He's projecting...maybe I'm wrong but maybe he is the one that is cheating...

“it is estimated from general dna tests with the public for research etc that over 25% of men whose names are down as the father on a birth certificate are not the actual father.” Not true. This is just in studies that solely looked at couples who obtained paternity testing because paternity was being disputed: an incidence of 17% to 33% (median of 26.9%). This includes uncommitted and tumultuous relationships where there are several possible fathers. When paternity is not being disputed - like in a married couple who are trying for a baby as this couple were, it ranges from between 0.4% to 5.9% depending on the population. That’s a long way from 25% this commenter claims. But if your husband thinks you are trying to pass off someone’s baby as his when you’ve been trying for a baby together for months, the marriage is already over.

Let him have his test and also divorce at the same time. And when he wants to see the child pull up in court he didn't stand by you emotionally while you was pregnant

He's a s****y partner and absolutely deserves every mean comment about his poor sexual performance. The last commentator sounds like a kindred spirit of that idiotic husband . The paper might not take much effort, but it's not about a test itself, it's about implications behind it and his whole attitude towards her. He clearly cares only about his little precious feelings, completely disregarding his wife, and it shows not only in their sexual life.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. File for divorce yourself. Don't waste a lifetime on a partner that isn't interested in your needs, or who doesn't trust you.

I'm so glad that the comment section here is siding with the woman. I find it so hypocritical that the man is so rude to her but then immediately throws a fit when she points out his flaws. 🙄

NTA divorce.

What a sad relationship story, I feel bad for the kid-to-be.

I wonder if all those men saying there's nothing wrong with a paternity test would feel the same if it was reversed. "We need you to go take a test to prove you didn't cheat on us. Nevermind that you haven't been away from us long enough to, or even had that much time in your schedule. It would make us feel better about you. Why don't you want us to trust you?" Sounds f-ing stupid, doesn't it.

I think this is a sign that your relationship is really done. If someone I was with asked for a paternity test I would consent simply because he feels he needs to know. But the reason he feels that way is the reason I would break up with him. And I would certainly not do it until the baby is born. I'm not risking something happening to the fetus for his insecurity. I would make plans to move out now and come up with an agreement in writing for custody/child support. I agree with the other poster who said it sounds like he's projecting so I would be careful. I get that in this day and age, men have to be careful because if they take on the responsibility of the child, they will be stuck paying support for it for at least 18 years even if it isn't theirs. But the fact he felt he needed to ask says he doesn't trust you, and that means you shouldn't be together. Get out now.

"Rational fear every man has"? Not the secure ones! No trust, no relationship.

He wants an apology from her but seems to be avoiding the reality that the bell he rang can't ever be un-rung.

If you don't trust your partner, especially when there's no reason not to trust them, you shouldn't be in a relationship.

Okay but what is most worrying is how this "man" will treat the baby. If OP has a boy then he will be taught that he deserves to have what he wants no matter others feelings or needs and if OP has a girl? Ho boy. Her husband (hopefully ex soon) will teach her that she needs to listen to the men in her life and cater to them. Probably end up like the one dad in the article from a week or two ago /dad wants to punish his 7y/o for "cheating"/ which isn't needed at all. If he's gonna be this pathetic towards his wife then he can't be a father. I'm sorry but if you get that upset when she tried to bring up issues in the past, what are you gonna do when your child disagrees with you? When they call you names? Is he gonna cry and refuse to talk to them until they apologize? OP needs to get out. If not for her sake, for her child's sake.

To Yuzernam- because op is offended. Op has been nothing but faithful and loyal this whole relationship and then for the dude to say “I just wanna make sure” wtf??? You don’t trust me? 6 years and you don’t trust me yet you have no reason not to? Yeah, bye

My guess is that he's the one who is cheating...

While I was still in the hospital after giving birth to my son, my ex asked for a paternity test. I am not a guest on Maury, I know he is yours because I didn't have sex with anyone else. I told him if he wanted a paternity test he could have one and after it came back our son was his, I would leave him. No woman deserves to have her loyalty to herself, her man of choice, her faith, her body all questioned due to insecurity. I tell you the truth, asking for a paternity test is deeply insulting and hurtful. Period.

That ain't a man, just a worthless and most likely lacking down-south cretin. OP would make a much better single mum and "hubby" should just go get a high-five in the face from a boulder!!! Smh!!!

A genetic study was done that showed that 1% or less of children were extramarital. It was published in Current Biology. It's obvious which of the comments are from people that have never even dated much less been in actual relationships.

As Dan Savage would say DTMFA!!

No intimacy in bed - check. Husband doesn't consider his wife's needs - check. Gets defensive when the subject is raised - check. Accusers wife of infidelity with no evidence - check. My conclusion: the husband is cheating.

The insecurity will only get worse with the arrival of a child that will take more attention and your energy away from him

Don't apologize. Take the test, give him the results and get a divorce.

All this idiot had to do was sign up the family for 23 and me kits... It links people that are genetically related. 🤷

Eww, more red pill trash like the husband at the end there. None of those worthless pieces of c**p should be married or even get the time of day from a woman.

He knows he can't please his wife on the bedroom. It's taken a year to get pregnant (not uncommon but for an insecure man that isn't well educated on that part might seem different). Of course he doubts the baby is his. Probably fuelled by some outsiders with the same limited knowledge that views women as money grabbing b*tches. Ok, that last part might be my prejudices shining through. I don't want to go as far as suggesting he is cheating, which mistress will stay with a man that doesn't please her? I had to laugh about the comment that suggested a STD test. I would push for it (but then again, I'm petty).

I would go ahead and let him have the paternity test. Go ahead and wait for the results, even though you know the child is his. Then divorce him and take everything you can get, and child support. I hope you find a real man to take care of your needs.