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u/ZeuslovesHer said they came up with the idea for the post while scrolling through social media. "I saw people on Instagram talking about and being angry at someone beautiful, saying they get everything easy in life because they look good," the Redditor told Bored Panda.

After going through the comments, u/ZeuslovesHer learned that "pretty privilege happens everywhere, in all aspects of life, including the workplace and casual social interaction."

"[If you're at its receiving end], I think it can be useful in any circumstance. To get people to be more bendable to your needs, to help you more, to be more friendly, more understanding, more empathetic, etc."

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Big time it is. I was a very unattractive teenager and the world felt like a very harsh place. Some people are openly rude to you if they don’t find you good looking. As I did grow into my looks and became reasonably good looking, not heading down the catwalk or anything but nice enough, boy did the world open up. People (mostly men) became so much nicer to me and just much more accommodating. Pretty privilege is very very real, having been on both sides.

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Mazer 3 years ago

I grew up ugly and still am, I don’t get breaks on tickets or discounts, in fact my ugliness has been the catalyst for all types of abuses, denials, dismissals etc. The bonus is that the prejudicial behavior I am experiencing is not on me.

39points

typhonicsymphonic , Michael Odelberth Report

According to scientists, those who meet universal beauty standards often experience social advantages and better treatment by those who perceive them as attractive. These unearned benefits are often described by researchers as "beauty premium," but the meaning is the same as that of "pretty privilege."

One study that decomposed the beauty premium in an experimental labor market, for example, identified that physically attractive workers are more confident, are (wrongly) considered more able by employers, and have various 'additional' skills (such as communication and social skills) that result in higher wages.

Essentially, unattractive people experience significant disadvantages in comparison to attractive people. In fact, some describe these disparities as comparable to the income gap between genders or ethnicities.

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Very real. Nightlife (bartending, etc) is good money, and they don’t hire people who are not at the very least conventionally attractive. I’ve been tipped generously many times simply because customers thought I was pretty. Mostly by gay men and straight women.

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Mazer 3 years ago

I have never been given money based on my looks, because I don’t have good looks, never have, never will. The good part about this, when someone does tip me or compliments me, I know it’s because I did an amazing job

31points

However, even if we acknowledge the existence of pretty privilege, is it something we can eradicate? u/ZeuslovesHer doesn't think so. "Unfortunately, I believe it's in our DNA to assess someone from the first moment we lay our eyes on them. It's probably just our genes telling us this is someone I'd be good to reproduce with, or someone I'd be good to be friends with, because their beauty might add some [social] benefits to my life."

"I'm sure a lot of it is subconscious. I don’t think this will change anytime soon, but I do think people are pretending to not care about looks, to be body-positive, etc. even though it's probably not how they actually feel."

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” 120% real. I have a sister who is conventionally attractive. Whenever we go to an open bar event, she's the designated drink getter, since the barmen will trip over themselves and/or each other to give her drinks, while ignoring the rest of us ugly plebs.

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120points

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Me Oh My 3 years ago

Do do do, covering up mean comments, do do do...

34points

Tequila4Two 3 years ago

Thanks for pointing out there are mean comments, I am gonna check them out. /sarcasm.

6points

Natalia Shoemark 3 years ago

Boom... there it is and we all know it xxx maybe the best solution is to make it work FOR you xx

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Popescu Adina 3 years ago

Actually, they are invisible... all ugly people are. We as a society just don't value people for who they are but for how they look. So it's a bit more than simply not having a privilege... you go straight to the other extreme.

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u/ZeuslovesHer revealed they are someone who is probably considered beautiful by the majority. However, the Redditor didn't realize that until recently. However, beauty privilege, according to them, might have a few disadvantages as well.

"First of all, everyone underestimates me when they meet me. They immediately think I'm stupid or that I never bothered with my education because I got things easy in life," they said. "That is not true, I worked hard, I paid for college myself, working different jobs and I graduated top of my class. A lot of people I met instantly resent me, especially girls, it's almost like they feel threatened or something, even though they have absolutely no reason for it."

"And then there is the really dark part of it, which is all the sexual harassment I had to endure, sexual assault attempts from men, since I was a teenager."

I guess, this proves there are two sides to every story.

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Very attractive, or formerly very attractive, people are used to being listened to and will go on and on about anything. Also, I’ve worked at several universities and the better the school, the more attractive the student body. I assume this is because attractive people get extra attention and help from an early age. They expect and are expected to succeed early on.

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Claire 3 years ago

This is very interesting. I noticed that when I did my nursing degree. Our class looked like a bunch of models, every single person was attractive. It was also at a private college that cost big bucks. Later on when I was lecturing at a public university, it was a slightly different story.

26points

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Yes. Was once obese and am now pretty good looking. The difference is night and day

cooliebeans , Huha Inc. Report

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106points

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Batwench Premium 3 years ago

Just because a person is fat doesn’t automatically mean that they are ugly. People of all shapes and weights can be ‘good looking’. The idea of beauty changes, as seen in history, even recent history.

