30 Women Joined This Thread To Share Their Proposal Stories When They Said ‘No’

Luckily, most people these days can choose for themselves who they want to marry and arranged marriages are seen as a violation of a person’s freedom and rights. There is a tradition that a man will ask a woman if she would like to be his wife and she has the option to give whichever answer she sees fit.

Usually people propose when they feel that they have a strong relationship with their significant other and have maybe even discussed the possibility of getting married. However, that is not always the case and sometimes women realize they don’t actually want to spend the rest of their lives with a certain person, so they decline the offer.

It is interesting to explore the reasons why, because if you are already in a relationship, what could be stopping you from taking it to the next level? Women shared their reasons after tommygunz007 asked “Women of Reddit who were proposed to by their SO and said no, what's your story?”

Do you have a proposal story in which you refused to marry someone? Maybe you were the one proposing and would like to share how the other side feels? We would be happy to read what you have to say in the comments!

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We were high school sweethearts. Even though we'd dated since the second month of our freshman year of high school, I had zero assumptions that we'd get married or even stay together after high school. Everyone including him was adamantly encouraging me to follow him to the university he was going to and I was dead set on going to a very different school that everyone deemed beneath me.

Our families held a joint graduation party for us at his family's house after we did the official school walk/diploma thing. I was asked to grab something upstairs from his room. When I came back to the top of the stairs and looked down EVERY MEMBER (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, parents) of both of our families was standing on the bottom floor looking up at me expectantly as he knelt at the bottom of the stairs with the ring. I was shocked. I didn't want to come down the stairs but I did, shaky-legs trembling from adrenaline. I started crying which was misinterpreted as a yes and everyone cheered. I grabbed him and ran out the front door. We talked and I told him we weren't on the same page and I just couldn't go back in there. He was devastated. I left the party.

Unbeknownst to everyone (including him) I was planning to leave to work abroad for the summer. I was keeping it a secret so that no one could talk me out of it and and I was going abroad primarily so I wouldn't have to deal with more pressure to switch schools over the summer. So when I left the party, I decided that rather than wait to leave until the next morning, I'd just get my stuff together and go now. I was out of the house within the hour having left pre-written notes for everyone letting them know I'd contact them when I got where I was going.

Pretty much everyone was livid with me. I'll admit that literally running away from the pressure and continued conversations I didn't want to have was not the most grown up thing to do, but I still maintain it was the right thing for me to do. How many times can you calmly tell people to let you lead the life you want only to have them not listen to you and tell you they know better, insist you live your life according to their wishes? I'd reached my limit and that trip allowed me to assert my independence, find myself and my own voice. I came back a new person and I believe I've had a much a happier life for following my own path.

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