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Emily Freeman has a wide range of diverse programs and expertise areas built to help ambitious men find the missing piece in their life, their dream woman and partnership. “It’s my mission to help men realize their true potential in dating & relationships. To free themselves of lines and tactics and become authentically confident connecting with high-value women.”

“My formulas and approaches to dating have helped hundreds of men release deep-rooted insecurities and discover who they are to attract their dream woman. I focus on getting quickly to the root of my clients’ issues so they can transcend them and experience completely new realities in dating,” the dating coach explained about her job.

Throughout the years, Freeman has helped hundreds of CEOs, public figures, physicians, entrepreneurs, and high-performing executives and professionals release their dating blocks, step into their most empowered selves, and get the woman of their dreams, so she surely had some insights to share with us.

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Having worked with social services, if the bathroom lock looks like it’s been replaced several times, leave and don’t go back.

EmpireofAzad , Amanda Vick Report

Final score:

394points

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SAF saf 1 year ago

Interesting point, I had a realtor point that out to me once. He pointed to the the split door jams and bashed in holes in doors. It was clearly a sign of domestic violence in the home.

224points

Nicoll Cope 1 year ago

I had to break into mine and my husband's bedroom our first valentines day as a married couple. I got everything all set up, lit the candles, had music on, even had rose petals scattered across the bed... and then somehow I managed to lock the bedroom door on my way out. We spent our first valentines day married taking the door off the hinges to get back into the bedroom. We had to replace the door handles on the bedroom and master bathroom because they were sticking and if you closed the door, about half the time, it'd be locked. So I've changed the door handles about every 5 years at this point, so I don't have to keep breaking into the bedroom because we accidentally lock the door. There's definite scrape marks on the door jamb from me getting a screwdriver underneath the hinge-plate. Guess I'll have to repaint everything if we ever sell!

13points

RafCo (he/him) 1 year ago

My kids break our locks. Particularly my one daughter who gets ... over enthusiastic about spending time with mommy while she's pooping. But we have a really old house, and there are no locks on any of the inside doors. The bathroom lock is a hook, and pops out easily.

7points

Stephanie Downs 1 year ago

If it is a rental, it could be signs of DV of previous renters, though. How sad the new renter has to be made to pay for the poor choices of another.

2points

Kai Tapia 1 year ago

Or troublesome teens…. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️??

2points

Greg Cagle 1 year ago

What if you are renting and that damage was there when you moved into the place? My front door has been broken into and shows damage but not from me.

0points

HAL 1 year ago

0points

Ember 1 year ago

Very good point. You don’t want to have to be the next one to lock yourself in there for your own safety.

18points

elmortero 1 year ago

That is dark, but indeed a good observation. A lock on the outside of the bathroom should also raise questions

17points

Deborah B 1 year ago (edited)

Add: dents in doors, from being kicked or shouldered in, punch holes in dry-wall. Door handle holes in walls, kick prints on walls (unless there are teen boys in house for the last two, in which case someone may have just had a growth spurt) Edit to add: If someone is punching holes in walls, they're not managing their anger well. Working on you anger management is great, and props to all those people who are. The red flag still applies. This is a person who is likely on their best behaviour with you They may be learning to manage their anger and getting better, but you can't tell where they are in their personal journey, what you can see is that they have holes punched in their walls, and they haven't fixed them. If you leave politely, and raise the issue later at a place and time where you are safe, you can listen to their explanations, and hear about their journey, and make a decision about whether you want to trust this person, but right now, this is a danger sign.

11points

Cassi Lyris 1 year ago

And poorly patched wall holes...split door jambs ...all things I'm way too familiar with...

7points

Mary Kelly 1 year ago

also, locks on the outside of bedrooms...realtors are supposed to report to cps if it's a kid's room

7points

Valdemar 1 year ago

This is not always the case, there could be a family member in the home that has mental illness and they lock themselves in a room with the intention of self harm, I went through this with my daughter during a period that was very dark.

5points

Raye West 1 year ago

Domestic violence is quiet violence sometimes, and you need to know where to look...

3points

Roberta Bray-Enhus 1 year ago

If you’re in social services,that slide lock should raise some red flags,and maybe report it.

2points

Connie Martin 1 year ago

I just bought a 105-year-old house. There's a full bath in the basement with security hinges on the inside of the door, and signs of jimmying of the lock on the outside. I don't know what to think

2points

Clown fish 1 year ago

Or in my house the doors are cr#p and my kids pull the handles off

2points

Nicoll Cope 1 year ago

I accidentally locked myself in a bathroom while my parents were gone as a kid. I was home alone and my mom was taking my younger brother to the doctor, because we were both sick. I went to the bathroom, and when I went to leave, the door handle came off in my hands. My dog was just outside the door howling his head off, but I didn't have any tools to get the door open. I had to crawl out of the bathroom window after my mom got home, amd we had to wait until my dad got home so he could take the door off the hinges and open the door (because it was locked when the handle came off).

5points

Mommatried 1 year ago

Not the lock, but the door... Holes in the doors...

1point

Amy Burke 1 year ago

All the more reason for the social to keep re visiting surely??

1point

Charlotte 1 year ago

All the locks in my house have been replaced multiple times and when we bought the place there was no lock on the bathroom... I only realised after reading something similar online and it broke my heart. I try not to think about the history of the house :(

1point

Janet Howe 1 year ago

Good point.

1point

Sara Llewellyn 1 year ago

Why is that?

1point

Zainub Chohan 1 year ago

Don't get it ?

1point

Tine Jansen 1 year ago

It’s a red flag for evidence of past abuse. You get into a heated argument, you get scared, you run to the bathroom which is usually the only room in the apartment with a lock, your boyfriend is furious and tries to bust the door down. Hence the broken locks.

8points

George Miller 1 year ago

so what if it is all from who ever lived there before him, and the landlord just wont do a proper fix? most apartments i have moved into had tons of crappy easy to notice "fixes" so does that make me a red flag for not spending my money to fix something that is not my responsibility? alot of places are to cheap to do proper repairs and will just do the absolute minimum.

0points

Ralph Watkins 1 year ago

That's disturbing. There was another apartment building next to the one I lived in. The landlord was a schmuck like his dad was. He told me about tenants that just moved out that all of the doors were kicked out by their kids. I did not know the kids lived with them. I only rarely saw them. Reading this has me seeing things in a whole new light.

