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152 Questions For Couples To Help You Know Your Partner Better

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When conversations with your partner become scarce or superficial, intimacy plummets. That’s a fact. The reason intimacy is so misunderstood is because it’s usually defined in purely physical terms. But we should never forget it’s also mental, emotional, and spiritual.

“Communication is key” is not just the mantra of some relationship gurus. It’s an important lesson: every strong relationship is built on solid communication.

We know, we know, relationships are hard work, and it’s easy to let life get in the middle of actually working on it. That’s why it’s important to keep the lines of communication open with your partner to make things simpler for both of you. But sometimes, you don’t know what to say or how to say it, too afraid to make a misstep. That’s why we’ve compiled a list of questions for couples that will help you get to know your partner better so you can work together on building a lasting relationship.

Scroll down and take a look: you’ll see they’re all great conversation starters that will immediately make you feel closer to each other and allow you to see more clearly the direction your mutual commitment is taking. Consider these relationship questions the perfect addition to date night, like small insightful conversation starters for couples who want to spark deeper and more meaningful talks. You won’t regret it!

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#1

How many times have you been in love?

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RandomFrog(He/They️‍️) 2 years ago

I would say five times, but the only time I’ve truly mourned losing someone, and truly longed for them back was my first love. And we’re acctually back together after three years of me hiding my feelings. They were forced to break up with me (long story, but there was a toxic b***h involved who sexually harassed them)and ig they still had feelings too, so we got back together. I’ve never loved somebody like I’ve loved this person. They are incredible in every way and acctually the only person I cried over.

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#2

What does a successful relationship look like?

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#3

What’s your favorite way to receive love?

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#4

What are some of your deepest fears?

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#5

What makes you feel most loved?

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#6

What's something you used to believe about relationships but no longer do?

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#7

What was your dream job when you were a kid?

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#8

Was there an embarrassing fashion moment in your adolescence?

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#9

Have you ever been cheated on?

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#10

What's the first thing you noticed about me?

8points

#11

How do you hide anger when you don't want it to show?

8points

#12

What activity makes you feel the most joyful when you're doing it?

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#13

Do you remember your dreams when you wake up?

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#14

Who is more likely to survive the Hunger Games—me or you?

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#15

What’s something you could talk about for hours?

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#16

How do you usually spend your weekends?

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Tenacious Squirrel 2 years ago

This is one for early relationships only I think!

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#17

What role does family play in your life?

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#18

Do you have any fantasies you’d like to try?

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#19

What is your love language or how do you like to give love?

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#20

What was the biggest lesson from your worst breakup?

7points

#21

Would you rather be loved, respected, or admired?

7points

#22

When did you first want to kiss me?

7points

#23

How valuable is communication to you?

7points

#24

What’s something you didn’t do in your previous relationship(s) that you want to start doing in our relationship?

7points

#25

Are there any boundaries of yours I have crossed that I might not know about?

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#26

Why did your last relationship end?

7points

#27

What’s something you want to know about me that you haven’t asked?

7points

#28

Who was your first crush, and what were they like?

6points

#29

Can you describe what your first heartbreak was like?

6points

#30

What's your favorite meal now?

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#31

What do you think is your best quality?

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#32

Have you ever cheated on someone?

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#33

Who is more inclined to be jealous, you or me?

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#34

Is there a personality trait that always ticks you off?

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#35

How do you talk yourself down from anger or frustration?

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#36

Who is more of a risk-taker — you or me?

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#37

What's your dream vacation?

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#38

What's your favorite thing about our relationship?

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#39

What's something you'd like for us to try?

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#40

Do you believe that everything happens for a reason?

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#41

What animal would you choose to be in another life?

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Jess 2 years ago

(a spoiled) Cat

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#42

Do you believe in reincarnation?

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#43

Have you ever been in a physical fight?

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#44

Do you think there's such a thing as a "harmless" lie?

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#45

Is there a place you love that you'd like to show me one day?

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#46

Do you believe in love at first sight?

