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“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings They asked my kids who are adopted to step out of a family picture “because they are not really family.” I gave them a chance to think about what they just said and silently counted to 10. They doubled down. And that was the last time I (or other family members) spoke to them.

Zmirzlina , Askar Abayev Report

Final score:

237points

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 3 months ago

My cousin is adopted. She's my cousin. End of story.

187points

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings My sister has never liked me. She's six years younger than me. Years ago the mother of my children and I divorced and she has sided with my ex on everything. I'm the main breadwinner and live on one coast due to the industry I work in, my ex lives across the country with the kids to be by family. I see the kids several times through the year and I wish we were geographically closer.

A couple of years a go my ex was acting erratic and come to find out she was going through either addiction issues or mental health issues. I offered to move her and the family to my city and take custody of the kids. That way my ex could be in their lives but also not have the monetary and day-to-day stress.

My sister, without ever once talking to me about it or asking questions, went to my kids and told them I was trying to steal them from their mom. It caused incredible turmoil and has taken a ton of time from my side to repair things with them. Things are much better now with my kids through a ton of effort but I'll never speak to my sister again. She's dead to me.

bobafat , Elina Fairytale Report

Final score:

169points

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Papa 3 months ago

I'm curious why clairebear and Helena jumped to the conclusion that OP is the bad guy here. Surely it's not because he's a man.

82points

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings Edit: realized I should have put a trigger warning for emotional abuse.

I wouldn’t say we don’t speak. When we see each other at family events, we say hello. That’s about it.

But in reality, it was my mom. She pitted us against each other, made him her precious baby boy (infantilized him), golden child, always yelling at me for not tending to his needs enough, and just wouldn’t let us be siblings and do normal sibling things (from playing together to fighting).

I used to resent him a lot but as I’ve gotten older I just pity him. He has no skills, no love life or friends, still lives at home. She has ruined his life by not letting him be his own person.

We still don’t speak because we’re essentially not allowed to. My mom thinks anyone speaking to him is being mean to him and stops the conversations. She ruined all of his friendships he had in school.

I hope he gets out someday.

Sometimesitsamonkey , Alex Green Report

Final score:

141points

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Anonymous 3 months ago

I also hope he gets out someday.

57points

They didn't like how I posted mean memes about trump.

weedful_things Report

Final score:

140points

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Crystal Spencer 3 months ago

Well boo hoo. Trump is mean to the depths of his soul... so why not expose that?!

122points

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings I cared for our terminally ill dad for 2.5 years until his subsequent death and can count on one hand how many times my siblings came by or helped.

SkrodLaDa , Pixabay Report

Final score:

132points

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DEW 3 months ago

Yep!

39points

AdministrationLow960 , cottonbro studio Report

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings My brother turned into a parasite, preying on elderly women - our grandmother, a wealthy aunt, and our own demented mother, over the years. Hey even tried to get me to fund his life. When I took over our mother's finances and refused any payments, he dropped out of my life. He does not need to come back.

Final score:

130points

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robert copher 3 months ago

Oh that dude is going straight to hot place

46points

My sister moved her massive 4 kid family and her husband into my dementia-ridden father's house under the pretext of "helping take care of him" since I live in another state.

Proceeded to steal every dime out of his pension check for almost a decade, drain the rest of his bank accounts, rack up hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt in his name, buy out his house from him for pennies on the dollar, and essentially leave him alone in his room deteriorating in front of a TV eating Wonder Bread sandwiches while her family regularly live it up - eating out, season passes to theme parks, super expensive car and vacations. The works.

When I discovered the depths to which she'd abused him and filed for a (third-party) conservatorship, she had the gall to say that I was doing it to steal his money.

The next time I plan to see her is when I'm pissing on her grave.

KipKippy Report

Final score:

126points

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Regina Holt 3 months ago

Don't just do number one, do number two also.

71points

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings At a certain point, I realized every time I talked to my sister she wanted me to do something for her.

Every single time. We could not chat without her asking me for a favor of some kind.

She’s older than me and got into the habit of bossing me around in our childhood I think.

The straw that broke the camel’s back was our aunt. She’s in poor health and her children aren’t taking care of her. My sister straight up said I should be her caretaker. I told her no, for the first time in my life, and she lost her s**t.

I held my ground, but she wouldn’t let it go so I eventually blocked her phone number, blocked her on social media, etc.

I miss her sometimes, but I also think family should not be about how much you can use one another and she treated me like I was her personal assistant.

xajhx , SHVETS production Report

Final score:

124points

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robert copher 3 months ago

good for you

45points

#10

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings Sister being a religious fanatic and being cruel to me and my husband because she hates gay people.

anon , Mikhail Nilov Report

Final score:

121points

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 3 months ago

Religious fanatics are NOT believers who are trying to better themselves and the world upon which we live. Religious fanatics are power-hungry, selfish narcissists who offer nothing.

187points

#11

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings She lied about having cancer. I'll just never be able to trust anyone like that in my house and around my family. There's really nothing that can fix it either, I think you need to have something really broken in your brain to do something like that, like unrepairable damage.

Plastic_Kiwi600 , Liza Summer Report

Final score:

120points

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robert copher 3 months ago

what kind of terrible awful person does that?