0points

LovePsychos 1 year ago

Domestic violence should be considered a serious crime. At some point punches turn into a murder...

0points

Danielle Ketterman 1 year ago

I once dated a guy who had bedbugs and denied having them. Real nice pal.

0points

Androgyny Lunacy 1 year ago

Wow you all get with some violent individuals. I'm lucky I never had to worry about that because I only like guys that have a bit of femininity to their personalities. Not sure why women like macho dudes at all.

0points

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Jennifer Ferreira 1 year ago

I don't see where anyone said men's washrooms are dirty, it was about locks on bathroom doors but that's a cool fact.

1point

If there's plastic over the furniture, that can only mean one of three things:

1. He has extreme OCD

2. He's repainting

3. You're about to have your organs harvested

TheF0CTOR Report

Final score:

382points

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Ember 1 year ago

That escalated quickly…

276points

First of, Freeman noted that women notice small details. “They notice the way your place looks, smells, and feels. They take it all in.”

According to the dating coach, women open up and want to get closer to a man when they feel safe. “They’re looking to see if you have a clear vision and plan to get there. The way you live tells her what you value and if you consider her desires and needs,” Freeman explained.

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) The Confederate flag

anon , Steve Baker Report

Final score:

368points

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago

On a hat, on a shirt, on a tattoo, doesn't matter, that flag is a hate symbol on par with the swastika.

303points

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) I've gone on two separate first dates where I've gone back to his place, only to find an array of BDSM equipment laid out neatly on his bed in anticipation -- once to be used on him, once to be used on me. (It wasn't used on either of us, either time.) These were *first dates.*

I'm down, but there has to be a conversation first, you know? You can't just spring that on someone.

Portarossa , Harry Page Report

Final score:

362points

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Elita One 1 year ago (edited)

Definitely need to talk about that first, consent is sexy.

225points

nymph_suicide , Florencia Viadana Report

Having said that, Freeman assured us that women don’t expect a man’s place to look like a Pinterest image. “They get that design and details aren’t necessarily your forte, though it’s always a bonus if your place looks polished.”

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) I like to follow the advice of one of my favourite quotes:

"We need to make books cool again. If you go home with somebody and they don't have books, don't f**k them."

-John Waters

Final score:

359points

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Sedona 1 year ago

E-books! I still have some books with sentimental value but I sold most of them and went digital. Does that make me less efable? Thank gods :D

128points

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Once went on a date with a guy. Went back to his studio apartment and there was a “security” camera on the wall that had the bed and whole living area in view. Didn’t know him very well, didn’t fully trust the camera was off. Red flag

Mooneater13 , Mary Oakey Report

Final score:

324points

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Ember 1 year ago

Oh hell no!

124points

However, there are some big red flags men should avoid when bringing their date home. “But when your place is messy, there’s no bedframe, or there are signs of other women, her guard can go up. She’s less likely to want to get into your bed sheets if they aren’t fresh.”

This is important because when a woman is looking for a partner, she is searching for signs of what her life will be like with a man, Freeman explains. “She wants to know you can take care of yourself. When your place is clean and organized, it shows her you can plan and lead. In other words, she'll sense you could be a great potential teammate and want to get closer to you.”

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) I once dated a guy who had a six-inch marijuana plant growing from his damply disgusting bathroom carpet. It wasn't so much the weed that put me off, it was that he had shag carpeting *in the bathroom.*

SuzQP , Majestik-Eagle Report

Final score:

318points

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Nor 1 year ago

I feel you here, who puts carpet in a bathroom???

162points

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) No soap in the bathroom to wash your hands.

Darknyan004 , R ARCHITECTURE Report

Final score:

306points

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Joshua David 1 year ago

I have a best friend who will have a Christmas celebration and not put soap or towels in the guest bath. It's odd.

91points

“A tidy and furnished home tells her that you are ready for a long-term relationship. That you know how to plan ahead, not only for her arrival but for the relationship moving forward,” the dating coach explained.

When asked how you should prepare your home before bringing your date home, Freeman said that a woman will notice if your place is clean and tidy. “She’ll look at your floors, countertops, and bed. She’ll notice if there are crumbs, clothes and shoes lying around, or if your bed isn’t made.”

#10

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) I went to a guys (late 20's) apartment and he had spongebob squarepants sheets and the entire collection of ICarly on dvd. He did not have kids.

Edit: I realize that these things alone could be harmless. These were just the initial red flags though. I stopped talking to him after he showed me a picture of his 13 year old sister that he carried around with him and talked about how "sexy" she was and how he didn't understand why his mom wouldn't allow him to come visit her.

Jessibeeb , Cbfalbo Report

Final score:

284points

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Matias Marczak 1 year ago

Ok, that turned really dark really fast.

345points

#11

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) No cleaning supplies. No toilet cleaner, dish soap, dish rack, mop, broom, vacuum, dirty dishes in the sink (like a pile that hasn't been done in a while), no trash bag in the trash can. lots more but can't think of all of them right now

poorcupid , Ellie Burgin Report

Final score:

278points

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General Anaesthesia 1 year ago

Waiting for that "I'll go on a second date but first I'll have to clean your place up" person.

84points

What’s also important is to help a woman feel comfortable and relaxed. Freeman’s tip is to have something refreshing to offer her. “And a clean glass to put it in!”

Moreover, she’ll also notice the lighting, the dating coach says. “Lighting can either make a woman feel relaxed or want to run for the hills. Ditch any fluorescent bulbs for soft white light. Dimmers are always a plus!”

And last but not least, Freeman reminds men eager to make a great impression on their date not to forget about the bathrooms. “Have clean towels hanging and put the toilet seat down for her.”

#12

Cat s**t smeared around the litter box and ground into the floor. Anything having to do with s**t, p**s, and mold not being cleaned up/taken care of.

It just baffles me, like if this is what you're willing to show me the first time I ever visit your apartment I can't imagine what horrors await me when we really get to know each other.

Edit: in addition to this, your cat having constant diarrhea in addition to everything above is a huge red flag that you not only can't take care of yourself, but you also can't take care of the one other life that you are in charge of

mossattacks Report

Final score:

265points

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Šimon Špaček 1 year ago

Sounds like somebody was feeding milk to cat.

97points

#13

Pee in water bottles.
Walked in. Took a look and walked right the f**k back out.

Final score:

260points

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Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 1 year ago

WHY?!? Why not just use the bathroom? why are people like this?