3points

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Yes. After losing a little bit of weight everyone started treating me better in general. It made me kinda mad tbh because I've never been rude to anyone just for being physically unattractive.

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102points

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Dodo 3 years ago

Note: this does only work if you have a nice face. I lost a ton of weight but I'm still unattractive and people treat me as such.

36points

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” I was born with a facial deformity and have since had multiple (10+) procedures to fix it. Growing up, people would literally stare at me, walk to the other side of the street, openly laugh, etc. At 12, I was at the mall with a friend when one of those childhood modeling services ran over and started praising my friend, looked at me, then went "but you're both beautiful in your own ways."

Now 21, apparently I've had enough work done that people are able to look at me because everyone is nicer, takes me seriously, and I get free drinks when I go out.

Yep. People definitely treat you differently when they think you're attractive.

Initial_Elderberry , cottonbro Report

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90points

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Eppe 3 years ago

I have very little sympathy towards modelling scouts targeting 12 year olds, but I still find it somewhat endearing that he made the effort to say they both look beautifull in their own way.

26points

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Yes. I'm ugly, and when I worked alongside more beautiful women it was obvious how much better they were treated.

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RandomBeing 3 years ago

This pisses me off if I saw that happen I would wanna slap somebody so bad.

21points

#10

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” It is real. I’m a good looking man that works in a technical field. I am very competent and certainly don’t get overlooked for it. I know plenty of people who are less attractive who do.

AverageSizeWayne , Lukas Report

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Billie Templeton 3 years ago

Thanks OP for being honest about your experience

17points

#11

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” I knew a girl who was a hostess at an 'upscale' restaurant. Her manager told her if any girls come in with a resume for a job, if they are unattractive/overweight to mark '110' on the top right of the paper. If you draw a diagonal line between the two ones, you are spelling out 'NO.

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77points

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BasedWang 3 years ago

dope code. asshole move

4points

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#12

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” I know a girl that was completely terrible at her job but the boss loved her. Kept getting promotions, bonuses, raises, and things like that when raises were frozen for everyone else. She ended up leaving her company to work at a more prestigious company...

Final score:

72points

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Amy Pattie 3 years ago

Screw “stronger, healthier you,” those gym motivational posters should say “you could get a promotion without any extra work.” I’d run so much harder.

31points

#13

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Without trying to brag I’m a decently attractive girl. I have a bit of a natural prettiness to me BUT I’m also really good at doing my make up, hair, clothes. I work out a lot too so I’m in shape. These are arguably more important than natural beauty.

Yes there’s a privilege when you’re attractive. Guys will do stuff for me, trip over themselves when I ask for help, buy me drinks etc. Is it worth all the sexual advances and harassment? Sometimes. I get catcalled a lot, people think I’m a dumb pretty girl, other women get really catty if I say anything to their boyfriend/husband. I get a lot of overly sexual messages.

What’s really funny is all the privilege goes away when I’m out with my 3 kids. It goes from a bunch dudes going out of their way to help to the opposite. Although I still get catcalled when I’m with my kids, a little too much.

cuckedprincess , Laura Chouette Report

Final score:

71points

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Otter 3 years ago

It's true, nothing kills desire like having small children! You'd think nature wanted to build an anti-overpopulation device into us, but it isn't working...

23points

#14

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Absolutely, the summer before my junior year I lost a ton of weight and when everyone saw me, I was 40 lb lighter than the previous year. I started getting more friends, teachers started talking to me more, girls were starting to notice me, etc. Now this could all be because I finally had my confidence up but it’s hard to tell.

The summer before my senior year I really dialed in and got into really great shape and that’s when I noticed a huge change. I was getting asked out by girls every other week until I finally got what would be my first long term relationship. Then I joined the Navy, gained maybe 20 lb in A school, and boom it was back to square one, no longer the guy everyone always wanted to be around.

Clean-Cook-4060 , Victor Freitas Report

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Susan Bosse 3 years ago

Part of that can most likely be attributed to self-esteem. When you don't feel your best (physically, mentally), you're not going to innately be as outgoing and happy go lucky as when you do. Like attracts like, meaning when you are outgoing and more social, you attract like minded people and are more prone to drawing people to you.

15points

#15

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” As a trans woman I gotta say that it is real. Depressingly so.

My experiences have been that even if people know I’m trans they are generally pretty nice to me in real life.

You can totally see this in how society views what is a “successful” transition. The trans women who are deemed to somehow always represent what it means to be trans are almost always not just Cis passing but totally conventionally attractive.

The trans women who don’t fit neatly into those categories get stereotyped as “failures”.