33points

Timely_Cheesecake_97 , Katelyn MacMillan Report

#12

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings My sister and I were really close growing up. People always asked us if we were twins, not just because we look so alike but because we were best friends and had the same friend group.

When she started dating, she’d always absorb the personality of the guys she dated. Some were better than others, but her husband is the worst of them all.

He comes from a very sketchy family and has done some sketchy things. My family merely tolerated him and we were always kind even when we didn’t want to be. They had a 3 week engagement because she was pregnant and even 10 years later they still deny it even though the timing of their full term healthy baby’s birth is obvious. They have a lot of kids now and there was a period of time where they were legally separated because he was abusing her. It broke me when she got back with him, and I told her that I would never, ever be able to forgive him for how he treats her.

Fast forward, I start dating my husband. My sister has never made an effort to get to know him, in fact she’s always made it a point to be rude to him and make snide remarks towards the both of us. We always just tolerated it. When we got engaged she was suddenly so excited and wanted to be involved in everything. I think she was trying to make up for her fast engagement and rushed wedding planning by trying to be involved in mine. She would throw out suggestions and get mad when I told her I already had this and that covered. I had told her ahead of time that I wanted all sisters in a certain color for the wedding, and I guess she misinterpreted it as bridesmaid colors. She was pissed when she showed up to the wedding and saw that my friends were bridesmaids in a different color and matching dresses. I never lied to her or tried to hide it from her that she wasn’t a bridesmaid, she just made that assumption.

She went back to being rotten and snide. Then I got pregnant and then the fake kindness and desire to make it about her started up again. She wanted to plan my baby shower and I point blank told her that she was not invited. We haven’t spoken since. We’ve seen each other at family functions but we don’t talk to each other, which I am fine with. I’ll take silence over snide remarks any day.

So there you have it.

Final score:

120points

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Regina Holt 3 months ago

Silence over snide remarks is the way to go!

47points

#13

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings I escaped the toxic cult-like religion we grew up in and am healing and doing quite well, he’s still stuck there so that already drives a deep divide just in worldview and lifestyle.

He wanted another shot to reconnect last year and I granted it to him, but during a long conversation over dinner I found out that he doesn’t view women as equal to men. His views on marriage and a married woman’s right to autonomy (nonexistent…) are slavery under a different name. A wolf in sheep’s clothing that he thinks is love. I tried everything I had in me to ask him questions and to see if he could realize himself how twisted that view is, since just telling someone they’re wrong doesn’t often go anywhere. Once it became clear he was committed to those ugly morals I told him never to contact me unless he changed. Haven’t spoken to him since.

Bungerville405 , Ismael Paramo Report

Final score:

109points

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Bernd Herbert 3 months ago

There simply are people you cannot reason with. They didn't get their worldview because of reason therefore reason will not connect with them.

65points

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#14

My brother has a massive ego and truly thinks he's perfect. He's an agressive emotional and physical bully. He's jacked up on steroids, and does a lot of d***s. He's brainwashed by Joe Rogan, Trump, Alex Jones, Putin, Tate etc.. I had a major, soul crushing, life altering thing happen to me and he thinks I'm overreacting to my injuries that have left me a shadow of my former self. After a lot of deep thought and anguish, I just don't speak to him anymore. I'm better off not having him in my life.

Final score:

106points

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Jodie daubenmire 3 months ago

Who needs a Magat cult party member? I have not, nor will I ever speak to my 3rd eldest brother. He has lost his job, his family, and home. He is a squatter on a State Park, and owes 40k in child support. He claims his savior trump will excuse him for the debt. He is dead to my remaining 5 very Republican siblings. Magats are not Republicans.

56points

#15

He bragged about torturing someone. He works as a prison guard and was once spit on. He said he'd beaten the guy with another guard then put him on "property restriction" which was to just strip him naked and leave him cuffed in a cell. But before that he sprayed the man from head to toe, front then back, with pepper spray. Pepper spray is not meant to be left on skin and especially not any mucus membranes. He said the guy was just writhing around yelling. I can't get past the thought of it.

I work in the field of socialwork and do my best to help as many people as I can. And he's out there proud of having done something incredibly vile.

AnEsteemedCactus Report

Final score:

106points

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Anonymous 3 months ago

That level of abuse should be illegal even in a prison

92points

#16

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings When my sister got married for the first time, she became a monster. She started treating everyone who was not her husband as if they were s**t, demanding money from my parents (which they gave her, they even made me sleep on the floor so they can sell my bed and give her the money) and guilt tripping everyone who didn't jump on the spot to babysit whenever she wanted. She started to look down on me.

My parents lost everything to help her and now they're literally broke, just surviving with what me and my uncles give to them. And my sister claims nobody helps her.

I just can't.

sinchistesp , Irina Iriser Report

Final score:

105points

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Alexandra 3 months ago

Nor should you. She made her bed, now let her lie in it.

46points

slytherinqueen1525 , Keira Burton Report

#17

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings I don't need people who make me feel like s**t and treat me like trash in my life.

Final score:

99points

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Alexandra 3 months ago

No you don't. Leave them behind.

44points

#18

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings I haven’t spoken to my sister in a decade, and don’t attend family events where she will be present. She stole my mom’s identity and wracked up almost 20k in unpaid debt. My mom plays is off as a childish mistake (my sister was 27 at the time) and despite my pressing her, my mom refused to press charges. Without her help the police just had to let it go and my mom paid off the debt.