134points

Now, if you want to take a step further and make sure that your place really makes an impression, then there are some tricks to try. Freeman’s advice is to have scent sticks or a diffuser to make the place smell like a high-end department store or hotel. “Candles are always a nice touch too. Just make sure there aren’t so many that she wonders if you have expectations of where the night will go,” she explained.

#14

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) He has much more stuff than he can realistically afford to own. And I don't just mean unmanageable debt. Let's say he has no debts but he's consistently vague or dodgy about what he does for a living. "I'm into imports". FLEE.

Patches67 , Hunters Race Report

Final score:

250points

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Linda Lee 1 year ago

Yeah, he's a drug dealer.

146points

daisy-chain-of-doom , Becca Schultz Report

#15

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Sheets that smell and look dirty.

No soap at the bathroom sink.

Skid marks

Clear evidence that he eats straight out of the pot or pan. Edit- eating out of the pot, ok, efficient. My true objection was that there were always multiple pots with food left lying around his place. Accidentally stepping into a pan of cold pasta is never an experience I want to repeat.

Sink full of dishes growing their own life forms.

Huge gaming computer with trash all around it, literally thrown on the ground and never dealt with.

Soap scum in the shower so thick you can run a nail through it to the tiling.

This is all one guy. I should have noped out faster, but was ignorant of men being decent creatures. Tbf- I was 19.

Edit- spelling. And clarification regarding pots.

Final score:

232points

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Ember 1 year ago

If he can’t be bothered to clean up before you come over, what hope is there?

141points

Moreover, “It’s always a good idea to have a stash of extra, unopened toothbrushes,” Freeman argues. “But don’t go too above and beyond to have extra toiletries. This may give her the idea you have frequent female visitors,” she warned.

“When she walks into your bedroom, there should be two bedside tables — one for you and one for her on each side of the bed.”

#16

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Too many mirrors.

Erotic art.

A half completed suit made of human skin on a tailors dummy.

hobbes_shot_first , Ellen Tanner Report

Final score:

220points

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Ember 1 year ago

I was ok until the third one….

208points

#17

A closet full of empty alcohol bottles presented as an achievement

hapile Report

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213points

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Boii 1 year ago

Have seen this, super cringe

86points

Most importantly, Freeman suggests “instead of focusing on the outcome or her opinion of you, shift your attention to how it feels to have her in your place.”

“How does she walk into the place? Does she offer to take off her shoes? Do you feel like she’s respectful of your stuff? Does she thank you for offering her a beverage?”

#18

Crispy socks

Final score:

209points

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That Bi Book Lover 1 year ago

I did not know how much two words could make me gag. Thank you for that mental image.

216points

#19

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Holes in walls. F**k no.

EDIT: I was talking about holes he punched in anger (or for fun, which is crazy behaviour)

EDIT 2: I'm SO SORRY to all the guys and girls out there with anger management issues that they are working on. I didn't mean to belittle your situation. I was thinking of the type of person who smashes walls, furniture, windows and people without giving a damn what happens next. I was thinking of legitimate A******S. Anger issues does NOT make you an a*****e by default (I struggle with this sometimes too, though not to the extent that others have mentioned, so I get how it messes up your self-esteem and ideas about what kind of person you are). For all of those people who are struggling with this type of issue and are trying to fix it, you deserve utmost respect. That s**t is HARD. Sorry for the blow to the self-esteem, that's not fun when you're already struggling. ):

anon , shaireproductions.com Report

Final score:

206points

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Ember 1 year ago

You have to be aware of your own safety and holes punched in walls don't give you that ‘I feel safe here’ vibe.

258points

Even more important than how your place looks, Freeman added, is how you two feel in it. “If she seems nervous, stay in the common areas and help her feel more relaxed by sitting close to her while leaving breathing room,” the dating coach concluded.

#20

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Decorates with beer logos and pics of weed culture.

A person so into their alcohol and drugs that they decorate their apartment with it is just not going to be a quality relationship.

Edit: Okay, clarification of my intent is needed lol. I'm talking about the apt of someone out of college, who has plastered his walls with PBR flattened cases (for soundproofing, man!), has pyramids of beer bottles (because it's cool, man!). Many posters of Bob Marley with weed, Cheech and Chong with weed, pictures of weed leaf everywhere, has beer logo bath towels, beer logo drinking glasses, has a couch throw that is weed leaf designs, the massive bong, water pipe and 8 lead hookah are the star attraction in the living room. THIS is the type of manchild I am referring to.

anon , REVOLT Report

Final score:

194points

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Winchester Salem Randolph 1 year ago

I work in the weed industry so weed is literally my life

63points

#21

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) No hand towels/paper towels/anything to dry my f*****g hands on in the bathroom after I wash my hands.

icantplaytheviolin , the blowup Report

Final score:

191points

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Green Tree 1 year ago

That means he doesnt wash his hands after using the bathroom. Ew.

116points

#22

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Plates and/or silverware crusted with old food.

Bonus points if they're plastic.

Extra bonus points if they're in the bedroom.

Extra extra bonus points if they're in the sink with the dishwasher empty.

meakcpark , Portuguese Gravity Report

Final score:

172points

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Brocken Blue 1 year ago

Oh gods… this just gave me visceral flashbacks to live with my ex

57points

#23

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Lots of pictures of his ex.

Toodlepie , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

170points

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steaky 1 year ago

Maybe he was married but his partner passed away?

99points

#24

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) One often overlooked thing is *too different from yours*. If it's too dirty or too clean compared to how you keep yours, get ready to deal with the difference. A messy person will always leave a mess, and a clean one will nag you about yours.

Then there's in-depth hobbies. It's not necessarily a bad thing if someone has anime figurines or sexy calendars, but the question always is, do you? If someone likes something enough to have it around and buy associated merchandise, it's a major hobby. If you can't enjoy it together, it will stand between you.

SleepyBoy- , Jason Leung Report

Final score:

162points

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Animelover14 1 year ago

Hobbies don’t stand between people. You each can have your own hobbies and find new stuff you enjoy together

184points

#25

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) A bathroom sink and floor so covered in hair you’re not sure what color the sink is/was.

A bedroom filled with so much s**t it looks like a hoarder house.

No couches. No sitting area. Just a tv and a lawn chair for gaming.

I walked out within 10 minutes and regretted A LOT.

Edit: spelling because typing is hard.

katsu_later , Erik Mclean Report

Final score:

155points

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N Miller 1 year ago

It took 10 whole minutes?!

