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Pregnant Woman Uses Caring Wife As A Human Punching Bag, Screams At Her Daily, She Finally Snaps
Being pregnant might come with the glow, the cravings, and a perfectly good excuse to live in stretchy pants—but apparently, it can also turn your sweet spouse into a fire-breathing dragon with a grudge against coffee, dinner, and your very existence.
One poor wife found herself caught in the hormonal crossfire, dodging insults over scrambled eggs and getting yelled at for daring to breathe before 9 a.m. But when she finally said something about it, the explosion that followed made her wonder if she had just committed the ultimate pregnancy sin.
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Some pregnancies come with cravings and a glow, while others bring emotional tornadoes with them
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One woman tells her pregnant wife that hormones don’t justify being mistreated by her after she starts to unleash daily rage on her
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The woman does everything to support her pregnant wife, but she screams at her every day, blaming her hormones for it
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The wife throws a fit and calls the woman a jerk when she finally tells her that pregnancy doesn’t justify her behavior
The OP (original poster) and her wife were 6 months into a planned, wanted pregnancy. Everything was smooth sailing in the first trimester, but in trimester two, things went from sweet cravings to sour tempers real quick.
If she cooked dinner, it was not just wrong but also disgusting, as in a “get this away from me” kind of way. Not exactly the “thank you” she was expecting for trying to feed her growing family.
And that’s just the start. The woman’s daily routine turned into a minefield of potential outbursts. Clean the house? Wrong. Wake up for work? Offensive. Make coffee? A crime against her nose. It got to the point where the OP braced for at least one emotional explosion a day. The culprit? Pregnancy hormones, apparently.
But, after another intense yelling session, the OP calmly told her wife that pregnancy hormones don’t justify her constantly mistreating her. And that’s where explosion number 837 started, followed by her wife calling her the bad guy. But is she really the bad guy in this story? Can hormones really excuse that kind of behavior?
Pregnancy hormones absolutely impact mood and emotional regulation. During pregnancy, your body becomes a full-on chemistry lab, pumping out estrogen, progesterone, and a bunch of other hormonal overachievers that are just trying to grow a baby.
Estrogen, the diva of the hormone world, can crank up mood swings like nobody’s business, while progesterone slows things down, making you tired, weepy, or irrationally angry at spaghetti. However, that doesn’t mean it’s okay to lash out or be hurtful to a partner on a regular basis.
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Just because someone’s pregnant doesn’t mean their partner becomes an emotional punching bag. There’s a big difference between having a cranky day and dishing out daily emotional smackdowns. The pros say that some red flags to look out for might be constant criticism, getting blamed for everything, feeling like you’re walking on eggshells 24/7, or having your feelings dismissed like yesterday’s leftovers.
Even the classic “silent treatment” or guilt trips can be signs things are going too far. These behaviors can slowly erode trust and create a toxic dynamic, even if they’re brushed off as “just hormones.” Compassion goes both ways, and yes, pregnancy is hard, but so is being emotionally bulldozed day after day.
Besides, being constantly positive, regardless of the situation, is not even healthy—that’s the glittery trap of toxic positivity. You know, when someone expects you to smile, stay upbeat, and never complain, even when you’re emotionally getting hit like a piñata at a toddler’s birthday party.
Toxic positivity doesn’t always come from the person suffering—it can also be forced onto the person supporting them, making them feel like they’re not allowed to be anything less than endlessly patient and cheerful, no matter how badly they’re treated. Spoiler alert: partners have feelings, too. Being pregnant is tough, but so is pretending everything’s fine while you’re emotionally worn thin.
So, what do you think of this story? Drop your thoughts and comments below!
Netizens side with the woman, saying she is not the jerk in this story
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Nina 8 months ago
No pregnancy hormones turn you into a raving b***h. Ive had babies and never spoken to hubby like that even in the throes of murderous labour. He's just being abused by a b***h who knows she can get away with it. Hope he gets the courage to leave her and keep contact with the child - the kid's next on her hit list.
Milena B. G. Rosa 8 months ago
*She, it's two ladies. But I absolutely agree with everything else... Being an a**hole is only justified with the person being an a**hole
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Paul C 8 months ago
Key info is she only does it to her husband and family, so the people who won't kick her to the kerb for it. Shows that she does it to let of steam and can control it. The hormones is at best an excuse for s****y behaviour. She's an a****r, who's decided she's allowed to abuse them because she's pregnant.
Robin Roper 8 months ago
This person needs a thorough medical exam, now! My guess is she is depressed; it can come out as anger.
Scott Rackley 8 months ago
Phrase it like this. "I've had enough, either you will stop or we will stop." "Choose wisely."
Enuya 8 months ago (edited)
NTA but I can also believe that the wife actually is agressive only because of pregnancy. I'd seen it with one of my family members - sweet, polite, patient and overall amazing woman. During one of her pregnancies (curiously only 1 out of few) she became rather violent and aggressive, then went through nasty post partum. And then (with help) she returned to her normal, sweet self. So yeah, as much as OP has every right to feel angry and upset, I would check if pregnant wife doesn't have any undelying mental/physical health issues triggered by pregnancy
Schmebulock 8 months ago
When someone shows you who they are believe them. The pregnancy is just an excuse for showing her true colors.
Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 8 months ago
Yeah, her wife is emotionally a*****e and smokescreening her behavior which is a form of gaslighting. If she’s controlling herself around everyone but family and her wife it’s because she fears consequences of bad behavior, so she can control it if she believes there will be a consequence, and doesn’t is she does. Narcissists baby trap women all the time but it isn’t always direct, meaning she can be baby trapping and carrying the baby. They prey on single mothers too as a form of “now you can’t leave, off comes the mask”. There’s no way to know if she is a narcissist, she’s just displaying a pattern that fits one. If being pregnant, turns you into a bully parenthood is probably not for you.
