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My Real Postpartum Body: I Want Every Mom To Know That It’s Normal And You’re Beautiful

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When my first son was born, the changes in my body took me by surprise. It was not just the weight gain – it was the hormones, the emotions and the fatigue. I felt like I was barely surviving – and I thought surely other women must feel this way too.

There’s so much pressure to bounce back into your skinny jeans after childbirth, but physical appearance is only part of the story. So when my second son was born, I decided to document the “brutiful” – that’s brutal+ beautiful – truth about those early days up to 14 weeks.

I also wrote about my daily reality with a toddler and a newborn. I shared all this in the hope I could show one mum that what she is experiencing is normal and she is not alone. I want every single mother to know: you are beautiful, you are amazing, you are a mother.

More info: juliebhosale.co.nz

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fa864687 7 years ago

Wow another reason for me to never have children. Thanks for showing, I was pretty sure before but now I'm just really happy to never have children.

27points

Maria Lazaridou 7 years ago

I understand and respect that not all women want or are meant to be mothers, but I don't think that losing your figure should hold you back - if that's the only reason you don't want children. I was also concerned about my postpartum body when I was pregnant but I bounced back pretty fast. Looks will eventually fade and there's only so much any of us can do about it. Holding your child in your arms and hearing him say "I love you mummy" is priceless and I wouldn't trade it for the best figure in the world.

37points

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Imacyborg 7 years ago

Contrary to the others who commented on your post, I think it's a perfectly normal reason to not want children because of your body, and it's nice to call someone " silly " because of their personal choice! I think if you have a strong reason to not want children, be it your body or anything else, that's alright! That just means you have more important things in your life than having a child. I wonder when will we arrive at a point where it's considered normal and OKAY to have more important things than having children, as a woman. I am just a bit tired of most people trying to pressure other women into having children by saying their reason is not good enough to not have any. Every reason is good enough, since it's your choice, it's your body. It's okay to not have children! There is no harm in not having children! I think there is more harm in having children that you don't truly want.

29points

Michel M. Prins 7 years ago

You do realize that it can be turned back to its original state by several months of training, right?

3points

lasttime 7 years ago

same here, nope to that kind of belly, never going to have kids. they are disaster to your body

2points

Franziska G. 7 years ago

I just thought exactly the same.

1point

Kristi Zoebelein 7 years ago

If you don't want children just be upfront and admit it. To say this is one of the reasons you do not want them is rather silly. I wouldn't want to admit that I was too hung up on my body to have children.

0points

Heather Keedy Bateman 7 years ago

Seriously?! If hat is your viewpoint, please keep your word. If you can't recognize the beauty of carrying another life, then refrain.

-3points

Karen Louise 7 years ago

Beautiful and thanks for sharing. You have a gorgeous smile and lovely family. That little boy looks like a cherub with ringlets n cheeks

14points

Doru Nadoleanu 7 years ago

normal and acceptable, yes! beatiful? sorry but no, is not beautiful. A man should love his wife always? Yes! That's all.

13points

Lynne Newell 1 week ago

All women who have scars are beautiful. We bring life into the Earth. We can do it without a man present, so you aren't needed. You are mean.

0points

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maxHobler 9 years ago

This is not beautiful at all. But its perfectly normal and Beauty ist a fading overtrated thing anyway..

11points

Michel M. Prins 7 years ago

It's your opinion, not a fact. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

12points

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Sherry Straus 7 years ago

Yes, this is they way for some moms for sure. I remember seeing my friend soon after her having her baby and she looked larger then she did before she had hers. I didn't stay as large but I was larger to start with. I think its more noticable when your smaller before getting pregnant. But it goes down fast and really, who cares? a baby is far greater reward then a flat tummy.

5points

Levon Snyder 7 years ago

wonderful to share this. its nothing to be ashamed of. I get it tho. all those who get really upset at what they did look like and what they look like after. not as many people as you think will bash youre body for how it looks after a child. I think each is beautiful. its the wheel of life. sure some will never want to go thru it and prob wont because of it and that's fine to. but know that if you did you would be just a beautiful after as you were before if not more. thanks you to the person sharing this as the postpartum depression some people get after birth (maybe all, idk) play a big role in how you feel you look after giving birth. Ive noticed with my wife its been a driving key of those bad feelings. to show others that its nothing to be ashamed of or feel bad about is wonderful. Life its self is beautiful. I love these inspirational things.