TradReulo , CafeCredit.com Report

Final score:

92points

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DEW 3 months ago (edited)

My sister has lied about me, my dad and my mom. But my mom just thinks she will come back to the "fold". I'm here doing everything I can for my mom and it's never good enough.The last time I spoke to my sister was on my father's death bed. She came in with her boys and left I got up and went to the doorway and said you guys can come in I've been here all day. She yelled in this high pitched voice if she could have her private time then. The doctor came in while I was down the hall waiting and said my dad was dying. She didn't tell me what the doctor said. She got done and came down the hall and Thanked me for letting her have her privacy time and left. The nurse who was standing with me was shocked. My sister later told my mom that I told her to get out because our father wasn't her dad. My dad died in 2011 and my mom still talks to my sister and wants her back. My sister is a liar. She constantly tells lies. My mom believes everything she says.

45points

#19

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings They never reach out and hardly ever reply so I dropped the rope. No animosity, just no desire to keep reaching out and having my feelings hurt. Can't be disappointed if you don't have expectations.

Repulsia , Alex Green Report

Final score:

92points

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V 3 months ago

Yes, I no longer contact my brother. He has contacted me once in 10 years.

32points

#20

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings Because my sister is a psycho b***h that brings unnecessary drama into everything. I love her but I’m better off loving her from afar. I wish nothing but the best for her, as long as she’s over there and I’m over here.

Edit: damn I have a lot more relatives than I thought. My dad cheated on my mom a lot, so it’s not too far fetched lol.

ddkelkey , Liza Summer Report

Final score:

85points

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DEW 3 months ago

I could write a book.

23points

GumboDiplomacy , RDNE Stock project Report

#21

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings My brother got arrested for distribution of something I won't type out, but let's leave it at illegal and unethical images of people below a certain age. The day that happened, I made my first visit to the VA because I had already started compulsively planning to kill him and I needed someone to talk me out of it. And that would've left my parents with a dead son and me probably doing life in prison.

He got the plea deal of the century and did two years in prison. On the registry for life and some wild probation requirements(no internet access for over a decade). Somehow he got that instead of 200+ consecutive life sentences. My parents have the mindset that he "made a mistake." I've told them there's a lot of serious mistakes that I could forgive. Hell, even a DUI causing a fatality I could've seen past. What he did was a repeated choice with absolutely no excuse.

The extended family is divided on it. I think it's a bunch of cognitive dissonance all around. I don't speak to him or acknowledge his existence, and some family have tried to get us to reconnect. But I've made it clear that it won't happen but they're welcome to pick between having one or the other of us around if they keep pushing the topic.

Final score:

81points

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Haywood Jablome 3 months ago

OP: "I won't type out "child pornagraphy" so let me just explain what that is instead"

32points

#22

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings I’ve posted about my half sister years ago. She is nine years older than me and in my life, I’ve lived in the same house as her for less than a year. She lived with her mom most of her childhood. She got married at 21 or 22 years old and was, what we used to call a “bridezilla”. I was around 13 years old and was supposed to be a bridesmaid in her wedding.

She was very set on a hairstyle she wanted all her bridesmaids to have, and she wanted them all done at a certain salon. The salon was very far from where I lived and we had to be there early, like 7am. So my mom made an appointment for me to have my hair done at a salon near my house, and even gave them a picture of what my hair was supposed to look like. The night of the rehearsal, my half sister and my mom got into an argument about my hair and my sister kicked me out of the wedding. Her mom told my mom that because I was no longer in the wedding, we had to leave, but my mom pointed out that my brother and dad were still in the wedding, so we didn’t have to.

Long story short, her mom slapped my mom across the face, police were called, and nobody from my dad’s side of the family went to her wedding. As adults, she is very close to my dad and brother, but I have next to nothing to do with her. I’ll see her at family get togethers, but I have no interest in having her in my life outside of that. I was still a kid and she did irreparable damage to our relationship because of a hair style. All these years later and she still has not apologized for that night. What’s funny too is that, based on wedding pictures, none of her bridesmaids ended up with the hair style she wanted them to have because everyone had different types and lengths of hair. I hope it was worth it to her.

ritathecat , Joeyy Lee Report

Final score:

79points

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Regina Holt 3 months ago

Bridezilla. I wonder how long the marriage lasted.

33points

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#23

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings I always thought I had a good relationship with my sister. We both moved a lot, and lived in different cities, but we regularly called and sometimes visited. At a certain point we lived in the same city and I visited her a few times, I even remember borrowing her car for something. At a certain point I noticed I was making more of an effort than she was, so I asked her and she said she's just busy. We had a day planned where she would visit me, so I took off from work but she never showed up. I called and texted but she didn't answer. 2 days later she apologized and said something came up, she never said what. We made other plans and she cancelled an hour before. I got pissed cause again I took off from work and made arrangements. She apologized, we tried a third time, I told her this was the last chance, she promised to be there but again she didn't show up. I decided I had tried and I never initiated contact again, it's now been 15 years since we last spoke. I went to her diploma ceremony a few months after this all happened where we didn't speak and she actually didn't even look at me. Nobody in the family ever mentions this, it's like it never happened.