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#47

What was your first impression of me?

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#48

What are you like in your friend group?

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#49

What does an ideal date night look like for you?

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#50

What are some of your biggest turn ons and turn offs?

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#51

Is there anything you’re unwilling to compromise on in life?

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#52

Would you consider yourself to be romantic?

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#53

Would you be willing to try long-distance if something happened that would require me to move far away?

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#54

How do you handle your emotions when you get upset?

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#55

Do you enjoy holding hands and PDA in general?

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#56

Can you picture our family and friends integrating?

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#57

What will you do to keep the spark alive in our relationship?

6points

#58

Would you ever be open to couples therapy if we needed it in the future?

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#59

What was it like for you growing up?

6points

#60

What are you most proud of so far?

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#61

What do you think is the meaning of life?

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#62

Do I have any quirks that are getting on your nerves?

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#63

Were you "popular" in high school?

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#64

What's your definition of romance?

5points

#65

Do you see yourself having kids? If so, how many?

5points

#66

If you believe in soul mates, do you think you've met yours?

5points

#67

Do you believe in God?

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#68

Is going to church or another house of worship important to you?

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#69

Do you think it's more important to be smart or to be kind?

5points

#70

Does your family have any traditions?

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#71

Would you want to create any traditions in your family going forward?

5points

#72

What qualities or character traits do you want to work on?

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#73

What's one of my best qualities?

5points

#74

Do you think infidelity is always a deal breaker, no matter what?

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#75

Who is more trusting, you or me?

5points

#76

What's the first thing you found attractive about me?

5points

#77

Where would be your ideal place — or places — to live?

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#78

Would you rather own a home you don't love or rent one you love?

5points

#79

Would you rather be an amazing singer or an incredible dancer?

5points

#80

What would you do with your life if you suddenly became a billionaire?

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#81

Do you think there's such a thing as luck, or do we create our own outcomes?

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#82

Do you ever dream about me?

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#83

How old were you when you stopped believing in the tooth fairy?

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#84

How old were you when you stopped believing in Santa?

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#85

Would you rather be a vampire or a werewolf?

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#86

Who was your first celebrity crush?

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#87

Who's your "hall pass" celebrity crush today?

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#88

Which musical artist would you want me to commission a love song from?

5points

#89

Which song describes our love story best?

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#90

If you had the option to live forever, would you choose to?

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#91

What's a song you could sing by heart to me, right now?

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#92

Do you believe in astrological compatibility?

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#93

Do you consider yourself good with money?

5points

#94

What's the worst trip you've ever taken?

5points

#95

Would you rather live in only hot weather forever or only cold weather?

5points

#96

Do you have a personal flaw you'd fix, if you could?

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#97

What’s a goal you’re working towards right now?

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#98

What’s a goal you’re working towards right now?

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#99

How do you define cheating?

5points

#100

Do you like to be cuddled, hugged, and kissed?

5points

#101

Do you see us settling long-term?

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#102

What’s something you will never give up or change for me?

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#103

Could you picture yourself waking up next to me for the rest of your life?

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#104

What do you want your life to look like when you retire?

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#105

What’s your happiest memory?

5points

#106

In what ways have you changed in the past 10 years?

5points

#107

How did you feel about yourself in high school?

5points

#108

What’s your favorite thing to have for dinner?

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#109

What’s your favorite fast food restaurant?

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#110

What’s one thing you would say to your younger self?

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#111

What do you like most about our relationship?

5points

#112

What do you think is the key to a healthy relationship?

5points

#113

What is something you want to do together that we haven’t?

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#114

Are you satisfied with our chemistry and intimacy?

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#115

What was your favorite food growing up?

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#116

How does your life compare to how you imagined it growing up?

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#117

What do you find most attractive about me?

4points

#118

Do you have a bucket list?

4points

#119

If you had a bucket list, what would be on it?

4points

#120

What's something you'd like to try doing but haven't worked up the nerve to yet?

4points

#121

What superpower do you wish you could have?

4points

#122

Who is more generous, you or me?