3points

Alexander Wolf 7 years ago

What happens to your post partum leg after 10 weeks? 😳

2points

OlgaDelidakis 9 years ago

Beautiful pictures, all of you are, and your love comes through. Be very proud of your family and you being a mom; just let me say that a number of women do not see a difference in their belly shape or overall image and they are not fashion models; this was the case with me, my sister and both of my best friends. It can be either way but this is not strictly the norm. Motherhood should not scare women away, whatever happens happens. After all, all of us that have been raising children know that in the long run, how our belly looks fades compared to the new priorities set by life itself. Great hair, nails and outfits really mattered to me until my son was born 6 years ago. Now I certainly take care of myself the best I can but my thoughts during the day are about 10.000 about my son and a couple about what I will look like when I go to the beach. Feels kind of freeing and my purpose seems so much more important....

2points

Thisthatandtheother 9 years ago

Lovely pics. Your love radiates.

2points

-- 7 years ago

baby is smiling in fourth pic aaa

1point

Sydney Crickmar 7 years ago

Gorgeous family 💜💜💜

1point

Lyndsay B 7 years ago

I've had two kids. I know I don't look in the mirror often but I don't think I looked like that. Everyone is different, there is no normal.

1point

Sara Florentino 7 years ago

People should always be happy and confident on themselves.. But this is normal for her.. And she should be a proud mom! Always! Everybody reacts diferently.. I had 2 kids.. never had a belly like that 24h after birth.. it just went straight down! Like it never happened! I had a couple pounds to lose but still.. Breastfeeding takes them away in no time! Just take care of yourself the best you can and eat well! Always! Love your body in any shape or size.. Doesn't matter..

1point

Joe Dad 7 years ago

Wow, a lot of HORRIBLE and HURTFUL comments in here! Shame on you all! You all are disgusting!

1point

LusiaJahaubun 9 years ago

Thank you for sharing, I'm kinda afraid of pregnancy but yeah, its beautiful :) Merci Beaucoup

1point

Lynne Newell 1 week ago

I'm shocked at the long scar. C-Sections are done very low. They call it a bikini cut. The days of opening the mom from stem to stern doesn't happen anymore. I have that same scar and no belly button due to the surgery I had to save my life.

0points

Lukasz A 7 years ago

I am sorry... Normal, yes. Beautiful.? No.

0points

Gretchen Teer 7 years ago

She is lovely, but it does look like she has a pretty significant diastasis recti (tearing of the abdomanals). That is why she still has the "pooch". It is fairly common, but with proper healing and education (and if necesaary professionaL rehab), it usually is not a permanant issue. Lots of people are uneducated about this issue and think they will just always have the "mummy tummy", or "pooch". But it is actually a (often) very painful and serious injury.

0points

Teija 7 years ago

I have 5 kids. And my tummy was ruined after twins. So what? There are more important things in life than your looks.

0points

Jonnie SeventyOne 7 years ago

Urgh.

0points

Sofia Bellavista 7 years ago

Why parents keep saying how beautiful and amazing they are? Surgeons save lives on a daily basis, yet don't strut around like parents do..

0points

Christina Hristova 7 years ago

Thanks for showing the truth.

0points

Heather Keedy Bateman 7 years ago

It IS beautiful!!! Those are your Tiger Stripes mama--wear them PROUDLY!! Thank you for sharing and educating those who judge by appearance

0points

John L 7 years ago

"Chelated Zinc". For future mothers, take chelated zinc from day one. Do that and your skin elasticity will remain flawless.

0points

Arty 7 years ago

day one of pregnancy?

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Flip Jupiter 7 years ago

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Tine Chalmet 7 years ago

This comment says more about you than about people holding babies by the crotch.

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HelenSanLo 9 years ago

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Kaiserin Sissi 7 years ago

What do you see what I don't see?? She has the most normal teeth ever. This is how normal people''s teeth look, except for the few Hollywood overly whitened smiles.

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Morozova Kseniya 7 years ago

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Kristi Zoebelein 7 years ago

Who are you to be judgemental? You have no idea what her life is like. You might have had children and it was perfect and flawless and you had perfect sleep and all the time in the world to iron your clothes, but others might not. Learn not to be so hateful and negative.

