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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It

While scrolling through your news feed, there is a high chance of stumbling upon a picture of your friends eagerly waiting for their third child, and your former going-out bestie posting a double picture from her recent ultrasound. And whether you have children or you are still doubting if this is the right choice for you, there are people who have taken the choice of not having any kids. The little bundles of joy bringing light to their parents' everyday life sound like a nightmare for some, and what other more convenient way can we find out everyone’s opinion if not from the internet?

This time, Reddit’s well-seasoned community of 32.3M people of AskReddit fired out a question that many people probably find themselves thinking: “To those who NEVER want to have a child, what are your reasons?“ Below you can read a wide selection of answers and we are dying to know what you think.

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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I enjoy money and silence

StinkFingerPete , Dustin Moore Report

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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I don't want kids.

There's literally no other reason.

KirinG , Hannah Olinger Report

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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I love my life too much. I hate mess and noise. I love travelling whenever i like. I love going for trips and meals out with my husband. I love being able to do what i want whenever i want. I dont want to spend my days listening to crying, arguing, whining, doing the school run in the rain and shopping for food. The planet has plenty of humans and we have done a great job of wrecking the planet and treat animal so cruelly - i dont want to add to that problem.

CurvePuzzleheaded361 , Kory Twaites Report

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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It Imo, I should justify why I want kids instead of finding reasons why I don't want them.

In my case, I don't have a reason to want them.

Grapezard , Edgar Chaparro Report

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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I have never seen a person with children and thought to myself "i want that life"

kn8ife , Unknown Report

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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It As the eldest sibling in my family, I’ve already lived out my maternal dreams.

Mental and chronic illness runs in my family and I can’t risk passing it along.

I don’t want to put my body through pregnancy.

It’s a lot of responsibility and I rather live for myself and all the other things I rather do in the world.

overthinkingdreamerx , Unknown Report

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223points

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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It This world is stupid, corrupt, full of a**holes. Why would I want to bring anyone into this mess?

Western-Monk-8551 , Antoine GIRET Report

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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I was born this way. Have just never desired children. No particular reason.

tennesseewaltz , Andrik Langfield Report

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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I'm too mentally unstable to provide a quality life for any potential kids

guutarajouzu , Zachary Kadolph Report

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#10

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I don’t have the patience to deal with them

zion100799 , Ross Sokolovski Report

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#11

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I love peace and quiet.

smooshf***ie , Mor Shani Report

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#12

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It To sum it up:

- I like having my time and money to myself. Fancy sitting in bed late, drinking beer and ordering takeout? I can do that. Going out with friends at the drop of a hat with no worries? That too.

- My mental & physical health. Some issues are genetic in my family and I'd never wish that upon a child.

- This frankly isn't a world that I'd like to bring anybody into.

- I'm frankly quite selfish (I'd never, ever neglect a child however). I'd prefer the new clothes and games that I bought recently to a nappy / diaper bill.

I've just become an uncle so I totally understand how people can want a child, it's just mot for me personally.

Brainwrongs_ , Unknown Report

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#13

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It Climate change. Over population.

TheBulgarianDiver , James Cridland Report

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#14

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It Bro I can barely handle a full-time job and taking care of a cat. I do not have the time, money, patience, or desire to raise a kid. I want to live my life, not be weighed down with a responsibility I don't want and wouldn't be beneficial for me. I like having the freedom to not have to deal with all that.

TheSorge , Nancy Sims Report

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#15

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It You need a good reason to have a child. You don’t need one to not have one, just as you don’t need a reason not to have a f****** giraffe.

BobAteMyShoes , Marina Abrosimova Report

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#16

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It Your vagina getting ripped during childbirth, 9 months in hell (pregnancy) but then childbirth and pregnancy arent even the hardest parts of parenthood. Staying up at night, getting little to to rest, changing smelly diapers, post-partum depression, physical and mental exhaustion, the financial strain of having a child, the unavoidable health damages of pregnancy. The list goes on.. seriously, what is there to like?!

grim_bonecollector , Rob Rhyne Report

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#17

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I understand the immense responsibility & sacrifice they are and choose instead to work on myself and continue to nurture my own experiences and growth through the one life I have.

_soch , Tim van der Kuip Report

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#18

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It ... I can barely take care of a cat. How do you think I would do with a child?

TipsyNate , kim smith Report

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#19

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I don’t want to go through birth, I don’t like the baby stage, children and toddlers are fun and can be adorable but not 24/7, I like money and the piece of mind that I won’t do anything to screw up their lives, everyone I have said I don’t want kids to will say I told you so

And finally I’m not responsible or mature enough.