PagaentOfTheBizarre , SHVETS production Report

Final score:

74points

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Regina Holt 3 months ago

I hate when something like this goes on and the family ignores it. That will only make things worse.

33points

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#24

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings Both my younger sister and I were horribly abused by both parents. There were three older siblings that were wanted and were treated like gold. I moved away and was in therapy for 13 years. Both parents are dead now. She did no therapy, had two kids, one which she can't shut up about and one she can't ever mention. Two years ago she took an inheritance that was meant for me and spent it on her house. It was the worst betrayal I have ever experienced, did not see it coming. Still causes painful rage, slowly getting better. Will never talk to her again, will never have to see that she, has become what abused us both. Still feel like an idiot.

Green_Message_6376 , Pixabay Report

Final score:

70points

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Dame Cherry 3 months ago

Sue, sue, sue, why would you not sue???????

37points

#25

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings Let’s name all the reasons.

As a kid, he constantly destroyed my things. My Barney stuffed animal was strung up with razor wire to the ceiling fan and beheaded. My huge Pokémon collection, which would’ve been worth millions of dollars today, were shredded and burned.

He’s the reason my bio mom abandoned me. He started a dog fight between my biological mom’s pit bulls and blamed me so my biological mother blamed me for the death of her dog, which is a huge reason why she stopped coming around and I didn’t get to see her for 10 years before she died.

He, as a 24 year old, knocked up a 16 year old. Tried to say she said she was older but she looks like a literal child so I don’t buy it. Then two years later, he knocks up another 17 year old. Somehow he avoided charges on both, but I think he should’ve been taken out back and taken care of after the first one.

He tried to kill someone and is currently in prison.

His current girlfriend sends me messages asking me to subscribe to her onlyfans, I block her, and she makes new accounts.

hippydippyshit , Mikhail Nilov Report

Final score:

66points

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Shark_a 3 months ago

Wow, he is a real psycho! And also, poor dogs :(

56points

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#26

She had a bad habit of continually trying to convince my husband that I was the shittiest person to be married to. She constantly assassinated my character to anyone who would listen.

When I finally had enough I went no contact. My husband also did, he was furious with her antics.

That driver her a bit nuts. I didn’t care, and instead enjoyed the blessed relief.

Some people do not feel good about themselves unless they are destroying others.

Infamous_Cranberry66 Report

Final score:

65points

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Patti Hampton 3 months ago

I have 3 sisters and 1 of those is exactly what was described. She's tried to convince people I didn't go through something I did... and 'you believe everything that comes out of her mouth! She was not abused!' Oh, but I was and everyone knew that because they saw some of that with their own eyes. If she's not the center of attention, she manages to wreak havoc - doesn't matter if it's a wedding or a funeral. She was the only one who didn't show up for my surprise birthday party in 2021. The others at least made an effort. My son-in-law's birthday party was with mine - as we were born on the same day. Sister didn't even show up for him. She was probably jealous because she wasn't the center of attention. Less drama at that party, thankfully.

6points

#27

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings Alcohol.

My sibling has been drinking for 30 years.

She's in her mid 40s, drunk most days, and posts her relationship drama all over social media.

She wore a white ball gown to my wedding, stole items, money, etc from me and my family.

I don't follow them on social media and I don't see them when I travel near where they live.

They are unable to respect boundaries so they are choosing to not participate in my life.

Hsbnd , Chad Stembridge Report

Final score:

58points

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Ephemera Image 3 months ago

I have no time for drunks. They suck the life and joy out of everything and then play victim about 'fighting their demons' while destroying other people's lives. No sympathy whatsoever for them.

22points

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#28

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings My brother and I inherited a house together when our parents passed away. It's a nice house in a nice neighborhood with a half acre of property with plenty of room. It would have been ideal because there was no way either of us could have afforded a place like this on our own. But he had to go and turn into a raging, insane, alcoholic. The alcohol over the years has rotted his brain. Everything in the house that broke was my fault according to him. He would be ranting and raving over some stupid thing every day, usually about what a crappy person I am or some decision I made in my life. The situation devolved into threatening violence and death threats. The problem is, the few times he is sober, he does not remember a lot of what happens. I eventually moved out. I'm so much happier now. It got to the point where I feared for my life. So I will not contact him for any reason or respond to emails or phone calls. Usually on Friday nights he leaves me long rambling messages on my voice mail where I can't even understand what he's saying because he's so drunk.

Chickadee12345 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

54points

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Crystal Spencer 3 months ago

There is hope, OP, if you ever see this. I almost lost my little sister to alcohol a fewtime.s. she was so bad and drank so much. Getting sober nearly killed her but she is indeed sober and has been for nearly 15 years . Everyone thought is was impossible. She has a beautiful family and life now. Don't give up hope. Not saying you don't get to remove him, because he is toxic nor do you have to be the one to help him... but don't lose hope for him.

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#29

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings She's a psychopath. Manipulative, self-centered, lies for no reason but to get you to believe lies, has never once acknowledged fault and always turns it around on her accuser. She doesn't operate on, "Better to ask forgiveness than permission,", she'll lie until she can lie no more and then stand firm at, "What are you going to do about it?" She has never moved an inch for anyone and tramples over everyone deflecting with a, "tee hee!"

