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Psychology Student Deep Cleans “Unlivable” Homes To Help Their Owners’ Mental Health
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Psychology Student Deep Cleans “Unlivable” Homes To Help Their Owners’ Mental Health

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Cleaning is rarely anyone’s favorite activity. Ever heard a coworker gushing about all the housework they’re gonna tackle over the weekend or how excited they are about vacuuming, dusting, and scrubbing? I’m willing to bet that no, those convos never happen.

However, sometimes life grabs us by the throat; be it mental health or physical ailments, there are plenty of reasons why cleaning one’s home gets put on the back burner. Sometimes we’re able to get back on our feet and tackle the mess, but other times, the task seems unbearable, spiraling further out of control.

Those in the latter situation are the people this psychology student has devoted her free time to helping. This is the story of Brogan Ingram, better known to her 4.6M followers as Not the Worst Cleaner, and her initiative to clean the homes of those incapable to do so themselves, free of charge. Let’s get into it!

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Brogan Ingram, a psychology student with 4.6M followers on TikTok, has been helping people in her community by cleaning their “unlivable” homes for free

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We’re brought up to think of cleaning as a chore. A negative one at that. The strong smells, the grossness, the effort it takes to actually see a difference—it all adds up. You’d rather spend that time watching a show on Netflix or going for a walk with a friend or, essentially, doing anything else. But it must be done for a variety of reasons.

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Sadly, some people find themselves in situations where they become incapable of fulfilling those tasks that keep the home tidy and pleasant to live in. Be it mental or physical, those blockades are nothing to scoff at: when you’re literally fighting to stay alive, the last thing you’re gonna worry about are some dirty dishes.

The 29-year-old started posting cleaning videos on TikTok back in 2020, hoping to help people “achieve that physical comfort and security that a clean home brings”

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But all those reasons get stuffed under the label of ‘laziness,’ the victim of circumstance becoming the victim of ridicule, judgment, and isolation, which backs them further into the wall of shame. The fact is, no one wants to live in a dirty home, and psychology student Brogan Ingram made it her mission to teach people this fact.

The 29-year-old started posting cleaning and organization tips videos on TikTok back in October 2020. Her mission from day one was to “help you achieve that physical comfort and security that a clean home brings. Whether it’s a lack of motivation you’re feeling, not knowing where to start or even having an abundance of clutter that you don’t know what to do with, I’m here to help.”

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In multiple videos, she repeated that “there is no judgment here, you are welcome here, you are loved here.” From the very beginning, she was very open to people contacting her for help, tips, motivation, advice, a listening ear, or anything else that anyone may have needed, saying “you are not alone.”

“Depression, anxiety, ADHD, and so many other challenging illnesses can make cleaning an uphill battle that’s overwhelming and uncontrollable,” she said in a video. “Then the guilt flows in making things even harder and can cause you to feel as if your life is spiraling out of control. If this is you, just know that this is not your fault. Being human is hard.”

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Although her videos got quite a bit of traction to begin with, Brogan went viral when she started her initiative of cleaning unlivable homes for free as a way to make people feel better and potentially give them a very important step towards healing.

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Sacrificing one day per week to begin with, she donated her time to single moms, people with disabilities, and folks “clearly struggling with mental and/or physical health,” approaching each story with kindness and respect. In addition to cleaning, she also brought the families meals, groceries, cleaning supplies, and toys for their kids, all of which came from her own budget.

The message of “there is no judgment here, you are welcome here, you are loved here” resonated with many, but it was her new initiative that made her go viral

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Her first house was the home of a struggling single mother of three children, all aged under 7. The living space had become unlivable, and the situation seemed hopeless. Yet the kind actions of Brogan and the people who assisted her efforts gave them the silver lining they needed.

“I had no idea how much need there was, especially in my community. And once I did my first house and saw the extreme amount of relief and new lease on life that this sweet woman had, I knew I had to continue on with this work,” Brogan shared.

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She decided to give her weekends away to people in need, starting with a single mother of three, all under the age of 7, whose home was in a desperate condition

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Since then, she has brought to life multiple other homes, gaining 4.6M followers on TikTok and 265k on Instagram. This seemed to allow her to expand her services to 3 houses per week. She explained that she always tries to set her clients up for success after she has cleaned their homes.

