Hormones can be a mega b*tch and super intense, but that NEVER gives anyone an excuse to be abusive. You can't control the hormones, but you DO control your words and actions.... And she's suddenly "all better" in less than 3 weeks? Pretty sure that's not how it works. Glad he has tons of evidence and that everyone around him knows the truth now too. Take it and run!

I love the "sickness and health" things that the YTA crowd is tossing around, but I wonder what their reaction would be when THEY required medical treatment for her battery? Those words are easy to say when they are not the people being clobbered with a coffee cup that requires stitches. This happened to me ONCE and I was gone. They need to climb down from their perches and walk a mile in the shoes of the OP, THEN proclaim "sickness and health" when it's their health at stake. Morons.

As a domestic violence survivor I am going to be the 1st person to tell you it's not acceptable for her to put her hands on you.DO NOT TAKE HER BACK! Do not listen to anyone who is trying to pressure you to forgive her or take her back just because you have a child. There is no reason for you to be with someone who has been abusive just for the sake of being " a family". Stay away from her. It's possible that she will do this again. They all say that they are going to change and how sorry they are. Even if they verbally abuse, it's a sign . Remember that anyone who puts their hands on you lacks self control. Imagine if she loses her temper and takes it out on your child. With an abuser it's not a matter of IF they will do it again it's a matter of WHEN. RUN DON'T WALK AWAY FROM HER AND PROTECT YOURSELF AND THE BABY!

The people in the family telling this guy to give her a second chance just want her to become his problem again instead of theirs. Whatever is going on there will take extensive therapy if it could ever be fixed so there’s no way he and the baby should go back in to an unsafe environment.

People acting like he’s the a*****e - SHE BURNED HIM WITH HOT COFFEE AND SMASHED THE CUP OVER HIS HEAD, REQUIRING STITCHES, WHILE HE WAS TENDING TO THEIR BABY!!! Pregnancy & post partum didn’t create the monster she “became”, it just showed the monster she was all along.

For all intents and purposes, the wife he knew is simply dead. He will never get back that feeling for her nor the life they lived together. His main priority should be his son and that he grows up in a stable home. A child benefits more from a stable home than from two parents, whether that stable home involves one parent, 2 parents, parents of the same sex or otherwise.

Setting aside the suspicious timing of this sudden change of heart and decision to go to therapy (I agree there's some gaslighting/love bombing red flags here) - let's say purely for the sake of argument, that she was telling the truth. It was all pregnancy-related psychosis, she didn't have rational control of her actions, the therapist gives her medication and it fixes everything and she never does any of this again in her life. How is the husband going to trust her? Will he ever be able to look at her the same way? Have a normal argument without being afraid that it's happening all over again? Leave her alone with the kid? Some things don't come with takebacks, no matter how genuinely sorry you are.

The person who pointed out she is now calling OP the a**hole, they are right. She has not "gotten better" and is still being abusive. Someone who is truly sorry understands how they screwed up. Do not go back, and get full custody!

Seriously, the people saying "in sickness and health" can go f**k themselves. She could have killed him easily with that mug, emotionally and otherwise physically abused him for so long and people sit there like "bUt ThEiR MaRrIaGe!" Get your own head beaten in and come talk again. I have mental health issues too which is the reason I dont date at all, to not pull people down to my level rn or even worse. It might not be her fault to be mentally ill but its her own duty to not make it other peoples problem like THAT.

I initially wanted him to be supportive of her believing she was going through something but the more I read I just felt so bad for him. There’s no coming back from that. The abuse she literally hurled at him must have been awful.

Why is it it's okay for family members to assault and attempt murder and get away with it without any real consequences? My dad would strangle us like Homer Simpson, or worse, pick us up by the throat and choke us out with our feet dangling in the air. If a man walks up to a kid on the street and does that, he's going to jail for a long, long time. But if a person does that to a spouse or child they need counselling. Pack your bags and get what justice you can because you won't get much. Hurray for her getting medication, but she ONLY chose to get help to avoid consequences and jail. The abuse will come back, eventually. That's what life has taught me. Eventually she'll hurt you again and you owe it to your kid to protect them from that.

There’s a limit to everything. “In sickness and in health” does not mean sticking around and enduring years of abuse and putting your children at risk of harm with someone who doesn’t even want to seek help (if they’re aware enough to want to get better, that’s different). It applies more to the a******s who divorce their spouses because they’re dying of cancer and don’t have the strength to have sex anymore. WTF, right? How selfish to put your genitals before the person you’re supposed to love who is facing a slow and agonizing death.

I love the YTA ones because "what about in sickness and in health"? Well, that goes out the friggin' window when you have to go get stitches because your spouse smashed a cup of hot coffee over your head. Idiots.

Bet if it was a man beating on a woman the YTAs would tell her to leave and she would be NTA. Men get abused in relationships too.

She could abuse him, then turn it round to be sweetness and light in front of other people and make out he was the bad guy? That’s calculated and in control. Gaslighting, manipulation. Divorce. Protect the child. Protect himself.

This is narcissistic behavior. Very dangerous. Proceed with the divorce!

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Her change was likely hormonal, and.it may not have been her fault at all. If you really love her, and she is committed to change and get help, not just pills, but serious counseling, it might be worth to give her another chance. After all, she would be on probation, and if she slips back into Mr. Hyde, then you can honestly say you gave it a try. But, again, only if you truly love her still and she you.