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Every relationship fluctuates over the years, especially a best friendship that may have lasted for decades. But when we’ve invested years into a relationship, it can be hard to notice when it’s become more of a burden than a gift. We tend to romanticize the past and cling to all of the positive experiences, even if they were long ago, when sometimes, it’s just time to call it quits.

To get some insight on how to know when it’s time to end a friendship, we consulted Alyssa Mancao, therapist and creator of Alyssa Marie Wellness Inc. “Signs that it's time to end a friendship are when you feel that your values are no longer compatible and you no longer desire to have them in your life, not even in the peripheral,” Alyssa says. “This often is due to a long history of incompatibility, betrayal, and mistrust. It is also normal to outgrow each other as friends and individuals. Cornerstones of a friendship are trust and joy, and without those things it may be a sign that it is time to move on,” she explains. “A person who competes with you, does things behind your back, and / or doesn't reciprocate action may not be someone that you would consider a close friend. Compatibility is an important part of a friendship and if you value loyalty, honesty, etc then it might be important for you that you have friends with similar values.”

When she asked me out and I realised I was utterly, completely and hopelessly in love with her. 18 years and 3 kids later and I love her even more :)

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

That's beautiful!

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“Lastly, our bodies can sense when we are no longer interested in having someone in our life: (the following is unrelated to social anxiety) we might feel more irritable around them, have headaches when we're with them, and feel our mood shift when we interact with them,” Alyssa says. “We might also notice that we feel hesitant to be around them, avoid spending time with them, and no longer feel fulfilled when we do spend time with them.”

We also asked Alyssa what she thinks is important to get from a friendship. “Connection, conversation, safety and joy. Our friends are our support system, of course this varies based on the degree of friendship (we have close friends and we have friends that we may not talk to for a long period of time but feel like no time has passed when we do reconnect),” she says. “Friendships are the relationships that we get to choose in our life, so it doesn't make sense to choose friendships and connections that don't bring you peace. Our friends are our confidants and the people that we can turn to when we are feeling low, share our wins with and everything in between. These are the moments that connect us to our friends. I believe we can also have healing experiences in our friendships, we heal within human connection and with the right friendships we can feel better about ourselves.”

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend She started dating my rapist.

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Autumn 2 years ago

That is a f*cking low blow. How could someone knowingly do that?

199points

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Alyssa also shared some advice for anyone who knows they need to distance themselves from a friendship. “Remind yourself that you are doing the right thing for you in this season of your life. The discomfort around distancing yourself from a friend might feel like guilt, but guilt is an emotion that indicates that you are doing something wrong,” she shares. “So remind yourself that you are not wrong for wanting to take care of yourself. If you are struggling with distancing yourself, write out a list of the reasons why you are distancing yourself, what you hope to gain by separating yourself from them (peace of mind, ease, minimizing your emotional labor) and remind yourself of how you have been feeling in the friendship, too."

"It's common to hyper focus on the good times when leaving a friendship or relationship, this might trip you up and have you question your decision making, so being clear about why you are doing what you are doing can be a helpful tool in facilitating the separation process. Lastly, depending on the context. it might even be a growth opportunity for you to share your intentions (depending on each person's level of emotional maturity) because ending a friendship doesn't have to be messy, chaotic, or dysfunctional, it can be a normal conversation that promotes healthy good- byes.”

Finally, Alyssa noted, “Let's normalize how our individual growth can sometimes bring us closer to our friends, or further apart. Being further apart from someone doesn't have to be a good / bad situation, we can just view it as something that just is and is part of the ebbs and flow of life.”

If you’d like to hear more words of wisdom from Alyssa, you can check out her company’s website right here.

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When she told me my husband and I would make hideous babies because red headed babies are the ugliest thing she has ever seen. She also locked me out of our hotel 4 hours from home with no way home at 3 am that same day after an arguement over her saying my husband kills people for a living (he's a chemist who works on developing chemotherapy).
That was the last time I've spoken to her, 4 years ago. Such a jealous woman.

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James G. Currie 2 years ago

Stupid witch... Red headed babies are adorable! Red heads in general are hot!

198points

Breaking up with a best friend can be incredibly difficult, if you are used to being in almost constant contact, if you live together, or if it will change the dynamics of your other friendships. But it’s important to remember that a best friend is supposed to be someone you can rely on and always turn to. If you no longer feel that way, maybe it’s time to move on. It can be easy to lose sight of what a good friend really is, but according to Lilianna Hogan at WebMD, there are certain trademark qualities that make a great friend.

Lilianna notes that Aristotle wrote extensively about what makes a good friend and noted the importance of sympathy and mutual caring. There are many ways to exercise those qualities, including making each other feel good and supporting one another. You should always say nice things to your friends and compliment them. Make them feel proud of their accomplishments and support their endeavors. Being around a good friend should leave you feeling warm and fuzzy inside, and it should never make you more insecure or lead you to question parts of yourself.

This one's pretty wholesome, I'd have to say it's when he married his wife.

I moved away for college and he stayed in state, he was still dating the woman who would later become his wife. We stayed in contact and everything, but distance is very hard for both of us, so staying in contact meant like a phone call every 4 months or so.

I still think of him as my brother, and I was the best man at his wedding, and during the course of the wedding and reception, and *especially* the video by drone they took of the proposal I realized he had made a new best friend, and now he was marrying her.

They've been together for a little over a year now :)

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Leslie (they/them) 2 years ago

Aww when I clicked on this article I prepared for toxic relationships and friends being just plain rude. I didn’t prepare for something so cute like this. I still wish that y’all could’ve stayed friends, but I’m glad that it didn’t end toxically.

121points

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It is also vital that a good friend accepts and celebrates your differences. It’s great to have some shared interests, but you cannot be the same person. Never try to change a friend, but stay open-minded to trying their hobbies. Regardless of what you think of your differences, there must always be respect. You can encourage your friend in pursuing their separate interests, and they should encourage yours. It's exciting to know that you can teach each other about topics that might be completely new to each of you!

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When he ghosted me after I told him I had a tumor that ended up being cancerous.

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Lisa Hart 2 years ago

No one could Ever be lower than that!! I am truly sorry... WTAF is wrong with HUMANS!!

99points

Another important quality of a valuable friend is being a good listener. You should both be interested in what one another has to say and allow them to finish without interrupting. Whether they are sharing exciting news or opening up about struggles in their personal life, your friend should know that they have a shoulder to lean on and that you will listen and remember what they share. On the same note, good friends are trustworthy. You should feel safe in a friendship knowing that what you share is confidential and will not be judged.

When conflicts inevitably arise over time, you should feel comfortable that respect and boundaries will always be maintained. “Perhaps you will do or say something that will upset your friend. Or maybe they have done something that upset you. Either way, close friends can candidly talk about these things and work through their issues,” Lilianna writes.

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When she told me she doesn't like other girls except me cos she likes to be the prettiest girl in the room.

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Leslie (they/them) 2 years ago

Geez, I had something happen just like that to me. It hurts. Especially because of my body dismorphia. 🫤

125points

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When they would talk and talk and talk about themselves but never ask about me

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WatermelonTheDutchie 2 years ago

i had a friend like that. key word being had

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"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend "Best friend" of 7 years "fell in love" with my fiance. When I told him I didnt want to be friends anymore and kicked him out of my life, my fiance left me for him. I'll be honest, i wanted to kill him and almost did.

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D Battle II 2 years ago

Good riddance to both of them!

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To maintain a healthy friendship, it’s also important to make time for your friend. If you live in the same city, try to regularly have a movie night or meet for coffee at least once a month to catch up. It’s easy to accidentally allow distance to slip in, but seeing a friend frequently strengthens your bond and deepens your understanding of one another. If you don’t live in the same place, the internet is a powerful thing. Keep in touch via phone or video calls often, and send each other messages when you get the chance. Even a recipe that you know they would enjoy, a cute photo of a dog that made you think of them, or a text reminding them of one of your favorite memories together can be great ways to show that even if you don’t talk every day, they still mean a lot to you.

#10

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend I found out she was uploading my art to a "bad art blog". I only found out because she sent me 2 paragraphs telling me I was a horrible friend anonymously on tumblr, then when I went to her crying over it wondering who it was she said it was her and then blocked me. I thought I could still fix things but then I found the bad art blog with my art on it, and found out she was talking s**t about me to her other friends.

I was only 15 and even though its been years since it I'm still f****d up by it in some ways.

If you don't like someone, don't pretend to like them and make fun of them behind their backs. Just let them know you feel like you can't be friends anymore and distance yourself. Yeah that will hurt in the short term but it won't monumentally f**k over someones entire psych as being fake will.

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Leslie (they/them) 2 years ago

That must have sucked! I’m so sorry that happened. Honestly no art is bad. It’s all about opinions. I get improving on your own art, but you don’t get to rub your opinion in someone’s face and make them feel bad. I’m not saying you can have your opinions on art though!

51points

#11

When she called me a ‘s**t’ ‘whore’ etc when her adult brother molested me. We were 12.

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Rylosalex 2 years ago

I'm so sorry that happened to you, I hope you told the police and he spends a long time in jail. I REALLY dislike victim blaming. Those who victim blame NEED their teeth knocked out.

127points

#12

When we both tried to get in a frat, i didn't make it and he did which was cool bc we'd still hang out. That is until for the next month him and a few of his new frat pledgees would throw food at me and on at least 4 occasions id be blindsided on campus with them tipping me over, im in a wheelchair. They wore masks so i had no proof to anyone but he was pretty big and i recognized his shoes.
he'd then try to still hang around me and act like he never did anything. I didn't really figure it out til about the 3rd time when they tipped me over and thats when i saw his shoes, confirming it.

About a year later he randomly texted me saying how sorry he was for what he did and hoped we could be friends again but by that time i could care less. Turns out he had gotten kicked out of the frat for drug use and now he couch surfs.

