Loved the first response from Julie. When the husband gets naked in front of her parents and takes a dump and spreads his legs for 12 hours, then his parents can come in.

Maybe when it's his time to labor, he can invite his parents.

Poor girl won't get any support from such husband :(

Advices aside, I'd love to know how this ended. Call me nosey on that, but the story made me wonder about many aspects of that marriage: 1. Did they marry his parents too at the wedding day? 2. Why doesn't he respect her attitude? She should be the most important. 3. Is he grown up enough to conceive the idea of labour? If not, maybe he should watch some videos to know what situation his wife may face? All in all, I know it's an ill advice, but I'd reconsider the partnership and it's rules... Seems they are a bit off.

Maybe her husband would like to have his parents in the room during his prostate exam... Idk, just saying.

To be honest, it blows my mind her husband is not respecting her wishes on this. I would love to know how this ended. I do hope her marriage will turn out fine, but this is very worrying. I guess I'm lucky that in my country only one guest can be allowed in the delivery room, period.

Excellent answer from Margaret. Any OB I know would be more than willing to do this for his/her patient.

I sincerely hope this kind of things don't happen all the time -.- I wouldn't want my own dad there, let alone my in-laws? I might be able to deal with my own mom, maybe. The husband I'd expect to be there. My vagina is not a showpiece. Childbirth is not a show.

Jaysus. I think I'd have divorced him. Does he understand what the birthing process entails? It's not clean or beautiful.

Well, pleading stress and using the doctor to intervene is good. But frankly, get tough now or have all your parenting decisions questioned from now till doomsday. The husband can make the request but isn't showing any kind of support for his wife's reasons to not have a sideshow in delivery. (Would you really want your father-in-law staring at your personal bits?) I know babies turn our brains to mush, but they also make us better defenders of our rights.

I shouldn't have read this--I am furious with that man.

Didn't happen to me, but my MIL told my BIL and his then wife to "pick her up" on their way to the hospital when SIL went into labor. Needless to say, that did NOT happen. Some folks have zero sense of personal boundaries and only think of their own wants and wishes. (in this case, the first-born grandchild) I could also mention this same MIL told BIL's second wife that she (MIL) would never love any new grandchildren as much as she loved the first one. I got me a winner!!

OMG! I would have put my foot down bigtime. My inlaws weren't even allowed in the hospital. We don't understand each other very well...

I like the suggestion about having the Doctor tell them no. If she says it, they will ignore her and come in anyway. If the Doctor says it.."Only the mother and the lamaze partner are allowed because of liability and health concerns" then they will have to comply. Also..I would impress upon my husband that this could very well end up being a c-section. I was in a lamaze class with my husband and the two women sitting next to us were Mother to be and mother-in-law. Seems mom-to-be's husband was deployed overseas. The lamaze instructor had us go around the room and state whether we were planning on a natural birth or medicated (pain relief) birth. When it got to the women next to us, Mom-in-law says.."She's having a natural birth." To which the mom-to-be said "The Hell I am!"

My thoughts: Husband is a 'mama's boy'. The in-laws will get to see the baby very very soon after the birth, so they can wait! How ballsy of them to even agree to want to be in the delivery room anyhow! How RUDE! They have no courtesy apparently. Maybe the FIL is a pervert and wants to see his DIL's yin-yang? Kick the husband out of the birthing room too! Let them ALL wait!!!!!!! At least do this if he insists one more time to let them in! Can't you just tell the hospital staff/doctors/nurses that you absolutely do NOT want them in there, no matter what?!!!! YOU are in charge here. It's YOUR big day! Threaten a lawsuit otherwise! And whatever you do, IF you change lose your mind and senses and decide to LET THEM IN, by god, Do Not Let Them In With A Camera!!!!!!!!!!! Or you might find yourself and your private parts all over FB!! And most of all-- have a wonderful, safe, and exciting 'birthday'!

Absolutely not. I had a cartoon for both of my son's and I didn't want to be bothered with anyone. Each birth ended up with complications and more people would have made it worse. They can dote on their grandchildren but not in the room

his parents should have more common sense than that. unbelievable!

How many in-laws did that woman's mother-in-law have in the delivery room with her?

Her delivery, her choice. Even if my partner doesn't want ME in there l, I would respect that. If my family insist... NOPE! just NOPE!

Dump the jerk.

I'm a HUUUUGE fan of the last post (above) - and yes, I agree: Let the medical team do the talkin'! Take the stress off YOURSELF - and let the hospital's medical tell your husband (AND his overbearing parents) that no, they will NOT be in the delivery room, they will wait down the hall and they will act nice OR they can be removed from the facility entirely by hospital security. I work in a hospital - I certainly don't intend to make it sound like I've been around the world or something, but I see a lot of sh**. And I'm here to tell you: You're in luck! You're having twins at a time in our medical history, when nurses are fully empowered to SPEAK UP and ADVOCATE FOR THEIR PATIENT. NOT their patient's spouse, NOT their patient's in-laws, but their PATIENT. That be YOU, my sweet. YOU and YOUR BABIES are the patients, here. And if you've got a good nurse, and if she get even a whiff of this? She'll be ALL OVER IT. And then you won't have to worry 'bout a thing.

Spot on Margaret!

I wonder what the outcome was? I hope she got the privacy she needed!

It sounds like she is having twins. The good news is that (at least in Ontario) all vaginal twin deliveries get moved to the operating room for the actual birth because the rate of emergency operative delivery (forceps/vacuum) or c-section is pretty gosh darn high for twins. AND YOU CAN ONLY HAVE ONE GUEST IN AN O.R., LOL. She’ll probably just be scheduled for a c-section, if the twins share a amniotic sack or twin #2 is breech.

I just don't understand how his Mother is okay with the idea of her and her husband being in the room with their daughter in law as well as her son during the birth. Didn't her husbands mother birth him? Doesn't she know it isn't the prettiest thing? Is she actively choosing to ignore the fact that it isn't something anyone wants their in laws there for?

Yes I know that you don't want it, and I know that it will be very embarrassing, and painful...

I suppose my next question would be about the mother-in-law! I get that she's excited about her grandchildren, but, as a woman who has given birth, I can't imagine imposing myself on my daughter-in-law that way! One would hope she would have more empathy than to demand such a thing.

Does anyone know the outcome?! I hope she stood up for herself.