76points

#26

Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue tearouts all over the walls by their twin bed, when they are a 25yr-old adult.

pamplemouss Report

Final score:

142points

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Wiley Stephen 1 year ago

Sounds like he was a wack- o. The O stands for off!

44points

#27

I once met a girl who had a wedding dress in her apartment, she said she was saving it for a special day.

I left quickly after that.

Final score:

141points

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EmbersAreOut 1 year ago

I mean, if she got the dress from someone, or it was on sale and she new she would like the style in the future, i would not find that a problem. If she just bought a full-price wedding dress for no reason, that might be an issue. Also did she ever mention having a previous partner? Maybe they were going to get married but it ended after she had gotten the dress.

111points

#28

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) No toilet paper. Sick full of dishes. Stank. Crunchy hand towels. BEDSHEETS TACKED UP FOR CURTAINS AND YOUR A*S IS OVER 22.

Not owning a hammer is weird too but that's all genders and I might be the weirdo there. Unsure.

tomqvaxy , Taryn Elliott Report

Final score:

139points

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SAF saf 1 year ago

I think 22 is pretty young to have your s**t together. I know 30 y/o that use sheets as curtains (men and women) and some are married with kids.

78points

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#29

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) His ex girlfriends stuff.

not-_-a-_-stalker , Johanne Pold Jacobsen Report

Final score:

132points

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Linda Lee 1 year ago

Ex girlfriend stuff may mean she is out of town and coming back.

140points

#30

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Roommates who don't ask your name or really even say hi. This usually means he has girls in and out of the apartment and they don't feel like putting the effort in any longer.

ToxicLuv , Sigmund Report

Final score:

130points

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General Anaesthesia 1 year ago (edited)

Or it's just a roommate who thinks it's none of their business, you're the other's friend, not theirs.

177points

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#31

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) During the first date or so, everything is immaculate.

Then the more you know him, the more cluttered it gradually becomes. Trash here and there, kitty croutons not being picked up. No trash bin in the bathroom, no toilet paper on the roll.

Forks and plates strewn *everywhere*.

Laundry *everywhere*.

You'll wind up being his mother and maid instead of a significant other.

Final score:

31points

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Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 1 year ago

"kitty croutons". I almost choked on my coffee 😆

18points

#32

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Picture frames turned face down with another woman.

anon , Angela Roma Report

Final score:

30points

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Ember 1 year ago (edited)

Still not over his ex? Married or in a relationship?

9points

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#33

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Not a ladie but me & gf slept one night on a borrowed aparment of this single guy, while on trip. He has a sort of shrine with some 3d printed statues from 20cm to 1m of himself. I mean, it was kind a small church of him.

monkeyzoom , Paweł L. Report

Final score:

29points

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Ember 1 year ago

Weird, creepy, narcissistic vibe here.

9points

#34

A queen size bed with one pillow, no sheets, and a crumbled polyster comforter thrown on top. It just really bothers me when people don't treat their bed like the fluffy haven it is.

stutteringwhales Report

Final score:

26points

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Beck 1 year ago

I love my bed. I make it. when I got up. There is NOTHING better than getting into a nice cozy, made bed after a long day.

14points

#35

Well if there's NOTHING in the house except a blow up mattress in the living room, I would nope the f**k out and I did.

mobybowie Report

Final score:

26points

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Nitka Tsar 1 year ago

My husband had only a mattress when I was the first time at his place. He had a completely furnished flat shortly after. First impressions can be misleading.

3points

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#36

I once went home with a guy and there were dozens of condoms on the coffee table.

Final score:

23points

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Anon Yymi 1 year ago

Used or not?

27points

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#37

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Using a daily calendar of naked girls as toilet paper.

Edit- the calendar in question looked like this but with naked chicks. http://imgur.com/loe1ayk

whyamihere0 , Manasvita S Report

Final score:

22points

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Brook Payne 1 year ago

.... he did what?

15points

#38

Probably all the KY Jelly bottles that my former guy friend had strewn around his apartment. One in the kitchen, one in the living room, one in the bathroom.... I lost count. That night he confessed he had feelings for me, but I didn't feel the same way. Things got pretty awkward and I haven't talked to him since.

jojomecoco Report

Final score:

22points

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Cassi Lyris 1 year ago

Sounds like he's got issues with yanking the crank a bit much. I hope you were honest with him and told him specifically what was the put off. Some guys (and gals) don't understand.

4points

#39

"Tools! Tools! Duct tape, zip ties and gloves! I have to have my tools!"

"Why do you have a bunch of, like, weird tools in a hidden compartment in your car?""

"It's fetish- it's fetish s**t! I-I-I like to bind, I like to be bound!"

Final score:

19points

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Elisha 1 year ago

RED FLAG is it only me who gets kidnapper vibes

20points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

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#40

Photo frames on the wall that still have the sample photos in them. I think that women's gym shooter did that.

Edited to add: Thanks for all the replies! In a room full of other things, I can see how it wouldn't be a bad thing at all, especially if the stock photo happens to be a nice scene. But in an empty place devoid of life (because the owner wants it that way and not because they just moved in and don't have a budget for decor) and there's that one sad framed stock photo picture on the wall, that's so disturbing to me. When the news stories detailed what the gym shooter's place looked like, I couldn't help but shudder.

tarantulawarfare Report

Final score:

17points

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Ninette T 1 year ago

*puts away her frames that don't even have a stock-photo* FYI, they're standing on a shelf because I couldn't find fun foto's to put in there yet. One's got a Doctor Who quote though ^^

11points

shouldprobablylisten Report

#41

His pet rat free to roam the dining table.

I'm fine with rodents, but not where you make food. The 3 other rats in the freezer, waiting for the fourth and lone survivor to kick it so they could all be cremated together, was a line well crossed however.

Final score:

16points

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Cassi Lyris 1 year ago

Nah, he just loved his rat buddies. Frankly, he was probably glad you left, too. Having said that, remember fellow rodent buds, rats are predominantly incontinent and pee basically all the time to find their way around by smell. Put little diapers on them or be prepared to clean all the surfaces you let them on. This really should go for ALL pets though. Honestly though, it just sounds like the OP has an issue with rodents as pets, which is a shame because rats can actually be pretty affectionate. They live terribly short lives though.