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Hannah Edwards 2 years ago

Tipping people in wheelchairs over is possibly the grossest thing I’ve ever heard. What sort of people do that ? Assholes

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Aside from the obvious benefits of having someone to confide in and a go-to person to hang out with on Saturday night, healthy friendships can even benefit us psychologically. According to WebMD, some of the best things friendships can do for us are: increase our sense of belonging and purpose, boost our happiness and reduce our stress, improve our self-confidence and self-worth, help us cope with various traumas including divorce, illness, job loss or the death of a loved one, encourage us to adopt healthy habits and avoid unhealthy ones such as drinking or being stagnant, help put our problems into perspective to develop a deeper sense of meaning and direction, increase feelings of security, and ease the emotional impact of difficulties and provide ideas for how to handle hard times.

#13

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When she tried to tell me that she understood how I felt about my mum's death the week before, because her parents were getting divorced and she would only be able to see her dad every other weekend.... and then she made it all about how she wasn't sure if she could cope with the depression about to wash over her when he started moving out etc. *I* had to comfort *her*. Not trying to minimise the impact of the divorce on her, I'm sure it hurt a lot, but JFC you can still see your dad, you can talk to him on the phone when you miss him... my mother is *dead*! The two are *not* the same thing.

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Karen Grant 2 years ago

I'm sorry for your loss.

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"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend While they were driving everyone decided they wanted to party. No one had money so they suggested they should call Varvatos he always has money. I was sitting in the back seat. I was like uh I’m right here and I’m not in the mood to party tonight.

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juice 2 years ago

they even forgot you were there, sounds like they just thought of you as a wallet

150points

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My family (me, wife and 3 kids at the time) was in a rough spot, living with a friend a few years ago. I told that friend that if anyone had a problem with my wife, that they had a problem with me.

Word got around. My 'best' friend messaged me on FB asking if what I said was true, instant reply of yes.

Havent heard from him since.

A lot of people had difficulty realizing my wife was disabled. Chronic pain condition called Fibromyalgia, and many friends and family alike thought she was just lazy, didnt want to work and was using me. Most of my family have come around and know this ain't a f*****g joke.

F**k all the rest of them. We've been married 14 years soon, have a great relationship, 4 kids, and despite all the horrific pain and suffering she goes through, we're doing ok for ourselves now.

I don't have much time for friendships these days, so I socialize online for the most part.

Edit: lots of replies being downvoted for no reason...

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Ellie McGrath 2 years ago

The sort of people that think calling it FATSOMYALGIA is funny. Those people you can do without

100points

Lyone Fein 2 years ago

Fibromyalgia is no joke. It often comes with Chronic fatigue, migraines and other conditions. I had to retire from being a university professor because of it.

80points

Rens 2 years ago

I have fibromyalgia and I've been disabled for the last 4 years. That's when you find out who your real friends are.

60points

Whitefox 2 years ago

My brother lives with Fibromyalgia. It makes his life so hard. He refuses to take it easy and is often held together by p**s n vinegar. His wife and kids try to get him to take it easy..but he's stubborn.

50points

Sarah Bell 2 years ago

I have a lot of health conditions and I often over do it because I'm trying to prove to myself that I'm more than my conditions or when I have the fear that I'm looked at like I'm using it as an excuse to be lazy. I have to tell myself sometimes that by doing it , I'm making it worse than if I just took it easy and let my body rest.

8points

Helen Downey 2 years ago

I feel this. I've lost so many friends to my fibro its unreal

36points

Got Myself 4 Pandas 2 years ago

I have fibromyalgia- it's horrid. And the more meds that get thrown at me the worse I feel - trying to stop taking all of them and start over, it's brutal

33points

Minath 2 years ago

I have a different chronic pain disorder (CRPS) and I have lost so many friends, I'm down to three and one of those lives abroad. I told everyone that I might not always be able to join them but I would still go out with them when I could, I even offered to have movie and food nights in my home but it wasn't good enough. Thank goodness my furry feline hot water bottles love me.

33points

LittleWombat 2 years ago

Minato, same here!!!! My pets forgive me my pain, which is great because I never asked for it. Ive done everything I can, I've had an implant for pain, done every therapy, take every med, but this is just my life. They're learning more about all these pain disorders now that more people face long-Covid. People don't understand until it affects them. But lazy, we are not. If anyone knew the work and effort it takes us for a "normal-ish" day, they'd be impressed with our strength and work ethic!!!!!

16points

Bonesko 2 years ago

My boyfriend goes through the same thing. He has degenerative disc disease, but he got it younger than most people. He's in chronic pain, and in pain management. His mom tells him to just get a massage, his family is always saying he's exaggerating, or a drug addict which neither are true. I've felt his spine l, and you can actually feel where the discs are degenerating.His pain is real, he does everything he can, he pushes himself but he can only do so much before the pain is unbearable.

15points

Dre Mosley 2 years ago

I have an ex-GF(we're still friends) that struggles with that. It's no joke.

15points

Benita Valdez 2 years ago

I have fibromyalgia, been dealing with it for about 15 years, and it is miserable. It's like MS's lame wannabe cousin; same type of miserable pain except not deteriorating the way MS is. It so painful some days that even normal movements make you want to cry. Medication helps but it's a lifelong condition that you just get used to having. I can't even remember a time when I wasn't in pain because it occurs every single fůcking day but varies in intensity; today is just discomfort pain. Fůck assholes like that "friend"

13points

Xenia Harley 2 years ago

Unfortunately, Fibromyalgia is something a lot of people think is all in the head. It's not. Good for you being so supportive to someone who is truly suffering. (I have two close friends who suffer from this, and get so upset for them when someone judges, especially because for one, it is her husband.)

12points

Shannon Epps 2 years ago

It is so amazing to hear somebody being so supportive to their spouse when they're in chronic pain that's hard for the outside world to see or understand. I've been there I am there and I've lost a lot of people because of it!! I'm grateful that I finally found a job that has enough variation in the activity that there's nothing to repetitive that makes my pain a lot worse. I also found that Suboxone has been a godsend for my pain!! It doesn't put you on a roller coaster of pain all day that goes up and goes down and you're just waiting until you can take your next dose of pain medication. It doesn't cause severe withdrawal like all the other medications they gave me were and it keeps my pain at a tolerable level. I know that I'll never be 100% out of pain but I can deal with pain that's at a 4/10 daily. Thank you for being your wife's Rock and shield and thank you to everyone here who is supportive to those in their lives with pain and you can't see. Under all of us who suffer with pain everyday that the world can't see or understand there is hope even if you haven't figured out a way to make the pain better hopefully there's another person there to hold your hand when it's really bad!! And if there isn't know that people like us are there for you and understand!!

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Jp@nda 2 years ago

Thankyou for taking honestly about Suboxone. There's such a misunderstanding that only recovering drug addicts use it, when in reality if you have s chronic pain condition and you use opioid pain killers for more than three months then you are addicted to opioids. The doctors do nothing to help this, just prescribe more. It feels like the more drugs people take, the worse their pain and lives become, because they do, your body quickly learns to tolerate drugs and soon enough nothing is strong enough. Suboxone or methadone maintenance saves lives. Suboxone especially is a blocker,so it will block those receptors in your brain so you will not go into withdrawal, but you can finally feel what normal is like. I wish you all the best.

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Lily 2 years ago (edited)

Fibromyalgia can be devastatingly painful, makes it hard to walk, sit for any length of time, it's hard to sleep and get a night's rest. The pain can be like you're on fire from the inside. Most people don't get it, It's one of those "invisible" diseases, like if you can't see it, it doesn't count. But you can't see cancer either. I was diagnosed 25 years ago, nothing much helps, medications just give you other symptoms and those were harder to take on top of it all. The pain is always there, always, and you get flareups from time to time, that can be extremely painful.

11points

Katinka Min 2 years ago

My bff developed fibromyalgia after a severe virus infection. The body is no longer able to process certain stress hormones normally. It effectively makes it impossible for you to have a life. You are constantly batteling fatigue and ongoing pain to do even the tiniest things that are normal for healthy people.

11points

Pumpkin Spice 2 years ago

There are so many people with fibromyalgia in this comment section. If you're reading this and you have fibromyalgia, or know someone with it, or have a chronic disorder in general, I hope that one day you wake up and you're magically cured and can life your life the way you want.

11points

Nikki Sevven 2 years ago

I've lived with fibromyalgia for 23 years now, and it's bloody horrible. To make things worse, I started 'collecting' autoimmune disorders about 12 years ago.

11points

Amy Taylor 2 years ago

Invisible illnesses are so hard...people think you're making it up or lazy. I had crippling endometriosis for 10 years and could barely get out of bed at times. People thought I was making excuses. I ended up needing a hysterectomy in the end and they finally believed me.

10points

Hyde and Seek 2 years ago

According to multiple studies, it's worse for women when it comes to medical help.

2points

Sharkbait1313 2 years ago (edited)

People think if there isn't a diagnostic test that can prove it it must be "made up". They don't realize that there are some diseases/ailments that can only be diagnosed through symptoms and ruling out other possibilities.

9points

Lily 2 years ago

Worse, it was early years when I was finally diagnosed, and after a few years of doctors telling me I was just tired and needed to get more exercise. Even doctors didn't get it.

2points

Persephone 2 years ago

You are a fantastic partner and wonderful husband.

7points

Lulu Lemons 2 years ago

Just been diagnosed as having a chronic pain disorder rather than the joint issues the doctors believed I had, same amount of pain and same person that I was before but tons of "friends" have suddenly started to think I'm faking for some reason? People can be weird about this stuff it's amazing you stick by her.

6points

Blackstone 2 years ago (edited)

My grandmother had fibromyalgia before it was properly recognized as an illness and the things she went through trying to get doctors to take her seriously and not dismiss her symptoms as "female hysteria" were horrendous. It infuriates me to see people continuing to be dismissed (and caused harm or prevented from getting medical care) by people who are willfully ignorant and can't be bothered to understand.

2points

Memere 2 years ago (edited)

I worked with a woman once who had fibromyalgia, and her situation broke my heart. Her husband divorced her over it & he was a preacher, the b@stard! He also managed to get out of paying her any support, so she was in horrible debt. Two of her children had very little contact with her. And to top it off, the company we worked at refused to give her a flexible schedule & fired her for absenteeism, even tho she was part-time & they 100% could have worked with her on a flex schedule. It's been almost 10 years since then & I still worry about her.