“I leave clients with enough supplies to get them started with general upkeep once I leave. Depending on the situation, I will leave them cleaning charts and schedules, chore charts for kids, and resources for mental health,” she said.

Those “clearly struggling with mental and/or physical health” were the people Brogan focused on, approaching each story with kindness and respect

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Thousands of people were very supportive of Brogan’s actions, yet there were those that led with judgment, critiquing both the people living in such conditions and Brogan herself. “I have to remind followers regularly that absolutely no one wants to live the way these folks do, and it’s not an active decision they are consciously making,” she told Buzzfeed.

“The last thing they need is an immense amount of judgment from someone else. Their worth as human beings isn’t dependent on the cleanliness of their homes.” In one video she revealed that her intelligence was questioned and that she was told she deserved horrible things to happen to her for helping these people.

Not only does she clean their homes, but she also leaves clients cleaning supplies, and often gets the family meals, groceries, and toys for the kids

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All she had to say to these people was: “A day or 2 of my time helps these folks feel less overwhelmed, helps them feel human again. If you’re someone leaving horrible negative comments and you’re so concerned, go help someone in your area! It could be your friend, family, loved one or neighbor struggling like this. Compassion goes a long way!”

On the other side of the spectrum, there were those that expressed interest in offering a similar cleaning service to people in their community; however, Brogan gave a few warnings. “These cleanings can be toxic if you’re not prepared or equipped; can also be very mentally challenging. Sometimes after hard cleans, I will see bugs in my home that aren’t really there, and I will have nightmares. It’s not as easy as it looks.”

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Clutter and mess directly affect people’s mental health, making easy tasks seem impossible, taking away motivation, and leading to procrastination and guilt

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The direct correlation between the cleanliness of one’s home and mental health is oftentimes acknowledged, yet the complexity is not fully understood. During the last 8 years of studying psychology at university, Brogan developed a curiosity for this topic, as the correlation between the two elements seemed “understudied, under-discussed, and [lacking] awareness.”

“Clutter and mess subconsciously affect our brains in ways that we don’t realize. Our brains take in all of our surrounding stimuli, and if we are living in a messy, cluttered environment, it can actually trigger a low-grade fight or flight mode,” she explained.

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Unhygienic and messy living conditions “raise cortisol levels, which is the stress hormone,” she continued. “This can make easy tasks seem impossible, it can take away motivation, and it leads to procrastination. This directly impacts anxiety, depression, sleep patterns and can raise the chances of developing heart disease.”

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Psychologist Sherrie Bourg Carter explains that clutter bombards our minds with excessive stimuli, causing our senses to work overtime, distracting us from what our focus should be on, and making it more difficult to relax. Finally, clutter creates feelings of guilt and embarrassment, yet the anxiety of actually tackling the issue may surpass those former emotions.

It’s best to make a small habit of cleaning daily, rather than having a huge clean once every so often. This can help reduce the resentment we feel toward cleaning

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For those of us who struggle to maintain our homes, Brogan has some advice. “A good Scrub Daddy and dish soap are essential and will get you a long way if you’re just starting out! You can build your supply as you go but start with the basics.”

“Instead of waiting two weeks and spending an entire day cleaning the house top to bottom, break it down into room sections and do 30 minutes a day. It’s life-changing and will help you to avoid that negative mindset and resentment toward cleaning in general,” she added.

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Many people loved this idea, yet there were those that judged both the homeowners and Brogan, stating that they deserved horrid things to happen to them

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All Brogan has to say to such people is that if they’re so concerned, they shouldn’t be leaving comments but rather helping the people in their community

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As advised on Psycom, one should start with small habits that can become a regular occurrence rather than the ever-so-often grand clean.

Make your bed, reward yourself with little bits of sweets after each completed chore, set a 20-minute timer to get you focused on the task at hand, and listen to a podcast or your favorite tunes to make the time go a bit faster.

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The final message is: “Your self-worth isn’t dependent on the cleanliness of your home.” We wish Brogan all the best for the future!