3points

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#42

Not a girl but one thing my grandpa told me was to always have a lidded trashcan in the bathroom. I’m surprised I haven’t seen this on here so far.

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Final score:

15points

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Ches Yamada 1 year ago

LOL, I said this above. We have lidded cans in our bathrooms because bathroom trash can be gross.

1point

#43

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) Stayed overnight at a guys house once and brought my toothbrush to brush my teeth in the morning. He had no toothpaste and only mouthwash and used that to brush his teeth. Most bizarre thing I’d ever seen and he had great teeth!

PurpleCat14 , ajay_suresh Report

Final score:

14points

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Sofia 1 year ago

studies shows that more important than the toothpaste is brushing itself...

24points

#44

The Communist Manifesto.

Comrade.

Edit: I’m not making a political statement. Communism. Red flags.

Jetstream13 Report

Final score:

13points

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Kitti B. 1 year ago (edited)

So person can't own The Communist Manifesto? That doesn't mean he is a communist. It's been publicated sereval times as a piece of history. So nobody ever can read it and own it? It's not about hate at all. It's pretty harmless and was pretty harmless back it the day. It was just taken out of its original context by some really awful people.

10points

#45

Any odor of garbage. A messy bathroom lacking common hygiene products. Too many “collectibles”

dedredcopper Report

Final score:

13points

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Ches Yamada 1 year ago

"Collectibles" ...I'm side eyeing you, here. The quotes make me believe you think something isn't a collectible when it very likely is, it's just not to your liking.

16points

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#46

Asked wife this question. Without hesitation she said “superhero bed sheets.”

NovacaneJackAss Report

Final score:

12points

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Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 1 year ago

...my bf marvel pajamas are sexy, fight me

40points

#47

Note: Not a woman. Can still give advice.

1: Dude clearly has physical space at a premium yet rooms are clearly not put together and he moved in a year ago. Your living space doesn't need to look like an Ikea show room but there's a point where it's obvious you expect someone else to do it for you and you just haven't gotten around to guilting mommy and daddy into it yet.

2: More than a quarter of your dishes are dirty and either in the sink or stuffed into your dish washer. Dish washers don't work properly when they're stuffed to the brim- something you'd know if you ever *used* it- a sink that is full with more than just two or three dirty dishes- I mean, I immediately clean pots and pans either after the meal or depending on it, after I'm done cooking- like you don't get where they're coming from.

3: Stank, or interchangeably an incredibly strong air freshener scent. The air freshener thing is an auto-break for me because it actually gives me migraines, but people tend to forget that houses are supposed to be *opened up* during the warmer season. And the only reason your home smells- thus justifying air fresheners- is because you don't. clean. up. after. yourself. Week old dirty laundry and a trash can that needed to be taken out a week ago will do that.

4: Carpets that needed to be vacuumed / floors that clearly need sweeping. If it's been a month the answer is always, 'yes.' Put some headphones on, it takes 30 minutes to an hour, tops. Your standard issue bachelor pad is *not* that big.

5: Bed sheets, towels, ect, that have man funk or musk or a moldy smell to them. If it's been two weeks the answer is always, 'yes, it needs to be washed.'

6: If you got a large preponderance of hobbies, you had better be ready to share one with her. If you are nerd supreme, Magic player, you'd better be dating a fellow enthusiast or have a damn good marketing pitch to give to the laywoman. Because she ain't interested in you if 9/10ths of your free time is a hobby you refuse to share. There's nothing *for her* there.

7: Too much of the sexy things. Art work, *cough* toys, apparel, that kind of thing. While it does drift into point 6, this is the kind of thing you're either up front about- there's a kind of person you pick up at the dungeon or munches- or the kind of thing you build up to. If you date a professional artist, they do legitimately need reference material sometimes. Especially if they just got asked to do the cover art for an issue of Heavy Metal and the most exposure they've had to music is Beethoven. You **can** have these things but have the self awareness to box it up if you're not dating as mutual enthusiasts. Especially if you're not trying to explain / show it to them. In some respects this actually works to your favor- there's no easier way to litmus test a date than to try and explain a hobby or kink to them. If she digs poetry you don't need to know Charles Baudelaire but you'd better be willing to learn. If you're dating a goth you may want to dig out your high school Edgar Allen Poe books.

8: Dirty appliances, fixtures, toilets, showers, counters, ect. Again, like you don't know where it's coming from. When there's clearly a urine stain on the back of the toilet seat, urine splatter on the rim of the toilet, the toilet bowl clearly hasn't been cleaned in 6 months because something is *growing* in it and you got flecks of what looks to be s**t on the underside of the seat from the last time your Chipotle went nuclear, and you didn't think to clean *any* of this, you clearly don't want to date someone so much as you want a mom. And you know what? Some people will actually do that. They enjoy the household chores and feeling needed for that. **Some** do.

9: A fridge with more condiments than food. A pantry with more convenience meals like boxed mac and cheese than things like canned crushed tomatoes or beans. A spice rack with black pepper, salt, crushed red pepper and little else. Eating nothing but take out is convenient but it is neither healthy nor thrifty. Cooking for yourself demonstrates a certain level of maturity- god knows you don't go to fast food because you want to eat something you can't make yourself- and home cooked meals are the easiest and cheapest of date nights. Plus, the kind of woman who willingly has going out to restaurants as the cornerstone of your dating life is more likely there for the food than you.

Final score:

12points

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Ember 1 year ago

1: Can’t say this would bother me much to be fair. 2: We all can’t be bothered to adult at times, this wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me. 3: I think we can all agree that stinky is bad. 4 & 5: Basic hygiene is a must. 6: What’s wrong with having hobbies? It’s healthy to have your own interests and not spend 24/7 with your partner. 7: Too much ‘Sexy Stuff’? Tell me you’re sexually repressed and insecure without telling me you’re sexually repressed and insecure… 8: As long as things are fairly clean, I don’t expect to be able to eat my dinner off the floors. 9: There’s rarely any food in my fridge. Not everyone is a great cook or even bothered about what they eat and when. This doesn’t signal a red flag for me. However, with the list of so called red flags here, I’m not sure anyone could live up to this persons standards.