WingedWholphin , Delia Giandeini Report

Final score:

64points

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Demi Zwaan 3 years ago

Yeah, the fact that people call trans people "failures" because they don't look like attractive cis men or women is so weird. As if all cis men and women look like perfect men and women :(

34points

#16

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” It's really f***ing hard to do any successful therapy because of pretty privilege, let me tell you. I have BPD and because of it, I have done and said some pretty f***ed up stuff. What is the response? Nothing that serious because look at me, I'm a cute and young-looking woman. I had one tell me, while I was having a breakdown because I've only ever been seen as "the pretty one" in my family: "I'm struggling to not tell you you're pretty, you're so beautiful!" I think she meant well, but not the time.

DarthMelsie , Priscilla Du Preez Report

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59points

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Kanuli 3 years ago

This should be way higher. This is for once a real struggle that could easily become a life/death situation just coz someone could not look deep enough?

21points

#17

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Among cultures where I fit into that societies idea of beauty, people just give me stuff for no reason or give me passes if I have flubbed some requirement. Upgrades on flights, meals paid for, etc.

In areas where my look is not considered beautiful (Miami, Florida lol) I have literally been denied entry into a club. It really sucked. But hey

If you didn't piece it together, I have deep dark brown skin and stereotypically West African features. I was bullied pretty relentlessly throughout childhood, but that never really stopped me from liking my look. I did have pretty low self-esteem though.

When you are among people that think you are attractive, you are allowed to just live. If not, you find yourself being screwed with and denied access just because. I'm sure there is some element of this in many countries, but due to an especially narrow definition of beauty in the United States, it seems more pronounced.

BTW, there have been studies done on this.

missadechoco , ok ok Report

Final score:

57points

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Queen Jackson. 3 years ago

I’m a medium ish black girl (kinda the default black) but also west African. Same, girl, same.

15points

#18

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” My attractive coworker and I were stopped on the same day, by the same trooper, for speeding. I'm a fugly dude, she's a 10/10 knockout. I was doing 81 mph in a 70 zone and got a ticket. She was doing 86 mph in a 70 zone and the trooper gave her a warning.

upthecounty , Andrea Ferrario Report

Final score:

51points

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Mazer 3 years ago

I know there are many police officers who will pull over pretty women while the are on traffic patrol just to get their contact information.

21points

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#19

Oh, I don’t know. Why not ask every POS who became instafamous for taking a good mugshot. Sure he shot up a theater, but he’s so handsome! Yeah he’s a rapist but look at those cheekbones! He needs a modeling contract ASAP!

Final score:

45points

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Raven DeathShade 3 years ago

I mean, SURE he constantly terrorizes only one city and murdered hundreds, but that SMILE!

14points

#20

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” I invest a lot of time and money into my physical appearance for this reason. It sounds easy to say that you don’t need makeup to be beautiful and caring too much about how you look is vain, but when you’ve lived part of your life ugly and part of your life pretty you really do see plainly the benefits in all areas of life. If nothing else, you gain a lot of self confidence and that translates to everything including career ambition.

Especially for people who lack in other areas of privilege, you hang on to this one.

AYASOFAYA , engin akyurt Report

Final score:

43points

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Kristal 3 years ago

I give mega props to people that take time to do make-up. I only have enough motivation to put on eyeliner when going to work or special event. I prefer sleep.

13points

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#21

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Since I used to be fat and slimmed down I know what it's like to be ugly and what it's like to be seen as somewhat handsome.

It's definitely real.

snapwillow , Jennifer Burk Report

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42points

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Elmie Pumpkinbush 3 years ago

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35points

#22

Pretty privilege is real, think Mean Girls where Cady was pretty much got handed over the top seats in the Girl World Pyramid seeing that she was a 'regulation hottie'. But I feel that even if you aren't born physically attractive, having a friendly face can make up for it. And it's much easier to attain, especially as you get older. Smiling and being nice shows on your face, and it does get people some perks!

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Kristal 3 years ago

I agree. I'm overweight but have a kind face (even when I try not to) and it has helped. It also hinders by people thinking they can take advantage cause I look nice and won't defend myself (boy are they wrong lol).

18points

#23

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” So there was this girl who used to be in my school. She looks absolutely perfect. Thing is, she shares birthdays with me so on my birthday, all the attention would be on her. Thing is , according to my friend who was classmates with her, she's a total douche so ik this isn't a personality thing

grilledcheese203 , Angèle Kamp Report

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38points

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SentimentAndBadJokes 3 years ago

That's so sad!

2points

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#24

When I used to live in LA, people often thought I was a model/actress and I typically found it to be a super fun, friendly city. I was in LA visiting family while pregnant and got acne for the first time since I was 14. People were so much less friendly, then got more friendly again only once my bump was clear. It was like all the nice people in LA reappeared.

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37points

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Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 3 years ago

Disgusting. i know a lot of times they're blissfully unaware and it's not their fault but it makes me mad that pretty people think the world is a lot nicer than it really is.

15points

#25

Go on LinkedIn and look at any big companies' sales team/account managers...that's all you need to know.