Ghostofmeow , Unknown Report

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#20

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It Since I am the oldest I call my experience “the free trial” and to make things short I don’t like it

EmergencyUnhappy7454 , Shawnee D Report

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#21

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It Our society is structured so that nearly everyone but the wealthy are living hand to mouth. I feel no security in my life and find life stressful. I can't imagine how bad that would be if I had to worry about another soul.

Harvey1977 , Kinshuk Sunil Report

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#22

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It Mental health - I have extreme anxiety and ADHD. I don’t want to have a kid and potentially put them through what I go through.

They’re expensive.

Pregnancy is terrifying to me. Never want to try it.

Spite. Got tired real quick always being told I’d be a great mother, even when I announced that I don’t like kids and never want any.

Vinekyrie , Joice Kelly Report

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#23

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I would make a terrible dad, great uncle but a terrible dad.

RagePandazXD , Unknown Report

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#24

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It Kids are expensive

I rather spend money on travel than children

I want to retire early

I only like children in small doses

I rather do drugs at Burning Man than raise a child. I don't want to be that guy who tries to do both.

There is no decent return policy on kids.

I really like my me-time.

Every time I see people with kids, I have an overwhelming feeling of dread.

I find people who have kids a little boring, to be honest. Not always, but I know that their rockstar days are now behind them.

I mean, I'm happy for people who want to have kids. I've also had friends confide in me that they wish the hadn't have had kids. This should be a "f*** yes, or no" decision.

No-Psychology1751 , Upgraded Points Report

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#25

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It They're loud, expensive, annoying, boring, time consuming and needy.

Instar5 , Leonid Mamchenkov Report

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#26

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It Too mentally ill from childhood trauma and have various auto immune diseases. Wouldn’t be fair to have a child when I’m not completely present for them.Love kids but not for me.

sheakat1997 , Thought Catalog Report

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#27

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It As a male who never wanted a kid and now has one, I can say I still don't want one.

Don't get me wrong. My buddy is now my whole world and I would do anything for him. But i never wanted a kid and now I definitely wish I never had one.

All my free time I had is gone. I don't really care about the money. He can have it all and all my crap I collect too. He can have it. I just want my time back. Or some time. Any time. I can't remember the last time I've a whole movie from beginning to end. I can't remember the last time I've just laid around listening to music.

And when i do get time away from him I catch up on stuff that hasnt gotten done and I really dont enjoy the time. There's no such thing as me time anymore.

Cant wait until hes out of the house. Just 16 more years to go.

westbee , Unknown Report

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#28

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I'd rather live my life without being weighed down by a huge financial burden. Plus most kids I know are little s***

ThatOneBuilderGuy , 401(K) 2012 Report

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#29

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I simply refuse to put a child into this world as it is,
I know too much about how ugly it truly is.

Massive , Wikimedia Commons Report

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#30

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I am selfish so I am not gonna sacrifice my time for them. I don't want to bring kids into this world if they can't be unconditionally loved.

the1992munchkin , StockSnap Report

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#31

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It because i dont like children

i dont want to raise one for 18 years

id rather put that money into my dream car

Qwerteee8 , Wikipedia Report

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#32

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It They s*** themselves and you have to change their diapers.

They’re expensive.

It’s the best thing you can do for the environment.

It’s a s**** world to raise a kid in. What if they were trans, disabled, gay, etc? I’d still love them but half the US population wants to deny them human rights.

They cry and b**** and require constant attention.

There’s so many reasons.

jh32488 , Wikimedia Commons Report

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61points

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#33

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It The world is overpopulated and I don't want to spend the time and money required to care for raising a child.

bender710 , Nemo_Jo Report

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#34

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It A friend told me once that I would probably be like the mom from Carrie and there's no f****** way I would condemn a child to such a miserable life.

Also, giving birth? F*** that

booksoverppl , Franco Seguer Report

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#35

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I guess I don’t want my child to have an illness of some kind (Down syndrome, autism). Is it wrong to say I don’t want to have a child live like that?

ReptileRuairi , Bob Brotchie Report

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#36

Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I don't want to pass any of the emotional damage in my brain down to anyone else.

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Not Everyone Wants To Be A Parent And 35 People In This Online Group Get Brutally Honest About It I'm aromantic and self-centered. I would make a terrible partner and a lousy parent.

TakerFoxx , Azrie Azhar Report

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What do you think ?

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Batwench Premium 3 years ago

Why should I give you a reason? This has been my response when being asked this question.

52points

Aunt Messy 3 years ago

Or, "Why do you HAVE kids?" They never have an answer for that.

0points

lith 3 years ago

most the answers here are just proof that these people have thought about it and a lot of them actually CARE about how them having a child would affect said child (ex. mental health, genetics, financial responsibility, COMMITMENT) these are things that should be given more praise than they get imo especially when so many ppl make others feel weird for not wanting a kid

40points

Bettie-Jean Neal 3 years ago

I finally turned 50 and people have stopped asking when I'm going to have kids. I am all of these reasons.