2points

Jane Cortez 2 years ago

I know the pain of Fibromyalgia very well and how much fatigue it causes! My mother has it- thankfully she has responded well to medication which has helped tremendously, though she will never function as someone would that doesn’t have it. Before she was diagnosed successfully some twenty years ago she spent an entire year in bed, exhausted and in utter agony. It infuriates me when people, ( out of ignorance or… *lengthy list*), dismiss, deride or mock someone living with something that they cannot comprehend. I hope that finds she relief somehow. So fortunate to have your compassion and devotion. That is what a true partnership is about.

2points

WordWeaver 2 years ago

I think you are a strong, courageous and compassionate soul. Love and healing to both of you and your kids.

2points

Brenda 2 years ago

Fibro is debilitating and very painful. I know

1point

Sarah Bell 2 years ago

I have fibro too and unless you deal with it , you have no idea how bad it can be . Some days are worse than others and I have other health conditions too , but you sound like a wonderful dad and husband. I'm in the same boat because I'm applying for disability. I went into the store today and almost passed out just doing a light amount of shopping . It hurts when people call me lazy and it breaks my heart because I often over do it because I feel like I have something to prove . It's really debilitating when it decides to flair up and it's a mental struggle to not hate myself for what I can't do instead of loving myself for what I can do .

1point

asexualotl (she/her) 2 years ago

i'm seeing people in the comments who have fibromyalgia talking about how they lost friends etc. if any of you see this i want you to know that i'm so, so sorry to hear what you've had to go through.

1point

Emmy Dumont 2 years ago

I have syringomyelia it's kinda like fibromyalgia on steroids.... and damn does it hurts. Bc yes it's so fun having to wait for my husband to get home bc I can't get out of the bath bc my right side won't move.

1point

Bunzilla 2 years ago

Fibro sucks. Constant pain all over. Constant. Every minute of every day, no escape. Often, you get brain fog as well (best way I can describe it is like trying to think through a brick wall). And one of the worst parts is when people accuse you of just being lazy. You tend to gain weight, because exercise is impossible.

1point

Autumn Rose 2 years ago

I’m very fortunate to be able to call my family my friends. I do have some old girls with whom I’ve been friends with for longer than I have had family though. We catch up every once in awhile and it’s fabulous fun even if we are getting a bit long in the tooth.

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Fieke Engelen 2 years ago

I so wish you and your wife well. I wish I lived in your neigbourhood , I would l would be so happy to help out

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Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago

As a Fibro sufferer myself, I can't believe people can be so insensitive. My ex was among them. Being in chronic pain is no joke, but because I didn't "look" sick, I must be making it up. I asked him once if it would be better if I broke out in purple stripes so he could see I was having a "flare-up" day. My current husband was married to a woman with fibro, so he gets it. He is kindness & consideration personified. We've been together almost 15 years and he has never ONCE made me feel like I was "lazy" for having a chronic illness.

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Vera1 2 years ago

She's got fibromyalgia, that doesn't mean she isn't capable of making any decisions for herself

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PiscesMama 2 years ago

Gigantor, you’re straight up nuts. That makes no sense.

7points

LittleWombat 2 years ago (edited)

Have you considered she had her children before she got fibromyalgia? That was the case for me.

6points

If you realize that you are just not getting what you need out of a friendship anymore, it might be time to think about ending it. Some of the reasons you might want to rethink a friendship are changes in circumstances making the friendship too difficult, growing apart over time, dishonesty, negativity, only being friends out of obligation, rivalry, toxicity, or a difference in values. Arlin Cuncic at Verywell Mind recommends a few methods for stepping away from a friendship including the gradual fade-out, having a talk, taking a break, and ending things immediately. Which course of action is best to take is completely dependent on the nature of the situation, but they can all be done in a healthy way, especially if you benefit from removing yourself.

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"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend Best friends for a couple of years. We were in different classes, I wrote her a message that I be on my way to her. When I arrived she forgot to alt tab the chat window with someone else making fun of me at the worst possible way.
At that time she was my only friend. Was tough to have no friends after that for loooong time - this might not sound like a lot but I think that scared me and I'm still struggling making friends

Edit: holy s**t! That wave of responses is just crazy. Thanks for everyone who's reaching out to me. Also, thanks for the silver kind stranger!

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Hope you find more genuine friends than her.

63points

#17

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend when we went out to eat and i offered her to pay (as usual..) because she told me that she forgot her purse - she ordered loads of food and ate only half of it. After leaving her shoelace was loose and she bent over to tie her shoe and a 100$ bill was sticking out of her back pocket. She did this for four years and i never realised. Gave her another chance without sayin a word - three days later i found out she was constantly using my instagram to text my ex boyfriend to end my current realationship. I think she never got slapped so hard.

mil035 , Nguyen Dang Hoang Nhu Report

Final score:

199points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

She was a user. You're well shot of her.

68points

Compulsive-Gremlin , Bethany Beck Report

#18

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend My friend completely ghosted me after I had my daughter. She never called or texted me. She got angry if I invited her over. Later she told me she was upset with me because I wasn’t paying enough attention to her.

Good riddance.

Final score:

196points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Jealous of a baby?

81points

Arlin recommends that a gradual fade-out might be helpful for people who are afraid of confrontation. It is usually done to avoid any feelings from being hurt, but it can take a long time, especially if your friend is not getting the hint. It allows you to avoid having to explain yourself, but there is always a chance your friend will confront you about it. In any case, they might assume there is a problem with you, rather than thinking they have done anything wrong, so it probably will still accomplish the goal of ending the friendship.

On the other hand, having a talk may sometimes be healthier. If you feel that the friendship might be salvageable or you think your friend will actually listen to what you have to say without becoming defensive, it might be worth having a conversation. This can be done in person or via text, but it is important to talk about how you are feeling, not what the other person has done wrong. Focus on “I” statements, so they don't feel like they are being attacked for their actions.

#19

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When my "best friend" had marriage troubles, I was there for him. All through his wife's infidelity, the divorce, and the custody battle. I testified on his behalf in court and he got custody of the kids.

Fast forward 2 years later, when I find out my wife is cheating on me. He's not really interested in talking to me about it so much, and even acts like he's not home when I stop by for a visit. And no, he wasn't the one my wife was cheating with.

He's a good dad and a fun guy to hang around with, but he's just not emotionally available to help other people out much.

principalman , Kylo Report

Final score:

161points

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Ellie McGrath 2 years ago

Maybe it was uncomfortable for him. Not an excuse but he had been through the same

52points

onemorenightofjazz , RODNAE Productions Report

#20

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When I found out she was sleeping with my boyfriend. F*****g b***h.

Final score:

161points

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Autumn 2 years ago (edited)

A b*tch indeed

41points

#21

When I visited my friend of 25 years (bestman, etc.) He got violently drunk and attempted to strangle me in front his screaming family while I begged for life and that my daughters would not be orphans. Because I didnt want to be grabbed. This happened 14 hours ago. Fun times

thotuthot Report

Final score:

158points

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Ellie McGrath 2 years ago

Assault charges

125points

WaffleHouseNeedsWiFi , Hitesh Choudhary Report

Suggesting a break can also give you some valuable time to reflect and reevaluate a friendship without making any decisions that you can’t come back from. This can allow you time to calm down if you are emotional and upset or to strategize what your next step will be in the friendship and how to proceed. If you have been spending too much time together, a break can also let you get some perspective. It can be unhealthy to be caught in a bubble for too long. You can suggest a number of reasons for taking a break as well, from being busy for a few weeks to needing to take care of your mental health. Hopefully, the friend will respect your boundaries, and when you are ready to reach out again, you can.

#22

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend Not my best, but one I was growing closer to.

She left me a voicemail but didn't hang up properly. It was like:

"Hey, WaffleHouseNeedsWifi. I'm with Melissa and we're seein' what you're up to. Call us when you get off work. Bye!" Rustling sounds. "She's probably not even at work. She does this lame-ass s**t where she disappears for days on end. I don't even know why I called her. She's so f**kin' annoying and it'd be better to spend the day with just you."

Okay. Then do.

I listened to it three times just to make bloody certain I heard her 100% right. (It was crystal clear.) When she asked me days later what was up with me, I told her about the voicemail. She proceeded to deny it outright ("I never said anything like that!"), then jump down my throat claiming she was talking about someone else. (What? That didn't even make sense.) Whatever. And people wonder why I disappear.

Final score:

148points

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Ellie McGrath 2 years ago

I love it when they do that or are dumb enough to put it in writing to someone who dons them in. Denials followed by tantrums

46points

#23

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When I invited her to hang out with me at the nearby lake for my birthday, she said she would get back to me. She never did, instead she posted on her Snapchat story about how much fun she was having with her other friends. I stopped talking to her after that.

sleepy_gemini , Kimson Doan Report

Final score:

143points

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Joy Hunter 2 years ago

Sometimes I think the real purpose of social media is to disclose all the people in our lives that we are wasting our time on.

45points

#24

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When I realized she only wanted to receive support and kindness but never give it. She had a rough home life growing up and I always supported her through everything, I would drop what I was doing when she’d call me in tears to help her.

Then I had my own rough patch that left me in a depressive rut. She was always too busy with her hobbies (not even actual work/school) to even talk to me when I went seeking support. Would get angry when I sent simple “Are you free this weekend?” texts because it was too “needy”.

This is also when I learned who my real best friend was because she saw what was happening, told off this so called “friend”, and gave me all the support I needed.

Edit: Omg this got way more attention than I thought it would. I’m so sorry to see this is such a common ordeal that people have gone through/are going through. I wish everyone the best. We all deserve the support to get us through tough times.

SortaDead , Andrea Tummons Report

Final score:

139points

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WatermelonTheDutchie 2 years ago

people support people like that?

16points

In some cases, especially when dealing with a toxic friend, it is best to end the relationship cold turkey. If someone has hurt you in a way that is irredeemable, you have the power to enforce strict boundaries. Whether it requires blocking their phone number and social media accounts or simply refusing to respond to their calls, only you know when it is healthiest to end a friendship immediately. Try not to become hostile or aggressive as you implement boundaries, but don’t feel guilty about stepping away. A friendship should always make you feel better, and if it is causing you harm or making you feel unsafe, you are better off without the person.