7points

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Sarah Lennie 7 years ago

I don't see beauty in you either. I see conceit, shallowness, and an obnoxious attitude. That makes you very, very ugly.

1point

Bambi 7 years ago

You are the scum of the earth.

1point

fa864687 7 years ago

Wow another reason for me to never have children. Thanks for showing, I was pretty sure before but now I'm just really happy to never have children.

27points

Maria Lazaridou 7 years ago

I understand and respect that not all women want or are meant to be mothers, but I don't think that losing your figure should hold you back - if that's the only reason you don't want children. I was also concerned about my postpartum body when I was pregnant but I bounced back pretty fast. Looks will eventually fade and there's only so much any of us can do about it. Holding your child in your arms and hearing him say "I love you mummy" is priceless and I wouldn't trade it for the best figure in the world.

37points

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Imacyborg 7 years ago

Contrary to the others who commented on your post, I think it's a perfectly normal reason to not want children because of your body, and it's nice to call someone " silly " because of their personal choice! I think if you have a strong reason to not want children, be it your body or anything else, that's alright! That just means you have more important things in your life than having a child. I wonder when will we arrive at a point where it's considered normal and OKAY to have more important things than having children, as a woman. I am just a bit tired of most people trying to pressure other women into having children by saying their reason is not good enough to not have any. Every reason is good enough, since it's your choice, it's your body. It's okay to not have children! There is no harm in not having children! I think there is more harm in having children that you don't truly want.

29points

Michel M. Prins 7 years ago

You do realize that it can be turned back to its original state by several months of training, right?

3points

lasttime 7 years ago

same here, nope to that kind of belly, never going to have kids. they are disaster to your body

2points

Franziska G. 7 years ago

I just thought exactly the same.

1point

Kristi Zoebelein 7 years ago

If you don't want children just be upfront and admit it. To say this is one of the reasons you do not want them is rather silly. I wouldn't want to admit that I was too hung up on my body to have children.

0points

Heather Keedy Bateman 7 years ago

Seriously?! If hat is your viewpoint, please keep your word. If you can't recognize the beauty of carrying another life, then refrain.

-3points

Karen Louise 7 years ago

Beautiful and thanks for sharing. You have a gorgeous smile and lovely family. That little boy looks like a cherub with ringlets n cheeks

14points

Doru Nadoleanu 7 years ago

normal and acceptable, yes! beatiful? sorry but no, is not beautiful. A man should love his wife always? Yes! That's all.

13points

Lynne Newell 1 week ago

All women who have scars are beautiful. We bring life into the Earth. We can do it without a man present, so you aren't needed. You are mean.

0points

Load More Replies...

maxHobler 9 years ago

This is not beautiful at all. But its perfectly normal and Beauty ist a fading overtrated thing anyway..

11points

Michel M. Prins 7 years ago

It's your opinion, not a fact. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

12points

Load More Replies...

Sherry Straus 7 years ago

Yes, this is they way for some moms for sure. I remember seeing my friend soon after her having her baby and she looked larger then she did before she had hers. I didn't stay as large but I was larger to start with. I think its more noticable when your smaller before getting pregnant. But it goes down fast and really, who cares? a baby is far greater reward then a flat tummy.

5points

Levon Snyder 7 years ago

wonderful to share this. its nothing to be ashamed of. I get it tho. all those who get really upset at what they did look like and what they look like after. not as many people as you think will bash youre body for how it looks after a child. I think each is beautiful. its the wheel of life. sure some will never want to go thru it and prob wont because of it and that's fine to. but know that if you did you would be just a beautiful after as you were before if not more. thanks you to the person sharing this as the postpartum depression some people get after birth (maybe all, idk) play a big role in how you feel you look after giving birth. Ive noticed with my wife its been a driving key of those bad feelings. to show others that its nothing to be ashamed of or feel bad about is wonderful. Life its self is beautiful. I love these inspirational things.

