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Mom Excludes Her Black Stepdaughter From A Christmas Family Pic, Is Surprised By People Calling Her Racist
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Mom Excludes Her Black Stepdaughter From A Christmas Family Pic, Is Surprised By People Calling Her Racist

Mom Excludes Her Black Stepdaughter From A Family Photo Because Of Her Race, Surprised At The BacklashWoman Excludes Stepdaughter From A Family Photo Because She's Black, Asks If That Was Wrong“Enephrine's Mom Is Black And She Looks Like Her”: Mom Excludes Her Stepdaughter From A Family Photo Because She’s Black, Is Very Surprised By The Backlash It CausedMom Asks Her Black Stepdaughter To Not Be In A Family Photo, Says She Was Doing It Out Of LovePeople Enraged Over This Woman Who Excluded Her Stepdaughter From Family Photograph Because She’s BlackMom Upsets Her Husband And Black Stepdaughter Because She Wants To Exclude Her From Family PhotosMom Excludes Her Black Stepdaughter From A Family Photo For Racist Parents, People Argue That Wasn't The Correct Part Of The Family To Cut OffMom Excludes Her Black Stepdaughter From A Family Photo To Accommodate Her Racist ParentsStepmom Wouldn't Have Her Black Stepdaughter In A Christmas Family Pic Because Her Parents Are Racist, Receives Backlash HerselfHusband Livid When Mom Excludes Her Black Stepdaughter From A Family Pic Because Her Parents Are Racist
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Recently, a story posted on r/AITA received quite a backlash from people. The post comes from a 32-year-old mom of 4 kids, one of which is her husband’s daughter from a previous marriage.

“I am 32F, my husband Jack is 36M. We have Lydia, Carol and Solomon together. Jack has Enephrine from a different marriage.” For the last week of summer before the kids started school, the family went on vacation. Mom said she wanted to take Christmas card photos while they were away since it’s “a common theme in her family.”

“Here’s the problem,” wrote mom. She continued: “Jack is white, but Enephrine’s mom is black and she turned out looking very, very much like her.” It turned out, the woman didn’t want Enephrine in the family photograph because, in her own words, her parents are pretty racist and would make a fuss about it.

As you can imagine, this didn’t go well with the people in the r/AITA community. Not only was the woman dubbed an a-hole, she received tons of backlash for, well, being awfully racist.

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    Image credits: Chris Benson (not the actual photo)

    This is the post she shared on r/AITA where people in the community immediately detected mom’s racism

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    Multiracial Americans make up a growing demographic, estimated at 9 million in the last census. The number of Americans who identify as multiracial is growing at three times faster than the normal population, according to the Pew Research Center. Sadly, just like virtually every person of color, multiracial people have encountered racism at some point in their lives.

    What’s even more disturbing is that racial prejudice between family members is not an uncommon occurrence. According to this 2015 Pew study, a vast majority of multiracial people, 90%, say they have not been mistreated by a relative or extended family member because of their mixed-race background.

    What makes it even more problematic is that being in denial about systemic racism is often deeply embedded into families and their members. In some families, racial background becomes a taboo they refuse to talk about, silencing their heritage, which is often just as painful as racism itself.

    People dubbed mom the a-hole and said she’s a racist herself

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    Trillian
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. She said there was limited contact and they never met the girl. So how would anything they said when getting a card would even get back to her?

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you do racist things to accommodate a racist, you are also a racist.

    8Yorkies-and-63cats
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly THIS. Most atrocities in history were allowed to happen and to continue happening because of accommodating people, people who did not want to "rock the boat".

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    Andy Acceber
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, asshole. More importantly, as the child is 8, you're the bridge between her and her step-grandparents. Don't let their slurs get to her. Don't let her ever hear them. Sever that connection and protect your stepdaughter just like you would if your parents were coming after your bio-kids. (Also, Dad is an asshole for telling the 8 year-old this. Unless she specifically asked why she was excluded, this isn't something you offload onto a child because you're mad at Stepmom.)

    Stephanie IV
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The dad’s reaction needs to be addressed too! OP might have married someone just as self righteous and authoritative as her parents. Not good.

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    Trillian
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. She said there was limited contact and they never met the girl. So how would anything they said when getting a card would even get back to her?

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    Something
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you do racist things to accommodate a racist, you are also a racist.

    8Yorkies-and-63cats
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly THIS. Most atrocities in history were allowed to happen and to continue happening because of accommodating people, people who did not want to "rock the boat".

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    Andy Acceber
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, asshole. More importantly, as the child is 8, you're the bridge between her and her step-grandparents. Don't let their slurs get to her. Don't let her ever hear them. Sever that connection and protect your stepdaughter just like you would if your parents were coming after your bio-kids. (Also, Dad is an asshole for telling the 8 year-old this. Unless she specifically asked why she was excluded, this isn't something you offload onto a child because you're mad at Stepmom.)

    Stephanie IV
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The dad’s reaction needs to be addressed too! OP might have married someone just as self righteous and authoritative as her parents. Not good.

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