14points

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#48

an existing girlfriend

Edit: I'm not a girl leave me alone

schiz0yd Report

Final score:

11points

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Clown fish 1 year ago

Lol I'm not a girl leave me alone oh my someone got hit on

9points

#49

Actual things I've observed in homes of single men:
- *Star Trek* shrine (2 instances, 1 of which also featured uniforms)
- lawn chairs and inflatable furniture in the living room of a guy who drove a Mitsubishi 3000GT (this was in the late '90s, so it was a current car)
- a separate bedroom for the pet snakes (the 7' boa was nice, but when there is also a 7' yellow anaconda that requires PPE to be handled...)
- his "apartment" is actually his mom's garage
- *everything* had NASCAR logos on it

Anonymanx Report

Final score:

7points

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Ninette T 1 year ago

Agree with the lawn chair and inflatable furniture, the car probably will get more love than you will. Nascar logos on everything.. a bit too much for me honestly. If the apartment in the garage is a decent living space and gives you privacy, it can be a nice way to save up. Who doesn't like Star Trek? And danger noodles like that I'd rather have in a separate room, that's actually a wise thing to do :)

21points

#50

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) My new neighbor's house was a mirror of the one I just bought. So he showed it to me. Everything was extremely clean and neat. His clothes were separated by exactly 2" in his closets, the contents of his cupboards were alphabetized...

caffeinehuffer , Kamil Kalkan Report

Final score:

1point

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Ember 1 year ago

…nothing wrong with a bit of OCD or someone who just likes things in their place.

21points

#51

Wasn’t an apartment,he was still living at home and at 23+ but this was what made it wierd.

A bunk bed

Edit: Just to clarify I didn’t care he still lived at home the issue was the bunk bed - for quote “incase if my brother or I have friends round” he was 23 and his brother was around 25-30 no friends were going to be staying round. It’s also not that they could his family piled “collectibles” aka c**p on top.

EDIT no.2: the red flag is the bunk bed
If he ain’t 10 he don’t need a bunk bed

Bucca_AD Report

Final score:

-3points

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Ember 1 year ago

A bed is a bed….not everyone can afford to replace what they already have

29points

Patrik_Fucking_Elias , Denny Müller Report

#52

Women Are Sharing The Worst Things They've Seen In Guys' Apartments That Instantly Set Off 'Red Flags' For Them (30 Answers) The best advice I've ever gotten as a single dude in my first apartment was to keep my bathroom nice, and always have fresh towels. Bitches love fresh towels.

Final score:

-25points

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Sandra Morison 1 year ago

Bitches.....BIG RED FLAG

26points

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TheDag 1 year ago

Ladies I don't mean to brag but I can actually put the toilet roll on the correct way and my bed has not 1 or 2 but 4 pillows with a duvet set that matches XD In all seriousness though, a persons home tells you a lot about themselves. If your disgusted by their living conditions your probably going to be disappointed down the line

46points

Fembot 1 year ago

Depends on what you call the correct way of hanging the toilet roll buddy 👀 (‘over’, obviously). But yeah, have an upvote

15points

Shawna Wegner 1 year ago

Beards not mullets for the tp 👍👍

1point

Irma 1 year ago

My husband cleaned his house on our first date. He didnt want me to see any mess. And there always will be mess on certain days, thats not a problem. It just means that he sees it and also that this is important enough to not let me see it. People that dont even remotely clean really dont care enough and that would bother me.

0points

Debbie 1 year ago

In my opinion, red flags is an overused term nowadays for any flaw someone has. Not being good at cleaning doesn't mean a red flag as person. People aren't perfect. We get different advice: Don't hold yourself up to those picture perfect images of houses and families you see - sometimes 80% is enough. (in parenting, cleaning etc). But reading most of these "red flags" posts sound like people DO expect others to be picture perfect regarding househould, personal life, etc. I am not a housewife. My house is cluttered, I try to keep it clean, I try to keep everything stocked, I try to keep up with laundry (I am divorced, 3 kids, work 36hrs a week, have kids every other week and have hobbies). I am more than just a cleaner or mom, so I would like to spend time on me being a person (as in, relax, hobby,sport,socialize etc). The big question with all these "red flags" is self reflection - what bad habits do you have? Those red flags used to be called flaws/ bad habits. Everyone has them.

28points

Nitka Tsar 1 year ago

Exactly

6points

Ruth Higbe-Harrah 1 year ago

I think an important clarification is the difference between messy/cluttered and DIRTY. My bedroom is a mess as often as not, but if someone has old food on plates growing mold or attracting pests for example, that’s just unsanitary.

5points

NotYaBusinessBruh 1 year ago

This. All. Of. This. Those house you see where it's also like a Homes and Garden magazines have some really deep seeded issues elsewhere. Ijs. It's not normal to expect houses to look like 1950's TV. It's was unrealistic than and even more so now.

3points

Mark Correia 1 year ago

No, bo , no no! Bad hygiene is always a hard no for me. I hadca gal whi brought me home and when I went to go use the bathroom, I swear I almost hurled. The worst was the toilet. Keep in mind I worked on commercial fishing vessels.

2points

Clare Urbanski 1 year ago (edited)

Except the places these people mentioned weren't just "cluttered," most of them made a point of mentioning dirty things that have been piling up or festering until the living conditions are truly uncivil or even dangerous, people who clearly don't make an effort etc.

1point

Araminta 1 year ago

Yea but do you have hair carpet on your shag floor with a weed plant growing out of it?

0points

Chloe Brown 1 year ago

You said it so perfectly!

0points

JD Fackler 1 year ago

Yep, you gotta take the good with the bad.

0points

Happy_Pandalover 1 year ago

Some of this is really specific, as in some people having bad experiences with one person. Other than that we could sum up: Bad smell, dirty, lack of hygiene equipment, photos/ personal belongings of (ex) girlfriends are bad signs for most people.

25points

NY Rat27 1 year ago

Yeah, bdsm s**t laid neatly on the bed is also pretty bad

12points

Jessica Bertram 1 year ago (edited)

oh i have one that'll top ALL OF THIS. When i was young and dumb like around 20, i went on an all-night ride-along with a cop i kinda liked. after his shift, we went back to his place. walls were hung with *framed newspaper clippings* of the people he'd shot/killed in the "line of duty"...last night i ever saw that monster

13points

Lisa H 1 year ago

......holy fck

4points

BravePanda 1 year ago

Survey photos with an eye of a mathematician. I dated a great guy and fell hard for him, not noticing a significant age difference. He was youthful, current, and hot. We met at a friend's party and age never came up. We had a great connection, but once our ages were revealed, he abruptly ended it due to "our age difference." I thought the smiling college grad photos were other loved ones, not his grown kids. (We both had no idea that the age gap was so significant.) The man clearly had access to the fountain of youth, ala Paul Rudd.