14points

ZombieGirl 3 years ago

I'm too selfish to have children. I like spending money on myself and would be miserable if I had to suddenly put all that money towards someone else...and all my time and attention. Plus, there are enough people in this world...enough kids in the system. Also, I'd never forgive myself if I passed on my depression and anxiety to my kid

8points

WilvanderHeijden 3 years ago

Could we stop this lunacy? People have reasons to have kids and people have reasons to not have them. Let's not make this into some kind of cult. Whatever your choice is, it's OK. No need to give reasons or justifications and no reason to blame people for having or not having them. Last time I looked there's absolutely no reason for anyone to justify themselves.

7points

Mark Fuller 3 years ago

1. We're gay - and the world still bullies kids with two Dad's. Sad, but my priority is the child, not my compulsion to be a father. 2. I'm barely mature enough to look after myself, let alone having a dependant. FYI, I'm nearly 40. 3. Money always feels tight, the cost of kids is scary. 4. Whenever I hear them scream (happy or sad) I want to rip their larynx out. 5. As unattractive as it is, I like looking after number one - drink more than I should, go to a restaurant with no planning, enjoy holidays that I want to go on... living life as I please. 6. Really not sure I want to bring them into this world...

7points

Jeannie Bristow 3 years ago

No one who doesn't want to be a parent should have to be one. The only answer needed for why someone does not want a child (besides "mind your f-ing business") is "because."

6points

Janet C 3 years ago

I knew at 16 I never wanted kids. I'm now 65 and have had zero seconds of regret. I am happy, I love my life, and I am content. There's literally no reason on this planet that would have changed my mind.

5points

Fairsher 3 years ago

I have 3 adult children and I wanted them. What I hate is people who have kids and didn't want any, they have them for their partner and it doesn't work. Far too much child abuse in the world by people who didn't want kids, ended up with one and cannot handle it. I never push my kids to have children, it is totally up to them and their partner, not me. We need people who don't want children, far too many children born and not wanted as it is.

5points

Deborah B 3 years ago

Because I look at my life, and my budget, and mental and physical health, and ask is there room for a child here? And there's not. It's not just being selfish, though I am, or enjoying my me-time, though I do. I do not have the capacity, emotionally, physically, or financially, to take responsibility for another person. If you aren't committed, and aren't confidant you can do it well, don't make a baby.

5points

Wilf 3 years ago

My wife gets fed up of people asking her why she doesn't want kids (funnily enough, I NEVER get asked this as a man). Her response is the same every time: "for a reason." End of conversation.

4points

John Baker 3 years ago

I never wanted kids, and now at 68, I don't regret for a second never having them. Of course, at this stage of my life, I'd probably only see them at Thanksgiving and Christmas anyway. ;-)

4points

Nhaundar 3 years ago

You can't try to have kids. There is no way back. So it's totally fine to just don't. I'm tired of people telling me you will change your mind if you have kids... Nahhaaa. What if not, huh? Will you take responsibility? I don't think so.

4points

Kay blue 3 years ago

I had my child over twenty years ago but I wouldn't choose to have children now - nothing to do with the pandemic. For the last five years or so the world has been getting more and more angry. Instead of acceptance there is growing intolerance and so many people display that at complete strangers.

4points

Alice Teasdale 3 years ago

I'm really impressed by these responses, but they also, strangely, make me proud that I had the courage to choose to have kids. It has been a tough road (3 kids, 2x Asperger's, 2x ADHD among that) but I'm proud and grateful I took it - but I'm also proud of and grateful for the people who consciously choose not to.

4points

Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago

If you WANT kids, you should have many reasons; not wanting to breed is no-one's business. No-one's getting hurt.

4points

Sista of the moon 3 years ago

I want kids even more after reading this 🥲

4points

mph seti 3 years ago

I hate how people with kids always ask people without kids "why don't you have kids?". Especially if you're a woman, many think you're obligated to. Like a few of these point out, the better question is "Why did you have kids?"

3points

not your average weirdo 3 years ago

I like kids, but I am so scared of the idea of giving birth, and I decided that I never want to. I would rather adopt kids who need a family.

3points

VeninTheNonBinaryRogue 3 years ago (edited)

I’m kind of on the fence on whether or not I want kids when I grow up. There’s just so much crap to go through, and it hurts, and money and stuff. I wanna travel too. But I think it might be fun to raise a kid. If I don’t have kids, I’m just gonna get a bird, or a dog, or both. I like pets

3points

Daria B 3 years ago (edited)

What if.... It's not like you don't want children at all, but also not a desire you want so badly? Like... if I have kids - nice! If I don't - nice as well! I don't know, that's how I feel at the moment. My curious nature kind of makes me want to have them, but, although I'm 31, I still don't hurry. And I don't feel terrified at neither thought of having or not having children.