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#26

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” One word: Tinder.

beep_boop_27 , Mika Baumeister Report

Final score:

34points

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Heather Menard 3 years ago

I feel like joining just to see if anyone would swipe right

2points

#27

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” I mean I accidentally hit an older guy with a door at the gas station the other day as I was leaving. I immediately started profusely apologizing, and when he turned around and saw me he immediately changed his face and said it was okay and not to worry. I noticed his Bucs hat so we chatted about football, told him to enjoy his beer and avoid any more doors to the heel and I apologized again, then we went on our way.

I know for a fact had I not been a (that day presentable lmao) female, he was definitely ready to go off. So... sometimes it helps to have these big ol blue eyes hahaha.

kurnadurn , Athena Report

Final score:

34points

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Jess Thompson 3 years ago

I hate that feeling though, I’d rather not have the privilege than be shown man’s true shallow colours over and over again.

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#28

I generally know that strangers will say yes to me or help me with stuff if I ask nice with a smile. I'm pretty confident in being able to 'cute' my way out of trouble, including with authority/security/cops.

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33points

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Autumn Artemis 3 years ago

Sort of sounds like that thing from the Percy Jackson books- Charmspeak? Uh... sorry if no one has any idea what I'm talking about. ;-;

16points

#29

It's actually been proven. Attractive people are more successful in life because of it (e.i they're seen as more competent with no evidence showing that they are when compared to their less attractive counterparts and so on).

I would offer some examples but it would all be anecdotal and if we Google it there's several links to more scientific backed ones. I would link some but I'm on mobile atm.

wert989 Report

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31points

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Florida, but without the beach 3 years ago

I worked for a staffing agency, the manager raged at us one day because we hadn’t found a position for a girl because she was attractive so it should have been easy to place her anywhere

13points

#30

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” I've never seen an ugly waitress. I often have conversations with friends while eating out along the lines of "where do they find these women? Everyone in town except the waiting staff is ugly."

Watsis_name , Bimo Luki Report

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30points

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Iggy 3 years ago

Anyone bringing me food is gorgeous. I don't care if they are fat or slim, short or tall, old or young, the very fact that they're bringing me food makes them gorgeous!

53points

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#31

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Yep, saw it with my own eyes back in school, I was in line for ice cream with a pretty senior in front of me and the ice cream vendor was like "You don't need to pay it's free for you."

Then it was my turn and was like, "Oh, she's the only one who'll get a free ice cream, cool." Then proceeded to pay for mine.

Viscarr , Lama Roscu Report

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11points

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Kristal 3 years ago

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0points

#32

I wouldn't even consider myself particularly pretty, but I have a soft face, big eyes, and I'm the only person on my work team of 20 people that's under the age of 40 and female. I try to stay out of the way and be as low profile as possible, but the supervisors definitely come down on me more leniently than the others.

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#33

It sure is. I'd consider myself average looking but if I'm out with my more attractive friends or my girflriend (I scored above my league), waiters / waitresses often straight up ignore me up until they reach the point where they have to take my order and, even at that point, rarely make eye contact with me. My girlfriend use to think I was exaggerating until I started pointing it out to her.

It used to be even worse when I was 60 lbs heavier.

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10points

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Bored Birgit 3 years ago

Yes. The one ugly/overweight kid or grownup in the group. It's such a stereotype. Also overweight often is related with dumbness.

1point

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#34

30 People Are Sharing The Ugly Side Of “Pretty Privilege” Yes. You get more matches on tinder, you’re more approachable, you have easier access making friends albeit they can be superficial friendships but friendships nevertheless. You are more likely to be recruited by model scouts, agents for the entertainment industry, it’s a lot.

Disastrous-Resort-45 , Yogas Design Report

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#35

Yep! People are polite and friendly and you get treated better in public. It’s sad but it happens

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#36

Absolutely. There's been dozens of studies by reputable social scientists covering this.

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#37

Some people get things in life easier than others because of their looks. It's luck if the draw. The only thing wrong with that, is the jealous guy that feels cheated. He's wrong. Why not be happy for the beautiful people. We don't get angry at a person because he won the lottery. Somebody has to be Clooney. It's not right to view a person negatively for being "ugly". Same is true for the pretty ones.

Also, just because some things come easier because of their looks doesn't mean they don't have to struggle or feel pain in other aspects of their lives just as much as anyone else. I'm sure Sco-Jo has seen plenty of heartache. Maybe I should comfort her.

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Kanuli 3 years ago

Is someone wrong to feel cheated though? Just because your genes dont hit the majority’s likings are you deserved to be treated as lesser being? I believe not. We all should first try to accept ourselves for how and who we are and next let people be people for who they are not how they look. I find my wife to be the most beautiful being there is, though seen as a whole, inside, outside, personality, intellect, soul, whatever else. Now if I think she would have an accident, and became scarred, or less intellectual, or even only age altering her, would I love her any less? I believe not. Unconditional love means unconditional, doesnt it?