#25

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When she got s-faced drunk at my son's (her Godson's) wedding, trashed a hotel room, called me horrible names and punched me closed-fist in the face. She ended up passed out on the grounds of the hotel, came to and was arrested for trespassing because she refused to leave the premises. Days later (via email) blaming me because she didn't realize she was harboring so much "animosity" towards me.

Buh-bye.

SassyMillie , Maurício Mascaro Report

Final score:

135points

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Deborah 2 years ago

Alcoholics Anonymous

40points

#26

When she told me she didn’t want to hang out because my toddler took up too much of my time and I was boring. Then she got knocked up and came to me crying about how hard everything is gonna be now that she’s single and pregnant.

QueenBWB Report

Final score:

131points

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James G. Currie 2 years ago

"Excuse me, who are you, and why are you talking to me?"

91points

#27

Summary of a one hour phone call.

Me, sobbing : "I have seen my doctor. She diagnosed a burn-out. I need to rest and relax for at least the next few months. I'm sorry, I can't work on our project anymore. It's too much for me".

Her answer : "How dare you? I thought you weren't that weak. We're all tired. You should man up. You're selfish for abandonning us like that. If you quit now, don't even bother contacting me again".

I don't know about you guys, but if my best friend call me sobbing about her health, my first reaction wouldn't be that one.

Marawal Report

Final score:

131points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Just rest and heal. You don't need any of that in your life.

10points

We know these stories can be hard to read, but we hope that you have never experienced anything similar to them. Everyone deserves to have kind, loving and healthy friendships, and if you are rethinking any of your own, it might be time to take a step back. Keep upvoting the stories that you find most heartbreaking, and then let us know in the comments what a good friend means to you. Feel free to also share with your fellow pandas if you have ever experienced a realization that could be on this list. We hope that any unhealthy friendships are far in your past now.

#28

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend He was best man at my wedding. We had not much contact for a couple of years, but I still considered him my best friend. I heard about his wedding well after the fact, guess we're not best friends anymore

raskal98 , Susie Ho Report

Final score:

127points

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Lisa H 2 years ago

I can relate. My "best friend" of over 20 years told me I wasn't invited to her wedding because it was only for close friends and family. Um, ouch.

90points

#29

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend Best friend of 15 years. It all unraveled the night he told my cousin to kill herself, tried to start a fight with multiple people at my house, and flipped off my mom.

Edit: Yes, he was drunk at the time. No, I'm not reaching out to him. Disrespect to my family is an irredeemable offense in my eyes. He's out of my life completely now.

DeltaSolana , Tobias Tullius Report

Final score:

126points

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Randolph Croft 2 years ago

A mean, vicious drunk person is a mean, vicious sober person who can hide it.

122points

#30

When after my mom passed I made the conscious choice to only be “happy” around her because she let me know on several occasions she didn’t like dealing with other people’s feelings and I didn’t want to burden her — and then a few months later she told me she couldn’t be my friend any longer with no explanation while we were living together and she knew I wasn’t able to move out for a few months longer. She instantly stopped speaking to me unless it was a rude comment and wouldn’t eat anything I cooked (cooking was therapeutic for me and I loved doing it for her and her family).

Still have no explanation on the why she no longer wanted to be friends after 10 years. But... I am marrying her brother in the fall and he’s the most amazing thing to have ever happened to me. So there’s that!

mbowsy Report

Final score:

112points

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Cathleen Cummings 2 years ago

Sorry you had to deal with that-- that kind of thing really hurts, but just remember that its not you, its her.

37points

#31

When I opened up to her about my postpartum depression and she told me that she didn’t have time for depression and it was weak.

I was never vulnerable with her but I was dying inside I needed someone and she had told me she didn’t care.

I began shutting her out then.

celica18l Report

Final score:

111points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Was never the friend you thought she was. Harsh lesson. I hope things are better for you now.

25points

Cheesycheese01 , Joshua Rawson-Harris Report

#32

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend Our conversations were getting shorter and less intriguing. One day, I received great news and wanted to share it to my best friend. I then realized that they deleted and blocked me on facebook.

Final score:

103points

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FreshGanesh 2 years ago

It sucks I’m gonna get downvoted (something explicitly meant to correct inappropriate behavior, not distaste or disagreement with an opinion) because what the first commenter stated. I’m in agreement that toxic social media isn’t always two-way when it comes to the value placed on it. Maybe friend decided to get rid of Fb or just lock it down to being no more than a placeholder. Either way, my true friends, at least close ones, are people I communicate with outside of Meta/Twitter. It would make sense they lost contact because of a difference in defining “contact” and “communication.” Maybe when noticing they blocked you on Facebook, shoot your BEST friend a text or make a call??? The presumption and lack of context in this post isn’t a good reason that “A Bringhurst” got his BP account suspended. Please be more judicious with downvotes. ✌🏼❤️

48points

#33

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend Not my best friend but an ex friend of mine:

"Your best friend doesn't have depression, she just has those awful thoughts because she watches horror movies"

-cucumberbitch- , Inside Weather Report

Final score:

100points

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I. P. Freely 2 years ago

I've been hospitalized several times because depression and personality disorder. Last time I was hospitalized and almost two years in treatment (including electroshock treatment) and my brother told me that he didn't believe in psychological diagnoses and all you have to do is thinking at least three positive thoughts a day. ....and he is a schoolteacher and his two daughters are diagnosed adhd (which to him is just a silly thing) I bare speak with him anymore. He is a fcking donkey

12points

#34

After years of giving me a hard time for eloping, making me promise after my 1st divorce that if I marry again she MUST be invited.... I invited her. She got her mom to babysit her kids, and then went to her ex boyfriends house to f**k all weekend, totally blowing off my wedding.

My wedding was extremely small. Besides my daughter, she was my only invited guest.

She showed me right there exactly how important I was to her.

Lunasea4 Report

Final score:

100points

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Lady Goldberry 2 years ago

This smells of revenge to me...

41points

#35

When he didn't invite me to his birthday party. I went over to drop off a present, thinking he wasn't having a party (hadn't mentioned anything at school) and found him with his better friends.

Edit: Holy s**t this blew up. Doubled my karma. Also don't be too mean please; it was 4th grade and he's not a terrible person.

Admiral_Dermond Report

Final score:

97points

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Hannah Edwards 2 years ago

Sounds pretty terrible

27points

#36

I had a group that I considered my best friends in middle and high school. I'd been incredibly troubled and depressed, but we all got along and were competitive in academics. They were the people I loved to spend time with. I transferred to a new high school but still saw them all the time.

One day we went to dinner, and plans were to go spend the night at my place after. At dinner, I casually came out.

Suddenly, no one was able to make it to my place for the night.

boiiwings Report

Final score:

97points

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Whitefox 2 years ago

Damn.. I'm so sorry! In High School I had a sleepover birthday party and invited a few of my friends. One of them had to meet with me about something first. They were very distressed and seemed stuck on something. It dawned on me that she was trying to come out to me and I asked her about it. She said, yes that it was important I know before the sleep over. I Laughed so hard I had tears.. I put my hand on her shoulder and told her I'd known since pretty much the fist time we'd met and that I didn't care. She was a great person! I was sorry to have lost touch with her after I graduated. She was a year below me and my life imploded in college. I did reconnect many years later. We stay in touch, but not like in High School.

49points

#37

When they said that I’m not funny and never have been. They said they only laughed at my jokes out of pity. They then said that no girl would ever like me and that I’m annoying. The thing about girls didn’t hurt that bad but for some reason by them saying I wasn’t funny really hurt. This was after 3 years of being best friends

LebronayJamayes Report

Final score:

96points

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Leslie (they/them) 2 years ago

As someone who really cares about how funny I am, because I’m not very attractive and try to make friends instead, this really hurts. I usually curate my sense of humor to match what people I’m talking to, and it takes work. Ugh just reading this makes me feel sad. 😓

47points

#38

When he showed up to a party with his new girlfriend, who was my ex that I had broken up with less than two weeks prior. He knew that I was really hurt about the break up, as it was a situation where I was really in love with her, but I broke up with her because I kept catching her lying to me and I was about 99% certain she was cheating on me also. When they showed up, I was so pissed off at them that I didn't know what to do, so I excused myself and left the party. The next day, I confronted him about the situation over the phone, and he told me I was the one being the a*****e because he thought I was going to be a "cool bro" and I would be excited for him since he was getting his d**k wet. He then told me that if they didn't work out, we could just go back to being best friends again, as if it worked that way. They ended up breaking up a few weeks later when she started pulling the same s**t on him that she had pulled with me.

HoneyDippinDan Report

Final score:

92points

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Rylosalex 2 years ago

Ha! Serves you former friend right.

37points

#39

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend I have lived within 2 hours of him for the last 6 years and he has never come to visit me, always me visiting him. Last straw had a huge July 4th bbq and invited him and he declined so he could go to a lake with strangers. F**k you Rick!

lizard_king0000 , Toa Heftiba Report

Final score:

89points

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begging for ham 2 years ago

yeah f**k you Rick

53points

#40

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend We graduated from high school and she went to college halfway across the world. When she came back to visit, when I tried to hang out with her she was always too busy. I later saw tons of pictures posted on Facebook with her and other girls having fun together. So that’s what she was so busy with.

Then at one point she told me that those girls had actually invited me to everything but she convinced them I wouldn’t be able to go. I would have been able to go. I left her alone after that

Edit: I see a lot of speculation in the comments so I’ll try to clear things up - these girls were all people I’d been going to school with since kindergarten or so. We all knew each other. I was on good terms with the other girls. The girl I’d been best friends with since first grade so I felt loyal to her even though as we got older she got meaner. I’ve learned better since then.

I have no idea why she said that but when she said it, it was with no malice or shame or anything. Like she was just offfhandedly stating a fact. I honestly can’t figure out why. Maybe she really did think I was busy and it just came out really, really wrong. But it seems deliberate when you do that consistently for 2-3 weeks while everyone was back home.

ndhlpplse , Jametlene Reskp Report

Final score:

71points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

She treated you like a napkin rather than as a friend. Move on and find genuine people.

33points

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#41

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When she invited me out to dinner as a Christmas gift, and then when the check was dropped, told me she actually couldn’t treat bc she had impulse bought her shitty boyfriend a plane ticket when she was drunk the evening before and therefore didn’t have the $$.