3points

Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

On one side of my fam, we are 19 cousins. Only 3 had kids, and all three were on drugs (addicts). The sober ones adopted their stepkids or just didn't have any. And, in retrospect, I'm not sad to see that DNA die out. My mom's fam is great, which was why I awnted kids, but as I couldn't have them (medical reason)? .... Yeah, the paternal-side cousins and I seemed to all reach the same conclusion: Don't take the chance we'll be like the parent we feared/hated/etc.

3points

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Tiny Dynamine 3 years ago

I find it odd that very few of them mentioned about how good it is to have your independence and freedom for all your life. That's what I love about not having kids.

3points

HooowlAtTheMoon 3 years ago

I don't like giving reasons because it seems like a waste of breath to an answer to a question that should just be accepted, but if you need a reason, birth seems terrifying, I never want to go through that, my girlfriend doesn't want kids either so even if I changed my mind (which i wont) i want to respect that, kids are loud and messy, i want to be able to travel without worrying about kids, id have to be super super careful to make sure they don't get my cystic fibrosis passed on to them (and i cant deal with that stress), im worried they'll be as big of a jerk as I used to be/still kind of am to people i know irl, i won't be responsible enough to keep them alive, and i dont want them to have to go through really bad mental health issues like me because that seems unfair to me (they never asked to be born)

3points

ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago

So another anti children article.Some people want kids,others dont,just get over it ffs

2points

Toni 3 years ago

i'm a single-mum of a 17year old wonderful teenage boy who is in the middle of puberty. this is hardcore. but i was like him in this age.. so i can't judge him. if i could decide again i would prefer to be alone and have no kids. it is only because of the constant worries of his wellbeing and him doing the right things. this is exhausting.

2points

Octavia Hansen 3 years ago

In real life, I have NEVER seen kids/family presented as shown on TV commercials, sit coms and movies. When the show ends, everybody goes back to their real life. Baby sitting (which I quit doing after I was 16) showed me what having children is REALLY like. Doesn't matter how old or how many, life came to a screeching HALT when kids entered anyone's life. And I quit dating men who had custody of kids every other weekend (or less) -- even they didn't want to sit with their own kids, trying to toss them off on me. No. Nope. No Thanks. And I HATE it when baby dolls are still foisted off on little girls. They don't get it that a baby is 24/7, but the doll they throw into a box, closet or drawer. Reality bites!

2points

Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago

No. I have never wanted kids. I never learned how to be a mother, much less a good one.There is a tremendous history of abuse on both sides. The one way to break that cycle is to not have a child. Although I would NEVER abuse a child, I'm sure my parents started out having no intention of doing that either, but they did. I have an amazing nephew who I love with all my heart. We are not technically related. I was the first one to hold him after his parents. But my friends understood about me and kids. I'll babysit and do for you/him anything you need. But only until his first birthday. After that age, frankly, I dont know what to do with them. How to relate to them, how to talk to them. How to play with them. So the next time I'll be alone with him is when he's 18 and I take him out for a beer. Actually it turned out he was 16 and we went to a golfing range. I admire my friends for their incredible commitment, sacrifice, and selflessness. He is an amazing man.

2points

Benjamin Thor Collier V 3 years ago

Well...for starters, it's a vagina. Not a clown car. (This is for those that appear to be trying to field their own baseball team...)

2points

Iron ass 3 years ago

I have four siblings, and once I turn eighteen I do NOT want that experience anymore.

2points

YupItsMe1234 3 years ago

Wife and are are pregnant with the first and already we are being asked when does #2 come, or that will be good if #2 is a boy/girl. #2? I don't even know if I will like #1, I never planned on having 1... 2 is out of the question

2points

sofacushionfort 3 years ago

I've always wondered if men or women comprise the largest group who do not want children, but do want to be in a long-term relationship, and yet eventually become parents as a compromise. As a man I always had the impression such a woman would be difficult to impossible to find.

2points

Lilith the Demon Panda 3 years ago

me not having a kid is the most responsible decision anyone in the history of this planet ever made

1point

elStiJneriNO 3 years ago

A lot of people saying you should have a reason to have kids. You don't need a reason to have a kid. You need commitment!

1point

Norart 3 years ago

So, so many people in the world right now that really do not need to introduce more of their genes into the pool of life.

1point

Susan Stead 3 years ago

My husband and I both wanted to have kids, both of our pregnancies were planned, and now that both of our kids are grown, we can look back on the years with no regrets. But I also know exactly what you mean when you talk about money, time, etc., all of it! And I agree with everyone who says they don't want kids. If you don't want them, then you absolutely should not have them! The human race is just fine, and you don't have to have kids in order to benefit mankind. Having kids because you feel obliged to is a tragedy, so I'm pretty glad for this day and age.

