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There are very obvious red flags that show up right away and are a clear sign that the relationship isn’t worth developing. But most of the time, the red flags are more subtle and are easier to dismiss as a one-off thing or a not-so-serious character flaw that doesn’t mean anything. Those subtle signs are the most important to catch as they may indicate that the person is hiding something more serious.

People on Reddit discussed what are some red flags that are related to cooking that might mean that the person isn’t the right fit. Many of them not only shared what cooking habits they find alarming, but they also spoke about signs that, from their own experience, were red flags.

Would you add anything to this list? Which habit that people mentioned do you think is a solid sign to rethink the relationship? Let us know in the comments!

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) There was a letter to an advice column years ago, from a woman convinced her mother in law was slightly poisoning her every time they went to her house for dinner.

After every meal she grew violently ill and threw up/had diarrhea.

When she told her husband her suspicion he said she was crazy. His mother was a saint who adored her and would die before hurting her.

The advice columnist urged the wife to swap her plate with her husband’s during the next dinner. The woman wrote back saying she followed the advice and it was her husband who became violently ill after the meal.

When she told him what she’d done she said he looked at her with such loathing she realized he’d suspected what his mom was doing all along but, instead of standing up for her, he decided to gaslight her about her suspicions to avoid upsetting his mom.

Talk about your red flags.

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Danniee Gyrl
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I found the original: Dear Prudence, My mother-in-law hates me and makes no bones about it when she and I are alone. My husband doesn’t believe me, and she even gloats about that. We have to attend family functions at her home about once a month. (It used to be more frequent, but after I put my foot down, my husband agreed that monthly would be sufficient.) The problem is that after each visit, I wind up with a bad case of diarrhea; my husband does not. I don’t know if the other in-laws are affected, because if I asked, it would get back to her. I suspect that my mother-in-law is putting something in my food or drink. Last time, I barely made it home before being struck down. Now I am considering getting some “adult undergarments” to make sure I don’t ruin the car’s upholstery on the ride home from her place. Do you have any other advice? —Running for the Hills

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Refusing to regularly take over the responsibility for providing meals.

God bless him, my late father could *not* cook. He could manage a few basics, would help by fixing sides dishes, but anything more complicated, well.... Nope.

That said both he and my Mom worked fairly long days at not-easy jobs. Still, Mom was usually the one who was responsible for dinner.

But there were evenings when Mom walked in the door, dropped her bad, and announced, " I'm not cooking."

Dad, while hopeless at cooking, was not stupid, and replied with, " Where do you want to go?"

Yes, we were lucky to be able to eat out regularly. But that aside, that one exchange was a fantastic example of how they stayed married for nearly 40 years.

It didn't matter that Dad couldn't cook; what mattered was that it was no longer Mom's problem.

We usually went out to a typical family restaurant. But sometimes it was McDonalds. Sometimes we ordered pizza. Sometimes it was declared an "every man for himself" night, and everybody, including us kids, just fixed ourselves something.

But the big thing was Dad was always willing to take over for Mom when needed. And *that* was why it worked.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) When they don’t know how to cook, refuse to cook, but are super picky when you cook for them. Nope nope nope

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) I once decided to cook for a girl I was dating. It was pretty fresh at the time, third time I had seen her. I thought it might be nice to cook, have a wine and chat etc. as you do. While I was cooking she told me to stop talking so much and hurry up because she was hungry in a rude, annoyed tone. That turned me off to the point I didn’t see her again after that night!

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) That a*****e on YouTube who is tricking his vegetarian wife into loving the taste of meat.

Sneaking animal products into things she believes is meat free.

Huge piece of s**t. Unless it's all b******t for getting views, then mild piece of s**t.

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WindySwede
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it's this way it's really awful. But nowadays I, unfortunately, less and less believe in (prank) content created. Just be a descent human being. (Sorry for possibly bad English)

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NoverPlover
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once I accidentally ate meat about 2 years after becoming vegetarian (accidentally because it was bacon bits on Mac n cheese that I thought were bread crumbs) and got super sick, vomiting in a campground bathroom at night. Doing this can make be extremely dangerous!