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Let us know your thoughts on the story, as well as your cleaning tips, in the comments section below!

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We wish Brogan all the best for the future, and we look forward to joining her in her journey of making people’s lives better. I’ll leave you with one last note from Brogan: “Always remember to treat everyone with kindness, as you don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors.”

You can watch the first video that started it all here

@nottheworstcleaner Wait until you guys see the progress & before/after videos I have coming 🙌🏻🧼 #cleantok #freecleaning #hoarder ♬ original sound – Not the Worst Cleaner

Don’t forget to upvote and leave us your thoughts and cleaning tips in the comments below! Bye for now!

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Hi, I'm Egle! If you made it onto this page, you may want to learn more about me. Would recommend reading works by Edgar Allan Poe much more than reading this bio, but suit yourself. I have plentiful interests, starting from the things I studied in university (Propaganda & Film, Sci-fi Writing, Psychiatry & History of Mental Illness, etc.) and ending with an addiction to tattoos, documentaries, and dancing in front of a mirror at 3am. I'm also a budding artist; I dabble in painting and drawing random bits of chaos. My favorite desert is Tiramisu.

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Tracy Wallick
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This woman is a saint; I can't even imagine how cruel someone has to be to think this woman or her clients deserve misfortune. Far too few understand just how debilitating mental illness can be, and as someone with a slew of mental illnesses that can make even the smallest tasks seem impossibly difficult, I cannot overstate what a difference it makes having a clean environment to live in. When mess and filth build up, they serve as a constant reminder of your inability to deal with them, no matter how desperately you may want to, that makes the condition worse, and the vicious cycle continues.

Bunzilla
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Invisible illnesses are especially tough, be it mental or physical. The worst is when you've got both. I would love to have all of my belongings and surroundings neat and tidy, but I just lack the energy to do so. Far too many people lack empathy because they've never been in a similar situation, so they think it's just 'laziness'; they can't fathom what it's like.

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Powerful Musk Ox
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my depression was at it's worst, I could have used her. People don't understand it's not a choice...if I could fix it I would have. Happy to report being properly medicated helped me, been in remission for over a decade!

Sivi
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I struggle with a little bit of hoarding and letting things pile up due to depression. slowly getting out of it again so hopefully got a chance to bake cookies this christmas. My family have offered me help but i am too scared to accept out of fear of being judged.

harpling
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! I know my house is filthy; I know I live in chaos; I know I need to change things. I don't want to see the looks of disgust on the faces of anyone who comes into my home. I'm glad you're feeling better, Sivi. I'll bet your cookies will be delicious!

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Heather Resatz
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Coming from a family of hoarders, this woman is a saint! It's definitely tied to mental illness and hopefully these people are also getting the help they need to keep it up themselves

Mel Bradley
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not many people could do what she does, especially with the kind attitude. Bless her

Okatango
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Grateful for this article: A huge weight has been lifted with this understanding, thank you. The good that Ms. Ingram is doing is immense, especially when one considers all the ripple effects.

Lsai Aeon
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I could totally use this kind of help. I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user, meaning I can stand for a moment and walk (hobble) maybe the length of a city bus, but that's not enough to do that much housework. Not to mention my apartment is not wheelchair accessible. Husband and son make more mess than they clean up, I'm drowning here

Jen Mart
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not all heroes wear capes, some wear hazmat suits. From hazmat suit to pizzazz mat brute. You slay!!!!

My O My
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need someone like her on my life. I just can't. I can't even explain. Sometimes I manage to get started, and often I get lost in details in the process. I need someone to clean with me. You know, make it a fun activity with a friend

LeeC Rooshea
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! Having someone helping you can make all the difference. I love the youtubers like Clutterbug, the Minamilst Mom, and But First Coffee to help motivate me to clean and declutter. I'll just put their videos on if I need motivation and pretty soon I'm getting stuff done - like I have a friend right next to me, encouraging me each step of the way. I hope you can find that motivation and friend in your life!