1point

Yettichild 3 years ago

I don't want kids. I've never wanted kids. I like my time and money. My parents were not good ones and I refuse to do that to someone else. I have genetic diseases which I refuse to pass on and make the likelihood of having a kid with severe genetic problems sky high. Plus now I'm 38, which also increases the risks. And yet, doctors still won't listen to me when I say I want my tubes tied, because "You might change your mind" NO. I. WONT.

1point

Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

I still don’t understand how children are a good thing. What do they bring to the equation that makes my life better? Why do people want children?

1point

Earl Grey 3 years ago

This cartoon was in BP a while back. It sums it all up for me pretty concisely. 6AF73DF2-9...6-jpeg.jpg

1point

Logic and Reason 3 years ago

To the people that are furious because other people online don’t want children: take a big step back and think about why you’re upset. Are you projecting? Do you consider yourself to be the penultimate role model and you think everyone should be like you? Are you defensive about having children because you regret them? If you’re not willing to do that, at least shut up and let people live their lives ffs.

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nala simba 3 years ago

I can't think of half a reason, let alone one to have kids! Friend asked me, what if everyone thought like you? I replied, not much chance of that. There's more fleas on a dog, than dogs on a flea, which makes me outnumbered!

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renee brack 3 years ago

I appreciate the honesty and reality of so many comments here. It feels like I've found my people!

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Stephanie IV 3 years ago (edited)

When you DO have children, you soon find out that one major reason not to have kids is because you have no idea what fear is before you experience fearing for the safety of your child. The sheer terror of realizing that the world is some evil death vortex and that you’re responsible for making sure your child survives is awesome. Anything, from slamming doors to sicknesses, can harm your child - and, usually, the way you act to make sure your child is safe will be exactly what’ll cause them to fight you. Sooner or later. Still, all worth it, in my opinion!

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Rocío Gómez-Aleixandre 3 years ago

I wish I could share this post with every person ever asked me why I am not having kids

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Marik 3 years ago

Never wanted a child - I also got the "free trial" with my cousins & my brother (1 year age-difference to next younger) and got scolded/grounded/slapped/pocketmoney cut for when the younger ones created sh** or something, b/c I'm the oldest and therefore the responsible one. I know children are expensive, unstable humans with a constant need for attention. =.= But - I won't put myself through the abortion-process a 2nd time, I'd rather commit myself to the hospital, 'cuz it would be a risky pregnancy.

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Spork420 3 years ago

It's pretty awesome coming home from work and taking a nap. Or taking a nap whenever I feel like it for that matter. Doing whatever I want with my free time, and having ample amounts of said free time. Plenty of money to support my hobbies, buy cars. Freedom for spur of the moment trips. A nice clean house, where none of my stuff is sticky or broken. And finally that peace and quiet is heavenly. To each their own though.

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Chillace 3 years ago

when im grown up im having 3 kids. a pitbull named bubba, a rottweiler named zeus, and a curly coated retriever named bella. and maybe a cat...

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Monica Pryts 3 years ago

Why do people think all of the enjoyable parts of adult life end when you have a kid?

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Janet C 3 years ago

All of the above reasons. I am totally lacking the gene that would make me want a human child. I have no desire. NONE. I don't hold babies. I don't like their smell. I don't like their noises. I don't change diapers (never have and never will). I knew that at 16. I'm now pushing 66 and have zero regrets for my choice. Not to mention I wouldn't have retired at 62 and moved to a mountain villa near Valencia Spain so I could enjoy the Mediterranean lifestyle and more easily travel around Europe

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Barbara Littlefield 3 years ago

Just not how I want to spend my life. The choice does not need justification.

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OHIOWAndering_Around 3 years ago

I started going into explicit detail about my infertility and not wanting to bring a baby into the debt that having IVF or adopting would be. And no, I don't want to foster children because I couldn't handle having to send them back to whatever horrific situation they came from. Now that we don't have them, my husband and I say often how happy we are not having them. We'd have been happy with one, but we're equally happy without. Twasn't meant to be.

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Katinka Min 3 years ago

The world is suffocating in humans and we are depleting earth's ressoruces faster than the palnet can regrow them. Honestly, all childless people shoudl get a financial bonus rather than being constantly told that they are selfish nd worthless.

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Jonahs Mrs 3 years ago

If you don't want children, you don't want children. That's it. No one ever asks people who do want kids for their justification or reasons as to why, so why should people who make the choice not to reproduce have to provide reasons? x

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Jill Tremblay 3 years ago

I am so glad that people that feel this way or even close to it DON'T have children. I think it is horrible of people to assume or think couples should have children "just because that's what you do next". Too many children are unwanted or abused or worse. Thank you to all of you that don't want children, don't have them.