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Alexandra Davis 3 years ago

It works the same being disabled. Before I was a wheelchair user I was spoken to like I was intelligent and people assumed I had a degree and a good job (I did I was a teacher). Then now I'm in a wheelchair people will often ignore me and ask who ever I'm with things like "do they need a drink!" pointing at me and if they speak to me they do so in a slow and patronising way like I'm thick as two short planks. When I cut them off and explain that it's my legs that don't work not my brain, they act shocked and only sometimes embarrassed. One time I was in the supermarket alone early in the morning looking for something, this old lady comes up to me and goes (slowly like I'm thick) "have you lost your carer?" I was so shocked and annoyed that people assume I should have a minder with me, she was then shocked when I replied "no ive the hair spray aisle and I'm in a rush to drive to work" The lady had the audacity to reply "you're allowed out on your own, can drive and work?!" I was fuming!

16points

Auntriarch 3 years ago

Bloody hell!

7points

littlesaresare 3 years ago

I can attest to this. Short, disabled, poor, and ugly. The ultimate combination for being talked down to!

3points

Briana Kessler 3 years ago

Wow, people sure can be stupid

2points

Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago

I really noticed this when I was in a wheelchair for awhile after a back injury. "Oh! I'm sorry. I didn't see you". So if I was standing up you would have.

2points

Stacey 2 years ago

What? You mean people do things like that? (read sarcastically) I hate when people ask the person with you how you're doing.

0points

Martha Meyer 3 years ago

Good looking people are treated better and perceived to be more competent by everyone, studies have shown. It affects men, women and children, even babies. It's a deeply rooted, unconscious bias ingrained in humans apparently. And it's very hard to overcome consciously.

16points

Tami 3 years ago (edited)

I've seen studies suggesting that being attracted to good looking people is a evolutionary advantage. Symmetrical features, good skin and hair, good body shape, attention to grooming, etc., indicate health, skillfulness at obtaining resources, self-awareness, and other traits desirable in a good mate. Although in modern times, too many people go overboard with some of those traits and become narcissistic a-holes.

4points

8Yorkies-and-57cats 3 years ago (edited)

Why stop at humans? At my shelter, only the cutest, prettiest cats would get adopted. I was even offered "beauty advice" for those "ugly ones" by a groomer. I resolved to never allow anyone who chooses an animal based on its looks to adopt from my shelter, and now I have specific questions to weed these people out.

6points

Ileana Sky Aviles 3 years ago

I was going through connecting flights, the last being Hong Kong. Tired and Jetlag, I was wearing joggers, went into the Dior shop. The lady assistant immediately came towards me and told me rudely to get out, that I didn't have money to afford anything in the store and that it wasn't the place for me. I was stunned. Several days later I returned coming from a meeting and was well dressed. She recognized me, offered me a seat and welcomed me in with the most pretentious, sinister wide smile I ever saw, asking if I'd like champagne. At which point I was thoroughly disgusted and took myself elsewhere. Way of the world. I do notice people go out of their way when I'm dressed well, and terribly if not. I got offered high paying jobs with zero experience, just because.

6points

Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago

Same here. Went to shop in a very posh dept store dressing like I normally do. Middle class. I did not exist. Thought I would test this theory out. Went back dressed well to do. Attention from sales people? No problem. Never went back there.

3points

Iggy 3 years ago

There is a flip side, though. We were in a nightclub one night with my friend's sister who is stunningly beautiful. She did not get a moment's peace all night. Men of all ages tried to chat her up and some weren't taking no for an answer.

4points

OhForSmegSake 3 years ago

I was not a pretty child but I grew into a beautiful teen and young adult. For 10+ years I did modelling for catalogues and local shows, some acting too. It felt great to have people look at me and smile, stop me in the street to compliment my hair or skin. Sometimes I'd get discounts or free things just because I was "a beautiful girl". Then I started having a lot of problems with my Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome; gained weight, grew out of control facial hair, got acne, lost alot of head hair. Now I'm in my 30s and I'm an invisible person. I just really miss the smiles.

3points

Scarlett 3 years ago

I’m ugly and was way worse with long hair and when I was (very) underweight. It’s both a blessing and curse. I don’t get cat-called or have people commenting weird sexual innuendoes on my pictures. But I never get any kind of male attention and have resigned myself to being single, because no one wants an ugly girl who’s only decent personality trait is being nice. On the other hand, I don’t attract jerks of my own age, which is a plus (creepy perverted sixty year olds are a different story, but those guys would go for any woman). Not saying all sixty year old guys are like that, those guys were just creeps.

3points

Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago

And folks can be biased and not even realize it...I remember many many Winters ago, I got rear ended in traffic. Before I saw that it didnt cause much damage, I was was gonna whoop some a**e. When I realized the person that hit me was a super cute college woman, I ended up popping her car back together on the side of the road.