12points

Nitka Tsar 1 year ago

Oh, what a shame. I hope you broke up because you yourselves thought it inappropriate and not because you feared what others may say.

4points

Nitka Tsar 1 year ago

In other words: if his place gives you the creeps or yucks, stay away.

7points

sofacushionfort 1 year ago

I may get downvoted below the Earth’s crust for this, but back when I was more interested in seeing the world than in settling down, everything I owned was in a duffel bag on my back, a toolbox in one hand and a laptop in the other hand. Creepy, coercive and filthy guys are one thing, but guys just enjoying their agency to be happy while not “marriage material” aren’t in that same danger zone.

7points

CrowLogic 1 year ago

I fully agree there is no problem with this. You don't have to own a lot of material things, and you don't have to be living to impress other people. I think, honestly, a lot of this list is people being careless with the things/places they do have. But everyone has their own standards I suppose.

4points

TMoxraaar 1 year ago

You know how we all know that disgusting fact that a flush shoots bacteria 6 feet? Guess what? It's REALLY easy to prevent. Don't like your dog drinking out of the toilet? Yes folks with the amazing LID you can fix this any many other problems. People are disgusting

6points

Maggie Hood 1 year ago

This is a little dramatic. People who don't put the lid down all the time are not disgusting. Not everyone knows the 6 ft bacteria fact.

-1point

Mad McQueen 1 year ago

Smell of mold. Towels that can hold a shape and look depressing. Dirty bathrooms. Pets kept in filthy cages or aquariums. Beer cases stacked in kitchen. Broken toilets. Like broken not unflushable. Crusty sheets. Dust. Roommates that walk around in underwear. This is all one guy btw.

5points

Melissa Harris 1 year ago

Charming

0points

Cheese man Steve 1 year ago

I knew a lot of these guys in my early 20s. They were raised in a house where usually their mom cleaned or their mom had to tell them constantly to clean up and wash up. Without that person telling them what they need to do they don't do it. They are at the "It's my place I do what I want" stage in their life. Some grow out of it, some marry their mothers so they don't need to.

4points

J Kwon 1 year ago

I grew up in a nice upper-middle class neighborhood. But I've still been to guys' houses and seen: ... A house with NO FLOOR. Had to walk across the beams too get around. Space heater in the bathroom to keep the toilet from freezing. Feral cats walking around in the exposed crawl space. ... A living space with no toilet. When I said I had to go pee, I was invited to squat and pee into a drain. I didn't want to be impolite, so I did it. ... Dog c**p on the floor. Like, more than one. Heck. No. ... A kitchen sink full of weeks-old dishes. Tried to help out and wash, stopped when I found syringe caps clogging the garbage disposal. Turned out there was a roommate with a drug problem. ... Black, dried blood on walls & ceiling from 2 separate, unrelated events. ... A small empty trash can filled with empty bullet casings "for recycling." ... A front door w/o hinges. Solid wood. Had too pick it up, move it, enter, then put it back every time you entered. ... The worst: a booger wall.

4points

Jude Laskowski 1 year ago

I hope you called animal control to get those poor critters out of that mess.

0points

Chloe Brown 1 year ago

You know, to all my ladies out there, just like some men are gross, some women are just as disgusting.

2points

Michaela M 1 year ago

I was in a man's house once and his house mate showed me his rat bag. A bag made of rats. He skinned hundreds rats and stitched them together to make the bag, tails hanging off and all. He said rats had to be skinned alive 🙃

2points

Jessica Bertram 1 year ago

WHAT THE EVERLOVING FŲÇĶ

0points

Lisa H 1 year ago

Once went back to a guy's house and he had a bunch of different beverage containers completely filled with tobacco spit. The smell was awful. Thank God it didn't last. Turns out he still had a girlfriend anyway so, yeah, I ghosted him. In retrospect, I probably should have told him why it wasn't working, but this was over ten years ago and I was a coward.

2points

thurayyat 1 year ago

Couldn't continue reading. The situations described turned my stomach.

2points

Bob Bigglesworth 1 year ago

Despite all the above things, if a guy's attractive enough, the woman will still sleep with the him. Women make excuses for attractive guys, and rules for unattractive ones.

1point

Della 1 year ago

Ew. Skipped to the end to say that.

1point

Maple Porkly 1 year ago

My now husband (19 when we met) was living with his mother who had a hoarding disease (fyi, he took care of her because no one else in the family would). When he brought me over he told me to only go where he cleared a space for me. The guy made sure his room was cleared and spotless, the hall to the front door, his room and the bathroom had a safe space for me to walk, and the bathroom itself was cleaned to perfection. I learned later that he'd have to do this every time I'd come over because his mom would fill any available space within hours. He's the most compassionate patient person you'll ever meet. Never complained about how his mom was, just did what he needed to keep her safe and happy. PS Mom got the hoarding help she needed and is doing much better in a smaller place with a care taker. We visit her regularly.

0points

Mommatried 1 year ago

When I was young, I date a close to 30-year-old. Food and dirt under his fingernails, DUI he went to jail for, backyard breeder... So many red flags! Nice guy, but he drank too much; a few is one thing, a few too many is something else!

0points

Maggie 1 year ago

FFS… is this America? Is this American man? My red flags start way before any of these.

0points

Irma 1 year ago

I met my husband at the age of 22. Nude calendar and metal band posters. Large beer collection. I was his first girlfriend. Married for 1 year, dating for 9 years and living together for 8. Clumsy and a little awkward he was. But very sweet. Not everything is a red flag. People are not supposed to behave a certain way. Im am still very certain i made the right choice. I do agree with the ones about having very very karge differences and the ones about potential danger tho

0points

Reece Aster 1 year ago

I can't believe how many people in the comments of these are defending these. Yes there are always exceptions, this post is not an attack on you.

0points

Uku Vahur 1 year ago

Yes and no. People aren't picture perfect. Most of use don't have time to clean 24/7. But unsanitary and filthy living is different from lack of time.