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Dian Parama Kosala 3 years ago

im agree with your life your choice but some of the reason above made reason while mocking people who choose having child.. ooopppss

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Barbara Baldwin 3 years ago

And I hope men don't expect the woman to use birth control...get a vasectomy!

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A.A 3 years ago

too late for me now .. sigh

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Faith Hurst-Bilinski 3 years ago

If you don’t want kids don’t have kids. If you do want kids have kids. Just don’t act like either makes you superior in any way.

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Éva Nemes 3 years ago (edited)

Reasons: autoimmun dis, me-time, I love travels, good food, silence, peace, etc. Reasons for kids: hmmm.....I find nothing.

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Joseph Karthic 3 years ago

In My Opinion..Its true that kids are hassle and you have to sacrifice more in life...but as time passes all those other things like partying, travelling etc etc becomes boring at one point and there's no meaning in life when you get older, but falling in love with your own kids n the joy you get from is unparalleled...As they grow more n more and do all sort of things you will see yourself in them and the immense pleasure from it is unspeakable...the sacrifice is worth it and the other route is really not that much satisfying all the time...

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Okiedokie 3 years ago

As per usual, I only come on these posts to scroll down to the comments 🍿

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Brandy Grote 3 years ago

As a child my own MOTHER would often say "never have kids", and give a litany of woe ABOUT US. And now she begs me for a grandkid despite both brothers having several kids? No way. Not happening.

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Brendan 3 years ago

I understand this in a strange kinda way. I've always wanted kids, and I now have two of my own, who I love with all my heart. However, I have never wanted a pet; zero desire. Some people get so excited when they see a cute dog in the park, but I don't feel that at all. I just see a dog. And I guess this is the way that some people feel about babies.

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Carole Reid 3 years ago

I totally agree that having or not having children should be personal choice with no justification needed. But I am a little disenchanted at the negative views of the world. It's all justified but sad.

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Rita Shapiro 3 years ago

It's far more difficult for women who choose to be child-free than men. That just irks me. We are programmed from birth to think that there is only one path for us and that some supernatural deity has declared that it's our highest calling. I call B.S. I don't want to, never have, never will. Worried about old age? Being without a kid will help you pay for quality long term care insurance. Have eight kids? There's no guarantee any of them will take you on when you become infirm.But they'll line up for the reading of your will, you can bet on it

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Juan Morales 3 years ago

I am a father of 2 kids and I am very very happy this way. Honestly, seriously... No one, I mean, NO ONE needs a reason to not wanting childs, I even find sort of weird that we have to discuss or explain this topic.

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martin734 3 years ago

I simply don't like to see, hear or be around children. I am a very introverted person and I find interacting with people other than on a purely professional level very difficult and emotionally exhausting. I am also a very ordered and logical person and children are the absolute antithesis of this.

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Stephanie Keith 3 years ago

As a mother of 4 y'all have now made me feel horrible about having kids. But on the bright side, ehhh! There isn't one. Ha!

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Christie Schmitz 3 years ago

For the longest time, my husband and I never wanted children. But, something changed. So now here we are, in our 40s, looking to adopt a child that needs a chance at life and a loving home. I would much rather do that instead of making a baby.

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Joe Alcocer 3 years ago

I have found my people :')

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MellonCollie 3 years ago

Ghhaaa, so many excellent reasons to not have kids, and yet I have 3?? My middle child is now 7, and she is adamant she does not want to have children. Her elder sister can't wait to get started though. It's everyone's own right to choose and to feel what they feel. I never gave it any real thought, for which I feel bad, but the feeling of wanting to have children was so visceral, we just went for it. That's not exactly a reason either.

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Enlee Jones 3 years ago

Nobody owes you an explanation of why they don’t kids. The End.

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Maurice Wade 3 years ago

Didn't like being a child, didn't like other children as a child -- found them to be cruel, and just had no desire. Always felt that raising a child is a responsibility of such importance that one should only do it if one has a burning desire to be a parent. I have never had such a desire.

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Natassa Anagnostopoulou 3 years ago

I respect people that don't want children. It is only sad, that they will never feel that feeling of giving unconditionally love as parents....It is more than a feeling...it is being alive...

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

The world doesn't need more children right now, so don't have kids if you don't want to. Parents who regret having kids end up with very neurotic kids, so do the world a favor and don't. That being said DON'T complain about taxes for schools etc. Don't go and say "I'm not paying for someone else's kids to go to school". It is 100% in your best interest for kids today to get a good education. They will be running the world when you are a senior, and you don't want a bunch of idiots out there when you are at the point in your life when you depend on others.