Nobody likes her but nobody but me understands why they don't like her and they keep engaging with her to their detriment.

kuchikirukia1 , SHVETS production Report

Final score:

52points

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john doe 3 months ago

Sounds like a certain former president

26points

StillPhysics2024 , Darya Sannikova Report

#30

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings Moved to different locations, nothing in common, no reason to stay in touch.

Final score:

40points

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Harlyn Scott 3 months ago

Wow some of these were quite depressing

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#31

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings Our wives started a thing years ago over attitudes and s**t. Slowly grew into a full on s**t talking thing from his wife and my wife, in her true fashion, ignored her and didn’t partake until his wife started calling her a s****y mother for smoking weed one night they were over after the kids were sleeping for the night. She wrote a whole text letter and sent it to the family text just vilifying my wife, only because my wife wouldn’t engage with her.

My wife goes off on her. Telling her she’s an adult and if her kids are down for the night and she wants to smoke a little pot that’s for her to decide. That my brothers wife isn’t even a mom and has no place to speak on her quality of motherhood. Yadda yadda yadda.

Anyway my brother reached out to me and tries to get his wife’s messages across through me and I told him I’m not involved and he shouldn’t be either. Let it simmer and eventually cool off. This is my baby brother so he usually listened to me in things like this. But this time. He goes to my wife’s workplace and meets her in the parking lot to give her a face to face “This is what I think of you”.

That was it for me. You were told we didn’t want to talk to you right now. We requested you leave us alone about this family beef. But now you confronting my wife while she’s alone and you’re shouting at her to intimidate her, backing her against her car, because your wife yelled at you about it. That’s it for me. I told him he’s lucky I didn’t handle it physically. Haven’t spoken to him in about 7 years.

OsoRetro , RDNE Stock project Report

Final score:

25points

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#32

She decided I married the wrong woman and didn't want to anything to do with her. Easy-peasy sometimes you get what you ask for. Glad my BIL made the wise choice to file for divorce. I would have had a harder time if I had lost contact with him.

Th3L0n3R4g3r Report

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23points

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#33

For my dad and his brother I know it's my aunt. She manipulated my uncle a LOT and she's a super stuck up b*tch. When my granma (dad's mom) died she also completely ruined the spirit at the funeral just to cap it off that our families could never get along.

It was that moment where I swore to never ever let my relationship with my own brother get bad, and I've shared with him that that is how I think and he agrees.

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BarfyCat 3 months ago

My mom had such bad blood with her brothers that she named her *dentist* as executor of her will! She couldn't fathom that my brother and I could settle her estate without rancor. When she passed we quickly relieved the poor, stunned dentist of his duties and peaceably settled the estate 50/50.

9points

“All Three Shot Out Pink”: Triplets' Baby Shower Turns Sour, Pregnant Wife Wants A Divorce

#34

I gave everything for my sister, even put my marriage on the line until I needed her help, which was met with a no sorry, I am busy. I won't go into the circumstances, but I will say I had my first breakdown as a result of her lack of help. She made several attempts for us to get on with each other. I succumbed to try again several times, but history kept repeating itself. Having her around made me very miserable, so I called and told her I no longer wanted her in my life. A barrage of abuse followed, but she was cut off, and I have been very happy ever since.

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22points

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#35

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings They live 5 states away and we’re both lazy.

_Goose_ , Maik Poblocki Report

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21points

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WindySwede 3 months ago

Just lazy? Much much better than most of the others then!

14points

#36

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings D***s. It's a shame, I feel for them, but the stakes are just too high. I have too much to lose. They've lied to and stolen from just about everyone else whose given them the opportunity to, so I have to keep away from them. See them at family stuff and am cordial, but I have to understand that the creature inhabiting my brother's skin isn't him anymore and hasn't been for years.

CollateralSandwich , Timur Weber Report

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21points

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Crystal Spencer 3 months ago

I am trying not to comment on every post or tell my sad story to the world but I feel almost everyone one of these on a personal level...and I'm sad. I have wonderful people around me who love and care for me but I miss my blood family. There were some really good times amongst those really horrible times.

13points

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#37

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings My sister and I are very close in age. We grew up sharing a bedroom, dressing in coordinating outfits like twins, having the same friend groups so sleepovers and activities were shared. When we became adults, we talked every single day on the phone without fail. We even sensed when something was going on with the other, like I'd be in pain unexplainably and call her and she'd say she thought she had a kidney stone, for example.

When we were approaching our thirties, she was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. I spent days sleeping on a cot in the hospital with her and I was 8 months pregnant. It took a huge toll on her physically but also mentally. Her personality really changed. I went out of my way to do whatever I could to minimize stress because it would cause flare ups or exacerbations of her symptoms.

When our grandfather was dying (who we both adored so much), she was also experiencing a pretty stressful health situation with her child. My mom wanted to call her to let her know grandpa had only days to live and I asked her not to call because she was dealing with this other situation and told my mom about it to help give her context of how close to a flare up she was even though my sister was keeping this situation/stressor to herself.

Two days later my sister calls me SCREAMING into the phone. I'd never heard her this way before and I only heard "never speak to me again" before she hung up. My mom called me right after and had gotten the same call. Eventually we figured out that my mom had told my grandmother and aunt what was going on, then my aunt called CPS on my sister for medical neglect. CPS found everything was perfectly fine in the end but the damage was done.