Bla Blubb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Simply accept the way others eat, what is so hard about it?! Let her be vegetarian, let him be meat-eater, why would hendo such a stupid thing?

Jerrilyn Henson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In reply to one of the other replies…not all vegetarians or vegans try to get others to be meat free. I’ve been vegan for over 32 years. At family get togethers we accommodated everyone. Family would try their best for us. I had two amazing daughters in law that fixed wonderful vegan food.

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Seanette Blaylock
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm an omnivore myself, but sneaking something into someone's food the cook knows the eater finds objectionable is NOT OK. I wouldn't feed an observant Jew or Muslim anything with pork in it, either.

Bill Mathisen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My younger brother would bring his Jewish friend to that family meal. His family was doing a traditional jewish Thanksgiving meal while HE was chowing down ham. Bad Jew or open minded human?

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Ian Conelley
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not the same thing, but I had a roommate who had the palette of an 8 count box of crayons. I made homemade sloppy joes once. He wouldn't quit raving about them, couldn't stop eating them, practically licked the pan clean. "Dude, what did you put in this sauce, it's amazing?" Me: "Trust me, you don't want to know." Him: C'mon, man." Me: "Literally everything you say you hate. First, that's not beef, it's venison and rabbit, second, it's got green peppers, red peppers, mushrooms, an entire Vidalia onion in it, and garlic, all minced with a cheese grater. It's literally made of ONLY everything you say you 'can't stand' on a daily basis. Nobody said you had to eat it, you smelled it and just dove in, not my fault."

Lisa H
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been pescatarian for years now, if I eat red meat, it will upset my stomach. I've accidentally ingested ground beef before and that's exactly what happened.

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That's b******t and you know it. The mind can trick you into a lot of things.

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Redpen88
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's true for any dietary restrictions, not just vegan/vegetarian.

Paul Pienkowski
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is disgusting, if it's not a stunt for views. Vegans are fine, cool, good you wanna do that, don't make me though. And not everyone you meet needs to know. The Walmart cashier doesn't care if you're vegan. Also, stop. Making. Pets. Vegan. They are NOT herbivores! Really, vegans? Feeding tiny tigers and wolves carrots and hoping they won't suffer is wrong. Cuz that's what you're doing. These guys evolved to eat meat.

girlsrock4ever
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you do that? Hope the wife decided to divorce him, once she SEES THE VIDEOS HE'S POSTING ONLINE!

Bobby Edler
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do you know if someone is vegan/vegetarian??? They tell you...again, and again, and again...

Pam Ives
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Try that ish with me and the next meat I try is the chunk of you I bite off.

Benita Valdez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's just shītty. Noone should try to force their diet on people. Just let each other be.

Adalmina
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The YouTuber is joking tho (still a bad example)

Thatkamloopsguy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even if you don't agree with another person diet choices, don't be an a ss hole about it.

Kraig Fairhurst
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even worse? A vegetarian accepting an invite for dinner and then throwing a tantrum when the menu isn't changed last-minute just to suit their proclivity.

Evelyn Haskins
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. If you want vegetarian if I invite you to dinner, PLEASE bring your own

Phryne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People don't go meat-free for taste; they do it out of a conviction that meat products are unethical to consume.

Ramona Jackson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Untrue. My husband's dear cousin always disliked eating meat. She's a vegetarian, now it's been 50 years. Hubby's going on 35 years a veggie. Some do it for taste.

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Endless Ender
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it's staged, because she has many opportunities to check his channel and they all have him somehow distracting her with something random and it somehow working long enough for him to be able to put the meat on ( this is just my opinion, if you do not have anything nice to say about my opinion just do not comment)

Mary Elliott
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes. Absolutely. Total disrespect. Makes you wonder what other boundaries they're crossing, since they obviously can't be trusted.