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#123

What's something you wish we did together more often?

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#124

Who is more likely to live through a zombie attack?

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#125

What historical era would you most, and least, want to go to?

4points

#126

Who is your favorite couple in pop culture?

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#127

Which of us is a better driver?

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#128

Is there a song that makes you think of me?

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#129

What animal do you think I'd be?

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#130

Do you think people can really have psychic abilities?

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#131

What's your favorite movie of all time?

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#132

Do you like to be surprised?

4points

#133

Is there anything you've always wondered about me but have hesitated to ask?

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#134

What’s the most thoughtful thing you’ve ever done for another person?

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#135

What are your views on therapy?

4points

#136

Where do you see yourself living in five years?

4points

#137

Who did you look up to when you were younger?

4points

#138

Who in your life has shaped you the most?

4points

#139

What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned so far in life?

4points

#140

What was your biggest mistake?

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#141

When was your first relationship?

4points

#142

Did you ever fail at reaching a goal?

4points

#143

What’s one thing you’d like to tell your family, friends, or an ex?

4points

#144

When was the last time you cried?

4points

#145

Are there any conflicts that we’ve had in the past that you don’t feel are wholly resolved yet?

4points

#146

What's something surprising that you were afraid of as a child?

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#147

What was the first album you ever owned?

3points

#148

What was your favorite school subject growing up?

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#149

Which of us has a better sense of direction?

3points

#150

Do you think of yourself as an optimist or a pessimist?

3points

#151

Do you believe in ghosts?

3points

#152

Is there a personal goal you'd like to achieve in the next five years or so?

3points

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Viltė is a SEO List curator here at Bored Panda. She graduated in Applied Photography, so is no stranger to visual and artistic content. Despite her professional path, she also loves watching TV series, even could binge watch them all day long. Viltė also owns a pet crab at home, named Pūkis - Fluffy (spoiler alert: he's not fluffy at all).

Viltė is a SEO List curator here at Bored Panda. She graduated in Applied Photography, so is no stranger to visual and artistic content. Despite her professional path, she also loves watching TV series, even could binge watch them all day long. Viltė also owns a pet crab at home, named Pūkis - Fluffy (spoiler alert: he's not fluffy at all).

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Writer on a quest to explore every corner of the world, one country at a time. Fueled by my love for Arcane, oversized hoodies, and weightlifting, I try my best to bring even more fun energy to Bored Panda. My cup of tea? Pop culture, funny content, sharing interesting facts about the world, and creating listicles for fellow Pandas. When I’m not crafting articles, my eyes are still glued to a screen — be it binge-watching my favorite shows, leveling up in video games, or learning Spanish with Duolingo. Always on the hunt for the ultimate playlist, I scour Deezer to find the right tunes to listen to while working on my creative projects.

Writer on a quest to explore every corner of the world, one country at a time. Fueled by my love for Arcane, oversized hoodies, and weightlifting, I try my best to bring even more fun energy to Bored Panda. My cup of tea? Pop culture, funny content, sharing interesting facts about the world, and creating listicles for fellow Pandas. When I’m not crafting articles, my eyes are still glued to a screen — be it binge-watching my favorite shows, leveling up in video games, or learning Spanish with Duolingo. Always on the hunt for the ultimate playlist, I scour Deezer to find the right tunes to listen to while working on my creative projects.

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Enrii Aywt 1 year ago

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Enrii Aywt 1 year ago

Being with the one who loves you is a blessing and also happiness I want to use this time to appreciate Dr Olu for his great work I never thought I would see my ex wife again after 6 good months of divorce I tried all my best getting her back to me but I couldn't so I came across this great love healer Doctor Olu and he told me my wife is going to come back to me and I doubted him two days later I got a phone call and It was my wife begging me to forgive her and we got married s o I just want to share my testimony if you are in the same situation you can also contact Dr Olu on WhatsApp :- +2348156942172. Email droluspirittple@gmail.com Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/https://www.facebook.com/drOluspellTemple/

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