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Alessia G. 3 years ago

Three children and I totally agree with them. Love my kids but I would not be a mother in my second life

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Lily Mae Kitty 3 years ago

My mom always told me I'd be a terrible mother. As I grew up I realized I had no role model for what a good/sane mother was like. I never did have kids b/c it seemed so scary and I had no real support system. I met my husband when I was 45 and that ship had sailed.

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Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago (edited)

Some people are not meant to be parents, BUT I also see a lot of sadness and bitterness in these posts which I find quite disconcerting. No one should be expected to have children, it is their business no one else's, however the same could be said for having children, I take a view that some adults are just negative towards family's to the point of discrimination. After all children are just that, children learning from their piers around them. Yes there are a lot of bad/lazy parents, but the majority of us are not like that. I had my son at 35 (I have been with my husband since I was 22), I know younger me would not have been a great mum, I also got fed up with people asking me why we didn't have children, even people I hardly new, which I found incredibly rude, In the end I used to tell people I was unable to have them and thank them for bringing it up. I now find it heart breaking when adults are so venomous against having children. Fine if you don't want them, but don't be derogative what you are doing is exactly the same as what other who expect you to have children are doing. Reasons for not having children... Added commitment, too young, not made to be a parent, selfishness (I like being me, not wanting to spend effort on children, my money is mine) not in a loving relationship. DON'T BLAME THE CHILD FOR YOUR DESISION. Children are children, they are everyone's future even if they are not yours.

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Stille20 3 years ago

This post is very meh. Time, money, freedom. It always been the same trade off but now it is socially acceptable not to have kids. So ...meh.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago

I deserve better than that in life. I deserve everything I want, and nothing I don’t want. I deserve to have a nicer life than living entirely for someone else and earning money for someone else, looking at someone else’s future. My future is more important. My body is more important. I’m too important to risk my life to give birth. I don’t like kids. I don’t like their voices. I don’t like their bodies and hands and faces. I don’t like their laughter. I like loud music, daily sex, and lots of time to make money. I don’t like watching kids play. I like doing what I want. I don’t owe anybody shīt.

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m j m 3 years ago

I guess none of you dont know what it feels like when they turn out good. I have a couple of fantastic daughters that im proud of.

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Hans 3 years ago

"37 People In This Online Group Discuss Honest Reasons" In how far is anything discussed here? This is merely a list of subjective statements. And what is a honest reason? Why would you need a dishonest reason for the probably most fundamental decision that you take in live? And vice versa, would you look at a list of honest reasons to have children? (This list would be enourmously long for me, but all of these reasons just come from my very inside)? Either way, it is a personal decision and I wonder why you need confirmation in either way.

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Aunt Messy 3 years ago

People ONLY have children for selfish reasons. You want a little clone? Have a dozen. Knock yourself out. However you do not get to judge us for not having kids, because it's none of your damned business. ...///... However, it is a good thing when self centered, judgmental, curtain twitchers prove that you're willing to abuse people right off the bat. It saves everyone else the trouble of being polite to you.

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Aunt Messy 3 years ago

Broke and jealous, eh? Sucks to be you.

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Batwench Premium 3 years ago

Why should I give you a reason? This has been my response when being asked this question.

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Aunt Messy 3 years ago

Or, "Why do you HAVE kids?" They never have an answer for that.

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lith 3 years ago

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Bettie-Jean Neal 3 years ago

I finally turned 50 and people have stopped asking when I'm going to have kids. I am all of these reasons.

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ZombieGirl 3 years ago

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WilvanderHeijden 3 years ago

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Mark Fuller 3 years ago

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Jeannie Bristow 3 years ago

No one who doesn't want to be a parent should have to be one. The only answer needed for why someone does not want a child (besides "mind your f-ing business") is "because."

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Janet C 3 years ago

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Fairsher 3 years ago

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Deborah B 3 years ago

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Wilf 3 years ago

My wife gets fed up of people asking her why she doesn't want kids (funnily enough, I NEVER get asked this as a man). Her response is the same every time: "for a reason." End of conversation.

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John Baker 3 years ago

I never wanted kids, and now at 68, I don't regret for a second never having them. Of course, at this stage of my life, I'd probably only see them at Thanksgiving and Christmas anyway. ;-)

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Nhaundar 3 years ago

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Alice Teasdale 3 years ago

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Elizabeth Molloy 3 years ago

If you WANT kids, you should have many reasons; not wanting to breed is no-one's business. No-one's getting hurt.

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Sista of the moon 3 years ago

I want kids even more after reading this 🥲

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mph seti 3 years ago

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not your average weirdo 3 years ago

I like kids, but I am so scared of the idea of giving birth, and I decided that I never want to. I would rather adopt kids who need a family.

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VeninTheNonBinaryRogue 3 years ago (edited)

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Leo Domitrix 3 years ago

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Tiny Dynamine 3 years ago

I find it odd that very few of them mentioned about how good it is to have your independence and freedom for all your life. That's what I love about not having kids.