Stacy Bender
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously? Long term vegans\vegetarians have issues digesting meat. Please do not do this, you can make people very sick.

Lara Verne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or just simply adding something their partner don't like, and see if they find out.

AnnaPanda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like when your partner and kids don't like veggies but they need to eat healthy so we sneak them into food..

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Crouching hippo hidden panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m so angry reading this! My family are always trying to make me eat meat, I would be fuming if they ever dared tampering with my food.

Moya Satterwhite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do all that when fake burgers are easily available if they want the same-ish thing.

Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is food tampering and a criminal offense. If I knew who this was, I would report him to Youtube for criminal activity and get him banned. You do NOT mess with anyone's food, no matter who they are.

Unnamed Hooman
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it’s not hurting anyone, leave it be. I couldn’t pull off a vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. Something for me though, I can eat an animal and be okay, but if I have to kill the animal myself, watch it get killed, or see it before it gets killed, I won’t eat it.

Amelia Bee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This goes both ways. Just yesterday on reddit r/vegan was a post about a girl secretly throwing out HER boyfriend's meat and sneaking him vegan options into his food to force him to eat it. That's just as messed up, but the vegans on that sub were laughing and celebrating such a despicable, underhanded act. No one should force anyone to eat something they morally do not want to est, be it making a vegan eat meat, making an omnivore eat fake meat, making Muslims or Jews eat pork, etc.

Mine Truly
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree that's awful. I also have a friend who is vegan, who delights in sneaking vegan substitutes into omnis' food. Though it's not as horrid as feeding a person a food they specifically don't want to eat, I think that lying to.a person about what's in their food is just skeevey all around. If you can't be honest about what you're feeding a person, refuse to cook for them.

Janet Howe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a jerk he is. Deliberately trying to deceive her. I wouldn't trust him with anything else either.

Salty Spitoon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stfu dumbass. Humans should not be vegetarian. It's not in our DNA. We are supposed to eat meat. Anyone who doesn't is literally going against their programmed instincts and negatively effecting their self. Idgaf what anyone says, avoiding meat is not normal. Ppl who avoid it meat have serious mental problems.

Ale
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For those applauding the awful spouse, know you are also applauding any consequences the wife had to deal with. If you are a long term vegetarian, or even lifelong, your body *will not* be prepared to handle meat!! Your body adjusts the gut bacteria to your diet. So if you eat something extremely different like an entire type of protein source not just the meat type itself, then you'll probably have at least some cramping and discomfort at worst lots of pain and other symptoms as your body tries to deal with something so foreign. Everyone is entitled to their tastes and preferences. They are not missing out on anything. You worry about your own consumption thanks.

Celtic Pirate Queen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That would result in a divorce as far as I'm concerned. My sister's family is vegan, but not the typical militant a*****e type. When I cook for them it's no problem to make spaghetti & have the Italian sausage on the side. I keep vegan butter in the freezer, no big deal. But I would never disrespect their food choice by serving them something I KNEW wasn't vegan. And if I'm unsure, I just ask.

TrippyBanana
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom did this by total accident. She and the family were visiting from Florida to spend the holiday with me and our Arizona family. She was cutting up the gizzard and livers to go in the stuffing, and she totally forgot to tell my vegetarian aunt about the meat in the stuffing. It wasn't done maliciously, but my brother and sister thought it was quite funny.

Leilah Steyn
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will never be vegan but that wrong what he did. I can not imagine how I'd react of someone sneaked in tripe or liver etc in my food. Nothing wrong if you enjoy eating it but everyone has his or her person preferences when it comes to what they eat. The guy was just wrong..

Lucy Morgan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been a vegetarian for 35 years. I loved the taste of meat, but not factory farms and cruelty. I'd never impose it on anyone else. This would make me feel sick AND furious!