Kate Johnson 8 months ago
I'd be watching her quite closely after that baby is born. If pregnancy hormones are making her this aggressive, seems like she'd be at risk for post partum psychosis. She certainly cannot be trusted alone with the baby!
Laura A Ivett 7 months ago (edited)
Your wife is a c**t, and no. pregnancy hormones absolutely do not do that, I'm so sick and tired of women using their hormones while pregnant as an excuse for their trash behavior... and also, this is your fault for allowing her, yes allowing her to be so disrespectful and verbally a*****e to you for so long. You should have 100% nipped in the bud the first time and told her absolutely not you will not tolerate disrespect. So this is on you. I also just want to throw out that your wife doesn't do this the other people because she knows she get punched in the mouth for that level of disrespect.
DrBronxx 8 months ago
"pregnancy hormones" is a reason for uncontrollable emotions. If those emotions are aggressive, it's typical to regret them. Hormones are not a get-out-of-jail free card that enables you to treat other people, especially your partner, like s**t. Maybe I'm lucky. With my wife, she didn't get aggressive, but she did get sad. She would start sobbing for very silly reasons and, god love her, she recognised how silly they were, and would tell me "you can laugh at me if you want to", because she was fully aware of the ridiculousness. I tried to hold in my laughter, but sometimes it was too much, so I would go to the kitchen and fix her a snack or a cup of tea. It would be an excuse to leave the room for a moment, but it also meant I could do something for her as well. Two birds.
Bookworm 8 months ago (edited)
What's next? PPD or being exhausted from the baby makes her a$$hole? If she truly had no control she'd be verbally abu$ive to everyone, including coworkers, not just her family. Men aren't the only ones to flip the script when they think they have their partner locked in with a baby.
Nina 8 months ago
No pregnancy hormones turn you into a raving b***h. Ive had babies and never spoken to hubby like that even in the throes of murderous labour. He's just being abused by a b***h who knows she can get away with it. Hope he gets the courage to leave her and keep contact with the child - the kid's next on her hit list.
Milena B. G. Rosa 8 months ago
*She, it's two ladies. But I absolutely agree with everything else... Being an a**hole is only justified with the person being an a**hole
Load More Replies... Paul C 8 months ago
Key info is she only does it to her husband and family, so the people who won't kick her to the kerb for it. Shows that she does it to let of steam and can control it. The hormones is at best an excuse for s****y behaviour. She's an a****r, who's decided she's allowed to abuse them because she's pregnant.
Robin Roper 8 months ago
This person needs a thorough medical exam, now! My guess is she is depressed; it can come out as anger.
Scott Rackley 8 months ago
Phrase it like this. "I've had enough, either you will stop or we will stop." "Choose wisely."
Enuya 8 months ago (edited)
NTA but I can also believe that the wife actually is agressive only because of pregnancy. I'd seen it with one of my family members - sweet, polite, patient and overall amazing woman. During one of her pregnancies (curiously only 1 out of few) she became rather violent and aggressive, then went through nasty post partum. And then (with help) she returned to her normal, sweet self. So yeah, as much as OP has every right to feel angry and upset, I would check if pregnant wife doesn't have any undelying mental/physical health issues triggered by pregnancy
Schmebulock 8 months ago
When someone shows you who they are believe them. The pregnancy is just an excuse for showing her true colors.
Cronecast AtTheRisingMoon 8 months ago
Yeah, her wife is emotionally a*****e and smokescreening her behavior which is a form of gaslighting. If she’s controlling herself around everyone but family and her wife it’s because she fears consequences of bad behavior, so she can control it if she believes there will be a consequence, and doesn’t is she does. Narcissists baby trap women all the time but it isn’t always direct, meaning she can be baby trapping and carrying the baby. They prey on single mothers too as a form of “now you can’t leave, off comes the mask”. There’s no way to know if she is a narcissist, she’s just displaying a pattern that fits one. If being pregnant, turns you into a bully parenthood is probably not for you.
Kate Johnson 8 months ago
I'd be watching her quite closely after that baby is born. If pregnancy hormones are making her this aggressive, seems like she'd be at risk for post partum psychosis. She certainly cannot be trusted alone with the baby!
Laura A Ivett 7 months ago (edited)
Your wife is a c**t, and no. pregnancy hormones absolutely do not do that, I'm so sick and tired of women using their hormones while pregnant as an excuse for their trash behavior... and also, this is your fault for allowing her, yes allowing her to be so disrespectful and verbally a*****e to you for so long. You should have 100% nipped in the bud the first time and told her absolutely not you will not tolerate disrespect. So this is on you. I also just want to throw out that your wife doesn't do this the other people because she knows she get punched in the mouth for that level of disrespect.
DrBronxx 8 months ago
"pregnancy hormones" is a reason for uncontrollable emotions. If those emotions are aggressive, it's typical to regret them. Hormones are not a get-out-of-jail free card that enables you to treat other people, especially your partner, like s**t. Maybe I'm lucky. With my wife, she didn't get aggressive, but she did get sad. She would start sobbing for very silly reasons and, god love her, she recognised how silly they were, and would tell me "you can laugh at me if you want to", because she was fully aware of the ridiculousness. I tried to hold in my laughter, but sometimes it was too much, so I would go to the kitchen and fix her a snack or a cup of tea. It would be an excuse to leave the room for a moment, but it also meant I could do something for her as well. Two birds.
Bookworm 8 months ago (edited)
What's next? PPD or being exhausted from the baby makes her a$$hole? If she truly had no control she'd be verbally abu$ive to everyone, including coworkers, not just her family. Men aren't the only ones to flip the script when they think they have their partner locked in with a baby.
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