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Daria
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People need help and compassion, especially when their life is already full with daily struggle. She's doing a great thing! ❤️️

TJ Wilkins
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t even know where to begin. There are three generations of disabled women in our home. We had to pool our resources after my dad died and my mom lost her home. I went from living alone to two of us to the three of us. Since our health both mental and physical has gotten worse and it shows in our home. It’s not as extreme as these photos but I know the spiral of the worse it gets the harder it is to get things done. Our home isn’t nasty but it’s cluttered and needs a good dusting. And this makes us not let anyone in the house. It is so good to know that there are people who understand the dynamics of how sometimes things happen and it doesn’t mean we are bad, lazy or disgusting people. We’re just mentally and physically sick and tired.

lauralett50
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just hope for her sake,that those people don't assume she will come back & clean their messes again . Not that they don't have problems, but that they aren't lazy. My brother is leaving his wife, because he works 40 - 60 hours a week; comes home. To a filthy house,no food cooked,no laundry done .Nothing. She sits in the living room, watches TV, all day long. Won't do Anything. He thought she finally did the dishes one day; turned out she just hid the dirty dishes on the back porch. Lazy ,not handicapped or anything . Just plain lazy.

Cyndielouwhoo
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She said she also connected them with local resources to help with their illness that contributed to it. And even charts and supplies. Sometimes people battle illnesses and also may lack the life skills on how to maintain a livable space. My father was like that, he was a spoiled only child and he expected everyone else to clean up after him.

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Babysoup
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have bipolar 5 children and a dog. On bad weeks I need this help. Hats off to her for making this change in people's lives. You're an Angel

Just Sam
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a manic depressant and my partner has bipolar. We both work full time and it can be very mind blowing to come home and do housework. After 12 years together we know when one of us isn't able to take care of the home. We work around it together when we can. Sometimes we cannot. And out house is a untidy. And the worst thing is, the more untidy it is the more i get upset and go to bed, because I cannot look at that mess! Then I have a blast and just clean for 2 days. I feel like I let us down because I can't always do it. But I can't. It can be a horrible situation to break free from. People who don't have another person around, they are dealing with their mental health all alone. And if someone like this lovely woman can go and help, she is making probably more of a difference than she knows. How she has made such a difference to the people she has helped is an amazing thing

columbokateUK
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I suffer with a few mental health issues. Even though they are under control with meds, i still lack motivation around the house. You stop noticing the mess and clutter after a while. People who think it's laziness are so lucky to not understand 😥

Cyndielouwhoo
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Amazing woman, this is fantastic, her compassion and empathy off the charts. What she's doing is life-changing, anyone criticizing her needs to take a look in the mirror and reaqquaint themselves with their humanity.

TheReeseInator
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Another young woman, Aurikatariina on YouTube, does this sort of thing too

Nancy Howard
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a wonderful caring person. Makes me realize I can do more for the less fortunate or people in the throes of mental illness like depression

rs_adahl1971
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I struggle with this. My apartment is clean so I start neglecting stuff here and there and pretty soon I have a messy apartment. Start to feel guilty and depressed but don't want anybody to see my dirty home. Finally after being threatened to get kicked out, I ask for help. Ashamed and embarrassed. Apartment gets clean and the cycle starts all over again.

Danish Susanne
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so sweet, but the negative comments on both Brogan and those she helps are terrible. Reminds me of a story from England long ago I once heard about some rich peoples reactions to the building og houses for workers. They claimed bathrooms was an unnessecary luxury. Because the poor didn't need bathrooms! I suppose if the poor got bathrooms you couldn't call them the unwashed!

Celtic Pirate Queen
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hoarding/uncleanliness on this level is a mental illness and people should really not be so quick to judge. God bless her for doing what would make most of us gag. My Mom was a nurse in a private Doctor's office that had mostly elderly patients. Practically every weekend we (Mom, myself & my 3 siblings) would go to 1 house and clean, do laundry, the dishes, mow the lawn, whatever needed doing (I replaced a flat tire once). A lot of these folks were poor, many were minorities (who often don't seek help because of the rampant discrimination they face) and some were just plain old. We b*tched & moaned, but it was a really valuable learning experience that I wouldn't trade for anything. But that's all on My Mom. She has always been one of THE most generous people I've ever known. We always hosted an "orphan's" Thanksgiving as well. I don't think we ever had less that 20 in our house (in the dining room, in the living room, sitting on the stairs - you name it).

lakitha tolbert
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I try to approach everything and everyone from a place of compassion and understanding before anything else. I make compassion my first go-to, rather than judgement. I have no idea what it’s like to live like this or what it entails but I can at least be understanding rather than punitive.