Candice Cook
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would you do that?! Many people like the taste of meat, they just choose to not eat it. THEY CHOOSE THAT bc they are entitled to do so! Talk about disrespecting your partner. That's a disgusting human being. Personally, I haven't come across too many meats I wouldn't eat, but I'd never trick a person into eating meat if they didn't want to eat it.

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April
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wasn't vegetarian, but my "friend" tricked me into trying venison when I was very clear about not wanting it. We're no longer friends for a variety of reasons and I still don't understand why people get so pushy about things like that.

Brent Rogers
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't believe there are people that think that dude's channel is legit. He's doing it for the content. It's not real. It's a satire channel.

GlamPilot
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There’s a disease called PKU, and the sufferers cannot eat much in the way of proteins and meats, because they’re unable to digest and process them. Subbing someone food is dangerous and can be deadly. As someone found out when they got my $900 ambulance bill, because they thought it was hilarious to sneak black beans into my food after being TOLD I am deathly allergic. I went straight into anaphylaxis and was hospitalized for two days because of a biphasic reaction. Because, you know, it’s just sooooo funny to fk with someone’s life because of a food allergy. 🙄😑

Mrs. EW
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m vegan and would never try and trick the fam with non meat substitutes. Although, my husband has accidentally eaten what I make for myself, while making the same dish veganized and not and professed how good it was… Until I told him it was mine, anyway lol. I really think it’s just the word “vegan” that turns people off. As I’m pretty damned awesome at veganizing staple meals.

Sheila Platt
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But there are vegans who do try to trick people. And there are vegans who get up in people's faces when they are eating meat.

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Travis F
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol. Who in their right mind would waste good meat on someone who doesn't want it? I will be happy to prepare you a vegan meal while I enjoy my medium rare steak.

Madison Davis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My issue with it is that his wife eats plant-based meat, so she already likes the taste if meat. Or she wouldn't be eating fake meat. No matter the reason, it's never OK to sneak something into someone's food.

Louise Platiel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's funny tho that vegans have fake meat products. Like you have the whole rest of food to work with why do you want a pretend version of the thing you hate?

MagNat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because they don't hate the taste, but the fact it's a dead animal, Sherlock.

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Michelle C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What if she’s not eating meat because she has a meat allergy? I can’t eat pork because I am allergic to it. If I eat even one serving of some thing made of or with pork, I guarantee you it would have some downright painful, if not worse, effects! Having found out the hard way as a late teenager/early young adult, I would be very upset with a significant other doing something like this to me because he thought otherwise to say the least!! I am so grateful that it’s never happened to me!

Jerrilyn Henson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Eating animal products can make you sick if you aren’t used to it. Becomes like a food allergy. I’m vegan so I don’t eat any animal products. So I might be a bit different. But it didn’t take long for my body to tell me very disrespectfully if there was anything in the food that should not be.

Israel Martinez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not that different from the vegan who insists the whole family or party serve only vegan food ...

K Y
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are cooking for/serving someone who is vegetarian, you are responsible for providing them a meat-free meal.

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Sue User
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stepfather refused to believe I didnt like kidneys. Had to leave the table when he offered me a big forkful.

Alexandros Baltas
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am okay with that, just shows that's a completely arbitrary restriction and nothing that has a real impact on your body. People are just pissed because meat tastes good.

Dorothy Parcheartsingh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omfg this post and these comments those videos are a joke he doesn't actually give her meat idiots

BBsparkster614
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s bs luckily, someone would track her o. Social media by now I believe if not though I swear I will hunt him down

Peign Gaming
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course it's all BS, it's YouTube. Doubt she is even a vegetarian.

Louloubelle
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have two (now grown) children that are vegetarians. Before this, they loved a dish I made that had cream of chicken soup in it. They didn't realize it, because they weren't vegetarians at the time and no discussion seemed necessary. You can't really tell it's in there, but when they asked my to make it after becoming vegetarian, I told them it had that in it. They were sad, but opted not to eat it. I cannot fathom a time where I would "fool" them into eating meat. Frankly, if I wasn't such a picky eater, I wouldn't either.