3points

Jo Choto 3 years ago

Most of my life I have not been particularly attractive. I got called ugly to my face on more than one occasion, had complete strangers bark at me driving past. Even had partners make comments about my not-very-good looks. When I was younger and had regular access to a lot of people, I had my personality. Now that I'm older, people don't generally even speak to me, male or female. I've even been in the position where I was singled out at this massive event by a "celebrity" who had a microphone who basically mocked my appearance and I had hundreds of people turn round and stare right at me. I think I'm a pretty wonderful person, all things considered. I'm not particularly attractive, but I think it would be easy enough to warm to me. But I am treated like I'm nothing by most people, most of the time, and I haven't had so much as a date in 20 years. It's been really hard to accept the reality that nobody wants me and nobody likely will ever want me again.

2points

Josy Bannon 3 years ago (edited)

I'm sure you are a wonderfull person. Don't let mean people make you believe otherwise.

2points

ZuluIsraeliAmnesiac 3 years ago

I'm just surprised this needed a post. Pretty privilege is fact. I think every single person has personally experienced that this is true (and inversely, the envy-hostility thing from the same sex). I think it's just one of those things we have to accept and move on. This is often a subconscious thing (for some) and complaining about it won't change it. You may change someone's behaviour by pointing out the obvious, but there's a whole world of other people you can't change. The world is sadly unfair.

2points

littlesaresare 3 years ago (edited)

Well the comments on this from attractive people are trying very hard to convince us that being beautiful and having everyone trip over themselves to love and please you is sooo hard and sooo unfair, and that the ugly people treated like s**t by society are sooo lucky. So perhaps a post is needed every now and then to remind the privileged of how privelged they are.

1point

Angie 3 years ago

I think if someone doesn't like the way I look, they can look the other way!

2points

Dodo 3 years ago

My sister has people falling over themselves to do stuff for her, buy stuff for her, etc. Dating sites, she can get multiple dates within 24 hours of signing up. Meanwhile I spend a month on the sites and don't get asked out once. Yup, it's real.

2points

Auntriarch 3 years ago

That's because you have an arsehole filter

1point

Two_rolling_black_eyes 3 years ago

It will always be ok to discriminate against ugly. You still have a better chance in life being a 2 out of 10 ugly white male than a 7 out of 10 black woman but alot of discrimination goes back to fear/hatred of different.. We all know why Kathy Bates was never offered a rom-com but Katherine Heigl was the lead in several. In every category that should matter, Kathy Bates is a better actor.

1point

Steph 3 years ago

There are two sides of "looks", been on both of them, too. My nickname was "spider" when I was a child, because I was all legs and arms, and naturally very skinny. In my teens, boys were not interested in me other than on a platonic level, because I was completely flat breasted until I was 16/17. Things changed, when I turned 20/21. When I got to university I was "head hunted" by a modeling agency and even though being an architect with a diploma from a popular university, I made more money modeling than as an engeneer until the age of 44! I guess you cannot be attractive AND SMART at the same time. Constantly having to prove that you can have "the body" and "the brains". Odd world!

1point

InfectedVoice 3 years ago

I'm a good looking guy, 6'3 blah blah blah and a very polite respectful funny dude who smiles a lot BUT I am a metal-head who wears scruffy clothes etc and It's a mixed bag, shallow plastic lip-filler woman have never given me a second look but the metal and punk girls love me boy I can tell you.

1point

Briana Kessler 3 years ago (edited)

When I was anorexic, I suddenly became popular and had all sorts of people who wanted to know about me. Now that I'm healthy and average, those old friends don't care. It's almost like they just wanted to know what treatment center, health problem, etc was next. I'm not sure they actually cared about me. I still don't regret recovery.

1point

Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago

Such a small silly difference. Grew into pretty in my 30's. Late bloomer. Learned how to dress really well, how to apply make up and do my hair. I'm pleasant, funny and smart. I was also a brunette. Nope. Just nope. I went blonde. Same pretty, well dressed ,pretty make up as before. Same pleasant, funny and smart lady. Suddenly I'm getting all kinds of attention. Seriously fellas?

1point

Yo Momma 3 years ago

Yep. Went to a gay club with 2 friends (one male, one female - only the male was gay) And my girl friend was getting compliments left and right from all the males about how gorgeous she was. I was standing right next to her and they didn't even look at me or speak to me. Took a blow to my self esteem. It wasn't the first time out with this girl either. I actually cried at a bar because of it.

1point

Karis Ravenhill 3 years ago

The opposite side of this is that if you're pretty, you are sexualized everywhere all the damn time, even by your own family members. Since I was 5yrs old I've had grown men looking at me and making comments about how they couldn't wait until I grew up. Women in the workplace are hostile towards me as they perceive me to be a pretty idiot who got where she is through her looks, or a threat to their relationship with their men (banned from meeting their husbands/boyfriends or their partners even speaking to me if they visit the office). Prettiness hasn't gotten me further in life, it's been a hamper to my whole existence and has gotten me raped/sexually assaulted multiple times since I was a child. I'd rather have been born ugly and lived a normal life not trying to outrun pedophiles and stay out of reach of all the male grabbing hands.