Among other things, but this was the moment when I was really like, wow, my friendship means nothing to her.

calamarcie , Alsu Vershinina Report

Final score:

25points

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begging for ham 2 years ago

I will only pay for my food, then walk away

12points

#42

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When he started spreading rumors that I was a f**k boy that was going to shoot up the school despite me never having a girlfriend at that point and am extremely nonviolent.

AegisParagon_ , Eliott Reyna Report

Final score:

25points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Not honest enough to just come out and say he didn't want to be friends anymore.

6points

#43

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When she completely cut off communication. One day we were hanging out, next day: nothing. I would text, call, no responses. I still dont know what I did wrong

awkwardllama97 , Katherine Gu Report

Final score:

24points

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Scooter Premium 2 years ago

Why assume you did something wrong?

16points

#44

When all the convorsations had to be started by me. When I called him out on it his excuse was "I'm very busy" F**k dude like the rest of us aren't. A text now and then won't kill you

Tiurpslen Report

Final score:

23points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

As I said above, the friendship was only real to you.

2points

Dutch Swimmer Goes Viral For Super Revealing Trunks During 2024 Olympics: “Is This Legal?”

#45

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend When he posted wedding photos on Facebook. I didn't know he was dating anyone.

marvin789 , Joshua Hoehne Report

Final score:

22points

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#46

I must flip this because I was the problem, not him. Fell in love with him. Could not reverse my feelings. Shamed of this. He deserved a better friend. Has moved on. I miss him.



edit: thank you for messaging me. feels good knowing many of us know this experience. whole thing gave me whiplash. we were friends for almost a decade before a switch flipped and a flip switched for me and it did not go back. i waited for months before i told him, because i wanted to make sure I wasn't confused and that my feelings were not going away. I think I even waited for about a year, IIRC. he was really sound about it. i swear i'm not putting him on top of a pedestal, he handled it all perfectly and treated me very right. he was confused at first, and we tried to be together a few times, on and off I guess. Over a couple of years. Never anything official, we were already so close and had been spending most of our time together anyhow. He was ready ages ago to resume being friends and I tried but we were tumbling down different fields of life at the time. I think he has a kid now. I believe we live in separate countries. We were very close once and had good times and I respect him and hope he continues to be well and happy.

squeakymayotoes Report

Final score:

22points

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#47

For years, my best friend had asked me every summer to go to this sleepaway summer camp in the Poconos with her but my mother wouldn't ever let me go. The year she finally broke down and said I could go, my bestie and I spent weeks shopping and planning and talking about it nonstop. It was going to be glorious - the final summer before junior high.

After her parents dropped us off, however, this b***h proceeded to flat out ignore me the entire two weeks we were there. She wouldn't even have a two minute conversation with me to tell me what I'd done. I was beyond miserable. All the other kids had been going there every summer and all knew each other and here I was, basically alone in another state, pre-internet and cell phones, totally bewildered and upset because my best friend since kindergarten (and the only other person I knew there) wouldn't so much as look at me. I was miserable. When her parents came to pick us up, I didn't say a damn word the whole two hour trip home and never spoke to her again. To this day I have no idea why the f**k she acted like that but I'm still a little pissed off.

ooomellieooo Report

Final score:

22points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

That's very sad. Hope you have made better stronger friendships since.

3points

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#48

3 of us started hanging out when we were 13 and 14. Lived together in our first incredible small (bunk beds) studio apartment. I was his boss and got him hired at the company he is still at when my boss didn't want me to hire him. (that isn't a reflection on him, he was a great employee, my boss at the time was an idiot.) he was best man at my wedding years later, and as soon as I got married, all ties were cut. I have no idea why, he wouldn't respond to anything from me. I saw him one more time a couple years later at my other friend's wedding. He barely spoke to me and won't reply to anything since then, more than a decade ago. I am still friends with his brother, who came out as gay and was cut off from the entire family. If I had done something, or there was some reason or anything it would be great to know, but he just ended everything for no reason. Years of friendship, not only with me, but with my parents too. He lived at our house on the weekend every weekend for years. He cut off the 3rd member of our trio also, again, for no reason. F**k you, Mark.

kcrh36 Report

Final score:

22points

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Harley 2 years ago

Yea Mark… F**k you

7points

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#49

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend My best friend of high school, someone who I thought would be in my life for a long time, started to hit on a girl that I was talking to. He would lie about me to change her opinion of me. And the best part is he never admitted to a thing. Maybe not that bad, but I felt really betrayed.

Ken2461 , Jed Villejo Report

Final score:

21points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

You were. What a rat!

9points

#50

I went to my boss asking why my best friend was promoted instead of me when I had been working longer and had a better work ethic. Boss told me that my "friend" had told her I wasn't interested in the promotion. My friend and I lived together and had talked about how nice it would be to get the promotion the previous week.

2muchstress Report

Final score:

21points

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begging for ham 2 years ago

and the boss believed the lies without interviewed you whether you interested or not? sounds like this company will go down the hill having a boss like that

11points

Woman Moves Out Of Parents' Home After They Asked Her To Give Her Space To Brother, They Freak Out

#51

Best friends since birth, our families were friends. The two of us + my brother and her brother spent together every weekend for roughly twenty years. Then she changed. She became super entitled and holier-than-thou.
Final straw was when four years ago she wanted to go to paintball for her birthday and invited both me and my lil brother. My lil bro had an autoimmune disease and could not partecipate. I told her that I would not go either cause I didn't want my teenage brother to feel different.
She flipped the f**k out. Told me I was an a*****e and it was her birthday, and she didn't care that much about my brother.
I got really mad. I wrote her a long, long message and I didn't hold back. She never answered. Cut contact there and then.
Six months after that, my brother almost died. She never came to the hospital or even called. Not me, not him, not my mother.

Been no contact for four years and never looked back.

Edit: I'm not sure if it's clear that *she* cut contact with me, not the other way around.

laraefinn_l_s Report

Final score:

20points

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#52

"She Told Me My Husband And I Would Make Hideous Babies”: 40 People Share The Moment They Realized Their ‘Best Friend’ Was Not A Good Friend "Stop following me around I dont even know you"

GokusTheName , Priscilla Du Preez Report

Final score:

19points

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Rebekah Krause 2 years ago

This sounds like you created a relationship in your head or completely misunderstood a cordial acquaintance.

9points

#53

My coworker was my best friend. Then she became my boss.

sanibelle98 Report

Final score:

19points

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Hannah Edwards 2 years ago

I can understand that in some instances this could be awkward, but doesn’t have to be friendship ending

6points

#54

I don’t think I’ve ever actually had one tbh, there always seems to be another friend that they’re closer with than me, and I’m like the third wheel

Aquariun Report

Final score:

19points

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Jo Johannsen 2 years ago

I've known people whom I believed were my best friends; I was thoroughly disabuse of that notion, and for decades now I don't even try.

5points

#55

I gave this person way too many chances.

When she would only have me come over so she could go to a concert. Because her parents liked me and let us go out.

She stopped talking to me for a while but hit me because she was applying for a job and needed “clean urine”

We stopped talking again. Then she would call me to tell me she needed food and money for her son.
And then bought drugs.

I’ve stopped helping her. And she’s no longer my “best friend” but I listen when she needs to talk and having a hard time. Do the “man, that really sucks”

I don’t hate her. But I’ve set boundaries. I really hope she gets her life together.

piberoni_pizza Report

Final score:

18points

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Nicola Mawson 2 years ago

Addiction does lead to this sort of behavior. It doesn't excuse it. But please understand it's a mental illness

2points

Woman Refuses To Chip In For Babysitting Because She Doesn’t Even Have Kids, Asks If She’s A Jerk

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#56

When he just stopped hanging out with me or talking to me, and hung out with all the "cool kids" instead. Haven't had a friend since, he was my only friend.

Sahdood14 Report

Final score:

18points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Shallow and immature. You're worthy of better.

2points

#57

She was the only person I had told about being sexually assaulted. When it eventually got out that there were other victims and I went to court she refused to testify, stayed friends with my abuser, and lied to people and sad that I hadn’t told her anything.
I’m still too chicken to completely cut her off but f**k that.

MattieReads Report

Final score:

17points

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Down With Agent Hedgehog! 2 years ago

Cut her off. That would do you so much good.

11points

"I Didn't Start The Dryer": Karen Gets Taught A Lesson After Throwing Out Neighbor's Wet Clothes

#58

When he told my other friends “f**k him he doesn’t have time to hang out”. I tried to hang out with them as much as possible but That’s what happens when you have work, school, and a GF.

uhmaze93 Report

Final score:

17points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Sounds immature, while you're growing beyond him. Happens.

1point

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#59

Friend since grade 7, she was going through mental health issues and began talking to me about them.

I'm no expert and had literally learned a few hours before that adults are allowed to call the "kids help phone" and won't be turned away.

I told her this, not to dissuade her from talking to me about it (I made this clear) but she instantly shut me out of her life because she thought "that's what friends were for"

902gamesad Report

Final score:

17points

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ThatBiBookLover 2 years ago (edited)

I’m confused, can anyone explain?

5points

College Student Does Exactly As Told After Roommates Demand They Keep Their Stuff In Their Room

#60

When he stopped hanging out with me to chill with losers who gave him free drugs.

bimontza Report

Final score:

17points

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Nicola Mawson 2 years ago

Addiction does that, sadly

6points

#61

In our final year of university after having a nearly identical schedule for our first three years, we took different electives to finish up our degree. Since we weren't seeing each other every day, we talked less and less. It's not just on him I didn't do enough either, but it kinda sucked realizing that our friendship wasn't going to last up to graduation, and obviously afterwards as well.

eff5_ Report

Final score:

16points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Sometimes you just grow apart. Life happens. And that separation just shone a spotlight on that. There are other people out there, waiting to make new friendships. Bon voyage!

1point

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#62

When I found out she had been lying to everyone else that I “was busy” or something so I’d never be invited anywhere. 4 years straight. She was my only friend.

Fjellhum Report

Final score:

15points

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Gabriel Vonadler 2 years ago

*was *

4points

#63

When he called me over and like 2 hours in he gets a phone call, says he's going with his friends to Stockholm and ask me to leave

Gasvajer Report

Final score:

15points

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Rylosalex 2 years ago

Rude much!