Brenda Pereira
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know exactly what she is talking about when she says your environment affects your mental health. My house is not like this, but it is cluttered with extra furniture and things to nice to throw out, but no one wants. I broke my back in 5 places about 6 yrs ago and then lost my husband of 40 years, then lost my dog, and have been too depressed to even look at dusting and am in too much pain to do more than sweep the kitchen then lie down. I hate it. I feel so guilty. If I could afford to pay someone, I would do it in a minute and it would be worth it, but that's not an option right now.People bring you things and tell you they love you and ask what they can do for you, but if you tell them, you don't see them again and you're left with one more trinket to deal with! If you love me so much, help me dust or sort through the furniture and tools and dishes.

Bex
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish there was someone like that here who could help me, I am struggling to keep on top of my home due to mental health problems and chronic pain, and I hate it so much. I hate my home, I feel so embarrassed by it that I don't have people round, I spend most of my time in the one room as I just can't face the stuff that needs sorting in the lounge or kitchen. I try to do what I can but it's never enough. I darent ask for help as people judge and where I live it seems everyone know everyone's business so I keep myself to myself but would love to have a home rather than a place where I just exist

Lady Lava
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have had such a house as part of a cleaning job. Others before me quit when they saw the huge mess, but I was willing to give it a go. The client had just made it through a rehab treatment for his alcoholism and struggled with some other mental health issues. His house was a total mess and he knew it was a problem, but he just blocked and didn't know where even to start. It took a lot of time and effort, but I managed to tidy up and clean everything. It made a lot of difference, the house was livable again! The client was very grateful, and told me that he felt finally comfortable again in his own house. A good starting point to continue his recovery! For me this was a paid job, and the mentioned client was able to pay me, but I think there are a lot of similar situations where that's not an option. The woman in the article is a real angel that she's willing to do it for free, so everyone can ask and afford her help!

LeeC Rooshea
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so inspiring- I appreciate her example of dedicating one day each week to help someone's mental health through cleaning. It definitely makes me start thinking about what I can do to serve those around me, especially with their mental health.

DS Mom
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I sure could use her help. I hate feeling this way. 😞

RL R
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Amy Semenov
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is nice, but its not going to last. It will go right back. And...where does she live that there are so many houses like this??

Tracy Wallick
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This woman is a saint; I can't even imagine how cruel someone has to be to think this woman or her clients deserve misfortune. Far too few understand just how debilitating mental illness can be, and as someone with a slew of mental illnesses that can make even the smallest tasks seem impossibly difficult, I cannot overstate what a difference it makes having a clean environment to live in. When mess and filth build up, they serve as a constant reminder of your inability to deal with them, no matter how desperately you may want to, that makes the condition worse, and the vicious cycle continues.

Bunzilla
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Invisible illnesses are especially tough, be it mental or physical. The worst is when you've got both. I would love to have all of my belongings and surroundings neat and tidy, but I just lack the energy to do so. Far too many people lack empathy because they've never been in a similar situation, so they think it's just 'laziness'; they can't fathom what it's like.

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Powerful Musk Ox
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my depression was at it's worst, I could have used her. People don't understand it's not a choice...if I could fix it I would have. Happy to report being properly medicated helped me, been in remission for over a decade!

Sivi
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I struggle with a little bit of hoarding and letting things pile up due to depression. slowly getting out of it again so hopefully got a chance to bake cookies this christmas. My family have offered me help but i am too scared to accept out of fear of being judged.

harpling
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! I know my house is filthy; I know I live in chaos; I know I need to change things. I don't want to see the looks of disgust on the faces of anyone who comes into my home. I'm glad you're feeling better, Sivi. I'll bet your cookies will be delicious!