1point

MyOpinionHasBeenServed 3 years ago

I had a couple girls working at a photo place make disgusted faces at me as they were arguing over who was going to take me and my daughter's portraits. And a guy ran up to me, pretended he mistaken me for someone just to tell me I'm ugly. When I was younger I was attractive to some people but not to others. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

1point

Olivia 3 years ago (edited)

As a 15f, I'm pretty cute without make-up, and a stunner with makeup (not bragging). I work at a pub and bar and I usually get more tips than my colleagues because I smile and am generally nice I guess. However I wasn't always like this, in secondary school and this summer I was an ugly duckling and boys and girls wouldn't glance twice at me. Now after my hair has grown out, I'm getting attention without wanting it, people are nicer to me, and I've had a whole lot of compliments from strangers, and that's not even talking about the excessive cat calling and flirting. I've actually had to start carrying pepper spray bc it's getting out of hand sometimes

1point

Donkey boi 3 years ago

I've been told I'm 'really good looking' and 'one of the most handsome men in the world' (The latter one was me mam). In truth, I'm average looking but I have an ability to charm that rockets me up the ladder. My wife is a stunner! Shorter than most but a perfect picture of beauty. Being a full blown introvert, she doesn't even notice that people stare at her or are extra nice to her and she definitely cannot tell when someone is flirting. She doesn't feel the effect of 'pretty privilege' but I definitely use it to advantage when were out together.

1point

Lovin' Life 3 years ago

I dont get it! Why do people put so much emphasis on outward beauty? I think having a good personality, being a kind and caring soul, ect... would be far more important.

1point

Kristal 3 years ago

Yeah, I don't see pretty people as trustworthy, smart, etc. mostly due to being bullied by the pretty people growing up. I'm more guarded and suspicious.

3points

Supernatural 3 years ago

This isn't even a debatable subject...you've only got to look at the female sky sports presenters to know this ..all of them are very easy on the eye....being an attractive woman definitely makes life easier,being a handsome man ,less so.

1point

Cleo Neufeld 2 years ago

When I was younger I was stunning! Since I gave birth to my daughter 18 years ago, Ive put on weight. I get looked over all the time. Im obese now and happily married.

0points

Diandra “Mss Didi” Blackthorn 3 years ago

There's a reason for the expression, "Less whining, more shining!" Think about it as an opportunity rather than falling into the social-conditioning to opt for the easy way of taking-offense. No matter what, we have options and with information literally at our fingertips, our CHOICES are tremendous. Not everyone has such freedom so focus on being GRATEFUL. You have the choice in how you care about your appearance, so it's even more lacking in Self-Love to be a h8ter on those who take joyful care of themselves. That behavior is also not attractive.

0points

Derek Clark 3 years ago

I was overweight, which resulted in being spit on, thrown food at, cursed out and all the fun things. I rarely went out to eat and if I did, waiters would comment on it if I wanted dessert by saying: are you sure you want to do that? Lugging heavy stuff like litter bags (I'm a girl for context) I had to do by myself. I had severe low self esteem. Then I lost all of the weight and man what a difference. Cars would stop at crosswalks, I didn't even have to lift a hand at the petstore or two men would want to carry the litterbags (which I always refused because no thanks). I had my car fixed for cheap, I sometimes get free stuff and if I skipped dessert or was contemplating it, the waiters would say I could use one. I don't know what the obsession is with weight but treating people differently because of it, it's stupid. I was still pretty when I was overweight, nobody ever bothered to see it then, including myself.

0points

PixxelDust 3 years ago

Anyone else here in the middle? I'm not unattractive, but I'm also not pretty. Possibly worse than either, since even unattractive people are considered 'beautiful in their own way' and unique or quirky. I'm just plain, and because of that I don't get noticed. I feel like an NPC in a game, just kinda in the background all the time. LETS GET THE PLAIN PEOPLE NOTICED! #plainpeopleexisttoo

0points

Kaitlin Lacey 3 years ago

I used to be a hot girl, and now I'm middle aged and slightly overweight. I really enjoy being invisible to men and approachable to women! The price of all that pretty privilege was too high. Men thought they were entitled to my attention/affection. There was so much sexual harassment. People thought I didn't deserve my position at work even though I was better at it than anyone else. Women often didn't want to be my friend because they were insecure. I may have gotten some free drinks, good service, and advantage with authority figures, but it didn't make for a happy life.

0points

Kirstie Gregory 3 years ago

I had a plenty of fish profile that was hacked and all of a sudden I was getting TONS of messages and likes. Turns out, they replaced all the pictures of me with pics of a hot girl. Same description, didn't change anything I typed, just the pics. Changed the pics back to me and a few days later I got a ton of messages again. Sure enough, I'd been hacked again and all the pics changed again. Just shows that hot girls get attention, not plain ones.