3points

#64

When I told her I was moving in with my boyfriend in a different state, she screamed and swore at me, busted into my room at my home (while I was talking to my boyfriend on discord so he heard the whole thing) saying he would probably rape and kill me, or just dump me on the street when we would eventually break up.
We still live together, and she got over it but it hasn't been the same since.

EspeonOverwatch Report

Final score:

14points

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Down With Agent Hedgehog! 2 years ago

Maybe she’s jealous? Or insane? Or mentally disabled? No offense

3points

#65

My best friend was always complaining and making everything about herself. I met my boyfriend and moved cities so we could be together. Only after a while did i realise that i was feeling so relieved to stop catering to her needs.

xcst Report

Final score:

13points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Ah yes, playing the "Poor me!" card. Know it well. Help her to grow up and take responsibility for her life and emotional state.

1point

#66

He was asking for help from my other friends in school for a problem on his computer work, they suggested why not ask me for help since I sat next to him in class and then replied “I’m not asking him he’s f*****g stupid” while I was right near him printing stuff out. I was so surprised I just pretended I didn’t hear anything and went back to my desk. Didn’t speak to him for a while after that.

kudarokoi1 Report

Final score:

13points

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Harley 2 years ago

For awhile??? Should of been never again!

2points

chaoticneutraldoggo Report

#67

Extremely homophobic, and I had a crush on her. Smh

Final score:

13points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

She had a chance to broaden her life experience and change her rigid attitudes by being your friend - but I don't blame you for bailing. Would have been a hard road for you. Hope you find love with someone who will appreciate you for who you are.

2points

#68

Best friend for 15 years stomped my head in while I was drunk and left me for dead til someone called an ambulance.

iamburglor Report

Final score:

13points

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FreshGanesh 2 years ago

This is f*****g horrible, but no red flags throughout the friendship? No character flaws or personality traits that suggested one’s closest friend was a homicidal maniac or at least had extremely violent tendencies? People typically present obvious clues unless it’s a momentary act of rage stemming from psychosis. Regardless, this is just sick and sad.

7points

#69

When I got an internship at my dream job and she started to pull away more and more until two months went by and I realized she ignored most of my texts and snapchats. After the internship I tried to contact her a few times thinking it was just a product of her being busy with graduation/me being in another state working crazy hours but a mutual friend stepped in and told me she didn't want to be friends with me anymore.



I considered her family, she decided I was very replaceable. It hurt a lot more considering we both used to bond over the fact that our childhoods were filled with "best friends" dumping us for more popular people.

fireflyeyes Report

Final score:

12points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

As I said in the previous section, friends come and go. It's part of life.

1point

#70

When my girlfriend left me my best friend at the time said "it's cool man, I f****d her, you don't want trash like that in your life." He was right.

anon Report

Final score:

12points

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Gabriel Vonadler 2 years ago

Right?on whom?

2points

#71

I've had this happen twice in my life. The first one lacked any defining moment. We had grown up together and been best friends for well over a decade, but after college he moved to another state so we never saw each other. Still talked every day and played video games together several times a week. But I noticed after awhile that I was always the one to initiate conversations and ask for us to play games. So, I just got curious one day how long it would take for him to say hi for once or start a game. After two years of not talking with him I finally removed him from my friends list. In hindsight, I should have talked with him about things and why it hurt my feelings, but early 20's is still basically a kid. I lacked a lot of maturity.

Second time was after my divorce. I moved in with my best friend at the time, a man who I called my brother. I was going through a lot, not just the divorce. Like having to apply for disability and my mom being terminally ill. Meanwhile he had recently started taking testosterone and gotten married to a woman who insisted on "traditional values" and him being the "man of the house." Which all translated to him being an insensitive a*****e who kept calling me lazy and accusing me of mooching off him, despite the fact that I was doing all the housework and had taken the initiative to reorganize both his books and his magic collection for him. He kicked me out after a month. For context, like 5 years before he had been really ill, hospitalized for weeks, and I moved in to take care of him when nobody else would, even giving the bastard sponge baths. I wiped his literal a*s for him and he couldn't handle the fact that somedays my disabled a*s had to skip doing dishes and catch up when I felt better later. And he got my food stamps. I doubt I made his electric and water bills go up that much to get so pissy and accuse me of mooching.

Zuberii Report

Final score:

11points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Both of you had the chance to practise compassion and generosity in each other's lives - you did, he didn't. The shortcomings were his and his wife's - not yours. Hope life is better now for your Mum and yourself. Great love to you both.

0points

#72

Was gonna make a throwaway, but F that.

Last year. HE was in my town and ran into my son at a local store.

My son: "Does my dad know you are in town?"

Guy: "No. He's an a*****e."

Now, I may be an a*****e. But an a*****e down a best friend now.

Ridhur Report

Final score:

11points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

You deserve better - your son for instance.

-1point

#73

Sounds petty but we had a fall out over seeing Frozen in the cinema. We both loved Tangled so wanted to see the Frozen together but she couldn’t afford the ticket, so my sister and I paid for her.

Come the day she messages me saying her mum grounded her so she can’t come out. I call her home phone to convince her mum to let her come out and got the response ‘oh she’s at her grandparents right now, I hope you enjoy the film’.

I cried to my mum about it, and my mum helped me understand that my friendship was just toxic, I had been stood up or lied to too many times. Couldn’t refund the ticket but it became my mum’s favourite film so it was worth it.

Should have realised she wasn’t my best friend sooner when she told me she was grounded on my birthday so couldn’t come but instead went out to have sex with her boyfriend.

Edit: We were both 17 at the time for those asking

AnneFarron Report

Final score:

11points

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Rylosalex 2 years ago

Glad your mon enjoyed the movie. Frozen is a cool movie

3points

#74

When I was 14 I became great friends with a girl in my class called Kirsty. We spent all our time together, I stayed at her house every weekend. Of course I assumed we were best friends. One day I asked her to do something and she didn't want to (can't remember what). So I said, "Please, best friend." To which she replied, "You aren't my best friend, Rhiannon is my best friend!" Ouch.

LadyOfAvalon83 Report

Final score:

11points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

14. Being a teen can be full of harsh life lessons. You deserve better.

1point

#75

When he f****d my son's mother, who was also my girlfriend at the time, in my home, while I was at work. (Edited for clarity.)

itsdaviddude Report

Final score:

11points

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Lisa Samuelson 2 years ago

And who suffers? Your son!!

1point

pootis_panser_here Report

#76

It was in 8th grade when he said "I don't even really like that guy" after being asked why he hung out with me. It was in Xbox Live party chat and he didn't realize I was in the party. Left the chat after he said that and never spoke with him again.

CaptainCurly95 Report

Final score:

11points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Think of all the people out there who may be your friends one day! Friends do come and go. Not every friendship is lifelong. Everyone has their hearts bruised now and then. Good luck.

1point

#77

Telling his brother after I had called to talk for a bit like we always did "I told you to say I'm not home if pootis_panser_here called....." Was upset but it also clued me in to not waste time on that person anymore. Just told him not to worry and that I would talk to him later. Never did, just left it at that.

Final score:

10points

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Harley 2 years ago

Pootis_panser_here?????????

2points

#78

My senior year of high school, when the group of "friends" had inside jokes about me. They made a game of mentioning these jokes in front of me. When it finally got out I pretty much never talked to them again. After graduation, never seen again.

munkymoto Report

Final score:

10points

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#79

When my ex broke up with me and I was looking for people to talk to. Not a call, not a message, not a word about it from him while other friends were genuinely worried.

Nah, instead the guy just starts hanging out with my ex more.

Not like I listened to all the s**t you had going on and tried to help you through it, but oh well.

badassbagel Report

Final score:

10points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Now you know who your real friends are.

2points

#80

When my other best friend informed me and my now wife that my now wife was just a pity f**k and she wanted to drop molly and then hook up with me while I was in a long term relationship. We had been best friends for 10 years. Haven't spoken to her since. Chick was crazy.

noizviolation Report

Final score:

10points

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#81

When I stopped dismissing all of his insults as jokes and finally got up the courage to report him to the counselor. He called me mean and said I betrayed him, although he was an a*****e.

This was in 4th grade btw.

MarauderOnReddit Report

Final score:

9points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Bully in friend's clothing - you were just his straight guy, the patsy. Glad you had the courage to out him. Hope you have better true friends now.

0points

#82

When she came into my place of work (bar) with a bunch of her friends and when I tried to sit with her and tell her something that was going on with me she basically shut me down and said something like “they’re trying to have a good time I don’t want negative energy” and then after that only talked to me when she wanted me to like Instagram pictures , or support her buisness.

jjd5151 Report

Final score:

9points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

A user. You don't deserve that.

1point

#83

...She used to say some really racist s**t.

I mean appallingly racist. It was incredibly ironic considering she was one of the girls that grew up listening to a lot of rap and some RnB. I think she had some serious issues.

Neither her mom or her dad seemed all that racist, but she sure as hell was.

RadioMelon Report

Final score:

9points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

All that sort of nonsense comes from a place of fear in the heart. "I'm not good enough", "no one can love me", "difference is danger" and so on. Souls eventually grow out of this sort of illusion as they gain broader life experience. Be courageous and speak your truth. Great love to you.

-1point

#84

When he became a "failure to launch" type person and lost what little motivation he had in life. He was always... under motivated when we were younger, but after failing out of college by simply not going to class, getting fired from the job I helped him get (TWICE FROM THE SAME JOB!!), and sitting on unemployment for nearly 2 years, I just can't be around that kind of person.

Guy still thinks the best years of his life were junior year of high school.

He's 35 now and lives with his mother.

Last time I saw him all he'd talk about were things I couldn't remember from literally half a lifetime ago for me. Dude, i'm really sorry but that "awesome time we played that one round of Mario Party 3" kinda doesn't stand out.

Trips down memory lane are nice, but when they are held as the "golden age", it's just not interesting.

Couple that with no motivation to better himself, lose the other person he carries every day in weight (dudes at least 450lb / 200 kg).

Working 25 hours a week is not a "busy life" when your Mom takes care of everything else...

Oh, also, he tries to pick up 19 year old girls ALL... THE... TIME... and that's been his "type "ever since he passed that age bracket.

