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White Woman Lists All The Things She Had To Learn After Marrying A Black Man, Goes Viral
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White Woman Lists All The Things She Had To Learn After Marrying A Black Man, Goes Viral

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Pamela Chandler got seriously fed up with all the posts in her social media feeds arguing that ‘racism isn’t a thing’. People in her online social circles were saying they are tired of the protests and didn’t understand Black Lives Matter. So, to give everyone a chance to broaden their worldview, Pamela — a white woman who is married to a black man — shared an open letter on Facebook about how racism has shaped her family’s everyday life.

And it really resonated with people. Pamela’s post has received over 124,000 reactions and 127,00 shares, and the numbers just keep getting bigger.

Image credits: Pamela Chandler

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Image credits: Walter Chandler

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Image credits: Pamela Chandler

Image credits: Walter Chandler

“Me and Walter met seven years ago on Twitter,” Pamela told Bored Panda. “He retweeted something I wrote, we started talking and never stopped.”

Fast forward a year after the two of them started chatting online, and Walter moved from the Bronx in New York City to Ohio to marry Pamela. The similarities in their sense of humor and core values, like faith, love, and family, were just too strong.

Image credits: Walter Chandler

The woman has received so much positive feedback over her post that she even created a family blog, called The Chandler Crew to connect with like-minded people all over the globe.

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But as much as Pamela is happy that she got people to talk about such a difficult subject, she is still bothered it was her, a white woman, whose perspective has been going viral when “plenty of people of color have spoken to these issues many times.”

Image credits: Walter Chandler

“I’ve always known that we [as a society] needed to work for more racial unity but I got an inside and unique perspective of what it’s like to live as a different race by being married to a black man,” Pamela explained.

However, the woman doesn’t think that our racial problems are too big for us; Pamela still believes we can untangle them. “I see society improving. People are willing to talk about it, engage, learn, and try to be better humans. I think we are all trending upwards as a society, and I think that’s great.”

But still, it bothers her that it’s her perspective — that of a white woman — that’s going viral when “plenty of people of color have spoken to these issues many times.”

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Mindaugas Balčiauskas

Mindaugas Balčiauskas

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I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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Shelp
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once again, the only thing I want to say is: the US is such a f****d-up country

varwenea
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I live here and it has become so much worse since the orange one sitting in the white house.

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Kjorn
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

avoid place with confederate flag? as a white men i'd do it too.

kurisutofu
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The difference is that it's your choice based on your values while for a black guy, it's because it's an hostile environment.

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Carrie de Luka
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't quite understand why the greetings card thing is a problem. Pick ones without people on them! Never understood why anyone wants random strangers or depictions of people they don't know on cards anyway. Go with the scenes of nature, animals, or weird and wonderful images - there is so much choice. Create your own! Also, and more seriously, any fella who looks like he's on his own gets eyed up warily by parents.

deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't get that either. I don't even get greeting cards with people on them.

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Shelp
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once again, the only thing I want to say is: the US is such a f****d-up country

varwenea
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I live here and it has become so much worse since the orange one sitting in the white house.

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Kjorn
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

avoid place with confederate flag? as a white men i'd do it too.

kurisutofu
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The difference is that it's your choice based on your values while for a black guy, it's because it's an hostile environment.

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Carrie de Luka
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't quite understand why the greetings card thing is a problem. Pick ones without people on them! Never understood why anyone wants random strangers or depictions of people they don't know on cards anyway. Go with the scenes of nature, animals, or weird and wonderful images - there is so much choice. Create your own! Also, and more seriously, any fella who looks like he's on his own gets eyed up warily by parents.

deanna woods
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't get that either. I don't even get greeting cards with people on them.

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