance to be nice to a disabled kid," it's the kid being trained to believe that everyone has to accommodate his preferences. Notice OP said the kid "don't" aka won't eat them, not that the disability is necessarily the reason for that.

I heard a similar, but much better story: a kid had a special diet and couldn't eat candy, so the parents went around the neighborhood ahead of time with small toys and requested that people give those to their kid instead of treats.

YTAs obviously think handing out stuff is mandatory.

I always felt like getting a candy you don't like is just the "trick" in trick or treat. There's plenty of other goodies in the bag. That said, I do make a point of getting some treats that don't have peanuts because so many kids seem to be allergic.

I sympathize with the mother. It has to be hard to have a child who can not fully participate in things. That being said, when thinking about a general neighborhood trick or treat, no one can take in to account every childs preferences or limitations. Also, I can kind of get the attitude of, well I just won't do anyting. I have seen so much ruined because everyone wants exactly what they want, so people get too burt out to even try.

I grew up in a small neighborhood and we knew which houses handed out what. What I didn't like I gave to my siblings and vice versa. My daughter is an only child and she was 10 months old on halloween. She couldn't eat gum or hard stuff but she could eat soft chocolate and suckers. So she had a jar of "safe" candy that she would get a peice of occasionally while me and her dad got the rest. Now she's old enough to eat whatever and if she gets something she don't like then she gives it to us. Everybody wins. If you know a house hands out something your kid can't have either skip the house or give it to a kid that does like it. Either way it's free so don't complain.

One of my best friends growing up has a severe dairy allergy, so he couldn't eat any of the chocolate treats handed out on halloween. Do you know what his parents did about that? Bought a special bag of safe treats for him that he 'traded' for his chocolate candies so he could have the same haul as his siblings. That's what you do for a kid with a disability, you don't demand that your neighbours give out different free candy for them. Absurd

Gee... just like every other kid, that kid is going to get something he doesn't like /s. I give out Warheads, which is a totally divisive candy.. It's "TRICK or treat"... people forget that (poor Charlie Brown used to get rocks). One time a very young child saw what I was giving out and yelled out, "I don't like those!" Her mother was appalled and was trying to reprimand the kiddo when I stopped her and whispered to the kid, "It's got a decent trade value. Trade it to another kid for something they have that you like."

People are entitled and rude. I never pass out candy. I keep my porch light off on Halloween. I put up no decorations at all for any holiday. Personally, it is too much work. And doorbells and cats do not get along. No one is required to participate. If doing so will cause crazy parents to come out of the woodwork, I would opt out, too.

Okay, I have a daughter that is allergic to artificial color. (M&M, Skittles,Smarties, etc). When we checked bags, we removed anything that had color in it and substituted with candy she could have. (Tiny tootsie rolls, snickers, peppermint patties, etc.) Then asked other 2 kids if there was any candy they don't like and would like to trade. It worked out, no one had to accomodate my child, I did it. I had friends that knew her problem and did special for her out of their own goodness but I would never ask them to do it.

Either you take it or don't , demand something else is terrible behaviour.

I'm allergic to chocolate. My Mom used to buy a bag of non-chocolate candy and when I got back from trick or treating she'd trade me my chocolate for candy I liked/could have.

I was taught a phrase in kindergarten: "You get what you get and you don't throw a fit.". Was this not a universal experience?! The entitlement of people is astounding.

The problem arises if they give one kid candy, then all the kids would expect candy. So, no. Unless you have a special relationship with the neighbor's child, and can gift the candy outside of the trick or treating time, it's an unreasonable ask. BUT DO NOT PUNISH ALL THE KIDS FOR ONE STUPID ACT.

I'm gonna chime in here (from Canada)....and say....I do not think the OP is an a*****e for not wanting to break from their tradition of giving out a bag of chips to each child. The AH in the scenario provided is the entitled parent who thinks her child is entitled to 'special privileges' just because he is in some way 'disabled'. I'm not saying we shouldn't make accomodations for disabled children, of course we should when possible, but we shouldn't have to spend money to do so. The OP is giving out treats FOR FREE, if entitled parent doesn't want her child to have said treats FOR FREE, then skip that house. BUT...the OP became the AH when he decided to just say f*ckit and not give out treats to ANY kids, just because of entitled parent. I mean, he did say he was going to give the chips to schools/churches for their hallowe'en parties, so, I guess he isn't a complete AH...just a mostly AH for all the kids who were hoping for that bag of chips again this year.

Halloween has devolved from a fun time for children to their parents acting like idiots while their crotch goblins are rude and ungrateful. I quit giving out candy years ago and I'm happier for it.