Edit: Many of you are mentioning depression, and I initially chalked a lot of this up to that, but there's a willful aspect to him not wanting to drive or succeed. He's cool with being the 35 year old virgin, smoking weed, working part time and n living 2 decades ago over and over.

Archon8689 Report

Final score:

9points

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Ember 2 years ago

If he’s cool with his life, who are you to judge? Can’t you simply accept him for the person he is? I understand that people drift apart over time and that you may not share any interests anymore, but you seem to be rather negative towards his lifestyle, which whilst unhealthy, is his choice. No one should HAVE to change who they are to please others.

5points

rayof_fuckinsunshine Report

#85

I took her to Vegas for her bachelorette party. I was the maid of honor, everyone else bailed except for one other bridesmaid so I drove us there from AZ. She said she didn’t care what we did so I got us hooked up with a table that night to see Dillion Francis and we spent the day at a pool party before hand. We took a nap in the room before that night and she apparently got locked out of the room (which was in her name) but never called either of us who were sleeping. She was incredibly mad at me and she and the other girl flew home the next morning while I was still asleep and left me to drive home by myself

Final score:

9points

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Down With Agent Hedgehog! 2 years ago

Ouch.

4points

#86

When I noticed the pattern of love-bombing, showing no regard for my time, and only coming to me when she needed me to do something for her. I started noticing I didnt feel good while around her, and she was constantly trying to change me. I dont blame her, and I feel bad because I know she has a hard time making/keeping friends, but I feel like it's because she's trying way too hard.

artnerdhippie Report

Final score:

9points

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Karen Lyon 2 years ago

I work with someone like this. I like her, and I know her history, so I get why she is the way she is. I just don't trust her.

1point

#87

When they choked me at a football game because I didn’t let them cover my mouth with duct tape.

coolkirk1701 Report

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8points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

No way! Dump them and move on. You deserve better.

2points

#88

Brother-in-law became my stalker and I was just always prepared for him to murder me. I try venting and she interrupted with: I went on a date last night and it was probably the best date of my life.

No apology. Nothing but worry I would be upset because his name was the same as a shitty ex of mine.

anon Report

Final score:

8points

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Down With Agent Hedgehog! 2 years ago

Oooooooooow…….. total burn. Cold her out.

2points

#89

I had an exceptionally close friend in high school. We'd talk on the phone several times a week and share our innermost thoughts and feelings but we mostly joked around and talked about music and our classes. Lots of people thought we were dating or should date but we both maintained it was platonic. The closer I got to her the further I drifted from my other friends, not to mention my family who she didn't really care for. It obviously added some baggage to any romantic relationship I found myself in. When we went off to separate colleges we had a lot of time apart. I ended up going to therapy for my depression and my therapist pointed out that although the friendship had its merits, it wasn't exactly healthy. The thought had honestly never crossed my mind before! I thought she was exaggerating but kept in the back of my mind.

On the drive back from a strange day trip to see her, it just hit me how toxic this friendship really was. This person was incredibly nice to me, but she subtly lead me to believe that it was us against the world, that I couldn't really trust anyone like her. I wouldn't jump to calling it abuse but it was definitely fucky. I ended up ghosting her the next week. At first I felt guilty about it but ultimately I think it was the right move for both of us.

Ikea_Gein Report

Final score:

5points

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WordWeaver 2 years ago

Manipulation and mind control is not friendship. Glad you woke up. Well done to your therapist for picking up on it and warning you.

1point

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Michael Largey 2 years ago

All these stories remind me of the line : "I had imaginary friends when I was a kid. They were real people - I just imagined they were my friends."

21points

Joshua Moore 2 years ago

I read through most of these and all I can say from my life experiences, I've cut toxic people out of my life, because they were nothing but a drain on my mental, emotional and sometimes physical well-being. Get rid of anyone toxic in your life and move on, because you're worth it and deserve better. I can count the number of people I truly love, rely on and confide in and vice versa on one hand and I'm perfectly fine with that.

9points

Cathy Hurd 2 years ago

I've cut toxic family out of my life. I don't miss them one iota.

7points

Moosy Girl 2 years ago

I had a best friend in elementary school who started bullying me when she made a new best friend. 25-odd years later she sent me a letter apologizing and asking me to hang out because her daughter was going through the same thing. To be honest before that letter I didn’t even really remember her. My parents always say I went from outgoing happy child to weird quiet loner rather suddenly as a child, maybe that was why! In any case I didn’t care much one way or the other but I put off responding too long and lost the address, I hope her daughter is doing fine now. People are constantly changing and drifting in and out of eachother’s lives, it’s just the natural way of things and trying to hold on to a failing friendship is a waste of energy, but so is holding grudges (too long).

8points

Seabeast 2 years ago

She sounds like the sort of person who doesn't believe something is real or serious until it happens to her.

2points

Roald 2 years ago

I didn't read through all the misery. But I say one thing: if something like this happens to you, don't keep the agony alive by regurgitating it for months or years. It happened, it was bad, but don't make a life sentence for yourself out of it! Your value does not depend on somebody else's opinion or behaviour. Move on, no matter how hard or how small steps you are able to take. Yes - you can do this! I think you are a hero if you are willing to at least try!

6points

Lulu Lemons 2 years ago

And get therapy. If it doesn't work try a new therapist. I didn't heal until I found a new therapist.

1point

Kelly Lee 2 years ago

I hope some of the authors found this cathartic or helpful in some way. I have a story I choose not to tell out of respect for more than two decades of good firm friendship. Just because it went to c**p in the end doesn't mean it was bad all along.

5points

Anon Anon 2 years ago

The time I found out that my friends ended up being complete d-bags was when they ended up cyberbullying me on this forum I was part of, which was utterly humiliating because obviously other people were reading the posts. It got so bad that my mother had to interfere and threatened to call the police if they didn't stop. Prior to that incident, those "friends" and I had a horrible falling-out. Weeks (maybe months later) without communication, they initiated an attack against me, despite clearly telling me that they didn't want drama; all because I mentioned that I was starting to recover and feel better from the sh!tshow that happened when we had a falling-out. It was also revealed to me that those bastards were lying and manipulating me too before we parted ways. Needless to say, it all really traumatized me and left me suicidal for about two years. 13 years later, and still haven't fully recovered. But I know that I don't owe them s**t because they became what they denied being.

4points

Funhog 2 years ago

I see a lot of posts here about giving all of the time to a friend and then expecting the friend to reciprocate in rare times of need. I can relate; I've had several friendships/relationships in the past like this. I eventually realized that if I'm the giver and the friend is a taker, then that is what becomes expected and we are a match that way. Then, when I expected/needed the friend to be there for me, that was a totally foreign concept in our friendship and suddenly we were no longer a match. Habitual takers are not capable of giving.

3points

PiscesMama 2 years ago

I realised when my Mum died and I was coping with my relapsing/remitting MS becoming secondary progressive that she had no interest, not one word of comfort, she just wanted the gossip so she could pretend to be important in the ‘drama’. I had noticed her being gossipy before and made a point of pointing out peoples good traits hoping she would say one nice thing about someone, she sometimes agreed and I thought she’d be more aware. But really she only jumps from friend to friend to bad mouth the other. It’s a horrible way to behave, to turn your friends dirt into juicy gossip for anyone that will listen but she plays the sweet innocent cry-y one so well. That and she was cold when I got a new man, she even voiced what it would be like if he dated her, like once I die she can just move in on him…that was pretty shocking and gross. Oh well, bye Rachel, life is so much sweeter without a constant b*tch.

3points

Randolph Croft 2 years ago

I had a friend from childhood - ages 7-10, who I reconnected with a few times in large blocks over the past several decades - late 20's, early 40's, and finally mid-50's. We'd go out and dine, drink, have adventures, nothing too bad. We talked about everything. It felt like a BFF relationship. But he started a pattern about 8 years ago - we only got together when he was broke but thirsty. He'd come by my 'hood and text me he was at 'xyz pub' and would I join him? - He was down on his luck, and I'm a generous fool by nature, so I didn't really have a problem with it. But it got worse, he'd miss meetups by being 'asleep on the couch and his girlfriend couldn't wake him' - i.e. passed out. He kept asking for a huge 'loan' and kept forgetting that I said 'no'. I finally realized he was circling the drain and I cut him off and blocked his number. When I was working in Costa Rica, a year or so later, he called and left a drunken voicemail threatening to beat the c**p out of me. The End.

3points

D. Pitbull 2 years ago

The clear cut "oh. wow. It is suddenly 100% clear you are not a friend - just wasted time" has happened with two different people. One had, happily sponged off me for any and all emotional support (including, someone to talk to when they were in jail, someone who they could sob to whenever a relationship ended, etc. etc.) - the ONE time I needed emotional support (bad breakup, abusive relationship, mental health was BAD) he started 'joking' about how since I'm an oldest child I'm the uglier one (???) ... and then he got REALLY offended that I didn't find that funny... or helpful. The other ex-friend - started making it clear that I was the "last option" for everything "Everyone has seen that movie/already tried that new place/else is busy"... then asked their 'new friends' to RATE me as a person - And again, somehow, *I*was the villain for mentioning that I found this really not cool.

3points

Lulu Lemons 2 years ago

I dropped my best friend when I realised that most of my mental problems came from them blaming me for their suicide attempts (others were bullying them for a crush I supposedly had on them over 5 years ago) and them threatening to commit suicide for years whenever I didn't do what they want.

2points

Cathy Hurd 2 years ago

Husband's best friend's wife. I thought we were friends, silly me. She was away doing an internship and we were chatting. I mentioned that we'd have to get together for lunch when she got home, whenever. She tells me that she won't have time. Plenty of time for her college friends, work friends, dive club friends. I guess I'm just not smart enough for her (PhD in psychology vs housewife). She doesn't have to tell me twice.

2points

Gianna 2 years ago

What friend would tell their friend that they would make hideous babies!? That is so wrong in a different level and a sick thing to say!

2points

SnapStingray687 2 years ago

I used to have a good friend. I used to help him with homework in middle school. Turns out he was bullying me and using me for answers. I was so blind I still hate myself for not realizing.