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I mean its not something people would die because of, just try it and don't be anemic

DumYum
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter to extremely allergic to dairy but waiters/cooks will sometimes not care about our mentioning it. She gets a severe migraine, diarrhea and upset stomach that can last 8 hours. Please respect people’s food limitations. As a young adult I did not but now I do.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Being a full grown adult that waits to be cooked for. Knowing full well, his spouse might also be working full time. But they won't lift a finger to grab dinner on the way home or if already home toss something in the microwave.

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Nathaniel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Marjorie! I am back from work! I demand my evening meal on the table waiting for me!

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) You cook and they dont help clean

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Antz Online
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, when I cook, I use minimum dishes and tidy up while cooking. My better half on the other hand leaves the kitchen like a tornado hit it, so I do refuse to clean up after she cooks.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Not clicking the tongs before using them.

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Nathaniel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For those who do not know, double clicking tongs activates them, making your tongs perform much more effectively. No need to worry about shutting them off, tongs have an automatic switch after a period of inactivity.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Touching the oven when I'm cooking. Had a friend "fix" the oven while I was reverse searing ribeyes a few years back so they'd cook faster. You know what happens to a ribeye when you leave it in the oven at 375 for an hour?

She did the same to a rack of ribs on another occasion. Saw that the grill was set to low and thought "That can't be right." Jacked it up to high without telling anybody, and treated us to a nice rack of charcoal chips for dinner.

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Squirrelly Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She should have learned the first time. If she was my friend, she would get a blunt warning to not mess with my cooking again.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Haven’t seen cleanliness yet.

I’m not talking about pots, pans and dishes after (that should be negotiated or depends on who invited who. But one should always offer to help).

I’m talking about during preparation and cooking. For example, if you handle raw meat, you should use soap and warm water before touching anything else. Any possible contamination on a counter top, …

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Heather Resatz
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We were at a bbq and thankfully I was watching while he started brushing sauce from the bag (where the raw meat came from) onto the fully cooked chicken he was just about to serve! Salmonella anyone??

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) I knew a guy who dropped his $1 bottle of spaghetti sauce, jar broke in the bag. He goes and makes spaghetti…. With sauce. We ask if this is the same sauce…. Yup! He just pulled the chunks of glass out of it 😳. I do not eat that spaghetti or anything he cooked after that

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Nathaniel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Crushed glass was used in foods when you wanted assassinate your foes.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Saying they are allergic to some ingredients but later admit they "just don't like the texture."

I get the texture thing, I hate mushy slimy myself. But ffs don't pull the "I am allergic to mushrooms/peas/onions/tomatoes" thing.

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Chucky Cheezburger
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And don't give others grief if they don't like the texture. I hate the texture of onions. Can't stand them. Don't even like to see them. If I had a dollar for every time someone gave me $H!T about it, I'd be able to hire someone to destroy all the onions in the world.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) people who won’t eat leftovers

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N Gregory
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This can very much depend. My husband won't eat leftovers because the leftovers he was fed as a child were the result of the cheapest nastiest sh1t that he barely ate it before it became leftovers. Oh, and his leftovers weren't what was left in the dish unserved, they were the scraping back off the plate. So yeah, we don't do leftovers, thanks for your judgment.

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I love to cook. My ex-boyfriend was a really picky eater. So i tried to make things without the ingredients he doesnt like. But several times after i cooked he said "im just gonna order something". I know it sounds like im a bad cook, but thats not the case. I worked in a kitchen for years and my friends all love my food. I still get pissed when i think about the time i just wanted him to tast my soup, just a little spoon. He refused because he was gonna order shoarma and didnt wanna ruin the 'before taste'.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) If they are purposefully cooking things that their partner does not like or worse, that they are allergic to.