0points

Marvin HoG 3 years ago (edited)

The only time I've ever been skinny was when I had a nervous breakdown after being assaulted. For months I barely did enough to stay alive and as a result lost a lot of weight. At a family reunion everyone kept telling me how great I looked except for one aunt. She used to be overweight as well and was the only person to ask if I was ok. While everyone else was telling me how pretty I looked she was asking if she could help me find resources to help because I looked unhealthy. Can you imagine? You've been assaulted. You're barely surviving. And literally everyone in your family except one person thinks your sickly self looks great.

0points

D. Pitbull 3 years ago

At least it's now being admitted. Was in a class once with a dude who was your standard 'omg he is so hot' guy who had that 'seeming charmed' life - was asked *by the teacher* if he thought his looks helped him in his career (this was an in-context situation, the teacher wasn't being 'off') - dude answered flat out "no." I'm like... you have got to be sh**ng me... What's worse is when pretty priv essentially ruins the plain-person's career chances - and it's job that *specifically* does not require you to be 'seen' at all. Like... honestly - what on EARTH do my looks have o do with my skill??? *nothing*, that's what.

0points

Christoph 3 years ago

All you have to do is look at the 8,701 - mediocre to awful people in music, acting, and influencing who would be sweeping streets if they were not good-looking.

0points

Helen 3 years ago

I don't really think it's all about how you look. It's about the energy you radiate. If you don't consider yourself as a beautiful person, you would automatically try to hide, don't speak to the others and let those 'pretty people' outstand you. Love yourself, this will boost your self-consciousness, you will radiate the positive energy and people will notice you and will be seeking your company.

0points

guyx23 Premium 3 years ago

That's not really an assumption, it's a fact backed by many studies

0points

Daria B 3 years ago

The film 200 Pounds Beauty shows this thing pretty accurately.

0points

Leodavinci 3 years ago

I think that most people have no idea of what privilege really is. These aren't it.

-1point

Me Oh My 3 years ago

Oh, yeah. Pretty privilege is a thing.

-1point

William Teach 3 years ago

Good grief, enough with this "privilege" stuff. It's just designed to let people claim "Victim" status, which, weirdly, let's them feel good these days. Stop creating victimhoods. It's just dumb. Stop worrying about other people so darned much.

-2points

Pezor Zass 3 years ago

people are telling you over and over that they are being treated worse than others for monumentally stupid reasons, and your advice is "don't worry about it"? if people who were treated poorly didn't fight for fairness, there would be no labour rights, no civil rights, no measures to help the disabled.

2points

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Alexandra Davis 3 years ago

16points

Auntriarch 3 years ago

Bloody hell!

7points

littlesaresare 3 years ago

I can attest to this. Short, disabled, poor, and ugly. The ultimate combination for being talked down to!

3points

Briana Kessler 3 years ago

Wow, people sure can be stupid

2points

Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago

I really noticed this when I was in a wheelchair for awhile after a back injury. "Oh! I'm sorry. I didn't see you". So if I was standing up you would have.

2points

Stacey 2 years ago

What? You mean people do things like that? (read sarcastically) I hate when people ask the person with you how you're doing.

0points

Martha Meyer 3 years ago

16points

Tami 3 years ago (edited)

4points

8Yorkies-and-57cats 3 years ago (edited)

6points

Ileana Sky Aviles 3 years ago

6points

Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago

3points

Iggy 3 years ago

4points

OhForSmegSake 3 years ago

3points

Scarlett 3 years ago

3points

Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago

3points

Jo Choto 3 years ago

2points

Josy Bannon 3 years ago (edited)

I'm sure you are a wonderfull person. Don't let mean people make you believe otherwise.

2points

ZuluIsraeliAmnesiac 3 years ago

2points

littlesaresare 3 years ago (edited)

1point

Angie 3 years ago

I think if someone doesn't like the way I look, they can look the other way!

2points

Dodo 3 years ago

2points

Auntriarch 3 years ago

That's because you have an arsehole filter

1point

Two_rolling_black_eyes 3 years ago

1point

Steph 3 years ago

1point

InfectedVoice 3 years ago

1point

Briana Kessler 3 years ago (edited)

1point

Miss Frankfurter 3 years ago

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Yo Momma 3 years ago

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Karis Ravenhill 3 years ago

1point

MyOpinionHasBeenServed 3 years ago

1point

Olivia 3 years ago (edited)

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Donkey boi 3 years ago

1point

Lovin' Life 3 years ago

I dont get it! Why do people put so much emphasis on outward beauty? I think having a good personality, being a kind and caring soul, ect... would be far more important.

1point

Kristal 3 years ago

Yeah, I don't see pretty people as trustworthy, smart, etc. mostly due to being bullied by the pretty people growing up. I'm more guarded and suspicious.

3points