2points

- 2 years ago (edited)

It was middle school. I can tell you from personal experience: adults do dumb stuff, too. So forgive yourself. Nothing wrong with being kind. Just pay attention to whether or not the person is actually improving and trying to get answers on their own. One trick: get them to do something on their own after you teach them. If they're scared (it's okay to be nervous), tell them it's okay to make mistakes. If they say, "Can YOU do it for me?" they are using you.

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Angeline Shalyn 2 years ago

I used to have two best friends , they both knew about eachother but had never met, when I married my husband they both hated him so they found eachother on social media and started talking smack about me, then both ghosted me and became friends with eachother

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Aaricia 2 years ago

We're they married themselves or had a relationship? Because it sounds like they're very jealous of your husband and you.

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Vishy 2 years ago

Being a loner these posts really don't effect me in any way. Professional betrayal is dealt instantly. No waiting for right time to come.

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Pandaroo 2 years ago

I lost 15 years worth of friends when I left the cult we were all in. I thought these people were friends for life, but friendships in a cult are entirely conditional. When they all shunned me for leaving I realised they were never real friends in the first place.

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Rebecca Jollow 2 years ago

This was very timely. I've been going through it mentally lately about the few close friendships I have and the realization I put way more effort and invest so much more care and effort in them than I receive back. Unfortunately it took a very traumatizing miscarriage a few months ago and not receiving any messages to check in after telling my best friend and a few other close friends to come to this. I guess I'm just meant to be the support for others and not worth any in return. Its been hard struggling through that mental and emotional realization.

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SilverSkyCloud 1 year ago

its posts like these that make me truly appreciate that i dont have any friends at all

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CT 2 years ago

When I realized that I felt tired and not very well after spending time with "my bff". When I finally noticed that she was blaming and criticizing too often, questioning everything I said (even simple animal facts). That I helped her with many things and that she didn't return the favor. The straw was when we started a band, at each rehearsal we had to listen to her, but never me and many other little things that made me feel bad. When I wrote to her to say that I was quitting, that I felt sad, that I had cried after the last meeting, and that it wasn't working for me, she yelled at me, because I didn't tell her the right way (her way) and when she had to (when she decides) that I felt bad. After 1 month, I sent her a postcard to break the silence, she blamed me for not doing it sooner and not just sending her a message, while she either didn't write or call me for 1 month.We meet again, but she hasn't stopped making reproaches and criticisms, she's still a pal, but no longer a friend.

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Awsomemom52 2 years ago

In 2000 my father died of a brain tumor. "In mid 2001 my mother died of a brain tumor. 7 months after my mother's funeral, my husband left me and our sons (then 9 & 6) for his girlfriend. When things were still "fine", we were part of a larger group of friends (about 15-20 people)... some of whom I had considered close friends and we knew most of them more than 10 years. I guess I was wrong, because a few weeks after my husband moved out, I was alone. Nobody called, nobody visited me to ask how I was doing after the breakup. I guess I wasn't very entertaining... surprisingly. To clarify some things. I had no car and no driving license (not unusual in my country). I couldn't work full time because of the kids and was paid very little alimony because my ex wasn't earning much.

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ZenChickChristine 2 years ago

I’ve grown distant from some people with whom I was close as a kid, but that’s more a factor of life taking us in different directions. I never had a large circle and that’s ok with me - I don’t have that kind of energy. The person I had the most obvious “it’s definitely over” moment with was my ex-husband. There were prior issues, but the nail in the coffin was his jealousy over me spending time with my father who was dying from ALS. He’s not a complete AH - this was before the bucket challenge and a lot of people had no idea just how devastating the disease is - it just proved to be too much for me. We had an amicable divorce but I don’t maintain contact.

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Susie Kamper 2 years ago

I betrayed my best friend. I’m 100% to blame for the split. She actually forgave me. I didn’t forgive me. It’s been 10 years since we parted ways and even though it felt like the end of the world back then, it was for the best. I’ve had most of my best memories with her and I’m forever grateful for all she gave me.

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Damon Morris 2 years ago

Paid all my bills, had a roommate wait till 8pm on Xmas eve to kick me out cuz his gf now wife said she would only move in if I was gone.

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Joshua Moon 2 years ago

Found out fairly recently that a"friend" I grew up with and considered my brother spent years trying to sabotage my relationship with my then girlfriend. He didn't succeed, we are married and have been together for 16 years. But finding out all of his lies and attempts to discredit me over the years. I gave this guy a place to live when he didn't have one. I drove him when he lost his license. I fixed his vehicles for him because he didn't know anything about fixing vehicles. And the entire time he's trying to get with my wife/girlfriend and spreading lies. I know all about your c**p brad.

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Rocky Mom 2 years ago (edited)

I've lost a lot of friends over petty, poorly communicated situations, where I am the one dropped. Really f***s with you as it can seem like *you're the problem then. I don't think so.. but again, f***s you up into thinking how you could have done things differently but realizing they never did anything differently themselves.. either. Making the effort and such. I'd match the enegy and get dropped.

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Carneirinha87 2 years ago

I don't have many friends. My best friend currently lives in a different country but we still talk and we get along amazingly. At my previous job, I got very close to this girl. To the point that she invited me to be her maid of honour and I went to her country for her wedding with my boyfriend and a couple of other people from work. She didn't spend 1 day with us there. It's, I understand she was busy with the wedding but I was there to help too but it didn't happen. She wanted a different hen do so I paid myself for a scavengers hunt and a party at one of the girls' house. I bought a wooden box that I decorated by hand to put everything from the hen do to give to her. She only shared pictures of the hen do she had in her country and no mention of all the work I've done for her... it's ok, I got over it. Then I moved house and was very tired, I mentioned it to her because I was doing most of it alone and only after all was done I realised she never offered to help. Continuing.

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Carneirinha87 2 years ago

We did help her when they moved house. I also found her talking behind my back at work. She never supported my side business. She never supported me to be honest. It's sad to see these things later on.

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Tobias Reaper 2 years ago

there was a few that made me want to stop being friends with them one was when i was going through depression and they told me that if i dont snap out of it they and my other group of friends will not want to talk to me anymore but i guess the last straw was when their family member passed on we had been friends for over 20 years and we had always said ever since we were kids that if something happened to their family then we would get a place and live together but when it happened rather than go by our plan they chose to live with someone else for no other reason other than they smoked the devils lettuce and living with this person meant they could have it all the time and also this persons parents would buy all their groceries for them. I realised after this that i would rather be lonely than be their friend since then i met someone else who is my new bestie and is soo different they make me feel amazing when im with them they care about me support me through everything

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Michael A 2 years ago

Reading these make me feel a little bit better about not having any close friends

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NG 2 years ago

I found out one of my best friends of my whole life was making excuses. Let me break it down for you: We made plans for saturday this day of, she doesn’t write me all day, and then tells me her phone died and they were all out and about all day and if they could move the time tomorrow (this is during summer holiday), because she forgot she already had plans to go to another friends house. I don’t think much of it and agree. Than the next day, she tells me she can’t go because her room is far too messy and she has a rule that her room must be very clean before sleepovers. But the thing is, she texted that in the morning, when she’d presumably still be at her friends house or just getting back, and if she stayed at a friends house, than wouldn’t she have had to clean her room the day before? but i said it was fine and we haven’t talked much since, because I’m also the main conversation starter (red flag 🚩🚩)

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Stoopham McFernybabes 2 years ago

I had a best friend through high school. We were extremely close and did everything together. She had a wonderful boyfriend who was also a good friend of mine. In the last few weeks of our last year school, during exam time, we were busy studying and didn’t see much of each other but I did think it was weird she hadn’t tried to contact me at all once I finished exams (she finished earlier than me). I was doing a shift at the local cinema when who should arrive at the desk but my friend, with another random guy from school, with tickets for a movie they were not old enough to see. I got someone else to tear their tickets while I went and cleaned something. I don’t think she ever really realised the position she put me in, that day, as an employee and as a friend of her boyfriend. Things were never the same between us again.

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Peeka_Mimi 2 years ago

My former BFF was a complete backstabbing ish from Jr high to 2009 when she revealed I'm too poor to be her maid of honor. We don't talk anymore. I wouldn't pee in her mouth if get throat was on fire.

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Michael Largey 2 years ago

All these stories remind me of the line : "I had imaginary friends when I was a kid. They were real people - I just imagined they were my friends."

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Joshua Moore 2 years ago

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Cathy Hurd 2 years ago

I've cut toxic family out of my life. I don't miss them one iota.

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Moosy Girl 2 years ago

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Seabeast 2 years ago

She sounds like the sort of person who doesn't believe something is real or serious until it happens to her.

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Roald 2 years ago

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Lulu Lemons 2 years ago

And get therapy. If it doesn't work try a new therapist. I didn't heal until I found a new therapist.

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Kelly Lee 2 years ago

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Anon Anon 2 years ago

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Funhog 2 years ago

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PiscesMama 2 years ago

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Randolph Croft 2 years ago

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D. Pitbull 2 years ago

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Lulu Lemons 2 years ago

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Cathy Hurd 2 years ago

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Gianna 2 years ago

What friend would tell their friend that they would make hideous babies!? That is so wrong in a different level and a sick thing to say!

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SnapStingray687 2 years ago

I used to have a good friend. I used to help him with homework in middle school. Turns out he was bullying me and using me for answers. I was so blind I still hate myself for not realizing.

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- 2 years ago (edited)

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Angeline Shalyn 2 years ago

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Aaricia 2 years ago

We're they married themselves or had a relationship? Because it sounds like they're very jealous of your husband and you.

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Vishy 2 years ago

Being a loner these posts really don't effect me in any way. Professional betrayal is dealt instantly. No waiting for right time to come.

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Pandaroo 2 years ago

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Rebecca Jollow 2 years ago

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SilverSkyCloud 1 year ago

its posts like these that make me truly appreciate that i dont have any friends at all

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CT 2 years ago

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Awsomemom52 2 years ago

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ZenChickChristine 2 years ago

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Susie Kamper 2 years ago

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Damon Morris 2 years ago

Paid all my bills, had a roommate wait till 8pm on Xmas eve to kick me out cuz his gf now wife said she would only move in if I was gone.

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Joshua Moon 2 years ago

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Rocky Mom 2 years ago (edited)

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Carneirinha87 2 years ago

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Carneirinha87 2 years ago

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