On that day, I lost my sister, my grandmother and my aunt. My grandmother saw nothing wrong with what my aunt did and even gossiped to everyone in the family about it so they both got cut off.

I think my sister's reaction was partly Mama Bear protecting her family, partly the effect the MS has had on her mental state. She moved to the country and has alienated everyone else. She has no friends, no job, etc. I think she thinks she's protecting herself this way. I have such reservations about trying to rebuild our relationship because I don't want to put her into another flare up that could be pretty severe. It's been 7 years and I still grieve the loss.

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21points

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Lost Penny 3 months ago

So let me get this straight. OP knew that her sister didn't want their mother to know about her issues (and judging by the rest of the story, there was a VERY good reason for that), but she told anyway, in great detail no less. The mother told other family members, which almost led to the sister losing her child to CPS. Then the matriarch of that wonderful family (the grandmother) spills the beans to everyone else who didn't already know by that point. (Oh, and when OP did it, it was 'to help give her context of how close to a flare up she was'. When the grandmother does the same thing, it's 'gossiped to everyone' all of a sudden). Sure, MS is to blame for the fact that the sister went NC with the entire family. Wtf is wrong with people?

23points

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#38

Strange passive-aggressive behavior, not being very interested in being a part of my life or inviting me to be a part of hers. I thought for a long tome it was my fault but finally figured out she has probably has mental health problems.

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19points

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#39

“I Haven’t Spoken In A Decade”: 30 People Reveal Why They Disowned Their Siblings My brother is an addict. Once my mother died 4 years ago I cut contact with him.

mortyella , JESSICA TICOZZELLI Report

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18points

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#40

Time. We just went on with our lives and found different friend groups. We never fought or had any resentments.

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#41

His wife.

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Regina Holt 3 months ago

Context? Why? The list is about "reasons"

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 3 months ago

My brother was very disturbed as a child. He had ADD, was on the spectrum, and had learning difficulties, although he was very bright. He could not always control his behavior, and was very physically and emotionally abusive towards me. I am also on the spectrum, but despite my issues, I've always been able to relate to others much better. I think now that he abused me out of jealousy that I was more able than he. When I was 14, he joined the Navy, and was gone for two years. When he came back, he had learned a great deal about getting along with people, about self-control, and about helping people. I had learned how to be a teenager. I had real friends, and did many of the normal teenage things. I wasn't the scared little mouse he'd left. We were never close, exactly, but we were able to co-exist and be civil to each other. We could even sit down and play a board game. I bought him a watch for Christmas. He always played Santa, and Mom would have to tell him to open his presents. He'd rip them open, set them aside, and get back to passing out. When he unwrapped the watch, he stopped passing presents long enough to open the package, set, and put on the watch. Most successful present I've ever given. That same year, he gave me a hairbrush and comb. This was the first time he'd ever attempted to get me something that I might like or need. He had no idea what a young woman might like, and he tried his best. It wasn't long after that he had his accident. I made the hour drive in about 40 minutes. There was a brother-shaped body lying on the bed, but he wasn't inside any longer. I took his hand, and I gave him the only thing I could -- my forgiveness. This past winter, my dad died. A few days before he went, he could see my brother waiting to take him home. Okay, I'm completely crying now. Maybe Bouche will get on to be superior to everyone.

40points

Spencer's slave no longer 3 months ago

Much love and hugs from me and my two deck cats, James-Shere Khan and MooMoo.

12points

Child of the King 3 months ago

This is a beautiful story. I'm so sorry about your dad

5points

Annabelle 3 months ago

❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

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Bored Panda 3 months ago

It sounds like you've been on quite a journey with your brother. It's touching that you found a way to forgive and coexist. Thank you for sharing your powerful story. 🌸

3points

Brian Beck 3 months ago

After the second time my bother tried to kill me I decided not to give him a third chance. We haven't spoken in close to 20 years, I don't miss him.

10points

Thanos'Fingers 3 months ago

Haven't spoken... because you killed him?

3points

Sky Render 3 months ago

My SIL got enraged that we didn't out her daughter's asexuality to her. Her daughter specifically asked us not to tell her parents, and furthermore, you don't out people without their consent. My brother doubled down on supporting his wife's poor respect of her own daughter's right to privacy. Haven't spoken with either in over half a year, though I'm sure we'll hear from their daughter in a few years when she moves out.

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Boots 3 months ago

**Trigger warning - abuse of various kinds** After having dealt with my own brother's multiple issues (everything from manipulation to sexual abuse), I finally cut off all contact when he decided to attack me verbally and accuse me of lying about my having fibromyalgia, RA, and other health problems. He even went so far as to call other family members dumb for "believing that s**t." Could I send him copies of my medical records? Sure. Will I? Nope. He can fxck right off a cliff. There's more but in a nutshell, bro is a alcoholic sociopath who still wants handouts from other people instead of being a fully functional adult, and having the audacity to hate on anyone else that "takes away" love/concern/money/attention he thinks he deserves. It's bonkers.