3points

Alexander Wolf 7 years ago

What happens to your post partum leg after 10 weeks? 😳

2points

OlgaDelidakis 9 years ago

Beautiful pictures, all of you are, and your love comes through. Be very proud of your family and you being a mom; just let me say that a number of women do not see a difference in their belly shape or overall image and they are not fashion models; this was the case with me, my sister and both of my best friends. It can be either way but this is not strictly the norm. Motherhood should not scare women away, whatever happens happens. After all, all of us that have been raising children know that in the long run, how our belly looks fades compared to the new priorities set by life itself. Great hair, nails and outfits really mattered to me until my son was born 6 years ago. Now I certainly take care of myself the best I can but my thoughts during the day are about 10.000 about my son and a couple about what I will look like when I go to the beach. Feels kind of freeing and my purpose seems so much more important....

2points

Thisthatandtheother 9 years ago

Lovely pics. Your love radiates.

2points

-- 7 years ago

baby is smiling in fourth pic aaa

1point

Sydney Crickmar 7 years ago

Gorgeous family 💜💜💜

1point

Lyndsay B 7 years ago

I've had two kids. I know I don't look in the mirror often but I don't think I looked like that. Everyone is different, there is no normal.

1point

Sara Florentino 7 years ago

People should always be happy and confident on themselves.. But this is normal for her.. And she should be a proud mom! Always! Everybody reacts diferently.. I had 2 kids.. never had a belly like that 24h after birth.. it just went straight down! Like it never happened! I had a couple pounds to lose but still.. Breastfeeding takes them away in no time! Just take care of yourself the best you can and eat well! Always! Love your body in any shape or size.. Doesn't matter..

1point

Joe Dad 7 years ago

Wow, a lot of HORRIBLE and HURTFUL comments in here! Shame on you all! You all are disgusting!

1point

LusiaJahaubun 9 years ago

Thank you for sharing, I'm kinda afraid of pregnancy but yeah, its beautiful :) Merci Beaucoup

1point

Lynne Newell 1 week ago

I'm shocked at the long scar. C-Sections are done very low. They call it a bikini cut. The days of opening the mom from stem to stern doesn't happen anymore. I have that same scar and no belly button due to the surgery I had to save my life.

0points

Lukasz A 7 years ago

I am sorry... Normal, yes. Beautiful.? No.

0points

Gretchen Teer 7 years ago

She is lovely, but it does look like she has a pretty significant diastasis recti (tearing of the abdomanals). That is why she still has the "pooch". It is fairly common, but with proper healing and education (and if necesaary professionaL rehab), it usually is not a permanant issue. Lots of people are uneducated about this issue and think they will just always have the "mummy tummy", or "pooch". But it is actually a (often) very painful and serious injury.

0points

Teija 7 years ago

I have 5 kids. And my tummy was ruined after twins. So what? There are more important things in life than your looks.

0points

Jonnie SeventyOne 7 years ago

Urgh.

0points

Sofia Bellavista 7 years ago

Why parents keep saying how beautiful and amazing they are? Surgeons save lives on a daily basis, yet don't strut around like parents do..

0points

Christina Hristova 7 years ago

Thanks for showing the truth.

0points

Heather Keedy Bateman 7 years ago

It IS beautiful!!! Those are your Tiger Stripes mama--wear them PROUDLY!! Thank you for sharing and educating those who judge by appearance

0points

John L 7 years ago

"Chelated Zinc". For future mothers, take chelated zinc from day one. Do that and your skin elasticity will remain flawless.

0points

Arty 7 years ago

day one of pregnancy?

0points

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Flip Jupiter 7 years ago

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Master Markus 7 years ago

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Tine Chalmet 7 years ago

This comment says more about you than about people holding babies by the crotch.

2points

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HelenSanLo 9 years ago

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Kaiserin Sissi 7 years ago

What do you see what I don't see?? She has the most normal teeth ever. This is how normal people''s teeth look, except for the few Hollywood overly whitened smiles.

7points

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Morozova Kseniya 7 years ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

Kristi Zoebelein 7 years ago

Who are you to be judgemental? You have no idea what her life is like. You might have had children and it was perfect and flawless and you had perfect sleep and all the time in the world to iron your clothes, but others might not. Learn not to be so hateful and negative.

7points

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Sarah Lennie 7 years ago

I don't see beauty in you either. I see conceit, shallowness, and an obnoxious attitude. That makes you very, very ugly.

1point

Bambi 7 years ago

You are the scum of the earth.

1point

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