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TheAquarius1978
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well deppending on the case this might be a good thing, when i was a kid ( toddler ) i was alérgic to eegs, só my pediatritian advised my Mother to give me just a bit of egg every now and again, and it did work, i can eat eggs with no isues whatsoever, of course i only had a light reaction, and my Mother was advised by a doctor, don't f*****g do the same to a person that hás severe alergies, you might kill the poor bastard lol.

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#17

Making fun of your diet restrictions.

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Benita Valdez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get it often because I'm allergic to peppercorns. No I don't sneeze. Yes I could die with a large enough quantity. Sorry you've never heard of someone's throat closing up from pepper but I assure you I'm not lying. Please don't try to test me; small amounts will only give slight breathing issues but I really enjoy breathing normal. It's not cute mocking me or slowly pushing the pepper shaker or grinder slowly towards me.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Medium rare chicken

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Nathaniel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once had a co worker, who was obsessed with her weight, (she was fricking fine) her diet tip was to eat slightly undercooked chicken.

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#19

The last time I saw this question posted, a guy responded saying that his wife only makes one thing at a time when making a meal. Mashed potatoes until they’re done, then beginning the meat, etc. He hadn’t had a hot meal in years. That comment still haunts me.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Not having any spices at all in your kitchen

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Lisa H
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always say that a good, varied spice cabinet is an investment. Learn how to use them properly and you can make anything taste amazing, even if you're broke and eating spaghetti for the fifth night in a row. I always make sauces from scratch because it's cheaper and I have the spices for it.

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#21

Not being the one who's chore it is to clean something doesn't give you license to make more work than necessary for someone else. It's a huge red flag when you and your partner have the alternating "one cooks, other cleans" chore cycle and your partner completely *trashes* the kitchen every time it's their turn to cook. I'm talking leaving out ingredients, spilling and splashing stuff everywhere, dirtying way more cookware than needed, or cooking in a way that leaves burnt on residue so you have to deep clean.


When I was still married to my ex I always tried to keep things neat when I cooked and he always left a huge mess. Turns out its a big warning sign that they don't value your time or have consideration for your feelings.

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Bill Evs
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep, this is a bugbear of mine as well. When I cook I tend to tidy as I go so what's left at the end is minimal. I've known people though who, when they cook, seem to use every pot and utensil in the kitchen. It's like "we had soup, why is the wok in the sink"?

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Being a full-grown adult who doesn’t know how to cook

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends. A young adult, just left the nest, might not have been taught. If willing to learn, great. An adult who can follow recipe instructions but is a meh cook due to lack of interest, as long as honest and appreciative of others cooking, fine. An adult who doesn't know how to cook even the simplest thing and refuses to learn on the other hand...

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#23

Not necessarily cooking but it's a pet peeve of mine when people buy things and just, don't eat them but throw them away... watched my ex purchase a wonderful looking ice cream, sit and let it melt for half an hour, then get up and throw it away.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) My ex wife wanted to make meatloaf when we were first married. I was like cool I love meatloaf. So she pulled this meatloaf out of the oven when I got home. It was a slightly charred sad looking meatball floating in grease. She was apologetic about it but I didn't say s**t about it. I have never complained about her cooking anything. I made meatloaf a few weeks later and she loved it and wanted to know what I put in it. I told her and asked her how she makes meatloaf. She said you take some meat and put it in a pan. No egg, salt, pepper, ketchup. Just meat. I was like yep this is going to take some work. Turns out she was overconfident about everything and just winged it.

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JMil
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Winging it works if you are experienced and accomplished (assuming good, sensible ingredients are available).

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#25

“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) I am unable to trust anyone who doesn't like pizza.

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#26

“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) When they put your best knives in the dishwasher

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Bored Retsuko
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cough ... I recently ruined a knife with a wooden handle by putting it in the dishwasher then leaving it unemptied for I don't know how long

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Refuses to eat vegetables

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Nathaniel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know a few people who claim not to like any vegetables. I mean how? There are literally thousands of varieties of vegetables, all with different flavours, all with multiple methods of cooking which can vary the taste. Have you gone through and tasted them all?