0points

Bobert Robertson 1 year ago

How about we switch things up from all these posts about all the terrible things men do and we start posting some of the same about women? Probably not right? Didn't think so

0points

Kimberley Gibson 1 year ago

I dated a man for 8 years on and off. I was very taken by him and did make excuses for odd behavior. Yet, when I finally moved in with him, I finally saw his true self! He had dogs and cats. There would be accidents and he would just wipe it up with a paper towel and not scrub the floor. I never went barefoot! He lived on a lake and had a holding tank for sewage. Once a month, he would use a hose to put the waste in the lake! There were sewage flies coming up the drain. Flies and mice because his attached garage was stacked to the ceiling with old trash! He laughed about a deer head that had been in his freezer for 30 years! Told me not to open the freezer in the basement! This man had serious problems to think living like this was okay. I was a fool to let him come and crash at my house in constant. I thought he just liked my place. I had frequented his place rarely and no bugs flew by me then. He did everything to clean and hide these realities from me.

0points

Joe Hurd 1 year ago (edited)

Well i dodged 28 of these so fingers crossed lmao. Other 2 a bit harder to do when i batch cook a deep freeze of food in 1 day so i don't have to cook for a month at a time. Also with the cleaning i am sometimes away from home for a month or longer working and dust does buildup

0points

GLO SAINT-AIME 1 year ago

Bugging with half the things i read

0points

Stay Off My Lawn 1 year ago

Picture this: he’s 40, living rent-free in his mom’s rental property, there’s dog pee all over the carpets, no hand soap in the bathrooms, he keeps his porno collection in the living room, there’s a strange odor coming out of his garbage disposal, and he has a military uniform hanging in his closet even though he got kicked out of basic training. 🤢

0points

christie tondu 1 year ago

No sheets on the bed(like, no fitted sheet or covers of any kind), trash everywhere, sink full of dishes and dirty dishes all over the counter, dirty bathroom with beard hair everywhere, and a cat that was allowed to p**s wherever...this was one guy...

0points

Jude Laskowski 1 year ago

Cats are usually clean animals. I feel sorry for this kitty who was not properly care for.

0points

David Paterson 1 year ago

I am really surprised by this. If I was a woman, my red flags would be much more minor than any of these.

0points

Corvidgoeslol 1 year ago

yeah tbh some of these are really really weird. and that's coming from a girl

0points

fffab74 1 year ago

All I hear is: "I went home with an obvious a*****e, and now I'm shocked!!! that he's a slob. I can go over the fact that he's an obvious red flag himself, I'd f*ck him anyway, but a Star Trek shrine and no soap?? NO WAY"

0points

VonBlade 1 year ago

Not everyone finds #1 to be the wonderful thing it seems. /not-at-all-passive-aggressive-subtweet.

0points

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TheDag 1 year ago

46points

Fembot 1 year ago

Depends on what you call the correct way of hanging the toilet roll buddy 👀 (‘over’, obviously). But yeah, have an upvote

15points

Shawna Wegner 1 year ago

Beards not mullets for the tp 👍👍

1point

Irma 1 year ago

0points

Debbie 1 year ago

28points

Nitka Tsar 1 year ago

Exactly

6points

Ruth Higbe-Harrah 1 year ago

5points

NotYaBusinessBruh 1 year ago

3points

Mark Correia 1 year ago

2points

Clare Urbanski 1 year ago (edited)

1point

Araminta 1 year ago

Yea but do you have hair carpet on your shag floor with a weed plant growing out of it?

0points

Chloe Brown 1 year ago

You said it so perfectly!

0points

JD Fackler 1 year ago

Yep, you gotta take the good with the bad.

0points

Happy_Pandalover 1 year ago

25points

NY Rat27 1 year ago

Yeah, bdsm s**t laid neatly on the bed is also pretty bad

12points

Jessica Bertram 1 year ago (edited)

13points

Lisa H 1 year ago

......holy fck

4points

BravePanda 1 year ago

12points

Nitka Tsar 1 year ago

Oh, what a shame. I hope you broke up because you yourselves thought it inappropriate and not because you feared what others may say.

4points

Nitka Tsar 1 year ago

In other words: if his place gives you the creeps or yucks, stay away.

7points

sofacushionfort 1 year ago

7points

CrowLogic 1 year ago

4points

TMoxraaar 1 year ago

6points

Maggie Hood 1 year ago

This is a little dramatic. People who don't put the lid down all the time are not disgusting. Not everyone knows the 6 ft bacteria fact.

-1point

Mad McQueen 1 year ago

5points

Melissa Harris 1 year ago

Charming

0points

Cheese man Steve 1 year ago

4points

J Kwon 1 year ago

4points

Jude Laskowski 1 year ago

I hope you called animal control to get those poor critters out of that mess.

0points

Chloe Brown 1 year ago

You know, to all my ladies out there, just like some men are gross, some women are just as disgusting.

2points

Michaela M 1 year ago

2points

Jessica Bertram 1 year ago

WHAT THE EVERLOVING FŲÇĶ

0points

Lisa H 1 year ago

2points

thurayyat 1 year ago

Couldn't continue reading. The situations described turned my stomach.

2points

Bob Bigglesworth 1 year ago

Despite all the above things, if a guy's attractive enough, the woman will still sleep with the him. Women make excuses for attractive guys, and rules for unattractive ones.

1point

Della 1 year ago

Ew. Skipped to the end to say that.

1point

Maple Porkly 1 year ago

0points

Mommatried 1 year ago

0points

Maggie 1 year ago

FFS… is this America? Is this American man? My red flags start way before any of these.

0points

Irma 1 year ago

0points

Reece Aster 1 year ago

I can't believe how many people in the comments of these are defending these. Yes there are always exceptions, this post is not an attack on you.

0points

Uku Vahur 1 year ago

Yes and no. People aren't picture perfect. Most of use don't have time to clean 24/7. But unsanitary and filthy living is different from lack of time.

0points

Bobert Robertson 1 year ago

How about we switch things up from all these posts about all the terrible things men do and we start posting some of the same about women? Probably not right? Didn't think so

0points

Kimberley Gibson 1 year ago

0points

Joe Hurd 1 year ago (edited)

0points

GLO SAINT-AIME 1 year ago

Bugging with half the things i read

0points

Stay Off My Lawn 1 year ago

0points

christie tondu 1 year ago

0points

Jude Laskowski 1 year ago

Cats are usually clean animals. I feel sorry for this kitty who was not properly care for.

0points

David Paterson 1 year ago

I am really surprised by this. If I was a woman, my red flags would be much more minor than any of these.

0points

Corvidgoeslol 1 year ago

yeah tbh some of these are really really weird. and that's coming from a girl

0points