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Heather Resatz
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Coming from a family of hoarders, this woman is a saint! It's definitely tied to mental illness and hopefully these people are also getting the help they need to keep it up themselves

Mel Bradley
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not many people could do what she does, especially with the kind attitude. Bless her

Okatango
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Grateful for this article: A huge weight has been lifted with this understanding, thank you. The good that Ms. Ingram is doing is immense, especially when one considers all the ripple effects.

Lsai Aeon
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I could totally use this kind of help. I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user, meaning I can stand for a moment and walk (hobble) maybe the length of a city bus, but that's not enough to do that much housework. Not to mention my apartment is not wheelchair accessible. Husband and son make more mess than they clean up, I'm drowning here

Jen Mart
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not all heroes wear capes, some wear hazmat suits. From hazmat suit to pizzazz mat brute. You slay!!!!

My O My
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need someone like her on my life. I just can't. I can't even explain. Sometimes I manage to get started, and often I get lost in details in the process. I need someone to clean with me. You know, make it a fun activity with a friend

LeeC Rooshea
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! Having someone helping you can make all the difference. I love the youtubers like Clutterbug, the Minamilst Mom, and But First Coffee to help motivate me to clean and declutter. I'll just put their videos on if I need motivation and pretty soon I'm getting stuff done - like I have a friend right next to me, encouraging me each step of the way. I hope you can find that motivation and friend in your life!

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Daria
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People need help and compassion, especially when their life is already full with daily struggle. She's doing a great thing! ❤️️

TJ Wilkins
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t even know where to begin. There are three generations of disabled women in our home. We had to pool our resources after my dad died and my mom lost her home. I went from living alone to two of us to the three of us. Since our health both mental and physical has gotten worse and it shows in our home. It’s not as extreme as these photos but I know the spiral of the worse it gets the harder it is to get things done. Our home isn’t nasty but it’s cluttered and needs a good dusting. And this makes us not let anyone in the house. It is so good to know that there are people who understand the dynamics of how sometimes things happen and it doesn’t mean we are bad, lazy or disgusting people. We’re just mentally and physically sick and tired.

lauralett50
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just hope for her sake,that those people don't assume she will come back & clean their messes again . Not that they don't have problems, but that they aren't lazy. My brother is leaving his wife, because he works 40 - 60 hours a week; comes home. To a filthy house,no food cooked,no laundry done .Nothing. She sits in the living room, watches TV, all day long. Won't do Anything. He thought she finally did the dishes one day; turned out she just hid the dirty dishes on the back porch. Lazy ,not handicapped or anything . Just plain lazy.

Cyndielouwhoo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She said she also connected them with local resources to help with their illness that contributed to it. And even charts and supplies. Sometimes people battle illnesses and also may lack the life skills on how to maintain a livable space. My father was like that, he was a spoiled only child and he expected everyone else to clean up after him.

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Babysoup
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have bipolar 5 children and a dog. On bad weeks I need this help. Hats off to her for making this change in people's lives. You're an Angel

Just Sam
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a manic depressant and my partner has bipolar. We both work full time and it can be very mind blowing to come home and do housework. After 12 years together we know when one of us isn't able to take care of the home. We work around it together when we can. Sometimes we cannot. And out house is a untidy. And the worst thing is, the more untidy it is the more i get upset and go to bed, because I cannot look at that mess! Then I have a blast and just clean for 2 days. I feel like I let us down because I can't always do it. But I can't. It can be a horrible situation to break free from. People who don't have another person around, they are dealing with their mental health all alone. And if someone like this lovely woman can go and help, she is making probably more of a difference than she knows. How she has made such a difference to the people she has helped is an amazing thing

columbokateUK
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I suffer with a few mental health issues. Even though they are under control with meds, i still lack motivation around the house. You stop noticing the mess and clutter after a while. People who think it's laziness are so lucky to not understand 😥

Cyndielouwhoo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Amazing woman, this is fantastic, her compassion and empathy off the charts. What she's doing is life-changing, anyone criticizing her needs to take a look in the mirror and reaqquaint themselves with their humanity.