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) My ex thought that "browning" ground meat meant leaving it in the fridge til it turned brown.

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someone who judges my personal tastes so strongly that they allow it to threaten a (potential) relationship

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Justin Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And the two above this for me qre not trusting or liking people who dont eat pizza or use garlic or garlic powder. Irony.

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#30

Saying that MSG is extremely bad for food.

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Deb Dedon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not bad for food, but it is bad for those who don't tolerate the stuff very well.

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#31

“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Washes pans with ice cold water as "hot water hurts my hands". Maybe try warm water and oh great, everything is coated in a thin film of f*****g GREASE.

Thanks for the feedback, but you're all wrong, warm water is superior to cold.

Also don't be under the illusion I haven't always been using dish soap.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) I’m a professional cook and I’ve had so many guys give me (badly informed) “advice” on stuff I’m doing wrong while I’m in the middle of cooking them a meal. Ex: “you didn’t marinate the steak? It’s gonna turn out super dry”

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Buren
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On the other hand, professional doesn't mean they know everything, as proven in many field of works, especially when they are using solely that as reasons to refuse advices.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) My brother told my friend she makes very nice ice water.

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Nathaniel
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I use only the best ice, hewn from glaciers breaking away from Antarctica.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Ketchup on everything

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Nathaniel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Johnny Come Lately, 1943, James Cagney film. There is a scene with a powerful political man who likes ketchup with everything. Jimmy Cagney's character accepts a cup of coffee, to which he adds a dollop of ketchup.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) If they never use garlic or garlic powder.

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Nancy Farrell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't eat garlic or onion because I get violently sick. It started three years ago and it's so sad.

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#36

My ex set the stove on fire. Making spaghetti. Our ELECTRIC, FLAMELESS, stove. Don't ask me how it happened. I have no idea. I was just on my phone and she went "Uhh babe." Looked up to see our stove on fire.

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N Gregory
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gonna hazard a guess (based on my experience with a school friend who I swear could burn water). Did they put water in the pan for the spaghetti? You can use spaghetti as a taper to light candles (you end up getting a slight scent of toast), so it's possible the spaghetti is the thing that caught on fire.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) I have a roommate who puts applesauce on everything he eats. So yeah that’s probably it

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) When she cooks and then "forgets" to throw away all her packaging and trash and rotting food in the trash can that's 6 feet away from the stove.

Then she proceeds to try to make YOU out to be the bad guy when you confront her about the scraps of food left on the cutting board that have shriveled up after sitting out to collect flies for a solid 24hrs....

This is the same chick who **regularly** (I could overlook it if it was just once or twice) leaves her 2 year old son's p****d diapers on the floor in the bathroom for MORE than 24hrs after she gives him a bath and then gets mad at you for bringing it up when you come home from work and thd bathroom smell like p**s diapers and **you** have to throw them away.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) I once dated a women who the first (and last) time she ever cooked dinner for me, she put on the pasta before starting the sauce. I watched in horror as pasta boiled for 30ish minutes while she struggled to prep sauce from a jar gussied up with some onion that she chopped without taking the skin off first, and even that involved some flailing to the point where I am amazed she made it into her 30s with all of her fingers.

It remains one of the worst meals I've ever eaten, and the relationship ended a week or two later, but she was the first 'serious' relationship I was in on the far side of a multi-year relationship ending, and I really needed a win at the time as part of moving on. I wasn't going to tell her how to prepare food in her own (clearly little used) kitchen.

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“What Is A Cooking-Related Red Flag In A Relationship?” (30 Answers) Screaming at your girlfriend for putting onions in a luke warm pan.

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Dan Holden
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Screaming at your girlfriend for putting onions in a luke warm pan", not cool. Someone who refuses to properly pre-heat a pan, pre-heat the oven, wait for the water to boil, etc, and then wonders why their meal didn't turn out the way they wanted, even though you try to tell them every time.... so frustrating! Still not a cool thing to yell about though.

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