can't do the time don't do the crime

They should let the kid decide who’s fatter.

What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Oh and you don't need to go to the gym to lose weight. Just eat less. Speaking from experience.

Whether it was right or wrong (I'm thinking what's good for the goose is good for the gander here), don't apologize unless you're sorry. If you feel bad for hurting her apologize and make it clear that she's damaging your marriage with her comments. If she hasn't apologized and changed her behavior it's a clear indication she doesn't care about hurting you. If this is new behavior, consult a doctor/family therapist. Or a divorce lawyer.

I'm so sad to hear this man is in a toxic relationship with the mother of his child. Yes, I can't imagine the stress physically and mentally she's undergoing as a new mother, but to specifically and superficially target her husband when she's aware of his past triggers with fat-shaming AND to dismiss his requests to stop, there is a serious need for therapy and self-reflection on her part. Was his response the best option? No, but I probably would've reacted the same after repeated attacks on my appearance from the one person I'm supposed to be able to love and trust the most. I agree with a lotta the replies that say he needs to establish to her how serious this pattern is and how precarious their marriage is because of it.

Wowwwwww I hate the ESH people. So it’s okay for her to bully him but the second he says something mean back, after MANY times SHE DID IT mind you, he’s equally as bad? F*cling double standards!

This is a few years old but I did not expect Melania to act out like that...

She’s an abusive b***h! He got to the end of his rope. He had told her to stop. She said she would but never did. I’d probably do what he did as well. And don’t get me started on her entitlement over the baby. She needs to do her part. She’s a brat!

Not bad

My husband weighed 318 at his highest, and I weighed 254 at mine. He actually called me "skinny," and I never would have dreamed of calling him fatty. It's rude, borderline abusive, and bullying. That's no way to behave in a loving and supposedly equal relationship. I do suggest he gets therapy for his "trauma response" to the bullying, because it wasn't a healthy response, but I'm not going to go so far as to say it was unjustified.

How can you marry someone with so little respect for you? Its not just that but she seems to be a very petty, insecure and honestly s**t person to behave like that.

She is toxic in her communication with you. It's not postpartum, it's not being tired, it's not stress. It's mean. Plain and simple. You need to sit down and put it all on the table. She doesn't like it? Too damn bad. What about you? You took shot, after shot, for weeks, months? And she breaks down after one comment? She needs to apologize, not you. You both need to get to the bottom of her passive aggressive hostility. Wth is her problem? Why is she so angry at you? Or is she projecting? Hmm

NTA. Don't dish out what you can't take.

agree with Justin Smith, this is a glass house situation. Wife shouldn't be throwing stones at OP about his weight when she still has her post partum body. That she told OP he was less attractive is so not on. No wonder he lashed out! Bottom line, spouses should love each other regardless of their weight!! Guess what, your weight won't stay the same your whole life, it's something that fluctuates. Best way to do this, is work out a schedule between the two of them. So two times/week wife takes over from husband in the evening so husband can hit the gym. And two nights/week husband takes over from wife so she can hit the gym. Baby is 6 months, things should be getting more settled so this couple can organize schedules.

B***h.

I get where he's coming from - she's basically been bullying him. But why make a direct comment to insult her (which he admits in his comments he said purely to insult her, and it wasn't even something he believed was true), when he could have just said "how would you feel if someone repeatedly told you to lose weight, especially when our lives are upside down right now?" He says he talked to her, but I don't think his insulting of her was the way to go. 6 months is not a lot of time after giving birth, and you're certainly not out of the woods with regard to postpartum depression at that point. That's why I think ESH

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You 2 make a fantastic couple (extremely sarcastic tone)