TheReeseInator
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Another young woman, Aurikatariina on YouTube, does this sort of thing too

Nancy Howard
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a wonderful caring person. Makes me realize I can do more for the less fortunate or people in the throes of mental illness like depression

rs_adahl1971
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I struggle with this. My apartment is clean so I start neglecting stuff here and there and pretty soon I have a messy apartment. Start to feel guilty and depressed but don't want anybody to see my dirty home. Finally after being threatened to get kicked out, I ask for help. Ashamed and embarrassed. Apartment gets clean and the cycle starts all over again.

Danish Susanne
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so sweet, but the negative comments on both Brogan and those she helps are terrible. Reminds me of a story from England long ago I once heard about some rich peoples reactions to the building og houses for workers. They claimed bathrooms was an unnessecary luxury. Because the poor didn't need bathrooms! I suppose if the poor got bathrooms you couldn't call them the unwashed!

Celtic Pirate Queen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hoarding/uncleanliness on this level is a mental illness and people should really not be so quick to judge. God bless her for doing what would make most of us gag. My Mom was a nurse in a private Doctor's office that had mostly elderly patients. Practically every weekend we (Mom, myself & my 3 siblings) would go to 1 house and clean, do laundry, the dishes, mow the lawn, whatever needed doing (I replaced a flat tire once). A lot of these folks were poor, many were minorities (who often don't seek help because of the rampant discrimination they face) and some were just plain old. We b*tched & moaned, but it was a really valuable learning experience that I wouldn't trade for anything. But that's all on My Mom. She has always been one of THE most generous people I've ever known. We always hosted an "orphan's" Thanksgiving as well. I don't think we ever had less that 20 in our house (in the dining room, in the living room, sitting on the stairs - you name it).

lakitha tolbert
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I try to approach everything and everyone from a place of compassion and understanding before anything else. I make compassion my first go-to, rather than judgement. I have no idea what it’s like to live like this or what it entails but I can at least be understanding rather than punitive.

Brenda Pereira
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know exactly what she is talking about when she says your environment affects your mental health. My house is not like this, but it is cluttered with extra furniture and things to nice to throw out, but no one wants. I broke my back in 5 places about 6 yrs ago and then lost my husband of 40 years, then lost my dog, and have been too depressed to even look at dusting and am in too much pain to do more than sweep the kitchen then lie down. I hate it. I feel so guilty. If I could afford to pay someone, I would do it in a minute and it would be worth it, but that's not an option right now.People bring you things and tell you they love you and ask what they can do for you, but if you tell them, you don't see them again and you're left with one more trinket to deal with! If you love me so much, help me dust or sort through the furniture and tools and dishes.

Bex
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish there was someone like that here who could help me, I am struggling to keep on top of my home due to mental health problems and chronic pain, and I hate it so much. I hate my home, I feel so embarrassed by it that I don't have people round, I spend most of my time in the one room as I just can't face the stuff that needs sorting in the lounge or kitchen. I try to do what I can but it's never enough. I darent ask for help as people judge and where I live it seems everyone know everyone's business so I keep myself to myself but would love to have a home rather than a place where I just exist

Lady Lava
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have had such a house as part of a cleaning job. Others before me quit when they saw the huge mess, but I was willing to give it a go. The client had just made it through a rehab treatment for his alcoholism and struggled with some other mental health issues. His house was a total mess and he knew it was a problem, but he just blocked and didn't know where even to start. It took a lot of time and effort, but I managed to tidy up and clean everything. It made a lot of difference, the house was livable again! The client was very grateful, and told me that he felt finally comfortable again in his own house. A good starting point to continue his recovery! For me this was a paid job, and the mentioned client was able to pay me, but I think there are a lot of similar situations where that's not an option. The woman in the article is a real angel that she's willing to do it for free, so everyone can ask and afford her help!

LeeC Rooshea
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is so inspiring- I appreciate her example of dedicating one day each week to help someone's mental health through cleaning. It definitely makes me start thinking about what I can do to serve those around me, especially with their mental health.

DS Mom
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I sure could use her help. I hate feeling this way. 😞

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2 years ago

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Amy Semenov
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is nice, but its not going to last. It will go right back. And...where does she live that there are so many houses like this??

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