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BoredBranzino 3 months ago

My minister father groomed an 18yr old in his church for sex. I was their baby, but father & his wife chose to raise me. I was told I was adopted. My "natural" siblings were told the truth. Being evangelicals, I was treated as an unclean bästard, my siblings were encouraged to abuse me as well. Other relatives, too. I can tell you: Nurture works/Nurture opposite works, and is indelibly etched into my brain. I felt I had to keep a relationship with my family, because: family. Bad choice, as they got their hooks into my children who stopped having a relationship with me (which were formerly good - the only healthy relationships I had, ever). As romantically I gravitated to the devil I knew, so both husbands were abusive. I got out, cut off contact 100%. Minister & wife finally passed & suddenly siblings wanted to renew our relationship. Hard pass. Soooooooo.....the next time I open up for someone it will be for my autopsy.

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Mary Brizendine 3 months ago

My parents had four children. Very spread apart, my oldest brother is 16 years older than me. I was the youngest and only girl. I lost the only brother who would have stayed in my life. Honestly, I have no clue as to why the other two never kept in touch. I have three kids, ages 46, 44 and 42. Neither of them have ever seen my kids. I lost my husband three years ago and I don't even know if they know. As far as I am concerned, my family consists of my kids and and their SO's. And one cousin I have left.

3points

Shine Chisholm (they/ them) 3 months ago

My sister told me she can't be in a relationship with anyone who has connections with our mom. My mom shows up for me. My sister does not.

3points

Richard Graham 3 months ago (edited)

I was young and didn't have a checking account. My parents sent my sister a $250 check with instructions to give me the money. My sister kept the money. When I asked for the money my sister threatened to kill me, repeatedly.

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Thanos'Fingers 3 months ago

Bet you got a checking account.

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Rose the Cook 3 months ago

My half sister and I never got along because my mother hated my father and me but worshipped her, the result of an extra marital affair. When my crazy ex husband burned down our house and left me and my children homeless my half sister refused to let my father help us. She had by then taken over his house and finances with our mother's help. After my father died my mother got the house which she of course left to my half sister. When my mother later died my half sister had the hide to demand that my husband and I support her, she had never worked a day in her life, and pay off her gambling and credit card debts. I haven't seen her since our mother's funeral 25 years ago.

3points

Bored Panda 3 months ago

Your experiences highlight a deep and challenging family dynamic. Setting boundaries is often necessary for personal well-being. Thanks for sharing your insights—may your path forward be peaceful.

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Ken Schroeder 3 months ago

My father-in-law was a child molester. That's a crime my wife and I refuse to accept, but her sisters forgave him (even though it was his step-daughters he molested.) During the following 40 years, we saw him four times and each time he refused to admit he did anything wrong and tried to reconcile. He died last year. My wife wanted to attend the funeral to get some closure, but the funeral was over before we learned about it. Family is VERY important to my wife, but she's LC to one sister because of it, and will likely be NC within the month.

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Nimitz 3 months ago (edited)

Decided to undo my overshare. I don't talk to my alcoholic sibling who tried to kill me and let's leave it at that.

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Nimitz 3 months ago

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Jenn Thomas 3 months ago

My sister has spent her entire life trying to pretend she wasn't related to me or to our single parent Dad, because we were very Bohemian hippie and she always craved being straight laced. We had a great Dad who made sure we had good lives, but it wasn't good enough for her. To this day, she looks down her nose at me, and I just avoid talking to her as much as I can, because I know I'll just get upset again, and she doesn't deserve that kind of power over me.

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Black Cat Green Eyes 3 months ago

Sib harassed me, destroyed my things as a teen, after she had a major m.h. crisis, found out from her therapist she was "deeply jealous" of my book smarts, which led to parents treating her as unable to make mistakes. Relationship warmed after she got married & had my nephew & she seems genuinely caring and a good parent. After three years, she disappeared for a week with no way to reach her & insisted she'd bankrupt her spouse and take the house. Kept her job she got by manipulating her father in law, almost entirely abandoned the kiddo except when prancing him around made her look good (asked the kiddo as a teen to pretend to be HER DATE to make someone else jealous). Sib is convinced i'm the "black sheep" because I left the state, got an education, never married or had kids and tried to manipulate me +parent about medical decision making and drain parent's retirement (even though they make more than anyone else). Kid is wise to her BS and has learned good boundaries, i'm so proud!

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Binky Melnik 3 months ago (edited)

My sister and I speak, but she does so grudgingly, and it’s one-sided (she talks only about her pets and never asks me about me). I’ve never known why. My parents were absolutely dreadful, playing us off each other and not teaching us to be loving, so I’m sure that plays a part, but whenever we’re together, she’ll tell anyone who’ll listen that I made her eat grass when she was seven. I’ve believed for years now that she’s angry about what an EIGHT-YEAR-OLD did to her. 😞 Because it’s all she’ll talk about, it comes across as MASSIVELY important to her, and makes her unbelievably angry. I’ve tried everything humanly possible to show her I’m not that same kid, but I’ve made NO progress in fifteen years, so I’ve given up. (It’s funny, though: When I attempt to bring something up from our childhood, she says she doesn’t think about “that stuff” because it’s in the past. SO WAS THE GRASS-EATING. 😰)

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Skadi Lifdis 3 months ago

My half siblings were raised to hate me. However, we all got close briefly while they were in high school - until I was forced to cut contact with them by their parents (somehow I was responsible for all their stupid teenager BS despite living 100 miles away). Then the rift was blamed on my not being there. Fast forward to last year. My mom, I think after observing her middle son treating his oldest son like I had been treated growing up, realized what she and her husband had done and booked a family reunion so that we "wouldn't reconnect at her funeral" (her point being she wanted to be alive to see us all be the happy family we never were). My oldest half brother didn't come. My middle brother, his "supposedly pregnant" girlfriend, (I know d**g withdrawal when I see it) his oldest son and his new baby, and my half sister came. I left the trip reaffirming I'd rather be family-less than have anything to do with them. Mt siblings were raised to be horrible people. Don't need them.