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HooowlAtTheMoon 3 years ago

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ivan bolitekurac 3 years ago

So another anti children article.Some people want kids,others dont,just get over it ffs

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Toni 3 years ago

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Octavia Hansen 3 years ago

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Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago

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Benjamin Thor Collier V 3 years ago

Well...for starters, it's a vagina. Not a clown car. (This is for those that appear to be trying to field their own baseball team...)

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Iron ass 3 years ago

I have four siblings, and once I turn eighteen I do NOT want that experience anymore.

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YupItsMe1234 3 years ago

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sofacushionfort 3 years ago

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Lilith the Demon Panda 3 years ago

me not having a kid is the most responsible decision anyone in the history of this planet ever made

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elStiJneriNO 3 years ago

A lot of people saying you should have a reason to have kids. You don't need a reason to have a kid. You need commitment!

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Norart 3 years ago

So, so many people in the world right now that really do not need to introduce more of their genes into the pool of life.

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Susan Stead 3 years ago

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Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

I still don’t understand how children are a good thing. What do they bring to the equation that makes my life better? Why do people want children?

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Earl Grey 3 years ago

This cartoon was in BP a while back. It sums it all up for me pretty concisely. 6AF73DF2-9...6-jpeg.jpg

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Logic and Reason 3 years ago

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nala simba 3 years ago

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renee brack 3 years ago

I appreciate the honesty and reality of so many comments here. It feels like I've found my people!

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Stephanie IV 3 years ago (edited)

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Rocío Gómez-Aleixandre 3 years ago

I wish I could share this post with every person ever asked me why I am not having kids

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Marik 3 years ago

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Spork420 3 years ago

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Chillace 3 years ago

when im grown up im having 3 kids. a pitbull named bubba, a rottweiler named zeus, and a curly coated retriever named bella. and maybe a cat...

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Monica Pryts 3 years ago

Why do people think all of the enjoyable parts of adult life end when you have a kid?

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Janet C 3 years ago

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Barbara Littlefield 3 years ago

Just not how I want to spend my life. The choice does not need justification.

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OHIOWAndering_Around 3 years ago

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Katinka Min 3 years ago

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Jonahs Mrs 3 years ago

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Jill Tremblay 3 years ago

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Dian Parama Kosala 3 years ago

im agree with your life your choice but some of the reason above made reason while mocking people who choose having child.. ooopppss

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Barbara Baldwin 3 years ago

And I hope men don't expect the woman to use birth control...get a vasectomy!

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A.A 3 years ago

too late for me now .. sigh

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Faith Hurst-Bilinski 3 years ago

If you don’t want kids don’t have kids. If you do want kids have kids. Just don’t act like either makes you superior in any way.

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Éva Nemes 3 years ago (edited)

Reasons: autoimmun dis, me-time, I love travels, good food, silence, peace, etc. Reasons for kids: hmmm.....I find nothing.

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Joseph Karthic 3 years ago

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Okiedokie 3 years ago

As per usual, I only come on these posts to scroll down to the comments 🍿

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Brandy Grote 3 years ago

As a child my own MOTHER would often say "never have kids", and give a litany of woe ABOUT US. And now she begs me for a grandkid despite both brothers having several kids? No way. Not happening.

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Brendan 3 years ago

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Carole Reid 3 years ago

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Rita Shapiro 3 years ago

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Juan Morales 3 years ago

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martin734 3 years ago

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Stephanie Keith 3 years ago

As a mother of 4 y'all have now made me feel horrible about having kids. But on the bright side, ehhh! There isn't one. Ha!

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Christie Schmitz 3 years ago

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Joe Alcocer 3 years ago

I have found my people :')

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MellonCollie 3 years ago

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Enlee Jones 3 years ago

Nobody owes you an explanation of why they don’t kids. The End.

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Maurice Wade 3 years ago

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Natassa Anagnostopoulou 3 years ago

I respect people that don't want children. It is only sad, that they will never feel that feeling of giving unconditionally love as parents....It is more than a feeling...it is being alive...

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Aliquid A 3 years ago

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Alessia G. 3 years ago

Three children and I totally agree with them. Love my kids but I would not be a mother in my second life

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Lily Mae Kitty 3 years ago

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Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago (edited)

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Stille20 3 years ago

This post is very meh. Time, money, freedom. It always been the same trade off but now it is socially acceptable not to have kids. So ...meh.

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Mewton’s Third Paw 3 years ago

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m j m 3 years ago

I guess none of you dont know what it feels like when they turn out good. I have a couple of fantastic daughters that im proud of.

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Hans 3 years ago

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Aunt Messy 3 years ago

Broke and jealous, eh? Sucks to be you.

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