My mom ALWAYS bought sugar free candy when I was a kid because she's just a nice person. I give out party favors like bracelets or toy cars because of allergies. It's not that hard. Kids these days are bit more sympathetic to other kids who have different needs. A girl went to elementary school with parents would just pay her for the candy she couldn't eat, so she still got to go trick or treating.

NTA. Giving the boy a different treat would be easy if agreed on ahead of Hallows ' Eve- Amazing how self- oriented some people are. I'm really sorry this spoiled things for OP. Actually I think the chips idea is a good one & I may give those this year

Give him a toothbrush

NTA, your neighbor is. I lived next door to a couple with 2 special needs children. I made special treat bags for them when their mom asked if they could come and show me their costumes. Everything in the bags was approved for them by Mom (I asked first, and told her it would all be from my kitchen made from scratch). As soon as they moved away, I turned off the lights. My driveway is 1/4 mile long and dark. No one comes except a few. I don't want candy around so I shut if down many years ago. I did make treats for my grandkids, but that's it. The point is, my neighbor's children just wanted me to see their costumes, they didn't expect anything in return. She didn't demand or even ask that I accommodate their diets, but they were good kids, their parents were nice people so I did.

This is exactly why I don't do trick or treat at my door. Now more people are harder to pleases. There will always someone ruin the fun of holiday. It's NOT our job to do that. Being entitled and demanded took the fun out of Halloween. I don't blame ya for turn off the lights.

Has the mom considered that her kid could trade his chips with someone for candy?

We moved from a country that didn’t have Halloween to North America, for the first 2 or 3 years my parents went along with it. They stopped as soon as the first AH came around, they were mad that a certain candy wasn’t available. Providing a treat for kids on Halloween shouldn’t be causing any stress on the person providing it. YTA people are unhinged.

It's not that hard to accommodate special needs kids in situations like this. Imagine living every day unable to enjoy the things other kids can. My ministry holds a large trunk-or-treat every year, and I make sure every car has a couple of non-food items in case of allergies. I also ask each kid if they have any allergies. It doesn't' hurt anyone. It's not about being entitled, it's about being a good person. If my kid could only have a couple of things, I'd go ahead of time to each house and give that person the candy so that my kid could enjoy the trick-or-treating experience. Maybe that mother could have done the same with the OP, or just skipped her house. But the bitchiness of the OP set me off completely. Kids don't always understand why they can't enjoy things that others can. But a little bit of kindness goes a long way.

It doesn't say that the kid can't eat chips, just that he doesn't like them. The mom could have bought candy that her kid can eat and give it to the neighbour to give to her child so her child won't feel excluded. OP could have done something nice for a disabled child but seemed more interested in sticking it to his mom instead, just a sad story over all.

OP is the a*****e for going the nuclear route and just not handing out chips for Halloween at all. I do actually agree that they're also TA for not being willing to accommodate a single child with special needs, although I would want to know how he well they know their neighbour. I wouldn't accommodate a child I didn't know, but if this is a neighbour close to them, they likely know the child, and the child comes every year to the house - it doesn't hurt anyone to have a single candy set aside for them, but it would delight that child to no end. Call me whatever you want, but I will always do my best to make the world a better place for the kids in my life.

I'm not saying she is or isn't an ah .if she knows the kid has a specific allergy she could get something he can have while she's buying for the others .it would take no more time and she wouldn't have to make an extra trip to the store.i have a 10 year old niece that is perfectly healthy but is allergic to gluten .I get a small box of gluten free brownies and give one to her .I give the rest when she comes to visit or I eat them myself and they are quite good .so no, picking up one special thing for one special kid is not the big personal hardship you're making it out to be

Let him be Charlie brown...I got a rock

How many times I have gotten candy I don't like , I couldn't even count. But if I get to request treats, I'll take a filet mignon.

What nobody has mentioned yet is that having a disability doesnt mean a free pass in life to accommodation. And while we should strive to make things as accessible as possible it may not be possible/feasible to accommodate evey single person. My brother's autistic and wasn't held to any standard of accountability until adulthood. So he learned late that actions have consequences. Throw a tantrum at work, get fired. In life sometimes you dontget wh!t you want, disabilities or not. Find a workaround. In this case maybe skip the house you dont like or trade for better treats. Its harmless now, but whar happens when that kid grows up thinking everyone will accomedate him becausehes got a disability? How well do you think that will go down in university or the workplace? Better to learn how to navigate things one doesnt like now then late in life where the consequences are actually impactful.Maybe teach the kid trading for better things then if dont like it well make everyone else change.