2points

Ephemera Image 3 months ago

I have been without family almost half my life. I can tell you, it's quite peaceful. And lovely.

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Cee Cee 3 months ago

My mother abused me psychologically all my life and also when I was 10 played with herself whilst stroking my hair. I knew nothing at that age but felt really uncomfortable and that something was very wrong. Aged 19 I lost a baby close to term. She told me I'd done something wrong so god punished me. I was utterly distraught and started using heroin. Years later and clean the emotional abuse still continued. She knew what she was doing abd at least twice a year sent me a cheque which I presume was an apology. I didn't cash them. Eventually I told her to f off. I told my sister the golden one what had gone on through my life. Also told her I didn't want to know when the old b***h died and I certainly wouldn't be going to the funeral. My sister refused to believe me and did try to get me to go to the funeral. I lost it then so no longer speak to her. Life is so much calmer and I no longer get eczema flare ups from stress so no regrets. For clarity I have long been a non-believer.

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Annie Steele 3 months ago

The other child that my birthpod popped out is 50 this year, don't like him and over thr years maybe spoken to him 5 times. No great loss, might come in useful as an organ donor.

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Jesse Gros-Louis 3 months ago

This comment character limit is really making me learn to be a concise writer. My half sister and I are no longer in contact because she's too attached to her manipulative mother. Too much to give all the details, but my dad, in a moment of paranoia and child support fatigue, tried to force my half-sister to get a paternity test. Crying, she asked my why he would do that. I had to tell her the truth that she was too young to remember. Her mom pushed me into admitting that I S.A.ed my half-sister and couldn't see her anymore when she was 3, me 12. When my dad finally divorced, I felt that I could finally tell my side and be believed. For this and many other reasons, our dad thought that his ex would cheat on him. My half-sister was never told this. Over time she decided to take her mom's side. We tried awkwardly keeping in contact since, but we've obviously chosen sides and gave up texting happy birthday once a year.

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Jay Walsh 3 months ago

I honestly don't know why my sister doesn't talk to me. I have every reason to not talk to her, but I have left that door open and she just doesn't talk to me any more. I could hold her behavior against her and be that way, and it would be justified. My Daughter has been married a couple years now, and not only did she schedule a vacation that week so she couldn't attend, she has yet to acknowlede their union. I still don't what her problem is, but I'm done trying to mend the fence. I still text her on her birthday (she does not on mine), and when I must talk to her becuase my parents live with her, but I expect the next time we talk will be at a funeral. And the last will be the other one's funeral. I'll never know why, and don't really care at this point. I wish her and her husband the best.

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FloralDangerNoodle 2 months ago

She's a liar, a sociopath, and a narcissist, and we all would be better off if she were dead. Our mother, and her own kids even feel this way. It's sad. I miss my sister, but I don't know this person she's become.

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AR 3 months ago

These stories make me, an only child, so happy I don’t have siblings. No thanks, my mom is enough drama to deal with.

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Trisec Tebeakesse 3 months ago

My brother moved to a Republican state and drank the Trump Kool-Aid.

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 3 months ago

40points

Spencer's slave no longer 3 months ago

Much love and hugs from me and my two deck cats, James-Shere Khan and MooMoo.

12points

Child of the King 3 months ago

This is a beautiful story. I'm so sorry about your dad

5points

Annabelle 3 months ago

❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

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Bored Panda 3 months ago

It sounds like you've been on quite a journey with your brother. It's touching that you found a way to forgive and coexist. Thank you for sharing your powerful story. 🌸

3points

Brian Beck 3 months ago

After the second time my bother tried to kill me I decided not to give him a third chance. We haven't spoken in close to 20 years, I don't miss him.

10points

Thanos'Fingers 3 months ago

Haven't spoken... because you killed him?

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Sky Render 3 months ago

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Boots 3 months ago

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BoredBranzino 3 months ago

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Mary Brizendine 3 months ago

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Shine Chisholm (they/ them) 3 months ago

My sister told me she can't be in a relationship with anyone who has connections with our mom. My mom shows up for me. My sister does not.

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Richard Graham 3 months ago (edited)

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Thanos'Fingers 3 months ago

Bet you got a checking account.

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Rose the Cook 3 months ago

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Bored Panda 3 months ago

Your experiences highlight a deep and challenging family dynamic. Setting boundaries is often necessary for personal well-being. Thanks for sharing your insights—may your path forward be peaceful.

2points

Ken Schroeder 3 months ago

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Nimitz 3 months ago (edited)

Decided to undo my overshare. I don't talk to my alcoholic sibling who tried to kill me and let's leave it at that.

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Nimitz 3 months ago

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Jenn Thomas 3 months ago

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Black Cat Green Eyes 3 months ago

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Binky Melnik 3 months ago (edited)

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Skadi Lifdis 3 months ago

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Ephemera Image 3 months ago

I have been without family almost half my life. I can tell you, it's quite peaceful. And lovely.

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